Due August 2023 (Thread 3)

[BoodifulGoose]

Follow on from thread 2 cause we talk, a LOT 😂

www.mumsnet.com/talk/pregnancy/4693024-due-august-2023-thread-2?page=40

Have many people in this thread had scans yet? I've booked myself in for a private one (should be around 8 weeks at that point if my dates are correct), speaking to my GP on 29th December but not heard anything from midwife. First time pregnant and a naturally anxious individual so panicking about the lack of professional support in the first 12 weeks.

@VickiGo i’ve not heard a peep and self referred myself over 2 weeks ago! I did chase but they said they’d had a large volume of referrals. I think generally pre 12 weeks it’s normal that there is no real support / contact. I’ve booked early private scan just to check i’m actually pregnant 🤣

Thank you for the support and I completely agree. We shouldn't be made to feel like we're idiots for assuming that we might actually go home with a baby. If people want to be negative this isn't the right place for it.

I'm taking a step back now as I'm just getting p*ssed off and making things awkward

@LMM91x ah thanks, that makes me feel a bit better knowing it's normal rather than just being forgotten about 😂 I've booked an Early Reassurance scan at a company called Hey Baby as it'll work out cheaper than me continually redoing pregnancy tests to make sure I've done them right 🙄

I’ve got a scan booked in for tomorrow and I’m exactly 8 weeks today. I made the mistake last time of going a tad too early so wanted to wait til 8 weeks this round. I would love to be able to wait til 12 weeks but that’s not in my nature unfortunately 🤣 @VickiGo

@VickiGo I booked an early scan and had it this past weekend, thought I was 8 weeks but measured 7, but saw a wonderful little heartbeat and it's done wonders to reassure me that I'm actually pregnant (😂) and that everything is fine just now! Anxiety feeling a lot less severe since it :)

Thanks so much @Mulner88 and @TheBirdintheCave for the reassurance. It really so much appreciated. I actually haven’t had any twinges now for a couple of hours so am feeling a bit better about it all already.

Here’s a weird symptom I’ve never heard of before. Does anyone else’s tummy area ever feel very warm? Almost as if someone had spilt some warm water on it.

@MsRT the wait is absolutely unbearable 😂 I was talking to my mum yesterday and she doesn't understand why I'm so nervous (2 healthy pregnancies for her) but I don't understand how anyone can be so calm! Congrats on 8 weeks & good luck for your scan tomorrow 😊

@somuchtolearnabout you are totally right. Have a great christmas!

@Recoba We’ve got our Ocado Xmas order coming on Wednesday and tonight is the last chance to edit it. I’ve spent loads of time obsessively checking cupboards as I’m so paranoid I’m going to forget something. Hope you find a good hiding place for the port. I had vague plans of leaving Santa a glass of sherry but he may have to make do with apple juice at our house this year.

@VickiGo I’ve been driving my poor mum crazy with all my niggles and worries. She’s really starting to seems a bit fed up now. I guess early pregnancy feels a long time ago for them and it’s easy to forget how hard it can be. Goodness, I’ve even forgotten things since DS and that was only just over three years ago!

@AnnieApple123 I completely agree, I'm glad I've found this thread as it's nice to read about how other people are feeling when we aren't all that far away from each others due dates. It also makes me feel sane and helps me understand that the things I'm feeling are normal 😊

I think I've been misunderstood here. The baffling part was related to ME. It's me who can't understand how other people can be so confident because I'm an autistic person who already struggles to understand NT brains anyway. And, as a person who thinks negatively, I can't imagine being positive about something that frightens me so much. Hope scares me. Hope gives me more to lose.

BUT

I never said that there's something wrong with people who prefer to think that way nor did I call anyone stupid or idiotic. I think it's admirable that you're all able to be positive in the face of all of the unknowns that pregnancy throws at us. I'm sure all of you are right and justified to think that way and I've never said that anyone won't end up with a baby bar myself.

I wish I could be like the rest of you, but I'm just not. Please be as optimistic as you want here or anywhere else. I was only ever negative towards myself and I have every right to think that way about my own personal circumstances.

