August Due Date Crew - Into Trimester 2 (Thread 6)

[AnnieApple123]

As always, newbies are most welcome.

Apologies if I’ve missed out anyone who gave a date. Do shout if so. Ditto if you’d like to be added or have updates.

July
26th @MidnightSunshine12
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28th
29th @DesertSnow,@Mulner88 & @overwork
30th
31st @AnnieApple123

August
1st @ChloeN & @SnowL2021
2nd @Amme18
3rd @PumpkinEverything, @Chl0o & @LS888
4th @BMK & @UsernameNotPresent
5th @BusyBushBaby @LBF2020 & @BoodifulGoose
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7th @CityKity
8th @Sjw30
9th @marleyandme & @buttercupbee
10th @VickiGo & @Desperatelyboredhousewife
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12th @Rose05
13th @sally16
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15th @BCxx & @nadsc
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17th @narwhal88
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19th @Firsttimemomma1 , @P1pk & @Nic2908
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30th @unluckyinlife

@MinnieFirstTimeMum Do you mean is there different pain relief or do you mean would they let you have a section without pain relief? Because there's no way they'd agree to that surely 😱😱😱

@somuchtolearnabout I have to confess I fall into the category of people who fill you with despair as I genuinely thought I would be devastated with a second boy and if this were a boy. I was a bit when found out 2nd was a boy,but accepted it as obviously we're not in control anyway. Maybe devastated is wrong word,but really disappointed. But it's an experience thing: I had no experience of children let alone boys apart from in school and growing up. I never held a baby save for once. So until my own got to the stage where they were able to talk,engage etc,I didn’t understand how lovely boys can be. I see it now that it's how they're brought up but also obviously sometimes all children, irrespective of sex, have issues despite your best efforts so we're fortunate so far!!
@Createcomet that's good. Every day will get a little better. Of course all the good will come at once for you!you'll be ready for a holiday to celebrate as you'll be starting to feel good again/yourself then!typically when all pressure is kind of off!
@MinnieFirstTimeMum I recommend not being induced and declining same if you want to avoid c section (unless other complications develop that require it) and if you have c section, although it's normally your entitlement to refuse treatment ie including epidural, because the pain would be so intense they might refuse to offer without pain relief of some sort. However there aren't many psin relievers that I'm aware of for delivery as I wanted as natural a birth as possible and not to have epid and my options were v limited so ended up with just gas,but had normal delivery. However others may know more re available drugs. I am going off 2019 research in Ireland!!

I keep getting replies regarding C-section. However it wasn't me that commented about it. Just wanted to highlight it incase the poster is missing the replies (I haven't read that far down to see who it was 🙂) x

Sorry @MinnieFirstTimeMum thanks for pointing that out!! They're actually aimed at @newmummie

Sorry!@newmummie the above reply was aimed at you too! Sorry @MinnieFirstTimeMum

Oh I find it so sad that people wouldn’t want boys 😢 this is my first baby and I genuinely don’t mind either way and I find it so fustrating that people automatically assume I’d want a girl or don’t seem to believe me that I dont mind what I have!

Gosh I agree 😞. I’d absolutely love 2, a boy and girl, but ultimately if little one is healthy I really don’t mind ❤️. I also know we’re extremely lucky to have convinced naturally, so although we will try for another baby eventually I will have to accept it may or may not happen.

@somuchtolearnabout oh no! I think I know who you're talking about on the gender disappointment - her baby didn't make it? That's so sad. I found her messages very triggering the way she would talk about her baby (part of the reason I needed to take a break from MN early on) but I was hopeful it would all be ok

@Marmaladebear I think you probably do know. And yes!!! 😭😭😭 so so so awful and I wouldn't wish that on my worst enemy. I think it was a very early loss (doesn't make it any better) but I believe maybe around 8/9 weeks? She posted on the group at the time but maybe you'd already taken a break by then. Some of her words really cut me quite deeply too tbh. And maybe it has skewed my feelings about some of the other things she said, which probably wouldn't upset me half as much as they would if one of you lot had said it.

@somuchtolearnabout that's so sad, agree I wouldn't wish that on my worst enemy. I was away from the group when most of the group was about 8/9 weeks so that's probs how i missed it. Her messages about her expected baby were so brutal though, I remember I used to scroll past when I saw her username - I'm glad no one writes messages like that on here anymore.

Anyone else getting heart palpitations? Been getting loads of them all week and they're getting quite uncomfortable. Not sure whether to contact the midwife or wait until my 16 week appointment in a couple of weeks and check in with her about it then.

Just had our 16 week midwife appointment. She let us hear the heartbeat too which was lovely and very reassuring after some symptoms have dwindled in the past week. She said she was a bit old school but liked to do it for reassurance even though guidance says not to anymore. It was so lovely! 💕She said she would out on our notes that we asked as it isn’t normally offered.

