Baby January 2023!

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Anyone else due January 2023?! Found out yesterday I'm pregnant with baby #2. If my dates are right, I'm 3+6, due 27th January! My daughters a Jan baby, but was due feb (she was 3 weeks early). May just must be a very fertile month for us! We fell pregnant last May too, but never met them😢.

@TokenGinger pains seem to have tapered off thank god so managed a nap for 2 hours which was needed after being up since 4am.

picking up a bit now so I suspect I will have them bad again tonight and tomorrow morning as anytime I have had pains have mainly been nighttime’s and very early mornings. I think I just want to stay like this til Thursday now to get an epidural asap. I don’t fancy 2 days of 1 in 5 min contractions without them progressing further which currently they don’t seem to be and hospital too busy to help them progress earlier than Thursday. If my waters go I think the pressure in my bum would ease and then contractions actually become productive but I doubt that will happen naturally!

@H44123 Hello ! I can’t believe they are messing you around so much. Considering the pain you’re in, contracting, high blood pressure and baby changed its habits. You can’t do this until Thursday and they having checked your cervix! You could be like 8 cm . Not to be rude but I’m sure they would find you a bed if you went into natural labour so saying they can’t do an induction today … makes me angry. Please go up to hospital if things carry on like this for you and especially if you’re in that much pain you’re being sick. You’re doing a hell of a lot better than I would be. Go to hospital and get the drugs xx

@H44123 If bubba is not already here, then I'm sending you all of the positive thoughts and strength to get through today's induction and can't wait to hear your update for the last little baby in our little crew to join us ❤️

@Aleks86 That's an incredible story! I can't believe baby waited until you were all settled into the new house on night 1! What a good little boy 😍😍 xx

Morning all! Baby George arrived this morning at 1.57am. Had a very eventful day/night and ended up for emergency episiotomy amongst a ventouse delivery and many other things! Now on a ward trying to learn how to do things but slowly getting confidence. They are keeping us in tonight maybe the night after just to keep an eye on us both as issues with my blood pressure, his blood pressure and his heartbeat, low blood sugars etc but he seems to be passing every test which is a relief. Thank god for epidural!!!!

@H44123 CONGRATULATIONS!!!! Soo happy to hear he has arrived safely ! Welcome to the baby club ! Also George was my first choice for a boy , I love the name 💕 take it easy mummy and rest, relax and go with the flow xx

Congratulations darling!!!! I'm so so happy for you. So glad you are both okay and passing the tests. George is a gorgeous name 😍 , little tip for the episiotomy, SALT WATER ! Helps alot <3

Sorry for the late reply, my c section wound is infected , really struggling mentally with recovery! Xxx

@Kerryw93 hope your ok and trying to get plenty of rest. The recovery part of child birth is exhausting :(

my mastitis is slowly clearing up. Still got lumps but getting checked over again Sunday so hopefully they are happy with the progress and I don’t need to go in for an IV.

baby has colic and it’s exhausting, I think I got an hours sleep last night. But purely because of exhaustion I just feel asleep while she was making little noises all through the night . Omg the lack of sleep was on to start with but last night I feel like I hit a new level of tiredness :( tried infacol for a few days and doesn’t seem to have made any improvement so didn’t give her any yesterday and last night and today she seems even worst and more unsettled. Iv got colief so I’m going to try that . Giving infacol is hard cause it’s a really strong orange flavour which she usually spits most back out , colief you can add to the milk so hopefully that will be better :(

@H44123 I am so pleased for you! Welcome baby George ❤️

@Kerryw93 I'm sorry you're struggling with the recovery and have an infection, you poor thing. The things our bodies go through to deliver a child is unbelievable. I hope you're okay xx

@Jusmakingit I feel you! I am absolutely shattered. She's struggling with colic too and it's so tough. Although it says from 1 month (she was just 3.5 weeks when I tried, but should have tried sooner), I've gone straight on to gripe water. I've given half a syringe rather than a full 5ml and it really does help her pass the wind out. Her bum has not stopped which I think is al of the wind trapped in her system that she wasn't able to burp out. I have tried Infacol the last few days and no success so I'm going to stick to gripe water xx

