Due June 2022 Thread Nine

[MrsNT]

New thread for June babies

@PeeAche2
Mine loves being transverse more than anything, too! Hope they shift before they get too big 🙈 they will wiggle around and be breach and kick my cervix, too. I feel like they’re rarely in the correct spot.

I’ve got a GP appointment for my dizziness today, they want it in face to test my blood pressure. I was way ahead and got one for home to monitor through my pregnancy and it’s 102/72 at the moment which is normal. 😅 I’ll beat them to their own job, just hoping they offer to test my iron levels.

Im 26 weeks and gained about 9 to 10kg.
Wasnt sure if this is too little or too much as i was underweight pre pregnancy

@PeeAche2 I didn’t see your above comment so sorry for double tagging. I find sex a bit off putting at the moment. We’ve tried twice, only once successful. I get painful sexual dreams, and feel a bit gross naked, I’m also worried something will happen to the baby. DH understands, thankfully.

@prema112 i get exhausted quickly now aswell.get rib pain .i have decided im not going over to any friends/family houses now since i get superntired

Gosh @PeeAche2! You're not a freak, I'm so surprised by their comments. Well, if you're a freak so am I. We've always had sex 2/3 times a week and have never stopped throughout pregnancy - I've been lucky with nausea/hormones not being so bad that it stopped us, but could totally understand that being an issue for some. I did raise it with DH early on and explained I wouldn't be offended if he didn't want to given I'm a bit gross and 'unpolished' at the mo, but he thought I was being ridiculous.
Sex isn't just about getting off for some people, it's about connecting with your partner too! It's certainly not disgusting xxx

@PeeAche2 I'm surprised by those comments too. This pregnancy has been much harder and we haven't had much sex due to various physical things going on with my body, but first pregnancy we pretty much carried on as normal right up until he was born

I lost around 10kg in first trimester from hyperemesis but I’ve now put about 8kg of that back on… you can tell I’ve been making up for all the missed food 😂

@PeeAche2 I definitely wouldn’t say it’s disgusting!! This pregnancy has been really hard for me so we have only had sex two or three times (hyperemesis, prenatal depression and now PGP) but during my first pregnancy we had sex quite a bit! If you’re both up for it then get it on 😂 if you’re not then don’t!

@PeeAche2 no, we’ve still been having sex. It’s just very samey as I can only comfortably be in one position 😂 but he can’t complain as there are lots of men who aren’t getting any 😂

I’d be upset if my husband found sex with me disgusting just because I’m pregnant.

During my hyperem, I struggled a lot but whenever I did feel like it, we jumped at the opportunity. Sometimes this meant having sex at weird times of the day. 🤣

At the moment, it's pretty normal, except we can't have actual sex.

I felt embarrassed afterwards. It wasn't like we announced we were at it like rabbits. I just casually mentioned that low lying placenta means no sex and everyone became very animated. Two people said it wasn't right when there's a baby in there. One woman said "it wasn't my body for 9 months" And all the men except one (now divorced!) said they stopped seeing their wives sexually for that time. (None of the women seemed remotely offended by that.)

Most of them agreed it was over a year before they had sex again.

It won't change the way I approach sex, but naturally it made me feel like a freak!

I have a car seat dilemma everyone! I stupidly thought the maxi cosi pearl 360 would be one I can take baby from hospital ward to car but it has no handles!! So I'll need to buy something separately to take him from ward to car park...what do I do? Do I buy like a Moses basket just for this or change this car seat to one that has handles like the Pebble 360

@MrsTwentyNine you could take a picture of the car seat in your car to show that you do have a car seat if questioned. Then just carry him down in arms

@MrsTwentyNine Take him in your arms or in his pram. I see loads of new parents leaving hospital with baby in a pram.

@CurryandSnuggle that's true! I'm a bit scared about carrying him in our arms...do you think something like a Moses basket would be ok?

@PeeAche2 that's a good idea too! May as well start using the pram sooner!

@PeeAche2 you definitely aren't a freak! I'm lucky not to be on a sex ban and still having a very happy active sex life! I can understand why people might not feel like it as there are days I just don't feel up to it, but I find those attitudes weird!

Depending on trust, I think. My friend said they wouldn’t let her leave without the baby in a car seat, seems bizarre if the car seat is…. Already in the car. 😅

Haha @Vimto1991 I bet they say that to me!

@MrsNT also planning to get some comfy sleepwear to take to hospital, everything I have which still fits is pretty old and crappy I have looooads of lovely pjs that no longer fit though, feel really bad buying more.

As for weight tracking, I was weighed at first midwife appointment and then when they did first bloods at the hospital, which I can't find any record of - unless it didn't change in between - but when I was weighed I was already 7kg over what I consider to be my max, so have been avoiding checking ever since - midwife said that's fine, she's very laissez faire on some things!

