Almost 48 and pregnant- what the actual firetruck?

[Goodgreiftroolyrooly]

NC for this (long time poster).

My head is in a complete spin. I'll be 48 next month and have a 6 y/o I gave birth to when I was 41. It took seven years and two miscarriages to produce our dear child. I so thought I was done.

No, I haven't used contraception or even kept up with avoiding sex in mid-cycle. Yes, I'm an idiot. But I so thought that was all over....

We are so not up for this. No way. Looking at my options.

Holy fuck, really? Thanks for letting me rant, I cannot believe this.

Utter drivel.

its short down cos an opinion it’s archaic and not woman- centred

@LuckySantangelo35 I think over 50% of abortions around the world are of girls, as there will be some due to sex selection in cultures that prize males more highly.

I would see how it rolled, but then I'm Catholic.

The amount of people projecting their own fears onto the Op.

If you can't imagine having a teen in your sixties doesn't mean the op can't. If I was pregnant at that age and had fairly easy pregnancies then why not. But hey I don't, I'm usually glued the toilet vomiting 24/7 for 9 months.

@heartbroken22 It is not the pregnancies that are the issue. I have two teenagers. Having an 18-year-old at 67 years of age is old, which is the age OP would be.

Still reading all the replies but just to answer the genetic questions- my son's is spontaneous not inherited, so that isn't an issue in itself X

Thanks again to everyone who's shared their own stories and sent so many kind words of support and solidarity. Made me weepy but it's a nice weepy.

To everyone expressing bafflement that I could still have periods and think I'm immune to pregnancy- I know, it was naive of me and I've tried to explain that as best I can.

I should've mentioned I'm in Australia, so a different medical system. I'm also in a small town and have no idea where you go for terminations here. The local hospital might do them. I'm iffy about medical management, purely because one of my previous miscarriages was awful, I'm scared of going through that kind of bleeding at home again.

We have a good family GP though, so I'll give it a few days to settle and go have a chat with him. If it's easier to go to the city & a private clinic, I'll do that.

DS6 has a genetic condition that whilst not inherited, means he has various and unknown future needs. If I were 15 years younger & 10 times richer, I wouldn't have had a 2nd child. He's plenty for us.

Thanks also to everyone who reported the god-botherers. You saved me from having to read some of their drivel. Why they think this is the perfect moment for conversion is beyond my grasp

Also, I didn't mean to enable voting. That was silly of me. Really am not at my sharpest right now.

Hi @Goodgreiftroolyrooly you may have missed my message as obviously a helluva lot of posts(!), but it was about making sure you see your GP asap to confirm pregnancy as certain conditions that are more common in older women (eg.ovarian cysts) can cause increased hCG levels and hence give a false positive pregnancy test - i have read posts by at least 1 woman on here that was in a very similar situation to you and it turned out not to be a pregnancy. Wishing you all the best, big hugs x

Thanks @2022again

You're right, I have missed a few good pieces of info on this thread and this is one of them. As above I'm definitely planning on seeing the one good local GP I know of.

I should also say thanks to everyone who has commented on the various stages of menopause, along with some interesting statistics/anecdotes about 'geriatric' pregnancy.

Report your original post and ask them to take voting off.

There is a difference between "projecting your own fears" and encouraging the OP to take time to think through all the implications. Obviously that cant be a long time and nature may make the decision anyway. They can take a short time to recover from the shock and make sure it is the right decision for them by really thinking through what it might mean for them and a child as they age and also the impact on an older sibling.

It is also important to keep repeating the need to check this is a pregnancy and not another health issue.

Thank you, I did. And didn't check the results first!

There's a pregnancy choices board that might keep the offensive comments away if you ask to be moved.

@MuggleMe it's ok, I don't mind other opinions.

I just asked MN to disenable voting, don't want to annoy them too much.

@LuckySantangelo35

I forgot to say last night that your username helped me choose my distracting book! Am halfway through re-reading "Lady Boss". Such good escapism, the best.

good luck op and to the god botherers go and livein alabama or anywher ein the US actually you'll be happier there

If you look at the nhs stats - for 2020-21 - 1,190 pregnancies were to women over 45.

digital.nhs.uk/data-and-information/publications/statistical/nhs-maternity-statistics/2020-21

check the interactive dashboard, page 3

it doesn’t say how many were ivf, but pregnancies to W over 45 are known to happen regardless (my maternal grandma, my mum)

congrats hope it goes well if that’s what you decide on

Apologies I didn’t read the whole thread first re. your decision.

You are doing the right thing for yourself and your DS.

It’s really inappropriate to piggyback on someone else’s thread about such a sensitive topic. I’ve reported your post.

Taa everyone, I've been reading through this thread again. Have hit a slump today. Not about the decision, but about what must come next.

I think I agree with all who've said it's better to intervene than wait. I just hate the thought of having to make all those phone calls, turn up at the doctors, possibly go for an ultrasound since I'm unsure of dates, all of it.

Then again, I'm already going half-mad waiting for a bleed than might or might not happen.

Thx again xx