Pregnancy after miscarriage support thread

[AlbiMix]

This is a support thread for all who are currently pregnant following a miscarriage. Originating from the TTC after miscarriage group: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/4236516-MC-crew-Thread-10?msgid=108052031

Pregnancy after miscarriage is an extremely anxious time so please use this space for support.

@Greenluce
@Lililou

Hi ladies, sorry I have been very quiet.
I have been so sick with nausea and felt very anxious in the past weeks, I didn’t really check MN.

Great to hear so many of you had positive news at their scans. I had my first scan today and saw my little one for the first time. All is looking well so far and I am exactly 10 weeks.

That's fantastic news about the scan @Greenluce I'm so pleased for you. Sorry you've been feeling so rough.

I've been the same tbh. Not so much with the sickness but absolutely exhausted and quite anxious about my next scan (this Saturday). I've not been around much either but hoping to be able to post with good news at the weekend. I'm approaching the point of my last 3 losses so I knew these next couple of weeks would likely be the hardest bit for me.

Sorry to hear you been suffering with nausea @Greenluce I'm nearly 16weeks and I'm physically sick 3/4 times a day it's exhausting me.

@ButtercupBlue fingers crossed for your scan I'm sure it will all be fine please let us know. I have a scan Saturday too will be finding out the gender (well going to get my 4year old to pop a balloon)

@ButtercupBlue Keeping everything crossed for you! 🤞🏻

@wag1987 I am so sorry to hear that you’re still feeling sick at nearly 16weeks, that sounds very exhausting. I was hoping that nausea and sickness would magically disappear after the first trimester but I know that’s not always the case for many women.

Keep us posted on your scans ladies! xx

Hi ladies. How's everyone doing in this heat?

We had a scan today and we were able to see our little bean measuring exactly 8 weeks and with a lovely strong heartbeat. The cyst on my left ovary has shrunk too- from 3.5cm to 2.5cm so everything is looking good.

I know we're not out of the woods yet but it was such a relief to see the heart flickering away on the screen and we're absolutely over the moon.

We've decided to go for scans every 2 weeks in first trimester to make it all feel a bit more bearable and break it up into manageable chunks so we've got another one booked for in a fortnight at 10 weeks exactly and we're just hoping everything still looks good then.

I hope everyone else is doing well?

Awwww really happy for you @ButtercupBlue I did the same scan at 7 weeks and then at 10weeks made me feel more reassured and kind of gave me something to look forward to and focus on. I had a gender scan today and we are expecting a Girl :) very happy as I have a boy already

Thank you and congratulations on finding out you're having a baby girl. That's lovely news.

Morning ladies! So happy your scan went well @ButtercupBlue and good to hear your cyst has shrunk too.

Congratulations 🎉 @wag1987 🎀

I am still feeling very nauseous. I managed to eat a bit more in the last couple of days, but I am struggling to take my prenatal vitamins because they make me feel sick.
I really hope I will start to feel better in the next weeks 🤞🏻

How’s everyone else doing? xx

So glad your scan went well @ButtercupBlue !

Congratulations @wag1987 💗

Glad you're managing to eat a bit more @Greenluce - my nausea has been quite bad too but the only thing that stops me feeling sick is eating, and all I can eat is beige carbs - other than crackers, plain crisps, plain pasta and instant noodles I think I've managed one apple and half a tomato this whole week! DP thinks I'm being a proper princess already too as I can't drink anything unless it's got heaps of ice in it lol.

Just checking in to see how everyone is doing?

I'm 9w2d now. We've moved our scan forward from this Saturday to Wednesday as I was having some niggling pains Fri and Sat last week and we didn't want to wait a whole week to find out what was going on (although typically haven't had any since!)

Symptoms wise I've still got sore boobs and peeing a lot plus food cravings and aversions and I'm exhausted but what nausea I had seems to have settled.

I'm trying to think positively for the scan but honestly finding it very hard after our two losses last year.

