Due August 2023 (Thread 3)

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Follow on from thread 2 cause we talk, a LOT 😂

www.mumsnet.com/talk/pregnancy/4693024-due-august-2023-thread-2?page=40

Optimistically rejoining after posting 1 comment on thread 1. I had to step away as there was so much talk about loss which is not what I wanted to focus on so hopefully this can be a positive post for those who are nervous.

First pregnancy after 11 months TTC. Have been full of cold all weekend and had brown/pinkish spotting and lower back pain for 2 days so was very worried. Luckily I had my 8 week private scan booked for today and after being worried sick am so pleased there is a 8+2 bean in there with a healthy heartbeat. Actually due 30th July!

I also had my first midwife appointment today which went well so starting to feel very excited (and that it's all real).

Sending love to all those who are worried Xx

@MidnightSunshine12 so pleased about the positive scan especially after your worries!

@DB1109 totally normal! It’s life changing in ways you can’t comprehend (I think even when it’s your second third etc as it’s a new experience again!). And this first 12 weeks is weird, extra hormones, feel crap in a million different ways yet don’t really feel pregnant as in connected to a baby so it’s hard to bond at this point.

@MidnightSunshine12 congratulations on a positive scan ❤️

@AnnieApple123 @MinnieFirstTimeMum I’ve experienced a similar thing r.e a dull cramping/pressure mainly on one side, sometimes it feels more like a twinge but it’s never bad. I was also told not to worry as an ectopic would be ‘severe’ pain - wish I could take that on board haha! I have my early scan Friday so looking forward to hopefully putting my mind at ease.

@DB1109 just to let you know I’m in the same boat and feeling all those weird feelings too. I feel like right now only me and DH know it’s not ‘real’ yet but I’m terrified of telling people as the magnitude of this will really hit home. I feel like I’ve been knocked up at 17 and am totally unprepared - but I’m a 34yr old married woman and we were trying (loosely). My family will be over the moon, but I’m scared that my identity changes from ‘me’ to ‘mum’

Congratulations @Amme18 on such a clear scan! So lovely to see!

This group moves so fast - welcome to all the new people!
Oh @MinnieFirstTimeMum you could be me, I was also leaning towards not having any and now here I am. Infact I'm till not totally sold on the idea but going with it at the minute.
I had my booking apt today, went on for ages! I also had ketones @AnnieApple123, the midwife didn't seem remotely bothered so I wasn't. She just asked whether I'd eaten (I hadn't, I don't tend to on a morning).
I'm a sonographer so I've had a sneak peak, I am definitely not one of the 1 in 25 who will be having twins!

Omg @overwork you're a sonographer! That would be so dangerous for id be in there every 5 mins having a sneaky peek. And you're lucky you're not my friend as I'd be on your doorstep constantly instead.

You don't happen to live in Bromley do you 😂😜

Odd question, is anyone suffering allergies? Dr Google is telling me there are certain ones you can use whilst pregnant, however I've got one of those (loratadine) at home and it says on the box not to use whilst pregnant 🙄

@somuchtolearnabout not too far
Im lucky though, I don't seem to have quite the sane levels of anxiety as some have been suffering with on here, so I just did a quick check that's it's in the right place, has a heartbeat (and that there's just the one!). I don't imagine I'll be tempted again before my team scan in Jan but who knows!

'Real' scan - not team scan! My team will not be scanning me!

I was having this convo on the fb group earlier, with my first 2 pregnancies it never even crossed my mind that there wouldn't be a baby in there or that something might be wrong. Before MN I had no idea about chemical pregnancies or all the things that could go wrong, beautifully blissfully unaware. I think sometimes people try to scare you on here and you're either the type of person who would rather hope for the best, or you're the type of person who'd rather expect the worst and not be disappointed. Luckily (in my opinion) I'm the former and intend on staying that way!

Sorry @overwork that was for you!

@DB1109 I'm feeling this way too. We have been trying for 1.5 years so definitely planned and was so thrilled when I got my positive but now the reality is setting in about life changes and also our family support network is lacking on both our sides as our families live in a different country and that scares me. Don't get me wrong, I've waited ages for this and I'm ready as I'll ever be but maybe it's just the hormones and mix of feeling not myself and sickly during this first trimester.

Has anyone else experienced this? Having a baby with lack of family around and how did you manage in the end?

