Infidelity - Found a condom under the bed

[Pippa0321]

I’m 2 months pregnant, we tried for a year and when we found out we were extremely happy. (we’ve been happily together for 6 years). However today I was cleaning and I found a condom wrap under the bed. I confronted him and he admitted he cheated with a random girl a year ago. He was out partying and met a girl, went back to her place and got with her, he thinks the condom wrap was in his pocket and may have fell out when he got changed back home. I don’t know what to do I’m shocked. I would have never ever expected that from him. He has been such a good boyfriend, so loving and so in love with me for all these years. I thought 100% he was the type he’d never cheat. Any advice? Should I leave him and keep the baby? Leave him and get an abortion? Or stay with him and keep the baby despite everything? Thanks x

This is what I would do

Otherwise you are tied to this scum forever

What convenient amnesia.

He wasn't a good loving boyfriend if he was lying now, was he?
Keep the baby if you think you can afford to bring it up on your own and dump him, he's not worth it.

Alternatively he could be lying about the whole thing and is just jealous that you are pregnant and getting attention from everyone and so playing mind games with you. Although I doubt it. Once a cheat, I'm afraid, nearly always a cheat.

This

Or you will be tied to him forever

Of course he ‘barely remembers anything’. How convenient! That’s just bullshit and you know it. You’ll find out more as he starts to drip out information and his story doesn’t add up.

No I couldn’t stay, it’s too big. He cheated and lied. Whether you would want to keep the baby as a single parent is up to you. Don’t let him pressure you into making any decisions.

This makes no sense. If the expiry date matches the date he cheated that would indicate the condoms were purchased years prior to that.

He's been cheating in your bedroom I'm afraid. His story about the condom is BS. It's probably happened a lot of times and recently. I'd give him the push TBH. You'll never be able to trust him again. Only you can decide about the baby. I'm so sorry this has happened to you but it's probably a good thing you've found out now rather than a few more years down the line. Some men are shit and in my experience the shit ones never change. X

This. Why would he bring home the wrapper anyway?
What a shit.

Keep the baby if you tried for a year. Ditch him

Agree with this.
I would end the relationship, I just couldn’t get beyond it. Whether you keep the baby or not is up to you though. Would you want to go it alone ?

over a one night stand!

How do you know it was a one night stand?

With either that woman or any other?

Not sure why a proven liar and cheater's word is being taken as fact. It's unlikely to be fact.

So long as OP has the baby, it is HIS baby too and he has rights as a father.

That is why other posters are saying the baby will tie OP to this man.

I couldnt kill MY child because of a man.

I have issues with terminations but even I find your language inappropriate and unhelpful here.

Oh go & virtue signal elsewhere. OP's thread isn't about you.

OP only YOUR opinion & decision matters in this.

I couldn’t kill MY child because of a man

That’s really unhelpful and not constructive. Your feelings on abortion don’t come into it.

It’s not your baby though is it

@mam0918 no child is being "killed" during an adoption. There is no child.

Nice try.

Take your disgusting anti-choice views elsewhere

During an abortion* not adoption

I think he had sex with another woman recently in your bed, and she put the wrapper under the bed, she wanted you to see it. Probably jealous or angry that you are pregnant.
Your partner's version is not in the least bit plausable, he was clutching at straws, and only a dimwit would believe the rubbish he is spewing. Get one of those doorbells that record, l bet you will catch him out bringing her back in again. From what you've said you can't trust him as far as you can throw him, l would get rid of him and save yourself a lot of future heartache.

Have you stayed away for a night or so recently?

Does it even matter if it was a year ago or a week ago? He cheated at least one time with someone. That alone would have me packing his bags.

OP asked and I gave my opinion which is as valid as yours, as someone who volunteers with charities that assist with the mental health side of the loss of wanted and long tried for pregnancies my opinion is VERY valid.

OP should not make a knee-jerk perminant choice based on a moment or anger or confusion at a man, this isnt a pregnancy from a one night stand or abuser she actively TRIED to get pregnanct for a YEAR which is classified as infertility teritory.

All trust would be gone so the relationship would be over for me.