@TokenGinger does your suffer in the night ? I’m moving onto colief to see if that helps. We used gripe water with our Pinter DD but can’t remember how it went , was 6 years ago. I keep looking at colic formulas as well and just don’t know what to do. I can’t live like this for the next 4 months . I will be a zombie :(

**other DD

@Jusmakingit Yeh she suffers terribly at night. She's okay during the day. As soon as she manages to get the wind up, she settles. The trapped wind just causes her so much pain, it seems. She throws her arms around, straightens up her back, pulls up her legs whilst screaming. We tried Colief with DS, but it just caused severe diarrhoea for him, his bum was like water. The same with the colic formula. It was so tough to find a balance. We switched to putting the Colief in every other bottle to try and reduce the impact on his bum which helped. Then we found gripe water and that seemed to work better so I just went for that straight off with DD this time. Although it smells foul so I'm not sure how long she'll take it for.

I am sending solidarity though. The sleeplessness is killing me. DD is stirring around 10.30-11, then she's unsettled until around 2am. She wants to eat constantly, she screams and screams and will only settle with the bottle but then makes herself sick if she has too much. Then I get from around 2am to 3.30-4am of her being settled, and the cycle starts again where she's unsettled and crying/screaming/eating and she settles around 5.30-6am for another 1.5 hours or so. So I think I'm getting around 3.5 hours of broken sleep a night. It's so hard.

My daughter is exactly the same, she's 6 weeks now. Constantly wants to feed at night and it's exhausting. Then she also makes herself sick. She's my 4th but never had this with any of my others. X

my DD colic episodes are pretty much same , starting around 10/11 and then right through on an off, every 20/30 mins til around 3/4. Then when she is actually asleep she makes so much noise lol. The bottle thing aswell , just constantly wanting more milk . She’s only been sick once and that was last night , she threw up loads all down my back shoulder and back . Iv not even managed to get a shower today to give myself a clean … glamorous being a mum.

she’s started already tonight :( I’m on the sofa tonight and DH staying in bed. We are just going to take it in turns cause no point us both losing sleep . I will check gripe water again

Hi ladies… I thought I had replied earlier and have now realised it didn’t load maybe?!

We are all home now. Got home this evening. Because he was born yesterday at 2am my days are so lost at the moment! First night he was born I didn’t get any sleep after everything happening then yesterday I couldn’t switch off. Had a horrific night in hospital but the hospital staff themselves were amazing!

I had a bit of a wobble last night so his first night really being alone in hospital struggling and in pain. George literally wouldn’t not sleep or settle unless on me which meant I got 0 sleep. I kept trying swaddling, a dummy etc aware it’s all new and still to be learnt. Stupid cow next to me at 3am said there is something wrong with my baby as in he shouldn’t be crying so much. I already felt terrible about that but thought the women would understand so that tipped me and I sat in bed just counting down the clock. Luckily midwife’s were amazing and said her baby was worse the night before and she thought the midwife team were baby sitters for her to sleep! They gave me confidence to carry on.

Managed to have 5 hours sleep this evening which has made me feel like a new person. My partner has been amazing… totally shocked me but I think it’s because he saw what women actually go through having kids! Sending you all love… we got this ladies!!! Xxx

@H44123 i know it doesn’t help now but I does get easier. You’re learning all about this new person who has moved into your house , it’s a very strange feeling especially when you carried them for 9 months. Routines take time and I read online, which made me think , that they have been snuggly warm inside you, listening to your heartbeat and little noises , have been fed on tap and curled up asleep so coming into the world will be very different for them and lots of changes in one go. Baffles me when ‘experts’ say they should only sleep on their backs but yet they never have slept flat on their backs. Imagine there little bodies being stretched out like that after 9 months of sleeping in a ball shape. We have a dock a tot for bed time and then in the day she has a babymoov cosy dream , our local boots stock them in store or Amazon, it helps with there position so they aren’t so flat. Also their little digestion system is learning to work and process milk. There’s a lot going on for them.

the lack of sleep gets easier but me and my DH have been taking it in turns , one in bedroom and one on sofa. No reason why both should loose sleep and you should try nap or have some time alone as well. I drove alone last week for first time in weeks without my other DD or partner and it was heaven lol 😂

your doing amazing and ignore negative comments. No one knows what to do of the bat when they have a baby , it’s completely true they don’t come with a manual lol x