@BoodifulGoose I’ve got my booking appt tomorrow after a scan yesterday, it’s definitely starting to feel more real now!

@VickiGo I had a private scan yesterday. I should have been 7+5 based off LMP but I knew I ovulated late so was worried I wouldn’t be far enough to see a heartbeat. But she measured me at 6+4 and we could see a little heartbeat on the screen 🥹 it’s my first pregnancy too so it’s all a bit worrying and overwhelming at times, but this thread has helped me a lot already over the past 3 weeks, hopefully it helps you too

Is anyone else with toddlers also pulling their hair out forgot how to parent and have 0 patience? My darling little angel has decided to paint the dog during the brief 5 minutes I left her unattended to go be sick our lovely honey and white spaniel is now a lovely shade of purple and green with a hint of red glitter 🙄

@Loudmouth1 that's just cracked me up 🤣 poor pooch!

I'm a crap mum right now.. it's taken me all morning to even clear the upstairs and change DS bed.. not even started cleaning yet, he's found a dummy and watching hey duggee.. given up

@Loudmouth1 I feel so bad for how hard the mental image of that has made me laugh 😂

@VickiGo my midwife said that they aim to see you before you get to 10 weeks for the booking appointment.
I agree it feels weird not having professional support in these early stages, but I think it is standard.
This is my first pregnancy so I was expecting the GP to have to confirm it 😂

@Loudmouth1 Im so sorry that made me laugh a little, your poor dog! Hope it’s not a complete nightmare to clean up.

I am absolutely not the parent I was before, I hate it if I’m honest because my patience is just not there anymore. I’m struggling having her on my knee because the slightest movement or her pressing into my stomach makes me heave. I’m also needing a nap most days which isn’t like me at all and the rest of the time I’m so tired it’s like wading through quicksand. The only thing that’s helping me at the min is the thought that I was better in my second trimester so hopefully that’s the same this time.

@sally16 @BoodifulGoose @Rowanandremy we can all feel like guilty parents together 😂 I've bathed the dog but said child ended up wanting to share the bath with the dog so now the bathroom looks like a clown murder scene!! I'm counting down the hours until bedtime!!! On the other hand very lucky to have such a placid dog who doesn't mind daisys antics.. roll on nursery tomorrow

I've managed to clean 2 of the bathrooms and I'm already at give up stage! DS has stripped off and is standing at the bedroom window naked waving to people and I still have soo much to do! Roll on nightshirt where I can leave him to his dad 😂

@buttercupbee ah congratulations on the little heartbeat 🥰 I only found out I was pregnant just over a week ago as wasn't too worried about my period being late as it's happened before but started to feel weird about some food (wotsits in particular) so thought it best to do a test and here I am!

@MinnieFirstTimeMum I've been on Google quite a lot and that confirms what you've said about 10 weeks so I'll just sit tight until then! I did ring my GP when I found out requesting a face to face appointment (they give appointments on the day) and they absolutely didn't see any need for it and said my GP would phone me between Xmas & new year! At that point I realised I was very misinformed about the things that need to happen about pregnancy and downloaded Mumsnet to find a community!

Thank you both for your replies, whether it be from close family or strangers on the internet, support is greatly appreciated 😊

@BoodifulGoose how long were you at your booking appt? I should of asked so I had a rough idea to know when I would be back at work!

@BoodifulGoose sorry I missed your reply whilst scrolling! Smiled throughout reading your message, congrats on the heartbeat and congrats on the solid evidence of the pregnancy 😂 I've booked my scan for New Year's Day, so still a bit of time to grow yet 😊

@ChloeN 1h30m!! I had filled out the questionnaire in advance so thought it would be shorter! have seen some people say it was a lot shorter, less than 30 mins, but that seemed to be England based, I'm Scotland based, unsure if it makes a difference!

@VickiGo No worries at all! 💙 aww that'll be a nice way the start the year! My fiancé got very emotional when he saw the heartbeat too 😂