17 weeks and I think I'm losing/lost the baby

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Had another thread about midwife not finding the heartbeat and how I'm having a scan tomorrow, but I'm having cramps today in my lower back and down my thighs as if I'm about to come on and really sharp pains in my right hand side. I'm convinced I've lost the baby and my body is starting to catch up. I have tried phoning my midwife I don't think she's working today as no answer, I'm too early to go to the ward. What can I do? Or do I have to just sit tight until tomorrow?

Ring 111 for advice.
Pains in one side could be ectopic.

I'm 17 weeks and had two scans so far so I know it isn't ectopic baby was in the right place. I just think I'm having a late miscarriage. Can I ring 111 for that? Or is there nothing they can do before 20 weeks?

It's not going to be ectopic at 17 weeks!!!

At what gestation do you come under maternity again? It's 16 weeks here so you would ring the antenatal assessment unit.

If not then 111 or A&E

Yes , ring 111 for advice and to give you some confidence.

Ring 111 and they will advise you, fingers crossed OP🤞

Or ring your Labour and delivery unit, they will be able to advise

Can you ring the early pregnancy unit and ask to go in? Just for reassurance my midwife checked baby's heartbeat at my 16 week appointment and she told me not to panic if she couldn't find it and that's why they don't advise trying until 25 weeks. Also my sister in law had such bad pains that she was taking paracetamol and everything was ok - just lots of stretching of everything in there! X

I’d ring the maternity ward and see what they advise you, might be able to get a scan for tomorrow booked in. I had what I thought were pregnancy issues at about 19 weeks (turned out to be a severe kidney infection) and instead of A&E at the weekend I was advised to go to the maternity assessment unit. They were honestly fab.

I've phoned my maternity unit who said before 20 weeks it's the early pregnancy unit I need to contact but they are closed on weekends. Explained I'm coming to ward tomorrow anyway to see my midwife but they said nothing they can do and to come in for my appointment with her

Definitely ring your maternity triage unit! If they don’t offer you any help why don’t you go online and see if any local private scans have spaces for today! Most of the ones by me you can book on the day.

Try not to think the worst, I know it's hard. Not being able to find the heartbeat on a home doppler is common and some pains can be normal, your uterus is stretching. As long as you get yourself checked out as soon as you can. I hope everything is OK.

Would you be able to book a private scan? If you ring around places near you they may have a space come up today

@Garman

So you think you're losing your baby and have had a substantial knock to the head this morning causing hours of pain but instead of going to a hospital you're just creating numerous threads on mumsnet? Sure Jan 👍

I'm home alone with no car with a toddler feeling like absolute crap and have started hacinf miscarriage symptoms, a maternity ward refusing to see me and my midwife not answering as she's on a day off not to mention a useless husband who is refusing to come home from work and minimising it all sorry for asking for help or advice in the one place I can bloody get it right now. I'm more worried about the baby then my head I'm prioritising that and I can't phone an ambulance for a miscarriage can I. Piss off

Also just to add, try not to worry about not finding the heart beat (easier said than done), at 16 weeks it's common not to hear it, that's why they won't do it that early most of the time with a Doppler. My midwife won't check heartbeat before 22 weeks

Could you book a scan for today? And Do you have a friend or family member that drives who could sit in the car with your toddler ?

Please ignore the pp.

So sorry this is happening to you.

Can't believe you have to wait till tomw to have a scan after being told midwife can't find heartbeat, awful. Especially with a toddler to look after.

Just wanted to give sympathy after that thoroughly unpleasant response.

Can you look at scans in your area and get a cab? With your child?
Nothing is more important right now.

Private scans all 2+ hours from me and not well connected to public transport here at all. I did have a look at the nearest window to the womb but they were fully booked as was the one in the next city which would be nearly a 3 hour drive. I'm lying down desperately trying to just feel some sort of movement so I can relax but there just isn't anything which is expected at 17 weeks with anterior placenta just want reassurance wherever I can get it right now. I do understand that before viability you can't do much but to say they won't see me as they couldn't do anything to help anyway is a horrible thought I had a bad gut feeling last week and pushed it down as dh kept saying I'm overthinking it and everything will be fine and now I'm worried I was right all along

I am sorry. I think given the circumstances and your husband not taking it seriously, it sounds like you should try to rest (as much as possible) and wait for tomorrow. Unless your conditions worsens then definitely got o A&E.
Have you tried ringing 111?

I did notice your post about the head bang this morning. I mean, if you are really concerned just go to A&E and explain what happened with the head injury, then whilst you are there once seen by a DR explain you are also having abdominal cramps and back pain! It can’t hurt and they could help!

I am shocked the EPU isn’t open on a Sunday? I’m pretty sure they should be open 24/7. What hospital are you based? Is there another hospital close by that you can get to instead?

Tell DH you are going to hospital and that he needs to come home to look after DS. End of.

I stand corrected, not even mine is open on a Sunday! Glad I looked into that. However, it does say on all of the NHS EPU pages, that if you have any issues during a day they are closed then go straight to A&E and you should be offered an ultrasound!

Otherwise as others have said give 111 a call and get a referral to A&E, but seeing as you are 17 weeks I would have thought you’d be triaged quite quickly in A&E!

@ChloeHel

I did notice your post about the head bang this morning. I mean, if you are really concerned just go to A&E and explain what happened with the head injury, then whilst you are there once seen by a DR explain you are also having abdominal cramps and back pain! It can’t hurt and they could help!

I am shocked the EPU isn’t open on a Sunday? I’m pretty sure they should be open 24/7. What hospital are you based? Is there another hospital close by that you can get to instead?

Tell DH you are going to hospital and that he needs to come home to look after DS. End of.

I completely agree with this.

OP call an ambulance ? I did at 9 weeks when I had lots of bleeding.

Yours sounds more scary.