Just need a few words of wisdom... We have lost a baby at 9 to 10 weeks earlier this year (blighted ovum), I am pregnant again, which is amazing. We had two early scans which were reassuring as there is a baby and it has a heartbeat.
However the last days have taken a proper toll at my mental health. I miss our lost baby so much, I can't describe it. I am happy about the new pregnancy and all, but the sadness is often just overwhelming and I don't know how to overcome it. It probably doesn't help that I feel absolutely rotten and that I'm sick all the time, so I can't even distract myself properly as all I am doing is trying to keep food and water in.
I already had my booking appointment, I don't think that I can get in touch with the midwife now. Not sure if I should speak to my GP.
I don't know why my mind clings onto the baby that wasn't meant to be instead of being happy that I am approaching the end of the first trimester with what seems to be a healthy embryo.
My 12 week scan is another 1 and a half weeks off, I am so nervous about it. The scan itself, that I can't keep enough water in for the full bladder.

I'm sorry for venting.

Hi ladies, can I join? I've been in other chats but seeing this one I think I can relate more. I'm 6 weeks 1 day... I've had 2 previous miscarriages and I'm 43.

Last mc I was told it would be my age... which is true in fairness, but I feel like the ancient foe this one is taking over. I don't have symptoms, apart from sore boobs and my bloating has gone down. In my head I'm convinced that something is wrong, maybe because I'm expecting it to go wrong after the last couple of times? I've been temping obsessively and doing the clear blue tests to check Im still 3plus! I actually feel like I'm losing it! Please tell me I'm not the only one that has this after a loss?

I've booked a scan on wednesday, but I'm also petrified of what they will say.

@Bdbel

Hi ladies, can I join? I've been in other chats but seeing this one I think I can relate more. I'm 6 weeks 1 day... I've had 2 previous miscarriages and I'm 43.

Last mc I was told it would be my age... which is true in fairness, but I feel like the ancient foe this one is taking over. I don't have symptoms, apart from sore boobs and my bloating has gone down. In my head I'm convinced that something is wrong, maybe because I'm expecting it to go wrong after the last couple of times? I've been temping obsessively and doing the clear blue tests to check Im still 3plus! I actually feel like I'm losing it! Please tell me I'm not the only one that has this after a loss?

I've booked a scan on wednesday, but I'm also petrified of what they will say.

The anxiety for this one... not ancient! Should have checked predictive

Sorry for your losses. I don't know if it helps at all but I'm exactly the same. When I think about our scan on Wednesday, I have difficulty imagining it going well and I can't stop my mind from wandering to what will happen next and if we'll try again etc etc when in reality so far as I know everything is fine and I've no reason to suspect otherwise (other than my previous losses, obviously.) The only thing that really helps is keeping myself incredibly busy and not really leaving myself much time to think but obviously that's not possible all the time and I'm pretty exhausted!

@Peachi82 I am very sorry to hear you are feeling this way and I think you can definitely contact your midwife or perhaps call your GP and seek help.

You could also get in touch with the help line of the miscarriage association, they also support women going through a new pregnancy after miscarriage.

www.miscarriageassociation.org.uk/how-we-help/

I completely understand how you are feeling and speaking with my counsellor is the only thing that really works for me.

I have never had counselling before, but a month after MC I started speaking with a counsellor weekly and she has helped me massively to cope with my feelings of guilt towards the baby I lost and anxiety about this new pregnancy.

Your GP or midwife should be able to refer you or you could to get in touch with a charity. I know waiting lists are quite long, but is worth trying!

Take care of yourself xx

@ButtercupBlue your symptoms are very similar to mine, I just wish my nausea would settle too, but I am still feeling very nauseous and sick at 12w. It’s exhausting!

I hope everything goes well with your scan, you’re right is so hard to stay positive after experiencing a loss.

I have got my 12w scan this Friday afternoon and I am very nervous, I keep thinking that they will find something wrong with the baby.

Hi,

Can I join too please?

I've only just found out I'm pregnant - I'm 3 weeks 5 days, so it's all very new.

I've had 2 previous miscarriages - one in Sep 2020 and one in December 2017. Both were mmc discovered at 12 week scans. I had a successful pregnancy in 2018 and my little girl is now 2 1/2.

