Due June 2022 (thread two)

[CurryandSnuggle]

Continuing the conversation as other thread now closed…

@PeeAche wow, congratulations! What an amazing month you are going to have What’s your due date?

Hey all, I’m 8 weeks pregnant. Baby number 3. I suffered a big bleed but was scanned and told it was a bleed next to the pregnancy and not to worry. A new experience for me!
Feeling terribly sick and tired, really quite down and overwhelmed if I’m honest. Hormones are doing a number on me.
Lots of love and prayers to all of you and your pregnancies

@peeAche. I agree with @curryandsnuggle advice
The nurse said to me today : As humans there is a limit in what we can and can not do. She said ..there is a higher power (for me thats God in my belief) who controls everything else. So just have faith and trust that everything is ok. You need to be positive. Eat healthy..healthy thoughts..happy thoughts and no amoumt of worrying will change the outcome. Pray if you can or would like to if you have belief in it.

@Mo22 i was told by gp to continue taking it

Cool that's good to know. I'm on 1500mg but have been on it for like 3 years, so figured id keep taking it until someone told me to stop!

@cb87 heres the thread 2

@thinkingoutloud2 aww, first trimester is hard, I feel overwhelmed and crappy too, be kind to yourself and rest. Take it easy

@MrsNT thank you 🙂

Imm posting as much to placemats as anything, as I don't anything very constructive to say.

I'm another one really struggling with anxiety. DH has been away for work this week and, with little distraction, my mind has gone into overdrive. I'm terrified that something has already gone wrong (I had a MMC in March, only detected at the 12 week scan), and just generally anxious about everything g. Our house is becoming increasingly disorganised and I'm waking in the early hours full of panic.

I have had my scan appointment through, but still not heard about my booking appointment. I don't even know who to contact about it. And obviously, it's made more difficult by feeling like a bit of a fraud. I spoke to DH about it last night, and he suggested I do a PT to put my mind at rest. The thing is, I still got positives two weeks after a surgical removal before, which was six weeks after the baby's heart would have stopped. Sorry for the slightly hysterical post. Just feeling very scared and emotional. Kind of hoping its hormones 😆.

Hey @Equimum So sorry to hear you're so anxious. I understand, also had 2 MMC it's awful when you think everything is ok and then find out it's not. How far along are you and when is your scan? I think regular scans are the only thing that helps really, it's still terrifying in the in-between weeks but at least you've always got a scan coming up. I've done 6 week scan, got 8 weeks tmw and I'll organise a 10 week one too. Thinking of you, first trimester is so tough 💐

Hi guys, just catching up. It makes me out of breath just scrolling this forum, never mind running the London Marathon!! Wow @CurryandSnuggle and @MO22 !

MO22, I'm a bit of a boozer too but I've been pleasantly surprised by how little anyone has actually noticed or cared. As long as I avoid actually announcing "I'm not drinking at the moment" - most people are far too busy with their own lives. Perhaps it's my age too. I'm sure all my mates would have cared more in my 20s! By your 30s, everyone is in the same boat, trying to avoid hangovers and backaches. 

Thanks for the kind advice, Curry! I am suddenly eating the healthiest I ever have in my life. I have completely and utterly cut out caffeine. Has anyone else? Not so much as a cuppa or Diet Coke will pass these lips. It's little things like that which give me a feeling of control. I'm sure it's making me more irritable too because I used to be a coffee fiend!

In 1 week and 6 days, I will be the furthest along I have ever made it. I am so focused on that tiny milestone right now. Anyone else counting like that?

I have basically told no one except my DH. Too scared to. Wishing I had your relationship with my own mum @Prema112

And welcome to any newbies! Sorry if I missed you. Too much going on!xxx

@PeeAche and anyone else suffering with their anxiety, i hope you feel better today. I for one am very grateful for @PeeAche 's openness as my thoughts have been pretty horrible too on and off, and it's nice to be reminder you're not alone. My anxiety is at its worse when I'm pre menstrual which I assume is how I'm going to feel for this first trimester, bit overwhelming to say the least. It will get easier though, I promise. My thoughts are with your up and coming milestone xxx

Thank-you Prema112. I am sorry you have been through two miscarriages as well. I'm glad the scans are helping you, even if only in the moment. I decided against early scans as I find the whole idea quite traumatic. I'm waiting for some counselling to deal with the whole experience of the scan and treatment before, but there's a huge list locally.

PeeAche we heavenly told anyone either. Just DH and I know.

