Dumbest thing ever said to a pregnant woman?!

[mindfulmotherhood]

Just for fun, what's the stupidiest question or comment someone has said whilst you've been pregnant.

Was it planned?! That question has irked me with dc3?

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‘Is it yours?’

No one’s said it to me tbf but that really would be a dumb question to ask...

Seriously people should never ask a pregnant woman if it’s twins! happened to me a couple of times, it wasn’t 🙄

I had a very small bump and SO MANY people upon asking when I was due (which I answered politely) told me I was wrong.

Was a wedding three days off my due date and had a crowd of people telling me I was wrong and in for a shock.

Like, I had DS quite young but I was certainly able to count to 9…

Asking if it was planned is SO rude.

My boss sarcastically asked me ‘do unborn babies like aspartame’ when I was having a Diet Coke with my lunch once*. He’s a twat in most areas though, tbh.

*I allowed myself one can a day as I don’t drink tea or coffee. DD is 2 and seems developmentally unaffected by my dirty habit.

Are you sure you should be carrying her?

Her being my barely walling 14month old DD1 while a couple if months pregnant with DD2. Yes you can lift and carry a toddler in pregnancy if you are used to doing so.

My ex boss asked me ‘who’s the father?’ When I was expecting dc2 (I’m happily married) it was such an odd comment/joke?

Are you sure there's two in there?? Tinkly laugh

I was heavily pregnant with twins, however had quite a neat bump.

It always felt like such a stupid comment. Were they suggesting I'd lost one?

‘Ooooo I hope you don’t have a terrible birth like my wife… she nearly died’ thanks complete stranger on the bus…

“You should sleep whilst you still can” followed by laughter.

MW with a form in front of her stating it was an IVF baby - was it planned?

I commented the Doc didn't want me to go over my date - FIL that's not true they let Bob's Daughter go over her date!

I still don't know what Bob's DD had to do with my pregnancy.

MIL and FIL were repeatedly asking if I was feeling lots of kicks (I wasn't due to an anterior placenta, had told them this multiple times & found this v hard as had history of miscarriages so really wanted that reassurance) & then telling me how SIL is feeling loads.

I'm 29 weeks now and finally feeling proper movements, but it was v frustrating.

It pregnant, but just after I'd had DC2. "Aren't you clever!" Because somehow, I had been able to control the hormones and ensure I had a girl and a boy!
And I assume I wouldn't have been clever if I'd had another girl?! 😳🙄

Sleep while you can 🙄🙄 sleep was beyond me for most of my pregnancy between being roasting and huge , not to mention the first 12 weeks where I threw up from about 2am till 10pm .... anyone who told me to sleep while I could got a full on rant and by the end when my pelvis felt like it was going to snap in two I was ready to commit murder 🤣

Wow I never thought you'd have children!!!

Told by someone I've met 2-3 times as a teenager, at house parties.

I was so taken aback but now I keep thinking I should have pulled her up on that. What a horrible comment.

Yes, "is it planned?" Is one of the worst!

I had a boy and then a girl and I got comments like "tell your husband the shop is closed now!" And my favourite(!) when I was pregnant with my daughter "you're having a girl, I can tell because they steal your beauty"
Oh so I look like shit? Thanks!!! (I was looking after a young baby at the same time, and morning sickness!)

Random stranger on the street when I was close to my due date with dc1.

“How’d that get in there then?” With a suggestive eyebrow wiggle.

Of course it was a man. Of course I was alone. Of course I was young and looked younger/vulnerable. Just minding my own business committing the crime of being female in a public place.

Also: 'where is your belly?!
--by a sonographer at the 20 week scan. She should really know better! Than commenting on the sizes of pregnant women. I was then worried baby would be small.

An otherwise lovely work colleague telling me numerous times about her miscarriages, conversationally, while I was at the same stage of pregnancy she was when she lost them. I know it was hard for her but it did not help my first time mum anxiety!

@romdowa

Sleep while you can 🙄🙄 sleep was beyond me for most of my pregnancy between being roasting and huge , not to mention the first 12 weeks where I threw up from about 2am till 10pm .... anyone who told me to sleep while I could got a full on rant and by the end when my pelvis felt like it was going to snap in two I was ready to commit murder 🤣

Same for me. Made me feel even more upset and anxious tbh.

I was having observations done a couple of days ago at the antenatal clinic. The HCA asked me if I was pregnant! I'm 37 weeks pregnant, the size of a small country, and sitting in the antenatal clinic!

The counsellor at my workplace asked me if my pregnancy was planned.
It was, and also it was none of her business. She wasn't a friend and I found it a very odd question.

Is there just one in there?

Cheeky sod. I was actually having twins but still.

What are you having?

So tempted to say "I was hoping for a kitten but apparently not"

“Oooooh you don’t know what you’re letting yourself in for”

No, I don’t. I’m a first-time Mum, I lost my last baby, I’m anxious enough as it is. I’m 36 weeks pregnant and convinced there’s still plenty of time for something to go wrong or that I’ll be a bad Mum or my baby won’t like me. So, yeah, thanks for making me feel even worse than I do already.

“Make the most of being able to sleep now! You’ll never have a decent night’s sleep again!”

Yeah, I have restless legs, I need to pee every 30 minutes, my belly is now so heavy that I feel car sick every time I accidentally roll onto my back in the middle of the night, I wake up at 3am on the dot so that I can freak out during my nightly panic attack, and consequently haven’t managed more than a couple of hours uninterrupted sleep in months. So, yes, do remind me what a good night’s sleep looks like as I can’t remember….