Why do boys get treated like a second place prize?

[willwewontwe]

I had a little boy last year, absolutely delighted with him, love him to bits etc but over the last year I’ve steadily noticed more and more this attitude by some people that girls are better than boys. I’ve even now noticed it in some baby clothes shops where you walk in and there’s aisles of girls clothes on display then a small section of dinosaur clothes in the corner for boys.

My friend was pregnant at the same time as me, I knew what I was having but she wasn’t finding out. At her baby shower my other friend said she hoped she was having a girl. I just felt a bit put out sat there pregnant with a little boy as if people thought girls were better 🤔 We have since been for lunch etc with the babies and multiple people walking past make a big song and dance over her little girl but didn’t acknowledge my little boy. I’m just sat there feeling awkward like yip, I’ve got a baby too 🙋🏼‍♀️ I’ve had people making jokes to me about future children saying ‘aw itl be another boy’ or I even had a guy jokingly say ‘when you have twin boys’. It’s like, what would be wrong with that?! 🤔 I feel for people with two or more boys who will no doubt have had to deal with these kinds of comments all the time. They’re not some sort of second place prize 🙄 Just saw a post on Facebook from someone with a little boy popping a pink balloon at her gender reveal saying she was ‘finally’ getting her princess, as if somehow she has just been passing the time with her little boy waiting on a girl arriving. I hate the whole thing, is it just me? 😩

I've noticed this as well, OP. I wonder whether it's because women generally like to be around other women, and perhaps feel like they wouldn't bond with a boy very well or understand him? There are a lot of sexist assumptions going on as well - like your son is only ever going to want to play football and you won't be able to join in, as if boys never do anything else and girls can't play football. My mum has said she had feelings like this when she had my brother.

I'm currently pregnant with a little boy and I wouldn't have minded either way, but I'm very happy it's a boy - I've always been very comfortable with male company and really looking forward to bonding with him.

This is sad but true!
I saw a gender reveal where people were asked to turn up in blue or punk depending what they wanted. Both parents wore pink 💔 so sad

@EmJay19

This is sad but true! I saw a gender reveal where people were asked to turn up in blue or punk depending what they wanted. Both parents wore pink 💔 so sad

Wow! What were they having? That is sad. Suppose if there was any health complications with dc the sex would be so irrelevant. Small things taken for granted.

Boys are absolutely awesome. I said before and will do again, if I had only had girls I would have kept going until I had a boy.

@EmJay19

This is sad but true! I saw a gender reveal where people were asked to turn up in blue or punk depending what they wanted. Both parents wore pink 💔 so sad

Goodness me that’s sad isn’t it. These things are usually recorded too- if it’s a boy what on Earth is he going to feel when he inevitably later sees both his hopeful parents in pink. Like a second prize, no doubt, just like the thread title.

I’m almost 20 weeks carrying a baby boy and I can’t wait to meet my little sausage 🥰

The mother in law relationship thing has crossed my mind; I do have some issues with my MIL. However, that is solely because she can be quite rude and tactless, and therefore my assumption is that I can avoid this with any future partner-in-law, by simply not being rude or tactless. Genius! 😂

Don’t really care right now anyway as my husband and I have just felt our son’s first proper kicks and AHHHH he’s REALLY REALLY IN THERE- SQUEEEEE! 🤗

Absolutely agree with this, it's so sad! I'm pregnant with my 3rd after having two boys and I have been asked a few times already if I hope it's a girl this time. I am absolutely gobsmacked people ask me this considering I lost my first little boy a few days after he was born. As long as they are healthy I couldn't give a toss about the sex, I'd happily have a football team of boys but id be equally as delighted about having a girl this time round. I'm glad there are others out there who feel the same!

I've never come across this. We have 2 boys. The only comments I get are about pee on the seat in a house full of boys.