Interesting conversation about boys! I'm expecting my first and took us a while to conceive so I'll be happy with either boy or girl as long as they're healthy, but something deep inside me would love a boy 💙 firstly, all my parents grandkids are ALL girls and my dad would only be delighted if we have a boy 😂 but secondly I love the idea when I get old of having sons being protective and looking after me (hopefully 😂). I think it comes from the relationship I saw between my dad and his mother and they were so incredibly close. When she got ill, he went over and beyond to organise things/make sure she was comfortable and eventually made sure she got into a good care home when my mother could no longer care for her. Sons are also very loving as well as daughters, so couldn't agree more! I defo have a feeling we'll be having a little girl 💗. I'll find out tomorrow as we're going for a private scan. Eeeekkkkkkk!!! Hopefully be able to tell as I'm Sooooo ready to find out!!! I'll be 17 weeks tomorrow so hopefully baby is in the right position to tell ☺️

@LS888 I’ve just got home from my 16 week appointment and got to listen to the heartbeat too! We’re 17 weeks tomorrow.

Interesting to read all the gender thoughts. We’ve got a little girl already but I genuinely don’t mind if we have another little girl or if we have a little boy, there’s lovely things about both! Feels like a long time to wait until the middle of March when we find out 😂

@Recoba I have, can be quite worrying. Started about a week ago. I’ve read can be quite common in pregnancy but I have my appointment on Tuesday so definitely going to mention to her then. I waited because my appointment wasn’t too far away but if you still have a while to go might be worth a mention.

@Mulner88 oh that’s so bloody exciting can’t wait to hear what you’re having☺️☺️

@somuchtolearnabout @Marmaladebear shes still being mean about other people on other threads I’m on lol it’s so bitchy I don’t understand why you would come on here if you’re just going to be nasty!

@ChloeN Hahaha that doesn't surprise me. Def an odd character. I was browsing a thread not that long ago and she basically told someone to F off out of their thread because they came on to celebrate a positive pregnancy test and she essentially said "this thread is only for people who aren't pregnant yet".

Ok who made you the MN police???

@somuchtolearnabout omg that’s awful 😳 surely everyone TTC celebrates each others wins and aren’t there only hopeful for themselves?
Would not wish a loss on anybody, but glad she’s not still in this thread. Definitely made me feel very uncomfortable at times!

@somuchtolearnabout I know who you are talking about, she was very triggering for quite a lot of us I think. It’s absolutely terrible she lost her baby, I’ve been there and wouldn’t wish it on anyone. I do remember thinking though that how she spoke about her baby was very…odd and I found it sad. It doesn’t surprise me to hear that she’s still being quite nasty to others on mumsnet, though it is sad for anyone having to read what she’s putting.

@recoba I’ve had heart palpitations too, quite strong feeling ones along with some dizziness. It’s definitely worth a mention if you’ve a wait until you see your midwife, I’m seeing mine again quite soon so if it’s still happening to this degree I’ll mention it then.

Ive got to say I had no preference for gender with either of my pregnancies, I was a bit nervous about either option because I knew babies but not young children so how to interact with one was completely out of my experience 😂 dw had wanted a girl because she had helped raise her brother so she thought it would be nice to know what it was like but she was just pleased there was a baby at all.

@somuchtolearnabout Ive seen that one too🤣 it’s so nasty I’m sure it’s made some of them girls feel like crap!

I want to know who everyone is talking about now 😂😂

The gender thing is interesting. I would be happy with either especially when it's taken this long to get here, but part of me has always wanted a girl. I think this probably has more to do with cute dresses and the fact my favourite colour is pink 😂 however I think the culture in my family has something to do with it. The women in my family have always lived close to their mums and been their best friend whereas the men have moved closer to their wives families. This is true of all my aunts and my mum. My Nan actually says it is the girls job to look after their mums and the boys job to look after their wives so it is sort of ingrained in me that is what is normal. It is good to hear this isn't always the case! My husband sees his parents a lot but I see mine more, which is because we only live 5 mins from mine.
I do think I'd find boys easier though, especially as they get older. I have 2 younger brothers so I'm used to dealing with them 😂

@ChloeN @somuchtolearnabout I'm surprised she's still being mean! I must be naive. It's such strange behaviour and I really don't get the point. Glad we don't have anyone like that anymore!

Omg I've woken up today and I've definitely popped! I look so pregnant 😂

Now googling other people's bumps at 16 weeks to check I'm not unusual! What is it about pregnancy that has us googling everything or just me 😂

@marleyandme im always googling “bump at x weeks” 🤣🤣
my bloat has slowly reduced though and my bump increased so I’ve looked the same for a while but now it’s more pregnancy less gas/constipation 🤦🏻‍♀️

@Narwhal88 in my family that is the case too really. I think even if I was the man in our relationship though and my husband was a woman (odd concept 😂), we’d still be closer to my family just because of the way my family are. My husband’s family have just never really been involved in his life and he does a lot of big things without even being in contact with them at all, it’s just one visit every so often, whereas I phone my mum to update her every 2 hours 🙈