August Due Date Crew - Into Trimester 2 (Thread 6)

[AnnieApple123]

As always, newbies are most welcome.

Apologies if I’ve missed out anyone who gave a date. Do shout if so. Ditto if you’d like to be added or have updates.

July
26th @MidnightSunshine12
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29th @DesertSnow,@Mulner88 & @overwork
30th
31st @AnnieApple123

August
1st @ChloeN & @SnowL2021
2nd @Amme18
3rd @PumpkinEverything, @Chl0o & @LS888
4th @BMK & @UsernameNotPresent
5th @BusyBushBaby @LBF2020 & @BoodifulGoose
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7th @CityKity
8th @Sjw30
9th @marleyandme & @buttercupbee
10th @VickiGo & @Desperatelyboredhousewife
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12th @Rose05
13th @sally16
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15th @BCxx & @nadsc
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17th @narwhal88
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19th @Firsttimemomma1 , @P1pk & @Nic2908
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30th @unluckyinlife

@sally16 yeah I know! I knew my son was a boy from the start, I really just felt it so when they said he was a boy at 16 weeks I didn’t for a second doubt it. This time I’ve done the early blood test with sneak peak and it said girl (which is apparently most likely correct, more likely to be wrong for a boy due to contamination), but even at the 16 week scan if they say girl I still don’t know if I’ll believe it 🙈 I want to fully imagine it happening and be excited to buy clothes etc but I just feel like I can’t!

I got my gender scan at 16 weeks how often do they get it wrong I wonder? They said a girl for me

@BCxx essay incoming....
Firstly, the house full of screaming kids made me LOL because wow, if that's not relatable! We said the exact same as you though, we had a 22 month gap between the first two boys, then I kinda wasn't sure if I was done and we went back & forth a million times. When I was pregnant I said if we had a third I'd 100% have a 3/4yr gap, then when the second was young he had horrific reflux, we were changing him up to 6/7 times a day and we both said F doing this again. 2 and done. He was just a really difficult baby, he had operations and health scares and also the worst silent reflux I've ever known (in contrast, DS1 lulled us into a false sense of security because he was the textbook chill baby) BUT then as he got older he was the dreamiest most chilled relaxed toddler, and still is at almost 2. By now our first son was mega terrible twos but the second is just horizontal 99% of the day, so we flirted the idea of a third. We went to Ibiza on a child free holiday with our friends when he was 17 months old and decided let's have another baby, I was pregnant 2 months later. So there will be a 2.4yr gap this time. Shorter than anticipated but you just never know how it's gonna go. I think I'm genuinely done now though, I'll be 35 when this one's born and I just honestly feel like I'm ready to hang my TTC shoes up and be grateful for 3 hopefully healthy happy children! 3 boys will be beautiful chaos and I can't wait for Christmases, and a crazy busy house, but also am content that 3 will keep me busy enough thank you. Mum needs a rest now 😂💙

Also re the blood test, I'm yet to ever hear of a false girl result so I'm like 99.99999% yours is a girl! I AM CONFIDENT 💕💕😂😂

@somuchtolearnabout I think we're due on same day and I also have 2 boys. Do you know thst you're having another boy? @BCxx I said that too but as I had boys I really wanted a girl and what you say is also ironically right: you do feel a nostalgic twinge re not ever doing the baby stuff/having a baby again and just the real effects of that is giving away all the baby things and feeling that it will never be again. I suppose most people (*women mainly ) must feel this way at that point. @AnnieApple123 hope your back is improving and @Paintandpots any sign of improvement?

@BCxx I feel similarly odd about not knowing whether this is my last pregnancy or not. Is this the final time I’m doing all this? Last time I felt fairly certain that it wasn’t (as much as one ever can be) but this time I really don’t know. It’s a strange feeling, isn’t it?

@BMK Back masses better today thanks. I’m so grateful I found the specialist osteopath and that she was able to see me so quickly.

Really interesting to read about people's experiences of deciding how many children to have. We were told by numerous doctors it may not happen for us at all, so right now feeling super grateful to be having this one, all being well! But I've always thought I'd like three, while DH is adamant about having two. This pregnancy has been tough, and I can't imagine how I'd cope feeling like this if I manage to get pregnant again - with a child to look after. You mummies looking after children while also being pregnant are warriors.

Had my 16 week midwife appointment on Wednesday, and they offered to listen to the heartbeat. It took what felt like forever to find it (in reality about a minute) and she kept going back over the same area so I was starting to panic. But she found it eventually, baby was just hiding quite low down. Phew! Hoping the relief will last for a bit!

