Pregnant after miscarriage

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Hi all, hope you are all well🥰

I have just found out that I am pregnant again after a loss in December at 5+2 (very early!). I’m only 4 weeks going by last period so it really is so early again. I am so happy but also know i’m going to struggle with the waiting. I know I just have to play the waiting game and hope for the best. Anyone been in similar position with positive outcome? Really hope this is our time🤞🌈

Hope you girls are all doing okay! Are you all coming to the end of your first trimesters now? Xx

Hey @ChloeN how are you and bump? Have you found out the gender or having a wee surprise? (Sorry if you’ve said this already)

I wish I was in my 2nd trimester, this bean is taking everythinggggg from me 🫣 I’m 9 weeks and had a wee follow up scan on Monday and was so pleased to see wee bean bigger and healthy.

@TTCX2 I don’t think I’ve said! We’re having a surprise although we’re absolutely convinced it’s a girl, we started off thinking boy so no doubt we’ll change our minds again🤣 ahh amazing news baby is doing well! Only a couple of weeks to go and the first trimester will be over!

Hi how is everyone ? Thought I'd hop on n as a question .. so today was meant to be my 6w they dated me 5w3 days a week behind. Consultant Said they not sure if they goin to develop or not yet as they can only see a sack and too early to see a heart beat so will scan in a week again I'm guessing to see any growth or heartbeat. My periods have very irregular & I suffer from APS too. I'm on progesterone and aspirin already and they gave
me heparin tho today anyway. I'm not sure whether to be sad or scream or just cry.
I may book a private scan before next wed but thinking is there much point.

Hey @indieray I know it seems like such a long wait til next week but I would just wait until then rather than paying for private. I went for an early scan and they dated me 5 days in front of what I thought I was so it's entirely possible to get dates off. Just try and not worry too much, it will probably be just that it's too soon to see heartbeat and nothing more...I have everything crossed for you ❤️ x

Hello Everyone!
I am new here :), I have read your stories... feels good that I am not alone :)

I am 6w 5d pregnant currently, had 2 miscarriages in one year (last year), the first one at 4w5d (very early) and the other one at 9 weeks, both were emotionally rough and the second one left me traumatized as I had a natural miscarriage that I barely talk about because it was one of the worst experiences of my life...

I am now anxious of how this pregnancy will evolve... I haven't had time to celebrate or tell anyone, is hard to get excited and believe that I am actually pregnant...

anyway, I try to practice staying in the present moment... that is what has helped me so far...

I had my first scan at 6 weeks last saturday (there was no heartbeat yet as the doctor said it was too early, she said everything looked fine) my next scan is in 3 weeks, however my doctor said that if I am too stressed I could come in between for a scan... (I believe I will)

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glad to have found this forum here :)

@PilarG Welcome 🙂 I am also 6+5 today.

So sorry to hear about your losses. I agree with you that it is hard to believe you’re actually pregnant after experiencing a miscarriage. I have been hit by really bad nausea this week so that is starting to make it feel a little more real and I’ve got a scan next week at 7 weeks.

@Fairylight102 that's so nice to hear 🌷, I hope everything is going well for you.

my nausea started a week ago but suddlenly is lowering... I hope is not a bad sign 🤐

Just checking in, so I had a scan on Wednesday and it showed 2 babies to my surprise lol 1 is measuring bang on dates and a great heartbeat

The other is measuring 5 days behinds but has a good heart rate, normal for twins 1 to measure behind.

The problem is its in a very crowded gestational sac, this has a high risk for miscarriage, so I'm back next Friday to see if they have made it so far or it'll be a miscarriage, the doctor said the second baby prospects dont look good but the first one is looking great. I'm sad to think that I'm going to have a miscarriage with one and one will hopefully survive.

I've been doing loads of reading about vanishing twin syndrome, even how it can lead to higher rates or cerebral palsy in the surviving twin. There's always something to worry about.

I also wonder why this has happened, does this indicate there is a problem with me, would this count as a second miscarriage even if I go on to have a surviving baby? I'm really confused about it all.

I really want them both to make it but being realistic

Hi @38andtrying I'm on another thread with you and saw that they'd spotted 2. @Charliexo has experienced this, so maybe she could try and help. Vanishing twin is more common than we knew because scans are done earlier now and they didn't used to be. I'm sure everything will go on to be just fine if the smaller twin doesn't make it but you never know they might just shock everyone and keep growing, only time will tell. It's certainly not anything you've done wrong and yes I believe it would count as a miscarriage because you've still lost a baby but maybe doctors view it differently? Got everything crossed for you and those 2 little ones xx

@38andtrying good news that 1 baby is looking great! Hope you’re feeling okay about the 2nd😢 I wouldn’t say it would indicate a problem with you because you’ve got one baby doing really well, I suppose the 2nd might just be bad luck? I think it’s really common for 1 twin not to make it through the first trimester! Xx

Hi @38andtrying, sorry for delayed response.
I've experienced vanishing twin syndrome this pregnancy. It was 8 weeks that we were told the heart had stopped, but we had known from the start that things may not turn out great for the second due to measuring a week behind and their heart didn't seem as strong as the other.

I wouldn't say there is anything wrong with us that has caused this, like @ChloeN it is very common, more common than we think due to people not having a first scan until 12 weeks. A week after we was told there was no heartbeat, I had scan and the report said there is no contents in the second sac, and the sac was measuring a lot smaller. So by 12 weeks, the second sac may be completely gone.

