Due Feb/Mar after MC 🌈 🙈 Thread 2

[MooBugz]

New thread following the almost full last one! Sorry if I missed the tag for anyone 😬

@Ally256 @madeinthe80z @Lmcc88 @OceanbreezeSun @doingitalllagain @RedElleJ @STom2 @WonderWoop @LittleLottle @Skylark1990 @Rubes1234 @Hagster @JoKB @Gamergirl84 @Franklin321

@STom2 thank you! We tried lying on side to feed and we both LOVED it so comfy for us both and minimal effort required from baby boy and from me which really helped but he was sick after both times of doing it ☹️ we haven’t tried again since but might do another trail run to see if the two are directly linked.

@RedElleJ congratulations mama! Welcome to the world baby girl!

I echo that BF is hard! … a fed baby is a happy baby regardless be kind to yourselves. You’re doing a great job! 😘

@Lmcc88 So I've had this happen with my LO a couple of times also and I didn't have this with my eldest (also did the side by side feeding with him quite a bit). What I've found different this time around is DS2 is definitely far more windy and possibly has some reflux. So I always try to keep him upright for a bit immediately after feeding. Not ideal with the night time feeds as almost defeats purpose of the relaxed lying down ones. But maybe try a bit of upright winding (I do up to 20 mins) after your next try at lying down and see if that makes a difference.

Thank you for all your comments- I'm repeating the mantra fed is best! I agree though its so hard on mental health to keep struggling agisnt the tide. I too swore not to touch thr pump this time round but have fallen into expressing as a way to alleviate my guilt that DD isn't getting much milk from me.

My husband goes back to work on Monday and am dreading being solo with a fussy baba and boisterous toddler. I will have to use formula in order to be up and about to look after DS so the decision is sort of made for me.

Its so hard balancing logic with emotions after birth! I'm still quite teary one minute and settled the next. Definitely finding it harder to regroup after this one than the last.

On top of that my midwife has had to cancel my discharge visit twice this week. 😑 Very frustrating as I stayed in specially.

How is everyone finding parenthood? Has anyone joined any groups or classes yet?

Hey all!

so happy to hear more news of births of healthy babies! How did we all get so lucky! Truly fills me with joy seeing all of us get our longed for babies!!

Sorry to hear some of you are struggling breastfeeding. Please don’t feel guilty in anyway. Our bodies are healing from enough without adding any guilt in there. You’ve grown a human and they are thriving!!

Im struggling at the moment. I’m just out of hospital again. My gallbladder has decided to give up. We knew it was infected and needed to come out from labour and blood tests and scans but they sent me home on antibiotics. Unfortunately they haven’t worked and I ended up in A&E last Sunday. Got out on Wednesday no op as the emergency theatre was too busy for what I needed so hopefully getting an outpatient surgery now in the next two weeks for keyhole removal of the gallbladder. The pain is intolerable but sent home on medication. The worst part about it was staying in hospital for three nights without Baby Girl. Mentally destroyed me, felt like I’d lost my arm and I’d abandoned her. Luckily my partner did so well with her and is still off work for a while otherwise I don’t know what we would have done.

has anyone had this in prev pregnancies or had this surgery? Xx

@Skylark1990 I was referred to a local lactation support group which meets up every Friday noon. I wanted to go yesterday but couldn't manage to as my baby has developed reflux and is quite irritable atm. Hoping I will be able to make it next week🤞🏼

@STom2 you are right, the toll on mental health due to pumping is horrible.. but somehow battling through it.. don't know how many more days/weeks I will be able to carry on.. living one day at a time🙁

But sometimes pumping and bottle feeding seems to be working nicely because my mum and husband are largely involved in feeding the baby. This has given me some freedom to get small chunks of sleep during nights..

My c section wound got mildly infected And I had to take a week worth of antibiotics 🤦🏻‍♀️ my backpain is quite horrible and struggling with it badly!

@Rubes1234 so sorry you had a difficult time with the gall bladder surgery.. I had to get my third molar tooth extracted last week, which was a nightmare😭 it suddenly got infected and I couldn't put up with it anymore.. I almost slept for two days straight except for the pumping sessions.. leaving my little girl to my husband and mum's care, for which I felt so horribly guilty🙁

louembeckett.co.uk/

I'm a bit rubbish at posting links on here but this is a good blog about breastfeeding and not letting the guilt get to you when it's difficult or if you need to use formula. Written by comedian Rob Beckets wife. She talks in particular about trying to exclusively pump with her first and how that effected her mentally. I'm sure a few of us on here will be able to relate to this.

Hi all how are we doing?

Just checking in 😊

Can't believe my baby girl will be 2 months next week it's really gone in quick!
I've started what I think (but not sure) is my first period but it's not heavy it seems to be red bleeding but very light to the point I'm doubting if it's just me doing too much but I don't think it is given the timescale. How about you guys? I'm formula feeding.

