December babies 2021! Thread 3

[Horehound]

Following in from 1 and 2. :)

@Lillygolightly that is brilliant news!!

@TakeYourFinalPosition I wouldn't worry if you can't eat for a few days, just try keep your fluids up. It won't hurt baby for just a few days, baby will take all it needs from your stockpile

I've just weighed myself and 0.5kg lighter than 5 days ago, same weight as 5 May. Not worried at all though, I was over eating lots for nausea and calmed it down on the biscuit front. Prob more where I actually should be for 9+4 now (0.6kg up on pre pregnancy weight)

@Lillygolightly that’s wonderful news sooo relieved to hear that your beans are doing well. That’s made the start to my weekend

@Em39ma best of luck with your scan today

@TakeYourFinalPosition I would worry about what you aren’t eating they need very little at this stage just stay hydrated. This is what most mums with HG have to do in the first trimester. Feel better soon

@TakeYourFinalPosition

I wouldn’t worry too much, I have taken Imodium in pregnancy previously due to IBS, it’s not recommended but sometimes doctors do prescribe it even in pregnancy. Just try and keep your fluids up that’s most important, don’t worry too much about what you can or can’t eat for now. I hope you feel better soon. X

I made a silly mistake yesterday and took my prenatal vitamin right before I ate my breakfast. I totally forgot that I should wait until after breakfast to take it and so my crumpet and probably my prenatal vitamin made a quick and gross reappearance.

DH decided it was time to tell our DC yesterday, I wasn’t going to say anything for a good few weeks yet but he unexpectedly let the cat out of the bag. I ended up having to have a very delicate conversation with them about the pregnancy, and the long road ahead. I really didn’t want to worry them this early (they know about the loss of our boy at 18 weeks) as I’m so worried myself and whilst it’s lovely news to share there is a very long way to go and I wanted to protect them from all the worry until things were a bit more certain. Like me they are now nervously excited, well apart from the 3 year old....she doesn’t have a clue what’s going on as she doesn’t understand yet.

How is everyone else doing today? X

Everything went really well. They think was a twin pregnancy, but only one developed. I’m good with just one.
Now to hope everything stay ok.

@Em39ma pleased it went well! 💕 Xx

Anyone else's symptoms starting to ease off a little?

I'm 11+2 now and the nausea has pretty much gone and I don't feel as 'pregnant' as I did a couple of weeks ago. Which I know is often normal but I can't help but worry.

I saw this baby with a good heartbeat at 8 weeks which was reassuring but I also had a MC at 11+5 a few months ago so as I'm coming towards that 'milestone' I'm feeling more anxious.

Counting the days til my 12 week scan in 10 days time!

Well told the in laws. DH was telling them all happy, they went can we interrupt. Can you come over next week and help fit a new garden gate.
DH was flabbergasted and said did you listen to what I just said.
Well yes, but we need you to do the gate.
I give up with them, taken there entitlement to new levels.

@Em39ma

Well told the in laws. DH was telling them all happy, they went can we interrupt. Can you come over next week and help fit a new garden gate. DH was flabbergasted and said did you listen to what I just said. Well yes, but we need you to do the gate. I give up with them, taken there entitlement to new levels.

Wow that's crazy. My mil said "that means they had sex" to FIL and "can you make it a black baby please cause I like black babies" I was like

Nothing queerer thank folk.

@Horehound well only if one of you is !!?
Why are in laws so weird. My DH can spend all day everyday with my parents and they get on brilliantly. I can barely last a hour before wanting to slap one of them silly.
My FIL moans because our nephew is autistic and he thinks he’s just rude, how I have turn around and said actually he’s just like you, I don’t know.

@Em39ma neither of us are!

Yep my DH and my parents get on great. My in laws are a few hours away so we stay with them or they stay with us. I find it tiring!

@Horehound our live about 20 miles away
I couldn’t stay with them, they don’t believe in allergies and I have lots. They would try and give me something I’m allergic to just see if I had an reaction.
They also haven’t really been socially distanting so I won’t take DD over there.
There one last week was now they are both jabbed they can’t give COVID to anyone so they can do as they like.
They are very intelligent people, but apparently also a bit dim. We try to explain it to them but they only listen to themselves.

[quote Em39ma]@Horehound our live about 20 miles away
I couldn’t stay with them, they don’t believe in allergies and I have lots. They would try and give me something I’m allergic to just see if I had an reaction.
They also haven’t really been socially distanting so I won’t take DD over there.
There one last week was now they are both jabbed they can’t give COVID to anyone so they can do as they like.
They are very intelligent people, but apparently also a bit dim. We try to explain it to them but they only listen to themselves.[/quote]
Yes they sound very selfish!

Got my 12 week scan letter today. 4th June, I'll be 12+3, NHS have me down as 13 then.

Happy for that, sad still no update on my positive toxoplasmosis

We're in the Midlands, my dad lives 130 miles south (mum died 7yrs ago), one bro local to my dad, other bro about 130 miles north in Yorkshire. Best mate in Berlin.. Only one friend has a small child, one a 10yr old step son, the rest don't want any

My partner is French and his parents are in Britanny and they don't speak English, my French is limited so I always feel low when visiting them! I'm dreading if they want to visit when baby is small tbh!

