Dumbest thing ever said to a pregnant woman?!

[mindfulmotherhood]

Just for fun, what's the stupidiest question or comment someone has said whilst you've been pregnant.

Was it planned?! That question has irked me with dc3?

Oh and I forgot
"I'm amazed that you got pregnant"
Not sure why, tbh, but got that all the time with no3. Maybe they thought I was 50!

Haven't RTFT yet but I reckon the guy who said to me, very visibly 6 months pregnant, "Get rid of that" "and I'll fuck you"
I mean........

Just what the fucking fuck

I barred him from my pub.

I'm not sure about dumbest but the most offensive I got was, "Will you sign our abortion petition." As I struggled with a rather awkward 2 year old, a load of shopping and a big bump (10lb baby about to appear) As I tried to pass trying to hold on to the 2 year old she loudly said, "Surely you must agree with abortion." I felt like punching her.

ILs ask me all the time 'is baby moving now????' which really stresses me out. Often, no, he isn't moving at that very moment which is totally fine and in keeping with his normal pattern of movement, but having his 'stillness' pointed out is horrible. I dont know why they keep asking as I always awkwardly say no

Are you pregnant? No I wasn’t, I wasn’t even a bit overweight. Never wore that dress again. 🥺

I hate the twins comments. I had a double IVF transfer and while I'm delighted and grateful to be pregnant with one I do feel sad for the embryo that didn't make it.

My friend will not stop going on about how my baby is going to be big (both my partner and I were big babies) and even tagged me in an article about a 14lb baby. Thanks for that.

The nurse at my booster vaccine appointment asked if it was planned, not sure how that affects the jab?

"Are you going to keep it?"

I was 38wks pregnant at the time.

"What, again?" When I told my boss I was pregnant with DC2 20 months after having the first. Then he took off his glasses and rubbed the bridge of nose between his eyes like he was dealing with really bad news.

We had:

Was it planned - both pregnancies

When I had my baby delivered via emergency section, at 32 weeks, due to pre eclampsia....I was told I could have kept my legs crossed a few weeks longer as it was going to be expensive that she was born a couple of days after christmas.......

This time, I am constantly asked....is it going to happen again? Like let me just check my crystal ball

I also had hyperemesis gravidarum during first pregnancy. After two days of vomiting every 30 minutes, not even able to keep a drop of water down my husband took me to A&E where the dr said "i've heard ginger biscuits are good for nausea, have you tried that?". I've never wanted to punch someone in the face so hard.

Bloody hell are you having another one already? Followed by an eye roll from the nasty bitchy ex colleague where I used to work at the vets and had to take my dog in for treatment.

DS was 3 and a half so hardly like I was popping them out 9 months apart!!

I forgot my MIL not saying anything and going into the kitchen and smashing dishes. Her reasoning was that my 15 year old was going to feel pushed out. In fact he loved it, said once baby is born inviting girls back to see the baby was a great chat up line.

My dentist: “ooh what’s this?” touches bump

I’m 34 weeks. There can be no doubt as to what it is. Also don’t touch me. Aaaaargh

The remark I liked best was my elderly GP, he was about to retire, looking over his glasses at me when I said I was pregnant he smiled and said, "Well done." For some reason it really touched me.

Actually @wannabeamummysobad that was a stupid post to put on a Pregnancy board thread. I didn't realise, it was on the Active page so assumed it was Chat etc.

I'll ask for it to be deleted. Sorry if it upset you, just ignore the stupid little twerp (like I did). Best wishes a safe arrival.

Are you STILL pregnant, said to me in the gym changing rooms the other day. I’m only 32 weeks 😳

“Is it planned?” - Nope but we’re still very happy about it, not that that’s any of your business.

“You don’t know what tired is!” - I have dangerously low iron levels 99% of the time and pregnancy only makes this worse. I also have hip problems that mean I can’t sleep on one side for too long but I have to because I’m pregnant. I’m therefore unable to sleep because I’m in too much pain. I know what extremely tired feels like.

“Were you hoping for a boy this time?” - Nope. Hoping for a healthy baby.

Luckily, I have a real ‘Fuck off!’ resting face that meant no one random talked to me about my pregnancy or tried to touch my bumps.

Here is one I said when dd was a week or so old. I was walking with her in a sling, feeling dazed and overwhelmed by noise in a busy urban area.

A lovely lady stoppped to admire baby, and asked her name. She then admired the name and asked where it was from?

"My husband's wife" said I (instead of mother). I kind of heard it leaving my mouth, saw her confused then shocked face. She mumbled something and left. I did not have the mental speed or agility to let her know my mistake.

After giving birth to a healthy 8lb 9oz baby, someone (ignorant) said, 'OMG that's HUUUUGE!'.

Then, staring at my abdomen which had not shrunk to its pre-pregnant state because I was only three days post-natal, 'You must have eaten SO MUCH whilst you were pregnant'.

"Do you know the father?"

I've been married for 10 years

One of my bosses asked if my 1st was planned, which was none of his business and also I had my own property, was 31 and married so hardly surprising?! Also with that pregnancy I had a health visitor ask if I was pregnant when I was 9 months and at a breastfeeding group, would have been pretty weird if I wasn't

"Was it planned?" really pissed me off. Mainly got it with my second, who was conceived during COVID (and I'm glad I didn't wait until the pandemic was over, he's 14 months already!). Always sounded to me that they thought it was a stupid idea to get pregnant again. Also, none of your bloody business!!!

Post-birth "Ooh he looks a good size, what did he weigh?" "8lbs14oz" "Oh what a shame he couldn't manage another 2oz"

"Is he a good baby?" No, he's a little shit. Honestly!

@PineappleWilson

What are you having?

So tempted to say "I was hoping for a kitten but apparently not"

totally normal and reasonable question

Have you put on any weight? my final zoom call meeting before may leave

Got told "we adopted, at least we knew they'd be healthy"!!! by someone I barely knew when I was 6 months pregnant.
Remember thinking yes thanks, as if I wasn't already worried.

A friend of a friend had a manager say that a miscarriage would obviously be an ideal outcome for them. She'd had two already. Some people are just unbelievable