@Prema112

Hey *@Equimum* So sorry to hear you're so anxious. I understand, also had 2 MMC it's awful when you think everything is ok and then find out it's not. How far along are you and when is your scan? I think regular scans are the only thing that helps really, it's still terrifying in the in-between weeks but at least you've always got a scan coming up. I've done 6 week scan, got 8 weeks tmw and I'll organise a 10 week one too. Thinking of you, first trimester is so tough 💐

@Prema112 Oo I’m so interested to know what you saw at 6 weeks? I have a 7+3 booked for next week and no idea what to expect visually (this is my first).

In other news my husband and I had sex this morning and now I’m bleeding :( so that’s…great. I talked myself out of the anxiety I had about sex and my midwife said to go for it and now….urgh. Sad.

Try not to panic Wellthiswasunexpected. I had this when pregnant with one of my sons. That turned out to be cervical erosion. Apparently the cervix can become sensitive and bleed slightly when 'irritated'. Obviously, though, if you are worried, speak to your midwife or GP.

@Wellthiswasunexpected Oh darn sorry to hear about the bleeding after sex. I won't let my husband anywhere near me for fear of this, but in truth bleeding after sex is very likely to be irritation of the cervix- it definitely won't cause a miscarriage. I was actually 6+5 for my first scan and saw a tiny bean with a tiny heartbeat and the yolk sac which was about the same size as the bean. It was lovely to see but I started worrying again not long after as with my mmc at 8 weeks we saw a heartbeat at 6 🙄

Due 28th according to the nhs website 🥰

I'm completely with you all! The anxiety I have is shocking, my gp has asked me to self refer to my local EPU, due to history to be scanned at 6 weeks (which will be Monday), but I'm terrified to ring incase I jinx something, I feel like it's more real if I tell them aswell? Am I being stupid? Should I ring them? Or just wait untill I hit 6 weeks on Monday and then ring?

I don't think I've ever really suffered with anxiety or depression before. I thought perhaps I'd been anxious about things but this is something different. It's all consuming. What kinds of other things did I used to think about before this? I can't even remember any more.

Do you other ladies find it's your first thought in the morning. I'm not bounding out of bed and thinking "yippee I'm preggers" but rather flinging myself into the en-suite and frantically pawing at my lady bits with loo roll to inspect for blood. It's really starting to wear me out.

"Oh the first trimester is exhausting" say the NHS.

Yeah, no s*.

That's because you spend 50% of it feeling like a nauseated, bloated elephant lugging around two bags of pain that are stapled to your chest. And the other 50% of it frantically googling why you don't feel like a nauseated, bloated elephant lugging around two bags of pain that are stapled to your chest.

"What did we ever do without the internet?"

I'll tell you what. We got some f*ing sleep!!!!!

@TTCjourney2021 ring them! It won't jinx anything, it doesn't work that way. Take all the support you can get. You deserve to be looked after.xxx

Hi @Bubblemonkey ! You're cutting it a bit fine, aren't you? Haha

Completely with you @PeeAche literally mirror everything you've said!!!

Aah! Here you all are! I was wondering why the thread had become so quiet all of a sudden. But I see we're already on page 4 😂

@PeeAche

I don't think I've ever really suffered with anxiety or depression before. I thought perhaps I'd been anxious about things but this is something different. It's all consuming. What kinds of other things did I used to think about before this? I can't even remember any more.

Do you other ladies find it's your first thought in the morning. I'm not bounding out of bed and thinking "yippee I'm preggers" but rather flinging myself into the en-suite and frantically pawing at my lady bits with loo roll to inspect for blood. It's really starting to wear me out.

"Oh the first trimester is exhausting" say the NHS.

Yeah, no s*.

That's because you spend 50% of it feeling like a nauseated, bloated elephant lugging around two bags of pain that are stapled to your chest. And the other 50% of it frantically googling why you don't feel like a nauseated, bloated elephant lugging around two bags of pain that are stapled to your chest.

"What did we ever do without the internet?"

I'll tell you what. We got some f*ing sleep!!!!!

The last bit really made me laugh @PeeAche I think you really hit the nail on the head there

Hi all, congrats on your BFPs! I am 4+5, due late June. This is my fourth attempt at having our first baby (see NC), with three previous pregnancies all having gone wrong for different reasons.

For those above writing about feeling nervous, I feel similarly and wish you all so much good luck! Let's hope for a little baby boom in June.