Babies due April 2023 Thread 6

[Skylark1990]

Just starting a new thread for everyone 💕💙

@Releasethehoundss hmm that's a bit tricky when he loves it and is never demanding. Would it annoy you / future dd to have to tell people how to pronounce it and spell it?

@Releasethehoundss you sound like you don’t really like the name deep down but you’re trying to for your partner. I think it’s a nice name but unless you or your partner have a Nordic background, people are likely to find it strange that you’ve gone for such an obviously Nordic name, and you’re likely to get a lot of mispronunciations and misspellings if you’re in the UK (though I don’t know if that matters). If you go for it, you could choose a middle name with the option of using that if you change your mind.

@Releasethehoundss really like it and I'm so picky with names! I had never heard of it before. Can also be easily shortened which is good

How is everyone this morning? I'm still feeling sick but I managed to drink a cup of tea, hooray!

I just got my appointments through for my 32 week and 36 week scans! Seems like forever away.

@Releasethehoundss I really like that name! It's pretty but also strong and very unusual. Has a great meaning too - daughter if the sun (just looked it up) 🌞 in saying that, if you don't have Scandinavian roots and as it's so uncommon, does it feel a little too unusual? If your last name is simple then that's good. I have an unusual last name so think it's important to use easily spellable and pronounceable first names otherwise - poor kid! Haha x

@Releasethehoundss I really like it, but I love an unusual name. Once it's your child's name it won't feel so strange any more, as long as you don't hate it!
I don't worry about spelling and stuff any more - most forms are online these days and increasingly so, I doubt they'll ever have to spell their name out more than a handful of times. Plus lots of children have unusual names and spellings these days so they'll grow up with that being normal.

@Releasethehoundss I don't dislike the name, but as someone with an unusual first name, it has always bugged me that I have to spell it regularly and that people mispronounced it or can't remember it! Also, as a teacher, I've noticed that some names can be incredibly unfair on the child when learning to read and write their own name. It's a consideration for me and my husband when we are discussing names - I love an unusual name, and have ruled out so many based on children my husband and I have taught in the past!

I agree with the idea that, with no Nordic ancestry, it might feel a little too "out there" for some. Could you try and go with something similar, like Sylvie?

I have been so paranoid about joining you all on this thread but have read from the very first. Bit of a background - I am currently pregnant for the 10th time (have a dd18 and ds15, 2 mmc inbetween) new partner and 6 pregnancy, after my 5th mmc we found out i have balanced robertsonian translocation between 13 and 14 and the fetus had pataus. I have had NIPT (NHS) due to my genetic condition and all 3 trisomies have come back at being 1 in 10000 - very relieved. I had my dating scan on Wednesday and was so pleased everything is going good and I was put forward 3 days so due 17th April.

So lovely reading all your posts and how everyone is bonding.

Here is my scan pic if anyone would be kind enough to give me a guess, we are not finding out but I am so desperate to know 🙈

@hopeful2023 I was trying to find a politically correct way to say what you just said 🤦
We're American and while, yea, we have relations from centuries ago in other parts of the world, we are just American, and even our most distant ancestors were not Scandinavian... I do think it's a tad odd to use the name. I'm not saying we cannot, but even seeing the name and being an English speaking person, one would think you pronounce the g, which changes the feeling of the name and the pronunciation. That brings us back around to @simplythequest it was my worry that people will constantly mispronounce it (my husband didn't even know how to pronounce it properly because, what a surprise, he's English speaking!) I had to look up the name pronunciation and literally show him proof of how it's pronounced. I'm all for unusual and uncommon names, but I'd at least like him to pronounce it correctly 😂. I hope @ancienthouse is correct and that if we go with the name, it'll start sounding less out of place. Although it will take some getting used to and I'll grow tired of explaining that it's Scandinavian, and then having people stare at me because it's quite apparent I'm NOT...

@Skylark1990 this baby will have my last name. We alternate the kids' last names between mine and his, and this one is getting mine. It is very common last name and easy to spell and pronounce. It's also very American. Folks are gonna thinking we're huge jerks and douche bags naming our kid this, especially because we're not anything close to Scandinavian 😂

@Releasethehoundss if you really don't like the name or feel comfortable using it then just tell your husband

@Longbin I think shortening it would be a good compromise, or using a different variation of the spelling, because people mispronouncing it is my biggest pet peeve really

@Longbin he knows how I feel about it but he's so optimistic he says people will fall in line and come to understand. He even tells me to find a new one (and he means it) but I love him so much and i could never. He isn't demanding we use the name. He's amenable to anything but it's such a shock for him to actually contribute and be excited about the naming process. Our others were named after family (mine) so while we chose the option to use the names we never actually got to pick them names themselves. He found another name he likes yesterday, but it's even more appropriative than Solveig... Santana.... He likes it because of his favorite musician, obviously, but none of us have Spanish/Hispanic roots either 😭.

@Releasethehoundss maybe just keep Solveig as a good front runner for now, but tell your husband you're keen to keep exploring options and encourage him to look around on baby name websites etc, and you do the same! Then if he still favours it in 6 months time, and you don't mind it/it's grown on you, you can go with it... but in the (relatively long) meantime you may well find one that you both love more. Even though you obviously love him and want to foster his excitement, I think it's important you love your baby's name or at least feel connected to it, so if you have strong reservations, I'd hold it back and find another one you both love... but it can stay on your 'list' for sure! Plenty of time. Also, this might just be a pet peeve of mine and I'm sure plenty have diff views but I don't personally like it when a name is spelled differently to it's traditional spelling e.g. Spelling Solvveig, Solvey for example, would take away even further from why you're using it, the unique meaning etc and maybe makes it more unusual? But maybe that's just me...

