Pregnancy after miscarriage support thread

[AlbiMix]

This is a support thread for all who are currently pregnant following a miscarriage. Originating from the TTC after miscarriage group: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/4236516-MC-crew-Thread-10?msgid=108052031

Pregnancy after miscarriage is an extremely anxious time so please use this space for support.

@Greenluce
@Lililou

@ButtercupBlue I am so sorry, there are no words. Take care of yourself xx

@AlbiMix Great to hear from you and congratulations on your happy news. I am glad that everything went well with your scan! xx

I had my scan ladies, relieved to say there's a heartbeat! I'm measuring 6w 1day... I think I'm 6weeks 3. Early days so I know this isn't a guarantee but I can be less anxious for a few days at least ❤️

Oh @ButtercupBlue I am so so sorry to hear your news. I hope you're holding up alright. I don't remember if you were on the miscarriage support thread before but if not and you'd like the link let me know and I'll get it for you. I really hope they will do the necessary tests for you to find out if there's an underlying cause. Take care ❤️

Thanks @Greenluce :)

Great news @Bdbel!

@ButtercupBlue I'm so sorry for your loss. I hope you can get some answers to why this has happened.

Take care of yourself x

I am 17wks 6days and had my 16wk midwife apt yesterday. She tried to use a Doppler to find the heartbeat and couldn't so my anxiety was like OMG. So I booked a private scan straight away and went last night and luckily was fine.

Sickness is still at least 3 times a day and wish it would stop now.

Hi Dears,

Really want some help and reassurance. I had conceived this February but had an early miscarriage in april. I started trying again this month... however i am not sure what symptoms to look for, as after miscarriage i do not have any PMS symptoms(early i used to have sore breasts, mild cramps etc before AF). I feel urge to pee and lower back pain. Don’t want to get hopes to high. Did any of you experienced the same and went on to have successful pregnancy/bfp?

Hi all,

In case anyone is in the same situation as me, I spoke to my GP about the medications the gynaecologist had recommended (high dose folic acid, aspirin and progesterone pessaries). She prescribed me the folic acid and aspirin. She said she was happy to prescribe me the progesterone, but that there isn't much evidence that it actually helps.

I decided to take the folic acid and aspirin but not the progesterone as it's 2 pessaries a day, which is a bit much for something which doesn't seem to do a lot.

@Peeku are you sure you ovulated? Lack of your usual symptoms might mean you haven't ovulated. Lots of women don't ovulate properly for a couple of cycles after a miscarriage (my cycles were wonky for about 8 months after mine, including a couple where I didn't ovulate).

Hi ladies, hope you are all doing well. I had my dating scan last Friday and all went well. I am currently 13w+1d and I feel slightly better, hopefully the nausea will disappear soon.

It was really exciting to hear the heartbeat, but I can’t help myself and still feel worried that something will go wrong.
I am not that interested in finding out the sex of the baby, but I might book a private scan in 3 weeks just for reassurance. The wait until my 20-week scan seems excruciatingly long!

@Greenluce that's so lovely to hear your scan went well! Congratulations ❤️ I know what you mean there is a huge difference between 12 and 20... I would also go for another scan! Xx

Thank you! @Bdbel ☺️ glad to hear that all went well with your first scan at 6 weeks.
Are you planning to book another private scan around 8/10weeks or do you prefer to wait until your 12-week scan? xx

@Greenluce thank you 😊 7weeks 1 day now and I feel grateful everything's still ok, I was cramping today and had my usual panic so I will definitely be a serial scanner! I was hoping the nhs might do an early one because of history but I'm not sure if they will. I am hoping to hear from a midwife soon and if they don't offer one I will definitely go private. Xx

I bought a book today, not sure if anyone has read it? I thought it might be helpful with the anxiety

Hello!

I'm 33 and got pregnant for the first time back in early April, found out in May. It was our first cycle TTC and I was so happy it'd been so easy for us, but it wasn't meant to be and I had a MMC at 10 weeks. To be completely frank, I had interiorised so much that miscarriages were so common and that MMC was a thing (everyone around me said it was soooo rare) that I wasn't even shocked when it ended up being so. And the recovery went pretty well, both emotionally and physically.

