Babies Due April 2023 Thread 4

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Starting a new thread..... Hopefully everyone is along soon! X

@LauraA31 gosh, if I had got 3+ at 4+2 I'd be wondering about twins myself, and they don't even run in my family 😂

Checking in from the old thread. So sorry to hear this @BB1993. It's so painful. Thinking of you and sending you lots of virtual love. X

@CG93 is it possible you ovulated later? If you have longer cycles or you ovulate late in your cycle then LMP can be off. I’m 6 weeks 4 days according to my LMP but I know that I’m not, I’m actually 5w6d because I ovulate around day 18/19 of my cycle.

I have up on testing at around 4w 4d I think and never got the 3+, it was sending me crazy!

Guys quick questions, does your partner come to the booking in appointment with you? I asked when I was referred and she said yes but others are telling me it a a bit of a waste of time for them to come, and he’d need to take time off work. Thoughts?

He could, but it would be a bit pointless! All they do is check your weight/height, take a blood sample, urine sample etc so nothing exciting for him and not worth missing a day of work for.

@AliceinSlumberland my booking for my first baby and this one was over the phone and I have to go in separately for bloods.

It's mostly just form filling and medical history questions tbh. I wouldn't personally bother bringing my husband, but of course it's up to you!

Hey just an update in case anyone in similar situation. I had a chemical last month. I’m 5w2d and had some spotting (v light pink tinged discharge and yesterday light brownish tinged) on Tuesday and Wednesday. Called EPU and initially not interested so I called my private GP who booked me in for a scan this morning (again, privately). Had the scan this morning and the sonographer could see a gestational sac and yolk sac, and said all looked as she would expect. No evidence of any bleeding and she was happy. In the meantime the EPU actually called me back and offered me a scan tomorrow so I’m going to go to that too.

I’ve had no discharge today but I was due to start IVF so I have a load of progesterone suppositories. On the advice of this forum (and research showing it does no harm) I used one last night and one this morning. I will continue to use them and am going to quote Tommy’s advice to try to get them prescribed by the EPU tomorrow.

I also had an HCG test yesterday morning that came back at 4310, and have one booked for tomorrow morning so praying that’s going the right way.

I am absolutely knackered I think from all the anxiety.

@MamaOh thats so interesting about the sperm/womb impact! I didn’t realise our dates were so close! Keeping everything crossed for you.

I’ve had quite a few days of being useless. I feel guilty about work but I just cannot get my mind to focus.

Yeah I’m hoping with the scan and the guidance they’ll prescribe the progesterone 🤞🤞🤞xx

Do we have a Facebook group at all?

I thought it all went a bit quiet on the other group! Found you all again ☺️

Joining from thread 3 :-)

@AliceinSlumberland I had my booking in appointment today and didn’t even think to invite DH as it’s my second pregnancy. The midwife has written in my notes ‘Percy attended alone without her husband’ and so now he of course thinks I was lying to him and he was expected to be there! It’s personal choice but I don’t see what he could have contributed to the hour I was in there for. They test your BMI, take a urine sample, take your bloods if you consent, ask where you would like to deliver and then ask you some medical questions and also about your job, highest level of education etc (that might just be my trust, I don’t know).

So sorry for everyone going through difficult times at the moment. This is meant to be one of the happiest times of our lives but it’s also one of the most nerve wracking, testing times that we have absolutely no control over.

I’ve had extreme sickness and nausea for the last three days and so have probably missed so much on the thread but touch wood, it seems to have gone for the time being! My desire for fizzy drinks and chocolate has gone along with it and now I’m all about the stodge….

Thanks guys for all the advice re booking in, I thought that was the case but the midwife seemed so certain he should be there! If he can come, he’ll come but I won’t worry about it.

I completely agree that care should be accessible to all women in early pregnancy and especially those that are suffering loss or, like you and I and others on here, have suffered numerous losses at different stages. If you're unhappy with the current system and you're a supporter of Tommy's then you agree that positive steps to change are needed.

You may be happy to lie about experiencing pain, but I am not and it won't ever sit right with me, whatever the situation. If I'm asking for help then that's even more reason to be honest - I want someone to respect me enough to actually offer that help in my moment of need. That is what I meant when reference morals (Aesop's fables, the boy who cried wolf). Recommending other women to lie as well just compounds it further.

That's certainly not saying I don't support care in early pregnancy. I absolutely do. But lying is not a positive way to bring about change. And no, I don't have the answer to what would be.

We all can make our own choices which is the appropriate thing to do for ourselves.

But that's just my opinion.

@Margo34 the thing I think is that it's just potentially dangerous to lie about symptoms. If 5 women went to a&e complaining of abdominal pain and bleeding they would all be prioritised equally as possible ectopic pregnancies. If only 1 of those 5 actually had correlating symptoms then her care would be potentially compromised or delayed because of the need to treat all 5 as possible ectopics because they were saying they had those symptoms, which could have catastrophic consequences for the 1.
I totally understand and sympathise with the difficulties but I feel that misleading the doctors could have much further reaching consequences. Butterfly effect and all that.

@Tropicana1 that's my point. I don't agree with lying either.

Just marking my place in the new thread.
Hope everyone is doing well :)

Thanks Laura that makes me feel slightly more reassured! I guess it's just a waitng game but I'm not the best at being patient 🙈

Joining from the last thread :)

anyone else finding their OH quite irritating at the moment? 🙈😂

Yay 6 weeks pregnant today! Feels like a bit of a milestone :)