Babies Due April 2023 Thread 4

[Skylark1990]

Starting a new thread..... Hopefully everyone is along soon! X

Well... after having no symptoms at all in my first pregnancy and no symptoms this time round up until now, at 3am last night I was attempting to get my 9mo back to sleep (he still needs to be rocked 🙃) when I had to wake DH up and get him to take over as I had to run downstairs to be sick 😭

I won't complain too much as it was only one time and I only feel slightly nauseous this morning. But I was rather hoping I'd escape morning sickness altogether! Never mind. I cannot believe how incredibly tired and sleepy I am, though.

Hope everyone is doing and feeling well x

@Wouldloveanother thanks for checking in! Sorry to hear you've been so ill🤢🤢 good idea to get signed off. I hope it settles a bit for you soon, having this till 20+ weeks would be so tough!
I'm doing ok, have a constant level of nausea in background but it's not super severe except sometimes it'll be worse, kinda comes in waves. I've thought I might spew a couple times but haven't yet. Its worse in the evenings for me but the last two nights even tho it was the absolute last thing I wanted to do, I did eat the dinner DH had made (dal first night and then fish finger sandwiches last night) and both times it helped immensely and I found I wasn't so sick until I went to bed... So I think eating definitely helps me even if I have to force myself. Also are McDonald's yesterday 😅🤷‍♀️🤦‍♀️ I was craving it and feeling so nauseous and felt it might help... At 430pm too so basically I had two dinners. Feel I'm going to put on loads of weight the way things are going esp if I don't start spewing!

We are going glamping this weekend so really looking forward to the fresh air and change of scene!

@Sunnyxo congratulations! Lovely scan photo

@Sunnyxo congrats on the scan! That's such great news ❤️

@OttilieKnackered feeling constantly nauseous is definitely enough to get yourself signed off for a while. Don't feel guilty, in some ways I think it's worse to never be spewing as you don't get that relief x

Hi just checking in from previous thread 😊

@Wouldloveanother sorry to hear you are suffering too. I'm also waking up at ungodly hours to vomit, it's so tiring and I have no relief except for a few short minutes after vomiting and the nausea is straight back.
I'm also signed off work for what looks like will be long term x

I can take some of your nausea, ladies, if you'd like! 😊 Supposed to be 6+5 today (although likely less than that as the embryo in my scan a couple of days ago was too tiny to reassure) - and no symptoms at all! I forget I'm supposed to be pregnant apart from when the cramps kick in and then I panic! Anyone else in the same boat? ⛵

Yes, same with me! I'm 5+2 today and also have hardly any symptoms. I keep telling husband that I just want to feel anythinggg that makes me feel pregnant.. But seems silly to be wishing for morning sickness to come, haha. Maybe it'll just take some more time? Or maybe we are just lucky and will miss out on that symptom?

Sickness doesn’t generally start until 6 weeks, for me it’s been 7 on the dot both times, and it comes on suddenly - so don’t speak too soon!

Has anyone got an NHS dating scan? Mine is on 6th September, counting down the days if I’m honest, something to look forward to after feeling so ill! Hoping that magic moment of seeing them on the screen will get DH excited too. He’s picked up all my slack around the house and with DD on top of work so he’s a bit stressed at the moment.

I have begun to think about private NIPT (local hospital doesn’t offer it), as I would like to have it at 11 weeks, is anybody else doing this? I didn’t have it with DD so don’t know where to begin really. It looks expensive but I know it will give me extra peace of mind.

I'd happily give you some of my nausea if I could! I've gone off most foods and have had beans on toast for dinner the last few days. I can't stand the smell of hot food or cooking. I only get some relief when I'm lying down or asleep, luckily I haven't vomited much yet. I'm also dehydrated because drinking water or anything else makes me feel queasy. Roll on 16 weeks!
although I am grateful for the symptoms, I'm sure I'd start to worry more if they stopped.

@Wouldloveanother I'm considering the NIPT. I'm going to wait until the NHS screening results, if it come back more or less the same as last time (1 in 20000 I think it was) then I'll be OK with that although I think it will go up a bit as I'm older now. But if it's more like 1 in 1000 then I'll probably go for the NIPT.

@Wouldloveanother @ancienthouse what is NIPT?

I did wonder why I couldn't post me message yesterday... just found the new thread.

I tried to send this sorry its so long...