@TokenGinger i got gripe water lol 😂. She had colief yesterday and in the early hours around 5 she just had a massive watery poo explosion so got some gripe water. Just given her like 1.5 as she’s only 2 weeks but we will see if her tummy can handle that. I put it in a bottle teat and she guzzled it down then looked at me like ‘wtf was that’ lol then gave her a bottle, she’s downed 60ml, tried burping but no burps but she’s just gone back to being unconsciously asleep. So fingers crossed itl work it’s magic.

she had a really bad colic episode this morning screaming in pain from around 9-11 . It’s horrible to watch and you can’t do anything :( I cried a little while I held her screaming. I would do anything to take that pain away :(

I am so confused, I thought I posted again this afternoon but it’s not there again?!

@Jusmakingit thank you - I know what your saying is right because it completely makes sense! Last night me and my partner took it in turns staying up to watch George as he was a bit paranoid but we decided to give the next to me a go tonight. George slept in the Moses basket this aft for a nap rather than on us so I was hopeful but nothing works tonight! I don’t know whether it’s because it’s bigger than the Moses basket or maybe it’s cold when he lies down on it? No matter what I do if I put him down slowly, keep a hand on him or touch him after he keeps startling himself awake. I have bought loads of sleeping bag things which can be arms in/out etc, options for swaddle blankets so not sure whether to try those instead. Midwife came today and discussed and said she only recommends a thin blanket tucked into side of any beds with arms out or the sleeping bags but arms out which I don’t see will help the startling issue?!

Hope all your ladies nights are going better than mine and you all get a good few hours! Xxx

@H44123 i know exactly how you feel. I swaddled our LO but she over heated a bit cause her bloody arms and hands constantly all over the place waking herself up. It worked but she did throw up though. In hospital they said the same about arms out and blanket tucked in etc. it’s exhausting cause a few years ago it was all about swaddling 🙄😩 however it’s no help, but they do reduce there movements at night etc . We are week two and she isn’t as bad , still does the arms out randomly and wakes her self slightly then drops back of but it is normal they do that cause they are not used to having so much space around them.

try the sleep bags . We used them for our other DD but I feel the new baby is to small still , well I did try it the night of swaddling lol 😂 and she was sick of that so 🤷‍♀️ she generally kicks of most covers so tonight Iv not bothered and she seemed fine.

At this point I would even try boiling an eye of newt and a dead man’s toe whilst chanting around a couldron in the back garden if someone told me that would work 😂🤦‍♀️

@Jusmakingit 🤣🤣 cheered me up! I would join you too… I had no idea how hard all of this was and that’s after actually going through Labour! I have had no sleep at all tonight. He would not settle so I gave up and came downstairs. I ended up giving up on BF and gave him one of those pre-made ones and he drank loads… I think it was because he was hungry! This happened in the hospital too that one night when he finally went to sleep about 7am and I have just realised. My boobs… they are something out of a freak show. Sooooo engorged and huge like porn star ones and sooo sore… nipples agony. George sometimes is a bit gassy and needed winding I was told wasn’t needed if BF. I think with him not latching correctly causing sore nipples, then the engorgement was either causing too much milk and a lot of air or stopped him getting food?! Anyway I think I’m over BF. I tried but it’s not for me. I’m going to try tonight the Moses basket he is currently now asleep in downstairs which is slightly smaller than the next to me and some formula to see if it works. Plus formula means others can feed him too 🤞🙏

I felt good yesterday in that my body was healing… but now my stitches hurt I cannot get comfy or sit comfy 😢 I haven’t dared look down there so no idea what the stitches look like or what state they are in. Literally terrifies me. Still not had a poo either (sorry tmi) took lactulose yesterday to try help and nothing but probably not helping with the iron tablets hospital put me on!

how was the colic last night? Any improvement? I’m guessing I have that to come and deal with soon too 🤣🤣 xx

@H44123 She keeps changing her sleeping/colic pattern it’s strange. But got our 10 day this morning so will ask wtf is going on.

breastfeeding is hard ! When I was in hospital so many women were determined to breastfeed but the babies were too hungry and some eventually had to have formula and then they slept so well. It’s hard to know how much they are getting as well with BF , atleast you know with a bottle he’s getting enough to keep him full. And exactly like you said , others can help with feeding now.BF is literally been a milk machine all day and night and you feel so alone doing it :( some of my friends BF and I feel so sorry for them as they have no life , they just sit for hours a day on end BF and then they complain about it.