My gender results are back. Picked up the envelope to drop off to the balloon company over the weekend. Now an agonising 3 week wait until our gender reveal. As this will be our one and only baby we wanted to go all out with a gender reveal although I didn't think I would actually want anything like that to begin with. Now I am starting to dread that decision and really want to open the envelope up and have a sneak peak. Not sure hubby would be impressed with me though 😂

Just a shout out to whoever suggested weetabix for breakfast every morning - I’ve been constipation free for about a week now and couldn’t be more thankful 🤣

@Amme18 this made me laugh 😂

@BMK Ah no way! Well are you ready for another essay? 😂😂 We had the sneak peek blood test done at 8 weeks and it came back as a boy. We know that those tests can give so many false results, but we assumed as we'd had it done in clinic that it would be more accurate. I really thought I wanted a girl but surprised myself with how happy I was that it was a boy. We then had a scare and had a private scan at 11w and the sonographer told us "he was 90% it was a girl" and kept reminding me how inaccurate the test is......I went home and cried for the entire week. I didn't tell anyone other than my husband. And I'm so devastated to admit that because I always promised myself I'd never ever let myself be disappointed with the gender of any of my children, but I had just spent those last few weeks imagining my life with my 3 boys and felt like I was really mourning something that was never really mine to begin with.

ANYWAY. Fast forward to 12w scan which was actually at 13w and the sonographer basically said (not in so many words) that they're absolutely certain it's a boy. There was two of them in there and they both agreed they can never be 100% but as far as they're concerned, it's a boy.

It would be disingenuous of me to say I didn't have a preference, and maybe I will be lucky enough to get my 3 boys (I genuinely feel like it is a boy) but if it's a girl I will be absolutely over the moon to finally have a daughter. So i'm going to wait until the 20w scan as I can't have any more inconclusive guesses, as far as I'm concerned it's a win win either way.

@Amme18 HAHA sharing's caring

@DesertSnow I feel the same regarding no of children. It feels like such a privilege now to be able to just decide how many you want. I always wanted 3 (I'm 1 of 3) but my husband only wanted 2. Now I don't know if this is the only time I will be pregnant as it's taken us 3.5 years to get here. Not to mention the fact we would need ivf again so this will cost us thousands. We will try though.

I have booked a gender scan at 16 weeks, more for the reassurance rather than gender. Now I'm worried it will be inaccurate! Are they normally correct by this point??

@Amme18 haha I'm in exactly the same boat! Thank you whoever mentioned it 😂

@Narwhal88 my friend has 2 IVF babies and then a surprise natural baby! You hear this sort of stories so many times it makes you think things must change, maybe spurred on by having a baby and your body being like ohhhh this is what
we do 🤣 Who knows!

This is my second and definitely my last. I’m 38 and my daughter will be 8 in May. I never thought I would be an older mum but me and her dad split when she was 1 and me and my partner only even first talked about a baby a year ago. It’s his first and we are both excited but constantly on edge I’m of something going wrong. It was only a couple days ago when had my 12 week scan that we have started to believe it might just be happening

I haven't been here in a while, the threads move so fast 🤣

This is our second (but my 4th pregnancy with 2 very early miscarriages). Praying that everything goes okay with this one and then I am absolutely done! And I know I'm done already after this one, not even contemplating a third. I'm loving it because I've been feeling quite rough so I keep telling myself this is the last time....But I'm also trying to make the most of certain things because I know I won't do it again.

I'm excited to hopefully have them both here and healthy and to be able to take them on holidays, bake cookies at Christmas, go exploring, build dens and just have fun. No more after this. I'm 32 and although I think I've got time for another one, I just don't want it.

@BCxx thank you!

It’s so nice to hear everyone else’s thoughts on if this is their last pregnancy or not. Dw and I had 3 miscarriages before we tried with me and had our daughter, all told we’ve spent 7 years ttc. With how ill I’ve felt with both pregnancies, I’m quite relieved not to go through this again 😂

Plus being two women and with the rule change over in Denmark (the sperm bank over there that we used) we had to use a fertility clinic to have this baby and that had a financial impact.