I miss not having to wear sanitary pads..

Hope everyone is doing ok! X

@MooBugz hello there! It's nice to hear from this thread again 😊

My girl is 11 weeks old already, can't believe we are about to finish the fourth trimester !

I am now exclusively pumping as many attempts to get her latch on failed miserably, only to give me badly cracked and sore nipples😖

@MooBugz as you mentioned about periods- I am going through similar situation too.. but it's not a frank bleeding. Just blood tinged discharge when I wipe. I am clueless as to what to make out of it and just going with the flow!

How did you all cope with the 8 weeks vaccination? I was an emotional mess to see my daughter cry so badly 😭 12th week vaccination booked And I am already dreading it😖

Hi @MooBugz
its lovely to hear from you & @drV
time is flying isn’t it!? Ds already looks so different🥹

Thankfully, my period has not returned yet! It didn’t return till dd was 16 months old last time. I’m breastfeeding ds, so hopefully my period will stay away for the same amount of time!

The injections are not pleasant are they, you feel like you’ve tricked them, even though it’s for the greater good.

I hope everyone else is doing ok and your little ones are thriving.

Hello! So nice to hear from this again.

Mt daughter is 7 weeks on Wednesday and it’s flown by. I swear she changes everyday.

@MooBugz I’m breastfeeding/expressing but got my first period last week. 🙁 I had heard breastfeeding can mean they don’t return for ages but it was definitely a period. It made my boobs so sensitive so feeding was a challenge!

How is everyone managing in general? I’m trying to get out walking everyday and now starting to get booked in for some baby massage classes. Getting out the house on time is a struggle but we’re getting better. I’ve also admitted that my car isn’t suitable for fitting all of her things in and now changing it to a big suv. How does one tiny person need so much stuff?! 😂

Hope everyone else is good and managing this phase. Some days it’s hard.

Hello all nice to hear back from you guys I've missed you all 🥹 our little club!

@drV I spoke too soon as today I've woken up and it's 💯 unmistakably my period and the flow is heavy but not crazy heavy so hope it stays that way as I was the same after my last csection i was lucky not to be one of those that had it bad.

We have our first set of vaccines on Tuesday not looking forward to it! Hubby has noticed I am extra protective of this little one compared to my previous babies and I guess that's because of the miscarriage the blessings hits that much harder right? So making the most of all my time with her!

Trying to get back into the swing of life has Defos been harder this time round compared to before but I'm enticing it a day at a time. As @ChangeHtotheP said some days are hard and that's ok.

We have some carried on dramas and my sil hasn't met the new addition yet but we've learnt to not bother with it irs her loss, her ego means she'll miss the newborn stage completely shame on her.

@OceanbreezeSun and @ChangeHtotheP i second with you about LO growing up too soon!

DD looks different everyday! She mostly resembles her daddy but some days she looks like me too.. most of the days we keep debating who she resembles the most, it's a nice game for us🤣

She did have a bit of colic around 7th week, as well as a growth spurt when she became extremely clingy.. but after a couple of days, she was back to her normal self.. sleep is still all over the place though... How's everyone else coping?

Great to hear from everyone! My LO is 9 weeks today. Vaccinations tomorrow. Not overly concerned having gone through it before with DS1. Also learned the art of sticking a boob in there to soothe quickly when they get upset. Breastfeeding seems to be going well enough. Definitely has a bit of reflux though and dirty nappies are constant so going to check with the doc tomorrow if there's a bit of an intolerance or something there as I didn't have this with DS1. Sleeping I going fine but we are still cosleeping so he's stuck to my like glue all night. I use the sling a lot in the day as well as its easier to juggle both LO and toddler that way. Imagine I'll have issues later on getting him to sleep in cot but happy to go with flow for now as its working well this way. And he's very happy and content so I'm not going to rock the boat!

To all the mummas co- sleeping, could you please tell me what kind of mattress/bed you have?

My DD is sometimes extremely fussy and doesn't want to sleep in her crib. And on those nights, one of us have to hold her, which means we can't sleep☹️ that's because our mattress is extremely supple and indents when I sleep, making it extremely dangerous for her to co sleep!

@drV Yes you definitely need a firm mattress. A flat surface to lie then in their back on next to you. Ours is memory foam.

We did the holding thing with DS1 for weeks so I can relate. It's tough.

@drV Our sleep is also all over the place, some nights she only wakes once, other nights it can be three times. I’m hoping the longer sleep starts to get more frequent over time. She’s generally quite good and goes down again quite easily after a change and being fed so can’t complain. I love the idea of co sleeping but I’m such a deep sleeper it worries me.

@STom2 Glad you mention the sling in as positive way, I’m thinking of getting one. I can’t get anything done as she is a big fan of contact naps. A sling will really help me but don’t feel that confident with putting them on and keeping her in it safely.