I began suspecting I was pregnant again a few days ago (first cycle after mmc) and it seems I was right. Period is due tomorrow but already getting clear positives on the cheapies, will test again tomorrow to confirm but I'm 99% sure that's the case.

I'm not too happy about it though; I'm mostly tired and weary. I wanted to get back to TTC as soon as possible because I'm not getting any younger and neither is my partner, but at the same time I feel like I haven't had a chance to enjoy having my energy levels back, what with the 10 weeks of pregnancy and then the MMC. I'm also convinced it will either be a chemical or I will lose it again, and I'm not looking forward to going through that again.

I guess my feelings are very normal in such a situation; it's nice to feel less alone by reading other women's stories.

Hi
@irenealgi I know a bit how you feel. I have a DD who is now 5 I had a blighted ovum in Dec 2018 then had a chemical in sept 20. Just found out I am pregnant again. I am 32. But I am just so worried it's not going to happen again. Had not problem conceiving my first and it's just been a long journey of disappointment since. It's good to hear other positive stories though. Good luck to everyone

I rang the midwives told them my previous situations and they will scan me at 7 weeks. Might be worth a try for you also x

@irenealgi hi and congratulations! You are in good company, pregnancy after a miscarriage definitely takes the excitement away and it becomes a daily worry about what ifs and symptom checking. I am hoping that after 12 weeks that will change but I'm sure I'll then have something else to worry about!

I met my midwife this week for the first time and I've also been told I can have an early scan tomorrow. I'm 8 weeks.

I am nervous that it won't be good news, even though I don't have any reason to suggest it will be! I'm also glad this group exists... makes me feel like I'm not that crazy! X

@irenealgi I feel just the same. Tired and apprehensive rather than excited. I think once you've had an mc it takes all the excitement out of later pregnancies. It's rubbish isn't it?!

I don't really want to acknowledge that I'm pregnant - I don't want to tell a midwife or doctor because I don't want to have booking in appts and blood tests and booked scans, only to have an mc anyway and it all be for nothing. I find booking in appts particularly triggering for some reason. I think because you have to talk about your mcs and it brings it all back.

Congrats @Greenluce on your 12w scan and glad to hear all was ok for you @wag1987

@Bdbel I had 2 scans before my 12w and another at 16 weeks partly for the sex but mainly to see if things were ok before telling more people about the pregnancy. I found the scans helpful but I know not everyone is a fan.

@irenealgi @Kateb47 @bumpyknuckles totally with you...when I found out about this pregnancy there was no excitement at all, just apprehensiveness and worry. The first 12w were the worse, I really struggled mentally although was physically symptomless (which kind of didn't help the anxiety lol). In my case it has got better as the pregnancy has gone on and passed the 20w scan. I still don't feel totally relaxed but feeling the baby move comforts me. I hope it will be the same for you. You just need to get through the early stages as best you can 💪

bumpyknuckles I know what you mean about acknowledging the pregnancy. With my first one I didn't register with a midwife and when I miscarried at 8w was almost relieved I hadn't gone through the whole booking in process etc. But with the second pregnancy I registered early as I felt I could yet better care and support doing that and I did actually find it easier to cope with the pregnancy knowing that I had all the info/access to midwives if something happened.

Keep going ladies!

Im sorry to reply with bad news, my 8 week scan showed no heartbeat. Stopped growing a couple of days before. 3rd miscarriage. Had mva yesterday. I'd like to hope I'll have a chance but I'm 43 now and I'm not sure how much more I can go through. Good luck to you all x

@Bdbel I am so so sorry. My heart breaks for you x

I'm so sorry for those of you who have recently found out bad news.

I had a miscarriage at around 7 weeks in June and was told to wait a cycle before trying again, which we did. I started getting really sore breasts, but took 2 pregnancy tests that both were negative. I assumed I was out for this cycle, but then still didn't have my period today so I took another test and it came back positive! Although I am happy, I feel like I'm not letting myself get too excited (why did it take so long to get a positive test? Is it because my hcg levels aren't rising or just because the brand of test I used wasn't as sensitive?). Came here to chat with others who likely have similar worries.

@Bdbel I'm so sorry to hear this :(