Any older mums?

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Ladies, I'm wondering if there are any older mums pregnant on here?

I'm 43, 5weeks today. I'm anxious knowing the odds and suffered a miscarriage in November. Would be good to hear from you, might be nice to share experiences and positive vibes

@Lola008 - what's the latest with you!?

@Lastyearttc
Hey sweets , still no AF , and still getting faint positives but now more negatives , doctors will not see me can’t get past the receptionist 🙄 as their policy is now not to confirm pregnancy as tests are enough , midwife won’t see me for another 2 weeks as I need to have 2 positives in a row and she wants to wait for af . I’m freaking out what if it’s something else , or maybe just the start of the menopause ! Either way I have to wait to see if I come on , if not then the doc and midwife will see me ! I’d be about 10 weeks then !! How are you doing ?

Hiya - my first post here, not even sure if this thread is active… I’m 45 and 7+5 pregnant with baby no 5. Had a terrible year last year with 2 early MMC (week 10 and week 11) and one late MMC at week 19 so obviously worried from the get go.

Would love to hear from others who might be in a similar situation x

Congrats @Itaintoveruntilthefatladysings
How are you feeling ?
I am same age and I think I’m premenopausal rather than pregnant I’ve had positives but also negatives and my doctors ain’t being helpful x

I'm 38 pregnant with my 3rd

Thanks @Lola008! I generally feel fine but clearly anxious and unwilling to feel happy knowing how much can go wrong. Due to my history I ended up having a scan last week which confirmed a little bean being in the right place and sporting a heartbeat which is clearly all we can ask for at this stage. Knowing I can do very little to prevent history repeating itself (as in if that is what will happen it will happen no matter what I do) makes me feel rather powerless and frustrated…

What makes you think you are premenopausal? It’s rather early no? X

@JenniferR2021 congratulations! At 38 you’re a baby in my books 😂 How old are you other children? X

16 and 13 once baby number 3 is due x

Oh that’s so exciting! How far along are you?

Itaintoveruntilthefatladysings

Congratulations and keeping everything crossed for you. I tried for so long at your age and it didn’t happen - sadly I had losses too. Pretty certain I’m peri-menopausal now but I love reading posts like this. Good luck x

Just 5 weeks so still early days I feel like a first time mum again it's been that long lol x

Totally understand what you mean - huge good luck, I hope your pregnancy goes well!

@Itaintoveruntilthefatladysings
I had a period on 23rd July and nothing since then , have had positive tests mostly blues and pinks are mostly neg , varying symptoms , doctor doesn’t seem bothered , won’t even give me a blood test , mat unit say I have to be referred by gp , so think I just have to wait for AF or the baby to arrive lol x
Glad you have had a scan to help your fears , are they keeping a closer eye on you x
Big hugs I’m sure your so worried x

Hi ladies, hope it's ok for me to join. I'm 40 and expecting baby #2 after a gap of six years with my eldest. I've been through a divorce in that time and so this is first baby with new DP. Very excited but the level of anxiety I'm feeling equally is so much more than first pregnancy. I'm 12 weeks exactly and going for my scan tomorrow! So far it's been an easier ride, far less sickness than last time but next level tiredness, not helped by the fact I have a boisterous 6yo to look after and working full time and we're moving house!! Keeping everything crossed that all will be well tomorrow and hoping you are all doing well too x

Wow @Itaintoveruntilthefatladysings that's a lot of heartache to go through in a lifetime let alone one year. I've had one MMC picked up at the 12 week scan and it was one of the hardest things I've had to go through so I really feel for you I completely understand how hard it is to get excited when you've had so many losses, even after seeing a heartbeat, so I'll be keeping everything crossed for you that all goes well this time. Did they look into what happened with the MMC at 19 weeks? That must have been absolutely devastating to have got so far 😞
@Lola008 I can't believe you still haven't had a period but won't give you a blood test! I don't think it's right that they leave you in limbo land not knowing if you're pregnant or not! What did the last test you took say?
@BooSaidTheGhost good luck with your scan tomorrow, hope everything goes well x

@burtle4
The last test I did was negative and it was a pink test but the test before was a pos and was a blue 🙄 I haven’t done any for a few days , my other pregnancy I didn’t get a positive test at all and was verified by a scan but docs said my age blah blah 😕

That's just crazy, especially if you didn't get a positive test with your last pregnancy, surely they should take that into consideration! Do you feel like you're pregnant?

