Almost 48 and pregnant- what the actual firetruck?

[Goodgreiftroolyrooly]

NC for this (long time poster).

My head is in a complete spin. I'll be 48 next month and have a 6 y/o I gave birth to when I was 41. It took seven years and two miscarriages to produce our dear child. I so thought I was done.

No, I haven't used contraception or even kept up with avoiding sex in mid-cycle. Yes, I'm an idiot. But I so thought that was all over....

We are so not up for this. No way. Looking at my options.

Holy fuck, really? Thanks for letting me rant, I cannot believe this.

Oh you poor thing. I’m a bit older than you but in perimenopause it always freaks me out every few months when my period is late. It would be my worst nightmare too. Big hugs

Huge congratulations. What lovely news.

🙄

Whilst I don’t agree totally I think you are absolutely entitled to your opinion and to not be abused because of it or silenced and you’ve been respected in voicing how you feel about this subject

um, no I won’t. You’re gonna have to bear it I’m afraid 😳

*respectful

Sorry, I realise I was premature with my congratulations. I’m the same age as you and always desperately wanted a second child but it never happened due to infertility and then a tussle with cancer which threw me right into early menopause. Despite that I still harbour dreams of a new baby. Ridiculous I know. I hope you make the right decision for you and your family.

It just isn't appropriate especially as OP seems to be wanting a termination from the minute she found out. Just give support instead for her decision.

I think Mt gran was having babies right up until her menopause around 50 years old

This isn't a thread to debate the philosophy and ethics of abortion. Go and do that somewhere else.

I had this situation a couple of months ago (hence the user name!). I went on to lose the baby which I know was for the best really but it has been a rough time

There's nothing loving about trying to make a woman (and her partner) feel guilty for making the best decision for themselves and their existing children.

This @Babochan88

how could you possibly disagree with this?

op and her existing kids take precedence over what is at this point a bunch of cells

OP has started a thread on a public forum - it could go either way as you can’t predict the opinions of everyone who will read it. I don’t think the poster who mentioned religion was doing anything other than giving a different perspective. Nothing stood out that was offensive or pushy it’s just someone saying what they think and in a gentle way

I don’t see how it’s any different to the many other threads where an OP is surprised and people say things like ‘you have options’ etc this is just one poster saying similar but as it’s against the majority view it’s shouted down

@ImlostAreweall

its short down cos an opinion it’s archaic and not woman- centred

so it bloody well should be shot down!

The OP didn't ask for 'views' on what she should do. She and her partner/husband are completely in agreement on what they are going to do. She just asked for support because she's in shock.

Because this is someone trying to force their opinions and religion into the situation. They're specifically asking the op not to terminate, which is pretty disgusting when she's made her feelings clear.

Yes I suppose you are right. Sorry
I have asd and sometimes can read a situation wrong I didn’t mean to cause offence

OP abortions peak amongst teenagers and early twenties, and amongst women in their late forties and fifties.
Obviously your choice, but in your shoes I would make the same decision. I could not imagine having a teenager in my late sixties.

Bollocks.

This 'baby' was not given with purpose. All that happened was that a sperm met an egg. Sod all to do with God.

given to you with purpose

Only if you subscribe to that particular worldview, which many people don't.

I have no problem with people believing in whatever they want to believe in; just don't push it onto other people.

That must be such a shock op! There's no way would I have another child at my age (44) especially as I already have a dc with a disability