@PeeAche2 unfortunately, the no sex thing is very real over here. The first couple of months was fear - on both sides. The next few months were just me being so nauseous/tired that I didn't want to be touched at all, anywhere. Would love to get back into it though, as I'm guessing soon it'll be really tricky and after birth will be even less possible.

it wasn't right when there's a baby in there. One woman said "it wasn't my body for 9 months" - are you friends super-religious? Those are very odd statements.

Also having cot dilemmas - like the scandi-style ones, was almost convinced on the snuzcot (already have the snuzpod) but have gone off it - a bit too rounded and there doesn't look like there's any space for storage underneath. Am thinking either one with a built in drawer or at least with enough clearance below to slide a drawer on wheels under - anyone seen in real-life or has the Obaby Maya cot/drawers?

@mrstwentynine can you attach car seat to pram with adaptors? If yes do that. Will save u from buying a new one just for hospital trip

I haven’t weighed myself due to MH, I didn’t realise we should be as I thought the hospital so it (and thankfully don’t tell me). So I’m just gonna ignore my weight for awhile :)

Just been to the doctors. They suspect low iron but can’t test my blood until a week on Tuesday!! 🤦‍♀️ I have my 28 week bloods on Friday so midwife said just go Friday and cancel Tuesday. They’ve prescribed iron just in case so may try that but my prescriptions are digital and medication is through the post. 🤦‍♀️
I might take pregnacare. Avoided it due to thyroid issues but seen so many take it regardless lol

I’ve been thinking of ordering the pram set I’ve seen, parents want to chip in with something but haven’t said what so I could just say money as we have everything. Going with the Cosatto Birdland design. :) anyone else superstitious? We have a detached garage so may keep it in there, although worried about mould and dirt 😫

@PeeAche2 they sound like odd comments to me. I’m too anxious to have sex - after 5 years of trying and 2 years of IVF I just don’t want to risk an infection or starting contractions or anything, although that’s my own fears and I totally wish I didn’t have them! For the same reason I’ve not been swimming or even in the bath. I certainly don’t think it’s disgusting though and am in awe of anyone that’s still doing it on a regular basis! :)

@destiEos I’ve seen Obaby Maya IRL and think it’s the one we’ll get. We saw it along with about 8-10 other sets from different brands and it felt really well-made compared to a lot of them. The only niggle is that the wooden bars are stained a kind of yellow colour which put me off it a little but it’s nitpicking and I’ve told myself to get over it!

Thanks to whoever provided the tip on the Horst midwife, I’ll definitely sign up for that.

I have my 28 week midwife appointment tomorrow so excited to see how much I’ve gained. I was +3kgs at 24 weeks. Hoping for a bit more now.

At my last scan (21+6) I weighed about 6kg less than my pre-pregnancy weight but I lost more 11kgs due to HG so I’ve put on about 5kgs. Think I’ve put on more since as I can finally eat again apart from dairy, weirdly any type of dairy still makes me vomit at 26 weeks.

Do you really need a hat for a baby born in summer? Have been looking at packing lists & they all say a hat but what if it’s a hot day? Surely they don’t need one? Or do they?

I am swimming once a week and orgasming almost daily. I don't like baths but I've eaten smoked salmon twice. 🍣 🙈

I was highly highly anxious at the beginning of the pregnancy. On the exact night (according to my dates) that I had lost my last baby, I sat up all night. I convinced myself that if I slept, my baby would die. I was honestly sending myself insane.

Since feeling her kicking every day, I am much calmer. I have surprised myself at how calm I am. And, as a result, my marriage is stronger than it has ever been. Which is perhaps why we can't keep our hands off each other.
In April, it is the anniversary of one of my losses: the worst one; the latest-term and most painful one. And the only one where I got to hold the baby. We named her and planted a tree for her.
This year it has snuck up on me as I usually spend most of March and April thinking about it and grieving. I can't believe how different I feel.

I'm sorry for anyone that is still feeling very anxious. You can hold my hands, if you want. I have definitely got good vibes coming out the wazzoo. I have enough good vibes for us all to ride, all the way to June. ❤️

And yeah, I've bought my pram. Superstition be damned.

@JAR1981 can I ask why you arnt swimming or getting in the bath I haven’t heard of anyone avoiding them only about the temperature being not to hot

@aus12 I just looked back at hospital photos from my son as I couldn't remember re the hat- he was a July baby and he had a hat!
I seem to think they can't regulate their body heat when really little so a hat helps (I may be wrong though!) We just had little cotton ones but he definitely didn't wear them that often once he was a couple of weeks old, mainly just when out and about.