Has anyone has period like cramping? I'm 14+3 and haven't had much cramping until today, it's not painful just feels a little like period cramps and quite sore on my pubic bone

Hi everyone! Mind if I join you? I'm 12 weeks exactly with DC2, due right at the end of April on the 28th. Just had my 12 week scan and everything looks good, so I'm coming out of hiding and ready to share the news and join some groups.

DS is 3 and I'll have a (planned) almost 4 year age gap because I have awful pregnancies. I'm sick as a dog and on all the drugs to keep me functional. I'm a Brit, but married to an American and live in NYC.

Nice to meet you😊

@Releasethehoundss I think it is a lovely sounding name but I’d struggle to pronounce it without your guidance and I would assume that a child with that name had some Nordic ancestory. I sympathise as my husband is being quite rigid with names but he’s the other way in that he wont consider even remotely less common names and overall likes very few names. Saying that he said he liked Elijah the other day which is much more ‘out there’ than some of the names I’ve suggested and he’s vetoed!!

@Bbdm1984 Ahhh welcome to the group and what a gorgeous scan of your previous baby 😍

I’ve just realised that overtime in my next two pay packets is included in the maternity calculation, I didn’t realise that!! Time to pack in as much work as I can 😂

@AliceinSlumberland I love Elijah. It's a beautiful name. Overall, I am just happy our pregnancy is progressing well because before, stress over naming baby was so far removed from the equation because we were just trying to keep a pregnancy. Seems silly to let this stress me out. I think it's because this is our very last child (guaranteed!). I'm sure whatever we come up with will suit her just fine. It was so much easier with our other children because we named them after late relatives...

@allfurcoatnoknickers @Bbdm1984 welcome to the group and congrats on your scans! Sounds like a very difficult road for you @Bbdm1984 really happy things are going well this time. @allfurcoatnoknickers love your username!

I've had the results from the combined test through and it's a lower risk result - 1 in 2009 for Downs and 1 in 100,000 for Edwards and Patau. There is no break down of why in the letter though. I'm relieved and happy because My DD's results were similar, but also because I know some women get like 1 in 10,000 or 1 in 60,000 etc for Downs, getting my 1 in 2009 hasn't completely taken away the worry! I honestly wish I didn't know there was such a huge variation. 😅

But I think I'm reassured enough not to have further tests!

@Skylark1990 your message just reminded me to check the app and see if mines been uploaded and it has. Downs Syndrome - 1 in 3911. Edwards & Patau’s 1 in 16,669. Both on the app say Low. Which I think is okay and wouldn’t require further testing?

@Skylark1990 1 in 2009 is a pretty low risk, that's good!

I tried looking up the formula they use to calculate the risks so I could understand it better but it's very complex and incorporates a lot of risk factors. I couldn't understand why mine is the same as last time when I'm 4 years older and the nuchal measurement was bigger this time. I keep thinking they've sent me the wrong results!

But I also read that the nuchal measurement being under 3 means a much lower risk of congenital heart problems too so that's reassuring.

I didn’t catch the unusual babes but in principle, I have an unusual name and I have to spell it constantly and I never get emails so always have to call places back to check they’ve got the right spelling. Also, a change of surname may happen upon marriage which has also made my name communication even harder as when you put them together it sounds like a long slur of nonsense.

Hello to the new lasses. So lovely to have more gorgeous people and babies. I have my first nhs scan on the 24th and can’t wait - so pleased I went private or I’d be full of wonder going into week 14 and no earlier scan . Xx

Skylark, we are forever pregnancy twins as mine was 1 in 2000-something as well 😆 I had very high HCG (3 point something) a ‘relatively’ high NT at 2.3 and high Papp A at 1.9 so although the results came out well, I went for the NIPT anyway BUT I wouldn’t have had the NT and hormones been a bit more reassuring. It’s a very good result, lower than average!

I’ve been feeling really grotty today, just had a bath and gave myself some lovely sparkly navy gel toenails 😆 so at least my toes look nice. Going to do a bit of self care I think as I’m a bit depressed about how I look after 8 weeks of no exercise, hardly any fresh air and eating rubbish. Tonight is ratatouille bake with cheesy dumplings 🤤 so picking up the veg again slowly!

Hoping to go for a long beach walk tomorrow with DD and our dog, I really need to blow away the cobwebs now and get back out the house. I was sick yesterday but it was after running for the bus after my ultrasound appointment 🤦🏼‍♀️

Just wish I could have a glass of wine! What do you all have planned for the weekend xx

@Cuppasoupmonster you've had/got HG, haven't you? Can i ask how long it took after starting medication to be eating reasonably normally again?

My sonographer said ignore the numbers they are dependant on so many things, if we tell you that you are low risk then you are low risk. She said they measure all sorts including where organs are, how they are functioning, facial features, brain structure. They see babies everyday and would notice if something didn’t seem “right” so I’m gonna just listen to the experts :)