June 2023 Babies ☀️ (thread two)

[firsttimelondonmummy]

Starting a new thread as other is full.

Can I join please? I’m almost 11 weeks. We have one child and this is our second after struggling to conceive again so we had IVF.

@tigerlily0 I don’t think we will tell anyone else till at least 20 weeks. We’ve told my parents and DH’s so far. They are our main support network.

Obviously each to their own though. Theres no right or wrong. We are pretty private people so feel more comfortable this way.

@Algor1thm same here. Once we had 7 week scan we told mums and dads and siblings and I told a couple of friends. Work had to know too. Well tell everyone else once we’ve had 12 week scan and bloods back

We told my parents at 6 weeks because we would need their help if I mc as we have a 3 year old and the 1st time I was admitted a few times. My Sister then found out as my Mum let it slip when I fell down the stairs and they wouldn't xray me. Noone else knows. I don't know if I can have time off for my dating scan sneakily as it's right in the middle of the day so I think I will have to tell my boss...so scared to tell him !

@tigerlily0, we told my parents and in the in-laws after our last scan, which would have been 9-ish weeks.

The scan today was perfect - I'll post a picture 🥰😍 Baby has more than caught up from being dated a week or more behind on the last 2 scans and now I'm further along than I thought as I've been dated as 12+6!

So, since that has gone well, I'll tell other family members at some point soon.

I am hoping to keep if from work for quite a bit longer so will tell them after Christmas (if I can keep the bump hidden for that long!).

Cute!! I’ve also have my scan today and thought I was 12+3 but I’ve been told I’m actually 13+1 which gives me a due date of the 1st June! Glad you had a lovely experience - so did I 😊

@Dotty23 @B1993 Aw congrats on your scans and being dated further along ! ❤️

@Dotty23, congratulations to you too 🥰🥰

It's so amazing to see those little beans 😍 Can't believe how much they've grown since my last scan a few weeks ago and the difference from 6 weeks is just incredible!! 🤩

Lovely scans x

I'm not showing at all? Anyone else in this position? Got my scan on Tuesday and a bit worried now. I'm 12 weeks today.

@BellaTheDarkOverlord, is this your first baby? I have the opposite problem this time around and look and feel huge, but with DS didn't start showing until the second trimester.

That is such a beautiful scan pic @B1993 😍

Lovely pic @B1993

I’m glad I’m not the only one waiting till tell the wider world. When do you think for those who are waiting, you will tell? I definitely want to wait till the anomaly scan but I was thinking maybe even 7 months…I was thinking to say we wanted to tell DD first and were waiting till then to tell her. But the truth is I just don’t want any added anxiety in case things go wrong. I feel like I can’t say that. I’m scared they might be hurt but then DH said you don’t owe anyone anything.

@B1993 beautiful scan pic!!

@Marmiteontoastyum don't feel like you need to tell anyone and definitely don't feel bad. It's ur life ur baby, protect your bubble as u see fit. The reason why I'm not telling too many ppl is because I'm old enough and ugly enough to realise not everyone wants the best for you and there is a lot of jealousy and I don't want them vibes.

Iv put off telling my sis as she's getting divorced and my mums poorly and my sis in law has been trying for so so many years for baby number 2, and considering ivf so the time has not felt right. But I might tell them closer to xmas hols etc. for sure Il be showing more, barely able to hide it right now

@B1993 No my DD is 7. I think I started showing with her around 16 weeks. I was a stone lighter then.

Thank you @tigerlily0 and @Marmiteontoastyum! 🥰

@Marmiteontoastyum, I'll probably tell extended family now I've had a postive 12 week scan - that always seems like the biggest milestone. I'll tell work at 18-19 weeks, if things go to plan.

Your DH is definitely right though - do it whenever you're comfortable with! You don't need to explain your choices whether you say at 4 weeks or closer to 40.

@BellaTheDarkOverlord, I wouldn't worry! Some people new show and others show right away. You're bump will probably pop within the few weeks. 😊

@B1993 I hope so xx Got my scan Tuesday and I'm hoping all is well still. Might try Doppler again tonight to try hear heartbeat. I know it's not recommended by holds off feeling anxious a bit.

I had my 12 week scan today and measured a full week ahead of my dates! So I'm technically now a May due date, but personally I'm sticking with June as I know when I conceived. Had a student sonographer being trained and then the experienced sonographer repeated the whole scan again to check, which was actually really nice as we had ages seeing the baby. NT measurement nice and low too - 1.7. Can't believe I'm finally in the 2nd trimester 😅

My scan is Monday morning. I am now further along than last time. If all goes well Monday I will probably start the tell more people. The adults in the family know but not the kids.

It’s been a week since my scan/blood tests for chromosome issues and I’ve not heard anything back yet - is no news good news?

i’m paranoid as my NT measurement was 2.1mm at 12+5 and I see others with measurements in the 1s. But I am 25 with a healthy bmi so it really is just the measurement I’m worrying about. Also feeling like it’s all too good to be true.

@BellaTheDarkOverlord, good luck for Tuesday! And it's great that you've reached a milestone that you haven't previously - hopefully that's a good sign that all is well!!

@Algor1thm, I'm pleased everything went well! Congrats 🎉 Ours measured 1.6 so well below the cut off of 3.5 which is a big relief.

@Veryxonfused, that's still not near the cut off so would have thought it's a good sign. They told me it could take up to two weeks for results but you tend to hear back within a week if they find something concerning.

It’s absolutely fine to tell anyone whenever you feel like it be that at 4 weeks, 6, 12, 16, 18 whenever or never 😊
I told a few people including select people at work very early, all being well I will tell the rest of my family at Christmas and then the rest of work at 20 weeks (that’s the plan anyway)!
Totally personal to me and in no way right or wrong for anyone else.

Also @BellaTheDarkOverlord not the same as it’s my first but I look completely normal and don’t feel pregnant at all.
All very unnerving but just hoping all is well 🤞🏻

2.1 is still really low, I think the concern would be over 3.5. My friend had a baby with DS and the measurement was well into the 4s. I was also told I'd hear back within a week if they had concerns.

Thanks @Algor1thm @B1993, I wish I could remember when they said I’d receive the results 😫

How will those who are choosing to wait until around 20 weeks hide it for that long? I just want to get past the 12 week mark and I'm only 10 + 3 on my dates. I've got a problem with my scan date i think I mentioned it before. Its on Tuesday 13th at 13.30 and I have absolutely no idea how I'm gonna be able to do it without telling work. It's about 15 miles from work and right in the middle of the day. I tried to move it but she basically said I'd have to wait 2 weeks if I did that which I thought was weird as surely we have to do the nuchal test or whatever its called by 12 weeks?

@BobbySD345, I work part-time Monday - Wednesday and have managed to arrange my early scans for my days off. Luckily, my 12 week scan and first midwife appointment were scheduled for my days off, too, so telling work for time off hasn’t been an issue for me.

Could you tell work you have a hospital appointment but not go into details? If you don’t normally have time off, they may not ask to see the letter. Are your working hours flexible? Could you adjust your lunch break to accommodate the scan?

In terms of concealing my bump, I wear my baggy work fleece so that’s not been much of an issue either.

If you do have to tell work, I’d be clear that you’re not comfortable with anyone else knowing at this stage. Your boss wouldn’t be able to declare it without your say so, so wouldn’t be an issue.