Minsters side car bumping along- ttc thread graduates 3

[Justanothercyster]

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@lucyrp haha. Every day this week I've literally got up in the morning and thought "can I get away with ringing in sick?" 😂😂

@lexber congrats!!!

Sorry haven't been keeping up girls I've been a bit of a mess. OK a lot of a mess. Got my first postnatal counselling session tomorrow so I'm hoping that helps to fine tune things a bit. I go through days where I think I'm OK, then something stupid like the smell of my shower gel (same one as I used in the hospital) takes me straight back to everything and I just break down. DH is back at work on Monday and I'm terrified about being home alone with Alice. I keep feeling guilty as I'm expressing rather than breast feeding and feel like I am constantly letting Alice down. Add to that I'm normally such a neat freak, house is always clean and tidy, and now it's a mess which stresses me out even more.

@Kirky658 obviously not exactly the same, but I can relate to how you're feeling. I'm normally a clean freak too and make sure everything is done every week like everything in every room and the same with washing I can't stand having piles of washing dirty or clean and haven't managed to do hardly anything. OH says the house is clean and nothing wrong with it but I know different. I've been really struggling with feeding and I think we're at the end of our journey. Spent the whole day yesterday and this morning crying because I'm not getting any help and it's frustrating and losing it to bottle feeding as having to top up with formula 😓 I wasn't ready for it to be this hard at all as my last breast feeding journey was so straight forward

@lucyrp really sorry to hear that you're struggling too. Is there a feeding team at your hospital who might be able to help? I just can't bring myself to breastfeed, I think it stems from the hospital telling us we had to know exactly how much she was having so we knew she was having enough and obviously with breast milk you just don't know 😭

Aww sorry you're both finding things tough right now. @Kirky658 little Alice is still getting some of your milk when you express so don't feel bad at all about doing it that way. Breast feeding seems like hard work unless you are very lucky, so go easy on yourselves! Nothing wrong with formula too. Hopefully things will get better with a bit more time.

Apparently my gran fed my dad cows milk when he was a baby because breast feeding wasn't working for her... did formula not exist in the 60s? 😂

I'd be surprised if I came across anyone with an organised clean house and a new baby, unless they hired a cleaner.

Those first couple of weeks once DH has gone back to work are really tough but you’ll get there ladies. How about booking in for some mother and baby groups? I did baby massage and baby yoga which was great as it gave me an excuse to get out of the house.

We had an issue with weight loss after DD @Kirky658 and they wanted to know the ins and outs of a gnats arsehole re milk and poop. We had to give some formula and I was gutted but had a lactation consultant after her tongue tie was snipped and managed to get her back on the boob after one visit. Midwife was then just interested in number of feeds and time spent feeding (plus weight). Babies are much more efficient than pumps so even if they don’t seem to feed for a huge amount of time they seem to get what they need. DD has caught up and now been continuously on the 91st centile for height and weight after an initial 13% drop. I should say that tracks along with her birth weight/centile, she didn’t turn into babyzilla 😂

That being said, fed is best so whatever works is what is right for you and baby (but the guilt is real I can vouch for that!).

As to the housework…… I was told that housework can be done at anytime for your whole life but time with your baby is precious and lasts such a short time, and a well rested mum makes for better moods all round! So fuck the hoovering and snuggle with those gorgeous babies!

Sending hugs to you @Kirky658 and @lucyrp you are doing g a fab job and you will be ok! ❤️ the important thing is that you're asking for help so keep doing that.

Ladies, talk me down here. Boobs leaking this morning (first time), major attack of the runs (have been the other way since conception), and now my back is a bit sore. But this is because I've been slouching WFH isn't it. Must not get hopes up too high...!

Just had my 31 week apt and baby is measuring off the chart 🙈 they're sending me for a growth scan to make sure there's not much fluid but my god I'm terrified of having a huge baby!