@CityKity @Mulner88 yeah this is EXACTLY how I’m feeling in both of your replies I actually said the same to my OH yesterday ….we’ve been together since we were 16 and we’re 32 now and we’ve been trying for 1 year but I feel like I’ve been caught unexpectedly at 16 it’s just not how I expected to feel. I’m not pleased other people feel the same but it is comforting to know it’s not just me. Everyone always says it’s such an amazing time I felt like something was wrong because I’m just not connecting with it yet

@Mulner88 im lucky to have family around but just wanted to say it’s not always the shitstorm everyone makes it out to be 😂 My little one is a year and a half and I genuinely don’t need help from my mum. She will take him odd afternoons or if we’re (hardly ever) going out for dinner but he’s just the easiest child on planet earth. He’s slept every night since he was about 6 weeks old and I mean every night, all night! I was almost put off having kids because I just didn’t think I could cope with the sleepless nights and how my life would be ruined but I can’t emphasise how much I’ve found it the opposite. I have a friend on the other hand who’s having a really difficult time just now so it’s not all plain sailing and I almost feel guilty for my journey being so easy but just to say you might not need loads of help in the early days, maybe you’ll find a good nursery or child minder for after that

@somuchtolearnabout i think you can sometimes know too much! I got a positive test two weeks ago and my old (non MN educated) self would have been delighted at that but I was instantly thinking ‘chemical! This will be a chemical, it’s faint!!’. I then didn’t get much progression on the next day’s line and was writing the whole thing off. The next day I started bleeding and I had the whole story mapped out of how this was a chemical. Nope, the bleeding stopped and look at me, still pregnant 😧 These awful things do happen all the time but I think it is important to remember it’s more likely that they won’t and itl all be fine!

@overwork please talk us through you having a quick peak 😂 did you wait til lunch time and no one was in the room, lock the door and do it? Did you have to be sneaky or does everyone do it? 😂 I’ve literally wondered about this before

@edithmay wow! Congratulations 😊 and an extra surprise for you that you haven’t had time drag by for the last month!

@DB1109 i think it’s really hard to be excited or anything concrete at this stage because your brain shoots you down every time you do. I do kind of feel like it’s something I’ve made up and it’s not really happening and it’s my second! I think the moment it changed for me last time was when the baby started to move regularly and kick. I thought I’d hate it but it was genuinely so nice and you feel like you have this special thing with them for all that time before you ever meet

@BCxx down the line you will have to share how you created such a perfect sleeper! Lack of sleep is a huge fear of mine, I cope so badly with lack of sleep, I’ve always wondered how working parents do it, as I feel absolutely demolished if I don’t sleep well. Luckily DH is a light sleeper and often is found pottering around in the small hours, so has promised me that night time will be his shift.

@CityKity hopefully this will be reassuring. Before I had my son, I was all about sleep. Needed at least 8 good hours a night, would be an absolute zombie if I didn't get my "quota". I had a small freak out around 37 weeks along the lines of 'what have I done with my life, I will never sleep again'. DS is not a great sleeper, he is 2, we still cosleep out of necessity, and I am yet to have uninterrupted night since he was born (I do all the night wakes, but that's a story for another day). BUT I am ok. I somehow function ok. I work full time in a stressful role, and have been managing fine. I don't know how, but you just do. Your body really adapts. It will be ok, I promise.
@AnnieApple123 and @2020in2020 I right there with you with cosleeping toddlers. I don't have a plan either.. so glad to hear there is someone else in this position!

I’m worrying myself sick….

Had some very light brown spotting/discharge late last night. Been awake most of the night and now it is sort of pink but still very light. I’ll be 5 weeks today.
I did have implantation bleeding on CD 21 but that was 2 weeks ago…

I’m going to contact my GP this morning for advice.

does anybody have any experience of this? I’m beside myself 🙁 x

@BCxx haha yep just shut the door. I obviously wasn't going to do an internal scan on myself (apart from anything else I'm not that dexterous!) so waited until 7 weeks when I was fairly sure I would see something scanning my stomach.
And yeah I would imagine we all do it, though some more than others!
Thanks @somuchtolearnabout - I agree, I also feel lucky and hopefully the positivity stays that way for both of us

Well I'm back to the trying to conceive chats. Woke this morning after spotting lastnight with a full on bleed and my tests are now showing as negative. I'm guessing a chemical loss given I was getting previously faint positives. Devastated :(