Due Feb/Mar after MC 🌈 🙈 Thread 2

[MooBugz]

New thread following the almost full last one! Sorry if I missed the tag for anyone 😬

@Ally256 @madeinthe80z @Lmcc88 @OceanbreezeSun @doingitalllagain @RedElleJ @STom2 @WonderWoop @LittleLottle @Skylark1990 @Rubes1234 @Hagster @JoKB @Gamergirl84 @Franklin321

If I recall, mine was the only baby girl on the postnatal ward.. other 5 were boys.. one of the midwife was like- your girl has quite a bit of demand here isn't she🤣

So today was my original due date! 19/2 .. can't believe my girl is already 23 days old 😅

Shall we list the birthdays of all babies here? I will begin with mine

drV - baby girl - Gauri Rao - 27/01/2023

Hi guys!

any fellow mamas to be gone over their due date? (I’ll be a week late tomorrow)

How are you coping?

Hey all!

Just wanted to quickly update you all. Haven’t had a chance to catch up on all the births in the thread but hopefully will get through them later tonight.

Baby girl arrived on 14/02/23 (due date) via emergency forceps and episiotomy after an 18 hour labour! She weighed 8lb 1oz and has maintained her birth weight so far. We have named her Penelope Eliza and she is just a dream! We had a few days in hospital due to problems with me but we’re finally all home and getting into our new routine and settled.

I don’t think I’ve cried more tears of relief since she’s been in this world. She really is the light at the end of the tunnel for us. Can’t believe we have finally been so lucky and she’s here!

@Skylark1990 thinking of you this week! You have got this though and take your time to process all the feelings! Sending lots of love x

Cant wait to have a read through and see what’s going on! Xxx

@Rubes1234 that sounds so stressful.. but so glad your baby girl arrived safely! congratulations to you and your family💐🥳 your baby girl has a beautiful name! Bet she is equally lovely 💖

Congratulations @Rubes1234!! I love the name.

I’m due tomorrow @Lmcc88 so not technically overdue but I was told from the beginning because of my age and complications I’d be induced a week early so planned everything around that. Because I’ve managed things as instructed they’re now allowing me to go a day over due and then start the induction process. Mentally I’d prepared for her being here last week and am now so uncomfy and frustrated. I think I’ve lost my plug and keep getting period type pain so hoping she’s preparing me for spontaneous labour. 🤞🏼I feel your frustration and having everything crossed we won’t be waiting too much longer.

Hi Guys,

I went into Labour on Tuesday 21st around lunchtime. I was in labour for about 11 hours and my waters had not broken making contractions very uncomfortable! Midwife broke my waters around 12 which was the best feeling! Immediate relief but as soon as that happened baby boys heart rate plummeted and we were rushed to theatre to be put under general anaesthetic for c section with DH not being allowed in. Baby boys heart rate then stabilised and it was recommended I still go through with section but with spinal injection and DH was allowed to be there. Doctors can’t explain why his heartbeat dropped! They’ve offered for me to do a debrief if I want because it was so chaotic!

Our amazing little boy Arlo was born at 12:33 On 22nd Feb weighing in at 7lbs3 (so much for my 90th percentile baby if I’d have been induced 10 days ago he’d have been even tinier!)

I’m sore from my section and looking forward to getting home! Hopefully today!

hope all you guys are doing ok!

Congrats @Lmcc88 🥹❤️ hope you are doing ok! Today I am 10 days post section and doing ok but be kind to yourself don't rush the recovery you'll get your good and bad days.

My friend who had the same due date as me (16 feb) gave birth yday to 9lb 12oz baby boy 🙈

Hope everyone is doing ok and enjoying this special time it goes in so quick x

@Lmcc88 congratulations 💙🥰

My story is very similar to you.. my waters broke on a Thursday morning, went in and they booked me for an elective c section on Friday morning at 10am.. but on Friday morning, my DD' s heart rate plummeted so drastically, they rushed me into the OT right away, at 7am 😅 her heart rate stabilised once in the OT but still they didn't wanted to risk it.. so she came 3 hours earlier! Apparently there was no reason why it happened.. it was so relieving to see her healthy on this side of the world😅

Congratulations @Lmcc88!!!!

We have birthday buddies! after having some period like pain on Tuesday morning we went for a growth scan and found out the placenta was failing and was admitted for an induction straight away. The ward was short staffed so decided to wait until the morning but my body wasn’t happy leaving her in there so cracked on with labour. Unfortunately no one believed me and they just kept saying I was experiencing ‘niggles’ despite not examining me. By the next next morning I was given paracetamol and then at the induction she said there was no need as I’d started to dilate and would have the baby soon. Turns out a lot sooner than everyone expected as within 2 hours I was pushing and it was a mad rush to get me to labour ward. She arrived 14 minutes after hurtling through the corridors to get there. I had to go to theatre but everything is ok now.

I don’t think it’s been easy for any of us but so glad we’re all getting there! ❤️

Thanks guys!