I’ve got booked into a local early days class in a few weeks. Looking forward to it but also nervous about the whole mum scene with clicks and the competitiveness I’ve heard about. 😂🤦🏻‍♀️

@ChangeHtotheP I'm using the sling far more this time around. With DS1 I only used it to go for walks when he was small as he hated the carrycot part of the pram. Only used it for the first two weeks. Whereas with this LO, from the point he came home my DH and I have both been using the sling. I use it primarily around the house as he likes the carrycot so I can take him out in this easily with DS1 standing on buggyboard . But I recall all too well with DS1 how limiting the contact naps can be in terms of getting anything done in the day. I use the IZMI sling. It's very comfortable and convenient. And I get so much done through the day with him in it (from household chores to being able to cook and eat dinner). I know as soon as he's tired I can put him in there and he will be fast asleep in mins. Even today after his vaccinations. Went there with pram. Got home, dose of calpol and straight into sling. He's been snoozing in there content and I'm sure the closeness is also helping him after getting so upset with the needles.

Hey guys!

so good to hear from you all again! LO was 7 weeks yesterday! Time is flying by! Things are going well he’s had a rough time the last week with reflux but better than he was!

@MooBugz I got my first period too! I was hoping to avoid it for a little longer!

@ChangeHtotheP I second the getting out of the house … I’m always late for everything now! We also go to a massage class but baby hates it 😂 how’s your LO with it?

I was having to wake him up for his feeds at night or I was convinced he’d sleep through he’s now changed and is stirring every 3.5 hours … but at least I know he’s ready for a feed then

@Lmcc88 sorry to hear you've got your first period too! I'm so fed up of wearing pads already 😩 I keep thinking is done only for it to reappear. I have new appreciation for maternity pads though! I find regular sanitary towels too thin it doesn't make me feel secure at all so I'm sticking to the maternity ones from now on.

Hi all, just going to have a moan.

I'm so over this body bleeding. I'm in day 10 of my period (including spotting for 3days) and im just fed up of the pad life! Also what's with how insanely thin some pads are these days? I'm a convert now I'll never go back I like the thick granny pads too much now the thicker the better I say.

I remember my bleeding after the mc went on for way longer than 'normal' and had to get another scan to make sure everything was ok in there. Then the periods after I bled like a tap (sorry tmi) and then when I fell pregnant I was relieved to not have to worry about bleeding for the pregnancy.

The lochia stage finished at 6/7 weeks and I got a few days break where I managed to book my wax and feel a bit me again. Only for the first period to appear days after. And here we are still going strong. I mean not strong as in heavy because thankfully it's pretty stop start so I'll have nothing all day then something at night or vice versa. Last time I had a 7 day period and that was it.

Just a rant sorry! And this is probably the only relatable place to post. Missing my pant free days 🤣

Apart from that we are doing great, two months today actually! 🥹 xx

@MooBugz Sorry to hear the bleeding is still ongoing. I've not had a period yet following my section as I'm breastfeeding and last time it was 14months before they came back. Is it worth mentioning to your doctor at all? I know the bleeding can be off and on for the first six weeks so it's probably to be expected that your first period would be all over the place really. Hope you're taking iron or something as I'm sure that could leave you feeling particularly run down. I know I needed iron following my first miscarriage as I bled for about two weeks.

Thanks @STom2 my mc bleeding went on for about 8 weeks and the gp didn't offer iron then so I doubt they would now and it's slowed down so hoping it's on its way out lol just in time for the next period with my luck haha! I'll get some iron myself that's a good point you made thanks 😊

I read your post @MooBugz bit didn’t have a spare hand to type and then forgot to do it. Sorry! I had my first period at 6 weeks pp, I was gutted as I thought breastfeeding meant they wouldn’t return for quite a while so I definitely feel your rant. I really enjoyed not having periods so am annoyed they are back. I’ve found expressing so much harder now, I could tell I was ovulating this week as expressing so was sore. I’ve told my husband he will have to miss out on bottle feeding this week and when I’m in my period as I’m not putting myself through the pain (it makes my nipples feel like they’re being cut off due to them being so sensitive). Weirdly though breastfeeding isn’t that bad, it’s not easy but no where near as bad as expressing.

Being a woman is amazing, we’ve grown human beings but it’s also rubbish that we have to deal with all this stuff. Periods suck.

How is everyone doing? We had first set of jabs yesterday, I felt so bad as she really cried but it’s for the best. Made her really cuddly though so took full advantage of some ace snuggles last night. ❤️

@ChangeHtotheP We are doing good!

We had first jags on Tuesday! Also had a snuggly little guy that day!

Our little girl is 12 weeks old today🥺 so we have officially completed our fourth trimester!

Can't believe how time went by! She is one little talkative missy for sure😂