@lucyrp @Kirky658 you're both doing what you can and being amazing mums, they're very lucky x

@Justanothercyster hopefully it's wrong 😅 I've heard of people measuring big or having huge bumps and then having a small or average sized baby so it might be fine. Nice to have another scan at least?

@Kate105 🤞 baby might be coming soon. When's your due date?

Go easy on yourself @Kirky658 and @lucyrp it’s not an easy time, and people don’t always tell you how hard it is, they just put the edited bits on social media! Also in my experience prem and low weight babies don’t breast feed that well! I tried with my little one and ultimately he just needed the calories - and we were both happier when we switched to formulae. The other one breast fed fine, it’s not us it’s them that decide!!

Failed GTT result received today, which is fine, will start blood tests tomorrow, just adds to anxiety!

Also has anyone got experience of BH, at night mine seem to be really obvious and I’m only 30 weeks…!

@Kirky658 the midwives and HV have both been pretty crap although the HV was better, today I rang my GP and expressed my concerns about my mental health and the feeding and he sounded like he'd try and sort something so we'll see. No that's the one thing that's not great is not knowing how much they're getting 😣

@Justanothercyster don't worry about those measurements, mine were all above the top percentile on my chart and had growth scans which all pointed towards a huge baby but she was 8.4 at 41 weeks so🤷🏼‍♀️ thank you x

@Kate105 whether you get the help is the next issue! X

Ah bloody hell girls, so the scan thing, MW made it seem a big deal, but the DAU at hospital has just called saying I need to come in for it today ASAP 😨 so had to quickly leave work and get the car from dh's school urgently (we share the car and one of my colleagues kindly drove me) to make the bloody apt time. Now I'm panicking!

*made it not seem a big deal that should say

@Justanothercyster ah hun, try to remain calm. Let us know the outcome. I'm already pre booked for 3 growth scans from December onwards 😬

Oh and I'm having a girl ladies 💖 found out on Wednesday. It's what I wanted so I'm very happy 😊 dh was indifferent so he's happy too! Now to sort out my pelvic pain, I'm only 16+4 but walking, sitting, moving hurts! 😩 have a MW appointment next week so will be raising then.

I'm 16+3 actually 🤦🏾‍♀️

Good luck @Justanothercyster but try (!) not to stress too much. I had a similar incident at 34 weeks and then by 36 all had settled and back to average again. Hopefully it's nothing too drastic for you either! My midwife said that the closer you are to your due date, the more inaccurate scans can be, and they can be up to 20% out either way. Regardless, you're getting seen quickly so that's good!

Definitely getting overexcited yesterday, back to normal today... But I have now officially started mat leave! Out of office is on! 🥳

@Kate105 good to know those stats on the scans! Whoo hoo to mat leave! What box sets you got lined up? 🤓

So, they were worried about fluid. As for the baby, it's confirmed by the scan that it is rather large, about 95th percentile and weighing in at 4oz15 already at 31+5 🙈 which puts me at 33+6. The biggest worry is that they think I may have gestational diabetes so I've got to go for GTT on Tuesday to check. They e also booked me in for another scan in 4 weeks and if baby is still following this trend then most likely I'll be induced.

@Justanothercyster at 36 weeks one of my measurements placed baby at 42 weeks gestation. I think you should take the scan guesses with a pinch of salt, they can be right but they can also be wrong. I was predicted 5 pound 9 ounces at 34 weeks and she was only 8 pound 4 at 41 weeks ☺️

Yeah.. doctor seemed pretty confident, but I hope you're right!

@Justanothercyster hopefully your GTT is negative too! Don't forget to take a book or something to keep you occupied. 2 hours is a long time to do nothing at a hospital 😅

@Justanothercyster maybe just a tall baby cause your OH is a big guy? 😅 glad they're watching you though and won't let baby get too big. Is your diabetes test the one where you have to fast beforehand?

@lucyrp I'll be taking a book and downloading MAFS on my phone 😂

@2020mission yeah the fasting one