@ChangeHtotheP aw that’s lovely that we have birthday twins! 🥰 oh wow! Your story seems stressful! As you say I think we’ve all been through it! The midwife did say to me as well there’s no way you’re in labour but they did examine me and found out I was! So crazy they didn’t examine you! That’s good that baby decided to come on her own without induction! They do make it all worth it though, I just can’t get over him he’s the most amazing little boy!

I am struggling a little bit with my recovery I think maybe because I hadn’t prepared myself that a c section would be a possibility so not being able to do simple things is hard but as you say @MooBugz im trying to be as kind to myself as possible. My DH has been amazing though.

how’s everyone doing with their babies? Anyone still waiting on their arrivals?

breastfeeding going ok for those who have chosen to do so? Sometimes Arlo feeds every 3 hours and other times he feeds for 3 hours!

Hi all, hope everyone is doing okay. It's lovely to hear the baby news coming in! I can't believe my little girl is over 3 weeks old already!
@lmc88 breastfeeding is going well, Every 2 hours it seems for me or she will stretch to 3 if we're out and about or sleeping on other people! She's gone from 6lb4 born to 8lb in 3 weeks!
Night times are a bit of a challenge. I've started co sleeping so I can actually get a bit of sleep. Hopefully she will go in her crib soon! My daughter was the same but I didn't persevere with her so I need to this time!

We’ve had a bit of an eventful week. I got her weighed on Saturday as felt she was eating enough, she had lost far too much weight so we were instructed to go to hospital with her. By the time we got there she was floppy and lethargic. Blood sugars were through the floor and the consultants were concerned. We were admitted and they started treatment for suspected meningitis. Luckily all of the cultures have come back negative for that since. We know there was an infection somewhere, just couldn’t find out where but bloods shows it is lowering so whatever they are doing is working. Because of all of this feeding has been very regimented, every 3 hours whether she likes it or not. We have had to rely on a tube when she’s been too lethargic to eat. BUT we have put the effort in and we are hoping she will be back at her birth weight by tomorrow and will be able to go home. 🤞🏼We only had 2 nights with her at home so looking forward to getting her home and starting our life together again. 😄

Recovering from a traumatic birth whilst trying to provide constant care to a baby in high dependency is hard, especially when dads get kicked out at night and I have to do all the expressing, feeding, sterilising, tube feeding (with the nurse) by myself whilst trying to look after myself and sleep. I have been trying to apply the mantra of ‘be kind to yourself’ but failed sometimes. It’s been so hard. Then I had the first 💩 and that nearly tipped me over the edge into tears. 😂

@ChangeHtotheP oh my, that sounds really scary.. and so sorry you are going through all of it... Hope everything settles down for you both! Totally can relate how stressful it is... I remember crying my eyes out when my girl was being assessed for jaundice being admitted in the hospital...

Can you request the ward staff to let daddy stay with you guys? I did and they kindly allowed my husband to stay overnight.. it was difficult to share a single bed between both of us but it definitely helped with my mental health!

You definitely need to be kind on yourself, you are doing so well and it's so so difficult during those early days when you yourself need so much time to recover from giving birth! Hang in there mama, you will get through this! Take care🤗

So my daughter is now 5 weeks old, which is difficult to believe😬 she has settled well into life at home and gaining weight.. she was 5lb 10oz at birth and now at 6lb 11oz !

We are about to book our 6wk check and 8wk vaccination🙈 she also had her BCG vaccination last week and responded well to it!

I have clicked hundreds of photos and videos already and feel she is growing up too quickly😟 I definitely miss the littlest version of her but glad she is growing well! Motherhood is such a bittersweet feeling!

Mornin night feeders!

@Lmcc88 hope you are managing ok with the csection recovery, I'm just over a week ahead of you and can promise it will get easier. I really struggled with the process last time not being able to do much feeling like an invalid but you do need to take it easy so as not to hinder recovery in the long term and prevent a setback. You'll never get this time back so try to take it slow and listen to your body when you do too much you'll know.

@ChangeHtotheP so sorry to hear what you've had to go through it gave me flashbacks to my first born who was admitted to neonatal for weight loss and low sugars but glad to hear you have a better prognosis. It really does make you more appreciative of all the little things doesn't it. Hope you are doing ok mentally too as it can be a lot to deal with when happening so quickly.

My little lady was two weeks yday and has gone from 6lb7 to 7lb1. I'm making a conscious effort to enjoy every moment as this will be my last baby and the time already is flying in!

@MooBugz Thank you for that, it makes me feel a bit better! I’m just over a week post section so my perfect little boy was a week old yesterday I can’t get over how in love with him I am so as you say just trying to make the most of every second with him.

@Lmcc88 I'm just over 3 weeks into recovery from my second section and can confirm it absolutely gets easier. There were points even 10 days in where I worried slightly about certain aches and pains I didn't have first time. But these have passed also. I'm still trying to remind myself to be careful and take things easier. Especially now DH is back at work and I'm juggling a toddler and a newborn. Of course that's easier said than done!

If you feel comfortable doing it, and haven't already, I recommend feeding at night while lying down on your side with baby next to you (if you're breastfeeding). My MW recommended this to me again as it limited amount I was sitting up and down at night to feed. So it felt far more comfortable and my mid section thanked me for it!

