Dumbest thing ever said to a pregnant woman?!

[mindfulmotherhood]

Just for fun, what's the stupidiest question or comment someone has said whilst you've been pregnant.

Was it planned?! That question has irked me with dc3?

@girlmom21

It's the "are you trying to try again for a boy?" that pissed me off.

During pregnancies with girls.

No.

How old are your darling girls? Goes for mama with boys, even after having one of each people asked when I was having a third... now I'm having a third it'll be when I'll have a sister or brother for the one left out. Does it ever stop?!

@Thecurtainsofdestiny

I told a new acquaintance I was glad I'd got to the end of the first trimester as I'd had a miscarriage previously.

She told me that I could still lose it, she was a midwife and knew about these things.

Strictly speaking it was true but not exactly what I needed to hear at that moment.

How insensitive, she really should have known better out of all people!

A woman at work told me a child free man had asked her "what's the worst that can happen" when she expressed a small worry.

She said (like pp) "well I could die or the baby could die or we could both die. That's the worst thing that could happen"

What a moron to say that!

Question that's bamboozled me the most, and I'm suprised to have had it from A LOT of people (from close friends to more distance acquaintances), is:

Is excited?

Umm, yes of course they are? And if they weren't, this conversation would have just taken a very awkward turn

I was once very tempted to respond to someone asking if my partner was excited to with 'no actually, it's not his' but smiled and gave the usual pleasantries instead.

@Caulidop

I had been ill during my first pregnancy and it was known at work. Male colleague asked about how I was in relation to this (which was nice), I said I was doing ok but a little worried. His response was odd, something along the lines of 'oh women have been having babies for hundreds of years, what's the worst that could happen!?' with a little chuckle. To which I couldn't help but reply 'Well, I could die'

Actually had similar comment in attempt to make me feel better about labour, fancy them going through it

@mindfulmotherhood the oldest is nearly 3, youngest is 6 months. I've had the same question ever since I found out the eldest was a girl!

People seem disappointed when I say I'm not having anymore - like I owe them a boy 😂

“You don’t seem like a natural mother compared to ___ but I guess you are as you said you’re going to breastfeed and she’s not”

So many things wrong with this comment

Told to drink cod liver oil when I was overdue because it would 'make the baby slippery'. When I laughed and said that's not how that works and I wouldn't be trying it they told me I didn't know what I was talking about.

Also 'you won't be able handle labour'. I'm pretty sure you don't really have a choice . It's just such a tone deaf thing to say to a first time mum who was already anxious.

"Is it a puppy or a baby you're having ?" From an ex work colleague who popped into the office. Honestly this man was a weirdo.

My brother also said he was " really shocked" that I was pregnant. I can't really understand this, but maybe as I didn't get married first, but had a long term partner, owned a flat together and had lived together for 8 years. 🤷‍♀️

@AHungryCaterpillar

Oh no I remember another one, my sister asking me if she could tell her friend I was pregnant (her friend was at her house) I said yes. The friend turned to me and said “is that a good thing?”

The receptionists at work have to say similar when a patient says they are pregnant. It sounds better than 'do you want the midwife's number or BPAS?'

@inappropriateraspberry

It pregnant, but just after I'd had DC2. "Aren't you clever!" Because somehow, I had been able to control the hormones and ensure I had a girl and a boy! And I assume I wouldn't have been clever if I'd had another girl?! 😳🙄

This though 🤣

Female doctor I'd never seen before doing a check when I was almost due. She turned to look at midwife and said, "Come and feel this, what does it feel like to you?" I said, "I hope it feels like a baby." She looked puzzled and then said, "Oh I meant did it feel like a bottom or a head."

Not quite as dramatic as a friend having a scan, sonographer announcing, "There's a third arm,oh four legs, and here's two heads." Friend in growing panic suddenly said, "Are there two babies?" Sonographer said, "Well yes, obviously." Friend started to cry and said, "I thought you were describing a monster."

@Paris14eme

“We all know what you’ve been up to”- from an idiot senior male colleague. It was an ivf pregnancy btw. When we told Ex MIL I was pregnant with first child (she knew we’d done ivf), she actually said:” Don’t get excited because you might have a miscarriage”. (Male factor infertility for the record, not that it matters, and she knew we’d been through a lot). I don’t speak to her since the separation & divorce. That’s my silver lining.

How awful of her 💔hopefully she was relieved once her grandchild arrived..,?!

@WorryMcGee

My dentist: “ooh what’s this?” touches bump

I’m 34 weeks. There can be no doubt as to what it is. Also don’t touch me. Aaaaargh

Oh no he didn't! How awkward?!

I once overheard someone say to a pregnant woman: "That's great news, I always thought you were barren"

Barren. Bar-ren.

So uncomfortable and awkward and weird.

My father who is generally quite a good man, but who is also massively and wierdly obsessed with what women weigh used to tell me I looked like a telly tubby.

I told him that until he was able to grow an actual human he had no right to criticise what a pregnant body looked like.

He's 5 ft 2 and weighs 20 plus stone and has diabetes. But he has been very very obsessed about the weights of my mother, my sister and me for our entire lives.

Oh and my mother said when I was pg with DS1 that she did not know how she could possibly love a boy as she only had girls.

She adores my two boys. :)

I have three DDs.

When I was just over 20 weeks pregnant with DD3 I made the mistake of telling one of the local busy-bodies at our mother and toddler group that I was having another girl, to which she replied "Oh no! What a shame!"

I pulled her up sharply on that and asked her why she thought it was a shame? She stuttered, went bright red and clearly wanted the ground to open up and swallow her. She eventually came out with "well, I thought maybe you'd have preferred a boy this time as you will now have to try again!" My reply was "No, I just want a healthy baby and I won't be having anymore. Time to leave the subject."

God on the cats sleeping in the moses basket thing. One of ours did with DS1. So we erected a net above the moses basket into a kind of tent. You can actually buy the netting specifically for this purpose.

Cue one of my mother's friends (who clearly heard about this from my mother) calling me about 10 pm night sobbing down the phone that social services would come and take my baby away because I was putting him in a 'cage'.

This was DS1 and part of my post natal depression symptoms incouded being fearful someone would take him from me. Fucking lunatic cow. Its 12 years later and I still am furious.

@SnowWhiteLobelia

Oh and my mother said when I was pg with DS1 that she did not know how she could possibly love a boy as she only had girls.

She adores my two boys. :)

My mum was always very negative about the possibility of me having kids so we gave her fair warning when we were thinking about trying, and she said "you'll have to warn me if it's going to be a boy so I can get used to the idea". She's also said various things about boys being awful, usually in front of my brother.

I am currently 21 weeks pregnant - with a boy! Up yours, mum!

"When did that happen?! You didn't tell me." Said to me 3 times in a week when we announced it at 12 weeks.

I had an ex boss (I mean we still worked at the same firm but he was no longer my boss ) and I hadn't seen him for a while and he looked at me and he just came out with 'you've put on a ton of weight'. I was so surprised but a colleague had the sense to say: 'well that happens when you're six months pregnant'. I'm almost six foot, I gained 24lbs in total and my baby was well over 10lb at birth so I wasn't THAT huge!

“Were you trying for twins?” Huh? I had no words.

I was amused when I had one of my covid vaccines... "is there any chance you could be pregnant?" I just pointed at my obvious (third trimester) bump and said that I definitely was... 🤣

Is it a boy or girl?

A boy

Ah well, that's still nice