How long did you know your partner before starting a family?

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I have been with my partner now for 6 months, I have never felt this way about anyone and I know this relationship is going the whole way. We’ve already discussed babies, marriage and moving in together. He’s very keen on children and said he wants them in the next 3 years (I’m 28 and he’s 31) but is happy to go at my pace. All my friends have children or are pregnant and I really want to have my children the same time as them so we’re at the same life stages together.

Am I mad for considering having a baby with someone I’ve only know for 6 months? I’m interested to know others experience of this

TIA x

10 years; 3 years old friends. 7 years in a relationship. We were also married and owned a house together before kids. Sounds old fashioned now, but it worked for us!

We were similar.
On our one year anniversary our DS was 3 weeks old. My mum babysat him for the first time so that DH could take me out for dinner 🤣

5 years here

22 years

No got that wrong , he moved in after 5 years had our ds after 8 years together

We’d been living together for two years I’d known him for four years at the point we decided to have our DC.

Getting pregnant within six months of dating is utterly insane.

7 years, I genuinely think its a few years till you know someone properly and even then they can surprise you.

7 years

We'd known each other 11 years and been married 8. I think 6 months is way to soon unless you are 100% happy and able to raise a child alone in the quite likely event that this relationship doesn't work out.

Don't rush to match your friends, just stay involved in their lives and they'll do the same for you when your kids come along. Once they've past the baby stage a few years won't make much difference to your kids playing with your friends kids.

Me and my husband were engaged exactly 5 months to the day that we met, married 8 months after that. By the time our baby is born in February we'll have been together for 2 and a half years. We both knew from the start that we were right for eachother and wanted the same things, if we'd been teenagers then yes we would have waited but we are late 20s/early 30s now and we know what we want in life.
My friends parents were engaged 6 weeks after they met and were married right up until the husband passed away. At your age op you have experienced life and you'll know deep down if this is right, what do your family and friends think?

7 years here. I knew on the second date it was something special, but we needed to get a few things together before children came into it.

Hi. I'm 19 and have been with my partner for just over 2 years, he proposed to me @ 8 months together, found out we were pregnant a year after getting together, our baby is now 4m old and he's the best dad. I'm so glad I chose him to be the father of my baby. When it comes to love, it's only really Upto the both of you to decide whether you want kids earlier or later etc, have this talk with him to see where he stands in this situation

Moved in after 2 months, baby 2 years later, married year after that and still good together 23 years later.

Seven years.

12 years but at your age, I'd think something like 2 or 3 years is sensible. 6 months is incredibly rushed and you're still in the honeymoon period.

And I think you definitely should live with someone for a decent period before having a baby. There's a lot to be learned from living with someone and them being around all the time. See if he picks up his dirty pants or does any housework.

15 years.
We met when we were 11&12.

I think the fact you want to be on the same timeline as your friends is absolute bonkers. TTC can be a long process for some people.

A year, but I was 39 when we met so time was not on our side!
I'd wait a bit - you can have them when your friends are having their seconds.

Together for 6 years before having our first, 21 when he was born. Have had 2 more children and been together for 10 years now

15 years, and I was still surprised (in both good and bad ways) about how we reacted to the new stressful situation.

wait until you know him better.

10 years but we got together fairly young!

I think 6 months is FAR too soon sorry! Have you even lived together? What about getting married?

6 years and a deliberate decision to try for a baby didn’t stop my daughters father turning violent and dangerous while I was pregnant.

You need to take some time to get to know this person.

see how they react under stress, really objectively examine how the treat and talk about their own mother.

hormones make us a bit mad when we want babies… don’t just throw your lot in with some guy because he charmed you for 6mo!

I think you’d be very irresponsible to get pregnant to someone you’ve literally known for 24 weeks, yes. You really can’t know someone in that time.

I had known DH for 11 years when we had our first child. We were at school together.

2.5 years, it's fine and our relationship is solid but with hindsight I wish we had waited and done more together but that's partly because we were together through Covid! Medical issues meant we needed to crack on

I got pregnant after knowing someone 1 month. We got married and were married for 9 years. It was an awful marriage as I felt trapped because we had children together. We are now divorced.