How long did you know your partner before starting a family?

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I have been with my partner now for 6 months, I have never felt this way about anyone and I know this relationship is going the whole way. We’ve already discussed babies, marriage and moving in together. He’s very keen on children and said he wants them in the next 3 years (I’m 28 and he’s 31) but is happy to go at my pace. All my friends have children or are pregnant and I really want to have my children the same time as them so we’re at the same life stages together.

Am I mad for considering having a baby with someone I’ve only know for 6 months? I’m interested to know others experience of this

TIA x

9 years

Thank you for understanding what I meant, of course I’m not just going to get pregnant to keep up with my friends! There are lots of other factors and serious conversations to be had, I’m not just getting knocked up on a whim.

Thank you for understanding what I meant, of course I’m not just going to get pregnant to keep up with my friends! There are lots of other factors and serious conversations to be had, I’m not just getting knocked up on a whim.

Knew him for 2 years before we got together then we were expecting DD after less than 2 years together.

I knew my OH for 8 months before an accidental pregnancy but that was ectopic. We were terrified but grew to like the idea of a baby, and then we were devastated by the loss.

I'm now almost 10 weeks pregnant with a planned baby. We've been together just over a year. We got engaged just before our year anniversary, 10 days before we found out about the pregnancy ✨

All this is to say, I'm a big believer in "when you know you know". By now, you've had time to experience other relationships and figure out what you want/don't want.

7 years! After 6 months is crazy imo!!

11 years, although I did actually meet him as a child so actually just knowing him it was 22 years. I wouldn't be in a hurry to have children 6 months into a relationship, if you were 40 then I could maybe understand the hurry. So what if your friends are having children, you really aren't in the position to, more to the point why would you want to? You are in the most fun exciting phase of any relationship, why on earth would you give that up for the drudgery of kids? I have 3 and had my first at 32. I was married, a home owner and had been with my husband for 10 plus years, our rationship was/is solid so the time was right. Early on in a relationship, no way. You'll miss out on the fun bit and the chances are you'll end of a single parent as you don't really know one another

Met when we were 18. (Nov' 2004)
Married at 28. (Nov' 2014)
Started TTC#1 at 29. (Feb' 2016)
Saw fertility specialist at 30 (Feb' 2018)
BFP#1 at 31 (Mar' 2018)
Miscarriage at 31 (Apr' 2018)
Clomid at 32 (Dec' 2018)
BFP#2 at 32 (Jan' 2019)
DC1 born at 33 (Sep' 2019)
TTC#2 at 34 (Feb' 2021)
BFP#3 at 35 (Jul' 2021 Happy birthday me!)
DC2 born at 35 (Mar' 2022)

So, from when we met to TTC? 11 and a bit years.

When we first met to until we had a child together? Nearly 15 years.

You hardly know him. Don't be so reckless.

8 months. It wasnt planned though.

Read this thread before you get pregnant

Coping with the crushing realisation that you will never leave for their and the DC's sakes

10 years. 6 months is still honeymoon stage!

Married DH within year of meeting him and returned pregnant from honeymoon.

6 months you've known him, there's no rush! Your young enough to wait a couple of years and I'd advise you do. U can't know someone that well in such a short period of time. You aren't even living together. Why would you jump in with 2 feet without thinking. Surely u build up to these things unless ofcourse it is unplanned. However your talking about planning a child with someone you don't live with and have only known 6 months. Utter madness.

I get u want to be at same stage as ur friends but waiting a little while won't make a huge difference. Having a baby changes your relationship and it's really tough on it. Suddenly you are not each other's priority, the baby will always come first.

I was with my husband for 14yrs before we had kids but I met him when I was 17.

Met at 28, moved in together after 6 months (planned to do so after a year but…covid), got engaged 6 months after that, and married 18 months after that. We’ll have been together 3.5 years by the time baby is here.

I am a believer of ‘if you know, you know’, but absolutely think you should enjoy a bit more time together just the two of you. Live together, learn about his hidden quirks, tackle bills together, see how you each deal with conflict, travel a bit… On a side note, I understand wanting to have kids at a similar time to your friends, but some of them may have more kids in the future, so there is still that chance to have newborns and mat leave together, if that’s something important to you ☺️

One month!

This. You sound immature and not ready for parenthood if you think 6m is time to have a child.

7 years xx

About a week 😳 not proud but 16 years, 3 children later we are still going strong. Could have been totally different though as I literally knew nothing about him except he looked good at 3am.

I’m sorry but this is so alien to me. It is so quick. You will have had fuck all time together as just two adults together, before adding the monumental stress of a baby. Why?

I knew I wanted him to be the father of my kids within the first few months, but seriously talking about it and considering we were together for over 4 years.
Now that I'm actually pregnant with the first it's almost 9 years.

Enjoy the time together first, travel, eat at nice restaurants, get married (if you want to) get a house - I think his 3 year scale sounds right.

Just less than a year..Married within a year of meeting each other, fell pregnant on honeymoon with DS, 2 years later DD came along…been married 15 years now

we knew each other for 7 years, had been together for 6 years and married for 10 months when we had DS.

We’d known each other 20 years before oldest dc came along, though not all of that time was as partners, we were friends first. I’d definitely leave it longer than 6 months before starting a family.