Hi NS
Good to hear all your news. Hope you're taking care of yourself as well at the moment - it sounds like you've got your hands full and you need to make sure you look after yourself, too.
I'm really impressed you've managed to write to the hospital and start making an issue of your appalling treatment - it must take so much mental energy to do that, I think, as I can barely manage the most basic of admin-type tasks and so couldn't imagine being able to formulate your experiences on paper for the hospital. I didn't even know there was a National Patient Safety Agency - shows what times we live in with our healthcare. So, well done you, and don't give up the fight: they owe your some sort of recourse.
Breastfeeding: it really sounds like your feeding with your DD is like how mine was with DS2. By 10 weeks, I was giving him a l0 o'clock formula feed just to give myself a chance for my milk to 'fill back up' a bit - he used to feed for about an hour and a half and then give me a half hour's break!! I was totally exhausted, of course and worried that I didn't have enough milk. In reality, of course, we do make enough milk for our babies, but it doesn't feel like it when they cosntantly feed, drain us, and still want more.
What I found out subsequently, when preparing for feeding DD, was that DS was probably in a cycle of drinking just the foremilk each time - probably because, although he was feeding for ages each sitting, he wasn't latched on perfectly. Latched on okay to feed alright and not make me in agony, but not latched on well enough to really get to the hind milk. It's the hind milk that has the calories and that fills them up for long enough until the next feed and satisfies them etc. He probably wasn't getting that and so soon after a feed was quickly hungry again and the cycle would go on. And the foremilk would make him very burpy and sick-y. Is Emily like that? If so, I wonder if it might be a good idea to try and 'stretch' her feeds out a little longer (use of a dummy perhaps?) so that when you feed her, she's hungry enough to try and work for that hind milk. It's difficult when if you're demand-feeding, but she ought to be able to go for a few hours between feeds at this stage, although there will be times when she needs it more frequently because of thirst or comfort etc. You can tell when they reach the hind milk (or at least this is how it feels to me) when they seem to drink more 'deeply' and slowly and really work at their feed, ifswim. Can you get a counsellor to check your latch as well, so that those feeds become more efficient, and she can reach the hind milk more effectively? Might be worth it. You cna get herbs to boost supply as well - but I don't know if they work & haven't tried any of them, so can't vouch for them.
Anyway, sorry - you didn't ask for all that advice, but I can't help but add my two penn'orth because I had such a hard time feeding DS. I have probably droned on for far too long. You've done really well to get so far and if you want to carry on with it, there is some good support around - not least, the BF and Bottle feeding topic on here, which is full of excellent advice.
Oh, and don't worry about the co-sleeping thing - we also have DD in the bed - warmth + security = happy baby, so do what works for you.
Right, I'm off now to drop of DS1 at a playdate - he's been invited round for a full day at a 'friend's' - but the catch is that this child is not exactly an ideal playmate, shall we say - he's v argumentative and rough, but DS1 is dying to go, so what can I do??? We had this particular child over to play last week and I was a nervous wreck supervising them as the kid was quite nasty to DS2. Hmnn ... Hope you're back home and settled soon, take care & lots of love, TNPx