I’m suppose to take iron tablets but literally drops me pooing and is painful the trapped wind etc. I swapped for a multi vitamin when I got home . Has a little less iron in then the ones they give you in hospital but if your eating well it’s not to bad to make up the difference. Steak ! If you eat meat. I actually couldn’t even feel my first poo cause I was so numb still down there, when I wiped I was like ‘oh ok’ lol and then the HCA had to help me wipe cause I didn’t even know if i was wiping the right area lol

@H44123 we swaddled our DD because of the startling and she loved to be tucked up tight. After a week we then found the love to dream swaddle bags which are so much easier for nappy changes in the night and not worrying about whether she is too hot or cold. Highly recommend.

@Jusmakingit yeah, I think that may explain a lot. I’m happy I tried BF but my god it’s hard work. I have a few friends who are so tied to their baby as apparently they won’t take the bottle and it means they are never available for more than a little bit. I totally did not expect the boobs to get so engorged and painful too. I have had to use a haaka to take the pressure down but because I won’t be BF I need to check with midwife today to do it gradual rather than encourage supply. She will have a shock too, yesterday I was all for BF and today changed my mind 🤣 she better not pressure me after a no sleep night!

I was debating putting off the iron tablets but I was sooo shaky and wobbly I knew there was something wrong with me. Going to try some more lactulose too, I just want the first one done because it’s more the fear than anything. I also have no idea what I am wiping either I just pat dry as gentle and as much as I can. I really need to get a mirror and have a good look but it terrifies me after what happened it’s like reality of the trauma. I think right now that might be a bit too much for my brain to cope with.

@Dueinjan23 i have the love to dream swaddle bags. I think I have the 1 tog and 2.5tog one. Which one do you use? I’m sure the midwife won’t agree with them too but they have sooo many good reviews. I have a few of the tommee tippee sleeping bag ones too that have arms in/out. There is so much differing advice out there makes it hard for people!

@H44123
I never even tried BF with this baby, but my milk is slowly reducing. Just seems to be one boob creating more milk than the other but that’s the one I have mastitis in so I think the pressure is forcing the milk out from the swelling. So , one week after birth my boobs were like triple the size the pain was ridiculas and they were so hard but then after two of that they started to go down. They say to express with encouragement but then surely that produces more milk . I think you might have to slowly reduce the milk production by expressing one or twice a day and then reduce again if that makes sense. Reduce the demand .

also, after a poo for the first few days while I was still numb I used the wet wipe toilet tissues and then to help with and hemaroid pain etc I got straight into the bath and used a sponge to have a good clean down there lol 😂 then after put anusol on my bum . I also used a hot water bottle with a cover on and sat on that which just took the pain away as well. It was nice 👌 another thing was witch hazel wipes for perinatal use. They are erm ‘fresh’ when you wipe like a cold breeze but only used a few.

Iron tablets. I did take them for the first few days cause I was also really shakey and wobbly on my feet but I had also been into town and prolly done too much too soon. Just walking about and bending too much so just take it easy and after a few days maybe just drop an iron tablet , wean yourself off them if that helps move things along down there.

xx

Just had the community midwife out (I think?!) anyway got her to check my stitches and she said they are fine! Said be careful as tissue looks to get stuck and I have those wet wipes you said I have just been to scared to use them so I will now! Oh and I managed a tiny poo but it’s still something. My legs were shaking with fear. Weird though I have no need to wee. I think maybe the catheters I had during Labour so I don’t think oh I need a wee, it’s oh I haven weed all day I better go and there’s loads but she said that’s common 🤷🏻‍♀️ might need to set an alarm to wee at this rate 🤣 on my little inspection I thought I had a little pile but wasn’t sure as got scared to feel anymore and I do! Never had one before. She said smaller than a pea so not too bad but to keep an eye out! I will wait for stitches to heal before tackling that!

she also said re BF to leave them and in a few days they will go down. If I express I am only encouraging it so will try that just scared to get mastitis! God since Labour I’m a nervous wreck with my body. The things us women go through is mind blowing. But I would do it again for George in a second. Anymore kids in the future - I don’t think so I’m that scared! Hope your having a nice day 😊

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