@burtle4 Thank you, and sorry for your loss too. Yes it certainly was a hard year… With my 19 weeks I had had a scan at 15 weeks which showed everything as fine but then in a routine visit with a midwife in week 19 no heartbeat was detected and it all happened from there. Afterwards we had tests done and an autopsy on the baby but without any problems being found. I got pregnant again quickly after that but found out at a scan in week 11 that it hadn’t progressed passed week 7/8 (that time we didn’t do any early scans). Since then we’ve only had a chemical pregnancy in March/April until this one so it has certainly taken us longer than what we are used to (having gotten pregnant first or second cycle on 9 occasions). Of course we are both a lot older now so totally understand that things are different. The hardest thing is not wanting to disappoint our children again - they were devastated when the baby died. Of course we are not telling them for now but at some point they’ll have to be told of course even though we know things can go wrong at a much later stage then one would like. Anyhow, too early to worry about that for now - let’s see what happens over the next few weeks… x

Hi @BooSaidTheGhost and congrats on your pregnancy! Life being pregnant with little people already around is exhausting isn’t it!!! I’ll keep everything crossed that your scan tomorrow goes well - exciting times indeed!

@Lola008 this sounds so strange - why are they not helping?! Have you got any symptoms or ‘just’ the pregnancy tests to go on! I really hope you’ll find out one way or another soon x

@Itaintoveruntilthefatladysings I think that's the only way you can look at it to get yourself through, each day that you are pregnant and the baby is healthy is a blessing and try not to think beyond that as you can't change what may or may not happen in the future. Have you been put on aspirin in case there's an issue of blood clotting? Only saying because my sister in law had a similar experience where they found no heartbeat at 19 weeks and they realised it was because her blood had been clotting and not travelling through the placenta properly. Not saying that this is what happened to you but worth a thought since I don't think it hurts to be on aspirin.
I also understand about finding it hard to tell the children, we didn't want our other two to get their hopes up too much in case something happens and even now they still say 'if' we get a brother or sister not 'when' and I'm 30 weeks so sincerely hoping nothing happens now 🤞 x

@burtle4 Last time they put me on aspirin so I’m just doing it this time as well since as you say, there’s no harm in taking it. So happy for you being so far along - it’s sad isn’t it the kiddos are trying to protect themselves from heartache by thinking ‘if’ rather than ‘when’ but I think that is simply human nature. I will think of you, keep us posted x

@MATTSMAMMA Thank you for your well wishes. Sorry to hear it didn’t work out for you - have you got other children? X

Itaintoveruntilthefatladysings

Thank you and yes I do have two DC who
are my absolute world. I’ve just never felt ‘done’ if that makes sense? I had m/c’s before, in between and after each of my two successful pregnancies (double figures for miscarriage) some very early and chemicals and some 8 weeks and a couple at 15 weeks and 14 weeks. I think this has made it that much harder for me to accept I won’t have any more but I have to try and accept this now. My two rainbows are my world. Lots of luck to you xx

I had No 2 at 42. He's 10 now. It was by far my easiest pregnancy and birth and he's been a joy. Congratulations! 😊

@MATTSMAMMA I'm so sorry for your losses, that must be so tough, especially when you don't feel done. My two children are my absolute world but I didn't feel done either and it took us 2.5 years of trying before we finally got pregnant with this one. I feel so grateful every day because I was so aware that time wasn't on our side and I was trying to get myself to accept that it just may not happen, but that was a hard pill to swallow x