Unfortunately this is the response I had from my GP when I had my CP a couple months ago. I phoned them crying to book an appointment. They wouldn't see me and said I had to book an appointment online (even though I was already on the phone to reception). Tried to book online and there weren't any appointments available so I asked for a call back. The following day... I had a call from a female doctor and no word of a lie this is what she said "you may or may not be having a miscarriage. Just wait it out and take a pregnancy test in a week. Don't worry about it love you can try again once it says negative"......... I balled my eyes out. Phoned EPAU and they wouldn't see me because I had no pain to start with, just spotting (which was getting heavier and pinker/redder). They also just told me to wait it out unless I had severe bleeding or pain. I even tried phoning the midwife unit and they said they can't help because they only deal with people over 16 weeks.... I was left to sit on my own until it passed. After that the pain came. My husband was amazing and wrapped me in a blanket and cuddled me until the pain went away and I passed some tissue. I didn't even get a call back from the doctor or the midwife after I cancelled my 8 week appointment, not even to see how I was or to call me in to check everything has passed properly.

Sorry to share my story but after going through that and being given zero sympathy I would 100% agree with the girls here. Tell them you're in a lot of pain. Go to A&E and scream and shout if you have to. Women shouldn't be left alone during a stressful time like that. Even if it is unavoidable, a little empathy wouldn't go amiss. I'm sending you lots of hugs and I hope everything will be OK for you in the end. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ xxx @B1993 xxx

@SavedByGraceAlone I'm the same! Never know if it's nausea from morning sickness or MC. I've never had a baby to full term so can only compare it to the MC. My breasts have been so sore since 3.5 wks but I've known women who didn't know they were pregnant until 15 wks - how do they not know?! I feel so aware of the symptoms and swear my nipples have quadrupled in size!?
I've booked in a scan for next Saturday when I'll be 6wks 3 days. Fingers crossed!

Exactly the same situation here too .. 5w2d for me and wanting some kind of symptom/sign :-)

@Skylark1990 also only now seeing about a potential WhatsApp group. I'd be game 👌🏻❤️ xxx

@B1993 I'm sorry I've only just seen your update. ❤️ I hope you're alright and I'm sorry you didn't get the support from the people that should be there to provide you with emotional care as well as medical. Sending lots of love.

Also sorry everyone else for the several messages. Catching up is hard when everything moves so fast haha xxx

I've calmed down now so I am back 😂

I'm getting the harmony test on 13th. I had it last time and I liked having the reassurance. It comes back much faster now too as they no longer need to send results off to the US.

@Margo34 the NHS don't offer it, sorry.

@Longbin we are getting the harmony test too, we didn't last time but I'm 35 now so I feel like it'll be a good idea. My friend had it with both hers and said it really helped put her mind at ease

@TheCakeIsALie18 chemical pregnancies are horrible when you're going through them but there really is nothing they can do if it's already started. The pain and bleeding is often just like a heavy period. The grief is sad, but you wouldn't go to A&E and scream and shout if you had a heavy period, or if you were sad/grieving for any other reason. The NHS isn't there to hold our hands through everything that goes wrong. They can only offer practical solutions if they exist. Once a CP has started the only option is pretty much waiting it out. Before scans and pregnancy tests, women just assumed they were having a late and particularly heavy period. That's why epu won't usually do anything until you get to 6 weeks.

However I've been pleasantly surprised that they are classing my CPs as pregnancies and have noted this current one as my 5th pregnancy and I qualify for early scans because they count towards recurrent miscarriage. I had been thinking of this as my 3rd pregnancy and discounting the CPs.

@Gilm0reGirl i prefer the fact you can have it earlier. It's cheaper now than when I had it in 2020 too, I paid £500 and this time I found it for £315! Will you find out the gender? We will, so I should know in just over 3 weeks 😱

I’m inclined to agree with Ancient, as upsetting as it is, there’s nothing they can do 💔 a scan won’t show anything reliable at that point, I suppose an hcg test might’ve pointed you in the right direction but even then it’s more of an ‘indicator’ that things are going well rather than confirmation, if you see what I mean. As far as I’m aware (and do someone correct me if I’m wrong) there aren’t any concerns with retained tissue that early on, it’s more something to be concerned about further into a pregnancy. It’s upsetting but nobody is to blame.

Hi ladies just marking my place from thread 3! I'll catch up this evening hopefully when the nausea calms down 🤢 lots of love to you xx

Thanks @Gilm0reGirl and @Skylark1990 ❤️ furthest I've gotten so it's really starting to sink in eek!

@Longbin that is a great price! I've found it for £425 so far, I'll keep having a look round. I am torn on the gender. We didn't find out with DD and that was lovely. But this time I still love the idea of a surprise, but I also like the idea of getting ready. This one is due within a week of our daughters birthday, so if it's another girl I have all the clothes neatly packed away at the right sizes for the same seasons! So do I get them out ready? Or do we need to buy boy things? Also my dad sadly passed away in June and if it's a boy we plan on combining his and my father in laws name for a boy and I think I'd like to prepare for that in advance, not be a complete blubbering mess on the day. What about yourself?