They do class it as a miscarriage, I had my booking appointment with my midwife this week and she's put it as a pregnancy loss on my notes as my second miscarriage.

In terms of increased chances of things being wrong with my surviving baby health wise, I've stayed away from Google, the only time I've managed to actually stay away but I really don't want to read it, as it will do nothing but panic me and cause me stress for something that may not happen. We will deal with those if they arise at the time of being told for certain.

Look after yourself and I wish you all the best xx

Hey everyone, how are you all doing? Where is everyone at/ how are you feeling?

My 12 week scan is on Tuesday. After a rough March/ beginning of April im feeling miraculously ‘normal’ which is great but also not very ‘pregnant’ anymore 🫣 not happy when I’m Ill and not happy when I’m not!

@TTCX2 hey! Glad to know you're doing ok and will be thinking of you on Tuesday, I have everything crossed for you,

I didn't have many symptoms earlier on, I got to 10/11 weeks and started having sicky feelings everyday, only physically threw up once, it's mainly just feeling sick but not actually sick. I've got my 12 week scan this morning and I can't tell you the anxiety I've been having this week, just so scared. Fingers crossed for us all 💖🤞🏻 xx

@TTCX2 I know the feeling! You want to be ill to reassure you but you also don’t want to be poorly at the same time🤦🏻‍♀️ good luck for Tuesday, I hope the weekend speeds past for you🤞🏻🤍

@Charliexo ahh good luck this morning lovely! I’ll be thinking of you, is it an early one? Mine always seem to be late in the day and I’m hanging around waiting for it 🥲

Ive got a scan booked for the 7th may, just to check everything’s all looking good in there and then some 4D photos if they can get any of their face!🥹 I’ve only got 2 and a bit weeks until the 3rd trimester now so I’m hoping it goes quick from here!

Hey. Sorry to jump on but I'm really struggling today.

I had a missed miscarriage in December and am now 8 weeks pregnant again. I have had an early scan at what should have been 6+4 but they measured at 5+5 but could see a heartbeat. They told me it all looks fine and baby would likely catch up.

But now 10 days later I'm just so convinced it's a missed miscarriage. Most of the time I feel OK in myself. I have the occasional feelings of nausea, feeling really tired, wretching lots and lots of gas (burps mainly) but nothing that is giving me any confidence that this isn't a mmc.

I haven't even registered with the midwife yet because I'm so convinced.

I'm on cyclogest and have had no pain/bleeding so no reason to feel this anxious.

Did anything help in the early stages?

@s14a sorry to hear you’re struggling😢 it’s really hard to stay positive when you know what can happen! I didn’t register with the midwife for ages either just in fear that I’d have to cancel the appointment again. I don’t really have any tips, I just tried to forget I was pregnant as much as possible which luckily I could because it was before Christmas and I was so busy with work! Are you planning to have another scan? Xx

Hey Everyone!
Our scan went well, growing perfectly but the baby was very very active and playing the sonographer up, everytime he would finally get a decent shot to take, the baby would move 😂 the sonographer, I'm not very happy with your baby, they're not letting me do my job 😂 so it's a little wind up merchant and due on Halloween 🙈 I think I'm done for lol! Xx

@s14a so sorry to hear you've been through such a tough time, I haven't really got advice having not been through a mmc myself but your symptoms are a very good sign and if the sonographer was concerned at all, I'm sure they would have said just to warn you. I hope everything turns out ok for you xx

@Charliexo ahh lovely news glad it all went okay!xx

@s14a sorry you're so anxious, I'm your sister in this regard.

The symptoms you describe right now are bang on exactly right for your date, tiredness, nausea, gas you have symptoms and they don't have to be constant or extreme.

When I had the MMC it was only after I realised that for the previous 2 weeks I hadn't had symtoms, I was carefree and confident and so naive.

I'm 10w+4 now and just had a great scan today, this is my 5th scan, yes 5th. I've had symptoms but convinced myself they afford strong enough, I got nausea for just over a week and it went away last week so I was tortured with anxiety.

My advice would be this, every day I felt my boobs, I really mean my nips haha if I had a sensation at all, even mild I counted that as a good sign, my boobs went completely dead with the MMC so any feeling is good. Not saying first you to do this exactly, but fine something that you can do every day that contents you.

I would go ahead now and register with midwife, just grit your teeth, do it and forget about it.

Be thankful every day that you're still pregnant and now you're 8 weeks maybe ring epu and ask for an early scan, they may give you one.

Saying don't be anxious is silly, you're going to be anxious but try and rationalise every day, this is a new pregnancy, new outcome and the chances of a successful pregnancy are higher than an unsuccessful

Get that midwife booked, just get it done and see how you feel after x let us know how you get on x

@38andtrying now you say that I was the exact same with my boobs 🤣 they went with my mmc too so everyday I had sore nipples I was okay! Fab news on your scan also, I had my first one at 10+4 and was shocked at how much of a proper baby they looked!

Thanks @ChloeN today seeing it move made it all real, the boobs being 'dead' was the thing that really stood out to me with the mmc, like I had zero feeling at all, it's the boob test now lol haha thankfully I'm not only booby looney 🤣

@38andtrying no you’re definitely not alone🤣 I probably looked a right odd one feeling my nipples every morning 🤦🏻‍♀️

@ChloeN and @38andtrying i do a boob/nipple check every morning and as long as I feel something I’m good for the day, if I don’t I jump in the shower and use a loofah and god that hurts everytime and puts me at ease 😂😂😂

@TMI2000 it does give reassurance doesn't it lol this should be on official NHS guidance haha