Im currently basking in the joy of getting both toddler and baby to nap in their respective cots at the same time. Having a nice cuppa and some chocolate to celebrate. 😂

Hi all!

Good to hear everyone settling into their respective routines- newborns are tiny but require so much attention.

Shout out to those juggling toddlers as well, I hope it gets easier!

I'm struggling with major BFing guilt. 😩 I really really wanted to BF with DD as DS didn't latch and I knew that exclusively pumping wouldn't work this time round with a toddler in tow. She's only latching some of the time and mostly that's with nipple shields. She dropped below 10% birth weight so we had to top her up with express and formula and tbh it's really taken its toll. I felt the past two weeks has been nothing but stressing about feeding and I wanted to enjoy this time knowing how fast it goes. I feel that I'm going tonave to FF primarily from now on because I can't afford to spend an hour and a half battling the latch every feed. But I can't shake the guilt and its really weighing on me.

Anyone in a similar position or happily FFing?

Hi Everyone,

Apologies for the radio silence - I struggled a bit towards the end of pregnancy and was just sleeping a lot!

congratulations on everyone’s arrivals 💕Such a happy time x

Our little girl arrived today after an induction for reduced movements. It was sadly
not the birth experience I had planned but hypnobirthing really helped me understand my choices and keep me calm throughout.

I am absolutely in love and can’t believe she is here - steep learning curve ahead x

@Gamergirl84 you are not alone in the breastfeeding journey struggles😬 I am now sat with a breast pump on and fighting hard to feed my 5 week old.. she had trouble latching on in the beginning and midwives/health visitors kept promising me she will get better with time.. I was in that hope but now they are dwindling🙁

My lo can latch better now compared to earlier times but the issue is, she is still not able to effectively empty the breasts and if I rely on her for that, I often end up with engorged painful boobs.. also feels horrible that I am not able to feed her properly.. honestly don't know where the problem is - whether with me having sightly smaller nipples or she being unable to latch on effectively🙁

So I have resorted to pumping 4-5 times a day and trying to put her on direct breastfeed 3-4 times so that my milk supply isn't compromised

It's bloody hard work, somedays I feel like giving up but I can't because I really really want to feed her with my milk..

Don't know how sustainable this practise is but, I am living one day at a time.. the only incentive is that my little girl is putting on weight and I can see her being content after every feed!

I can't imagine how hard it would be to exclusively pump with having a toddler in tow.. as I am a ftm, I do considerably have some time on my hands when my lo is asleep.

Please don't feel guilty for not being able to bf as you had planned.. I now totally understand how it might be affecting you! A fed baby is a happy baby. No matter if it's expressed milk or FF.. you are doing great, keep up the hard work mama 🙌🏻 one day at a time!

Thank you @drV - you're doing an amazing job nursing and pumping. As you say, it's hard work but rewarding! I got into a routine of pumping after feeds for my DS which worked for around 7 months. It is possible.

I have the exact same issue with my DD. Her latch is never very deep and she's prone to twisting her face away and then getting upset.

She's putting on weight and seems content after a formula feed so I don't know what my problem is tbh 😅 I think i need to just accept it!

@drV @Gamergirl84 sorry tohear you are both struggling with BF! It can be so hard. Well done for persevering <3

Have either of you spoken to an IBCLC - this is the highest qualified lactation consultant? And had baby assessed for tongue tie? If the latch isn't deep or good it's really important to get support rather than waiting for it to get better - this isn't the best advice form mdiwives!

@Gamergirl84
If baby is twisting her face away, she may be uncomfortable - I can't remember what kind of birth you had, but sometimes having baby see an osteopath can really help esp if it was a c-section or instrumental or fast labour. Trying a few more things might help and also may help any guilt, even if you do end up moving to FF - which is totally understandable given the struggles xx

@RedElleJ Biggest congratulations lovely! I hope you're doing OK and the birth wasn't too difficult <3 xxx

Congrats to all on their beautiful little babies

Our little boy arrived just over two weeks ago through planned section. Experienced delays with milk (happened with emcs with my daughter three years ago too) and he lost a lot of weight so am also combi feeding and understand the guilt @Gamergirl84 but also know from my daughter it's perfectly fine and the only issue is the guilt. FF has helped them both gain weight and DD is a very happy completely thriving 3 year old... DS will be exactly the same! The reason for the guilt I think is because it's not as you would have designed it. I'm just going to keep combi feeding for as long as my supply lasts (trying to BF as much as possible at night time when he wants to feed the most) and then move forward. Fed is definitely best and also means DP can feed the baby too which is nice for them both.

Sorry to those struggling with breastfeeding atm. Please do not feel any sort of guilt. Breastfeeding is bloody hard. Even when the elements seem to all slot into place! As you know a fed baby is a happy baby, regardless of whether that's formula or breast.

I pumped a lot with my eldest and this had a big impact on my mental health. It was soul destroying. I swore I would not touch the pump this time around. And I absolutely hope to introduce formula from 6 weeks to combi feed this LO as I know all too well the impact it can have on a mother's mental health when she is responsible for every single feed and all the night wakings and never able to really step away alone for a period in case her boobs are suddenly required!