I feel really anxious about this pregnancy - especially as the September mc was traumatic due to covid - I had to have a d&c and all scans etc alone.

Were / are any of you on any medications at this point? My discharge letter after my mc says that I should be taking aspirin and progesterone pessaries as early as possible. But then, Dr Google seems to suggest that they don't make much difference at this point. Has anyone got any experience they could share?

Hi can I join please. I’m 20 weeks pregnant and have my 30 week scan tomorrow. I’m anxious and nervous and sick. My last baby we found out had no heartbeat at our 20 week scan, no problems at all until my world crashed 😢. That was august 2019. I haven’t really felt much movement so I have everything crossed that everything will be ok this time 🤞

Can I join please? I had a mmc in January. It was found at my 12 week scan after previously seeing a heartbeat at 6+5. I’m currently 6+3 by LMP. I had a scan last week at 5+3 due to spotting and they saw a small sac but nothing else. They won’t rescan me unless the spotting continues because they are really strict at my EPU and said what they saw matched with my dates, and even then they wouldn’t do it until 2 weeks after last scan. I’ve started to feel a bit more “off” today but so far my symptoms are now where near as severe as what they were with my mmc pregnancy at this point. Partner doesn’t see the point in getting a private scan as that’s what we did last time and it ended up giving us false hope. I’d rather try and get another one at EPU if I can, is it wrong to tell a white lie and say I’ve continued spotting? (It seems to have eased off a bit over past few days, hope ive not jinxed myself there!)

Hi all, I've been away from MN for a while but wanted to check back in and see how everyone is doing.

@ButtercupBlue @Greenluce @wag1987 so happy to hear you've had positive scans so far, I hope any you've had more recently or are upcoming will also be fine. Sorry to hear people are feeling unwell though, hopefully you'll come out of it in the second tri.

@Peachi82 miscarriage is such a complex thing, everyone reacts differently and there is so much at play emotionally, psychologically and physically... I can understand why you still feel connected to the baby you lost. Could you try to find some grief counselling to try and help you deal with those feelings? If you are able to address some of that it may help you become more excited about your new pregnancy?

@Bdbel I don't know if this will help you at all, but I've had next to no symptoms in either pregnancy - neither the one I miscarried or my current one and I'm now 19w+. I was worried the lack of symptoms was a bad sign but it doesn't have to be. Much easier said than done but try not to worry too much symptom wise if you're not bleeding or in pain etc. Of course do get any concerns checked out though.

@bumpyknuckles sorry I don't have advice re: meds but hopefully someone else will have some knowledge on that!

@Room4onemore very best of luck for today, please let us know how it goes. That sounds heartbreaking about your MC at the 20 week scan, I'm so sorry you experienced that ❤️

Hey @MeganChar1 I remember you from the earlier MC threads, congratulations on your new pregnancy! As I've mentioned my symptoms in this pregnancy have been almost non existent and I'm at 19w now so lack of symptoms isn't a definite bad sign. With your first MC do you know how many weeks the baby was when they stopped developing? Maybe you could book a scan for a bit later when the odds of MC have gone down? I know it's so difficult not knowing what's going on, I've felt a bit crazy throughout this whole thing 😂

Also just an update on my end in case helpful for others, I had my anatomy scan yesterday and 19+3 and it was fine, thankfully! We found out we're having a boy, I wanted a girl so wanted to find out. I'm coming round to the idea of a baby boy though...

@AlbiMix thank you, I have my fingers and toes and everything crossed for this time

Hi ladies. Sorry to have to drop by with sad news but we had our scan this morning and it's another mmc for me. No heartbeat and baby measuring about 9 weeks (I'm 9w4d today) so roughly same time as I miscarried both times last year. We're up at the hospital tomorrow to talk about the next steps.

I just wanted to say thanks for all the support and wishing you all the best for your pregnancies x

@ButtercupBlue I'm so so sorry. So unfair after two last year already. Take care of yourself, lots of love x

@ButtercupBlue I am so sorry ❤️❤️