For those who've had babies before, do you know if an epidural is MANDATORY during a c-section? Asking as I'm determined to do it without an epidural due to severe anxiety issues surrounding it. Hoping for a birth but incase a c-section is needed just curious? TIA x

@Createcomet how are things going sickness and takeover wise,any joy on either front? @Amme18 I think that was @BCxx but could be wrong and actually I remember saying 'I must try that',but didn't but will Definitely! try it now as will be v useful particularly for later preg.
@somuchtolearnabout : I totally get this. I was so disappointed both times with the boys to find that they weren't girls (lots of people will say why,but I thought boys would be rough and well-like boys/men and I wouldn't have much in common) but as they have grown I have discovered that their natures and characters are actually either coincidentally or as a result of our influence : the kindest, most helpful, cheery and thoughtful individuals. They have more characteristics that I would associate with girls than traditionally boys. So now whereas I was mad for a girl I actually think this might be a boy and I'm ok with that and actually have a name ready,whereas before I thought I would be devestated if no girl. Wow that is some twisty tale : how two results could be so opposite! Like everything it's the not knowing that gets you!! The Sonographer at my 13,6 scan (supposedly 12wk) couldn't see and so I also have to wait until March 24th- which is SO far away!
I also understand that to those who couldn't easily conceive that these comments seem arrogant, self entitling and ungrateful but in its context -in circumstances where pregnancy comes easily(I haven'tknown anythingelse andI knowI'mfortunatein that regard)- this is where the mind goes.

@newmummie hi good question about the epidural, I too am to have a c section and I have never had one before and I am really anxious about the potential side effects of debilitating headaches, it is not a huge statistic but if possible I'd really rather avoid it. Please let me know what you find out about this

@BMK Bpys get such a tough time on MN and I am SO protective over it. There was someone previously on this thread (she has left now) who had really struggled to conceive and had gone through a loss before, she had one boy and was pregnant again, sadly lost this baby too but I will never ever forget that she announced she would be "devastated" if it was another boy. And those words will never leave my mind. As a mother who desperately wanted children myself, I just simply cannot fathom how someone would be devastated by ANY healthy baby?! Surely that's the aim? I'm not for one second suggesting gender disappointment isn't real, because having a preference is absolutely natural and normal, but to say you'd be devastated? It's so extreme and such a dangerous mindset over something you simply cannot control. I just feel like if you'd only be happy with one gender then you shouldn't have a child. It really upset me.

My boys are the exact same. My almost 4yo is so gentle, so polite, constant kisses and cuddles and telling everyone how much he loves them. I think people forget how wonderful having an older son is too. My husband takes so much care of his mum, he is always sending her flowers (she lives the other end of the country), she got made redundant so he gave her a job within his business, he recently paid for her to get her kitchen renovated, he calls her every day on his way home from work. People think it's only girls who are close to their mums but that couldn't be further from the truth in my experience. Even my older brother is super super close to my mum and she constantly says it's absolutely nothing to do with sex or gender, it's how you raise your children that determines your relationship with them. PHEW. Rant over.

@BMK thanks for asking! sickness is not gone, but I think it's getting better. Still super tired and really struggle to stay awake past 9pm, but pleased I'm able to do a little bit more than before.

Takeover is getting there thanks. We have one clause to agree on and then we're there. So not far off now, I'm hoping for end of the month but we'll see what next week brings. Thankfully, my actual job is a walk in the park compared to the Takeover 🤣

How are you doing?

Have also got about 3 million hospital appointments coming through and feel more overwhelmed than i thought I would. Had EMCS last time so have now got to choose between vbac and planned section. Does anyone know what happens at consultant appointments? I'll be going alone and I'm nervous!!! It all feels like a lot this time...probably because last time was 2020 and I barely ever went to the hospital!

In total agreement about boys ❤️ I would like a girl this time to experience both BUT would be happy with 2 boys! My boy is WILD, he is boisterous…but also he is so kind and sweet and cuddly. He is an absolute mommas boy. He is so gentle around babies, he kisses and strokes my belly constantly now. He is creative and imaginative, he loves to help me do jobs, and he’s just all round hilarious.

I actually didn’t want a girl when I was pregnant first time because I was such a handful as a teenager I thought I just can’t cope with a girl 🤣hormones are scary!

Hi all, hope everyone's doing okay. Just catching up on the thread.

In the meantime, I wondered if anyone is taking heparin injections to prevent blood clots? I've just been told I will need to start these due to an inflammatory disease I have. I already self inject an immunosuppressant but only fortnightly. I'm not looking forward to daily injections.

Hahaha @Amme18 everyone's wants girls until they become teenagers.....then everyone wants boys 😂 (she's joking of course but she said 3 girls 2 years apart was no joke)

Your boy sounds absolutely gorgeous 🥰🥰