I know it will be tough not having any local family.

We still haven't told anyone in our families yet - I'm quite nervous about it to be honest.

My other half seems to be finally getting his head around the news which has helped me to relax a lot more.

Think we are going to tell our parents on bank holiday weekend.... I've bought some little Christmas boots to wrap up as a little surprise, saw them and thought they were cute!!

I like reading all of your stories about how people have reacted :)

@climbershell it is hard if you don’t have anyone local, but you get todo as you like without all the advice!
I’ve been a nanny for 20+ years and have looked more babies than the most. Everyone still thought they would tell how to do it.
I just went ok and would walk away.
We only told them now as felt guilty as we are living with my parents at the moment, so they have known since we found out.
We won’t bother to tell them things from now on.

@Em39ma tbh they do sound horrible and I wouldn't want to tell them much or be around them much!

I'm looking forward to telling my dad next weekend and my auntie/uncle, cousins. After telling my dad I'll tell some of my friends. Need to soon anyway as next time me & OH want a day climbing we'll need a third as I won't lead climb or lead belay anymore as baby less protected from week 10 on. Will likely change my harness to a full body one in a few weeks too, so be obvious to everyone else

@Sair44411 super cute! Might ask my auntie to make some like that! We just got plain white newborn socks for our parents, only cute coz of how small they are! 😍

First time posting here. Today we told most of our family (we both have very big families) and I just feel very overwhelmed. Is this normal? I know our baby is loved so much already but it's really made me anxious to think of how busy and chaotic life may be once baby is here with having so much family to visit etc.

I suffer with low mood anyway and have spoken to my midwife about it with little outcome. I'm just worried I'm getting myself into a dark hole which I won't be able to come out of. Not sure the last time I genuinely smiled. Pregnancy hormones or not, being this miserable is tiring!! 😂

Hopefully over the next couple of weeks I will begin to feel better in myself and have more of a connection to baby too.

Morning,
Out of curiosity has anyone been experiencing round ligament pain? It seems like it's more common to start in the 2nd trimester but I do get these instant lower ab muscle pains when I sneeze (usually when I'm in bed, lying down) and when rolling around in bed. Doesn't seem to be during the day when standing or general day to day activities, I just seem to notice it in bed. I wouldn't say it's enjoyable anyway.
I'm enjoying all the happy scan stories at the moment. It's all very exciting!
Also I love those reindeer booties. I normally crochet baby loafer style booties but I feel these are a must for December.

Morning all 😊
We told DH's parents on Friday and my family yesterday and the excitement was great! Its the first grandchildren for my in-laws and we live only 15 mins from them and the are like a second family to me. They are super excited and my mam whose other grandchild is 18 this year is over the moon. Both of my brothers have partners who are only children so I'm gonna make a big deal of the auntie card with them as neither me or DH have sisters and the partners are both lovely so I'm delighted to have them as auntie's to the baby and its a first for them. It was a tiring wknd as was nervous telling everyone but they are all so happy 😊

@gemstar123 I think feeling overwhelmed is a common feeling. And a bit of omg what am I doing? Lol
Please push your midwife on how you're feeling though and please please raise it to her if you feel low after giving birth. Im pretty certain I have/had PND and I just kept quiet and honestly I think I made things worse for myself. So reach out for help if you feel not quite right ok?

@Arb108 no pain for me yet but I'm on pregnancy 2 so I think I'm stretched out a bit already hehe

@Cuddles21 aw that's so sweet. Your baby is going to be doted on hehe.

Well I'm here to have a moan. It's my son's 2nd birthday in August and MIL was asking how tall he is. I said wasn't sure but would measure and asked if it was for clothes. She said no she wasn't telling. Ok fine. Then I realised they always make/build stuff for him so I told her now we have moved house we don't have the space we used to have. She said don't worry it'll just take up a tiny space.
I've since found out it's a 3ft by 3ft circular teepee.. we don't have the room! Even more annoyingly she asked DH about it like ok do you have the space? And he said we might be a bit of a queeze but can bring it up and we can see.
NO. We definitely do not have the space ffs. He just cannot say no to her on case she's sad ffs. But I'm pissed off she's ignores me and ploughed on ahead with this thing anyway.
Arghhg
Also they are coming in two weeks and sound alike they're bringing it up with them now when his bday isn't until August?! And we will see them between now and then so it's just another thing annoying me we have to store this thing for three fucking months as well. We have no storage space!! Fuck sake.
Rant over.

@Horehound I know exactly where you are coming from.
We are buying a house opposite my parents but the first thing we have to do is convert the garage into a downstairs toilet and utility room and to start with we don’t a shed either. Everyone keeps giving us bits there kids have grown out of, great but we don’t have any where to put it.
All our stuff is in storage and now I’m pregnant I’m not going to be able to do all the decorating myself.

@Em39ma I am pleased your scan went well. Shame about your in laws response maybe they will get more excited as your pregnancy progresses? Families are funny things.

I told my mum and siblings and they are very excited get regular phone calls to check up on me which is cute. We are leaving the twins surprise until after our 12 week scan in 2.5wk it’s been hard to not let slip. Telling in laws when we visit in a week or so as wanted to tell them in person. @Sair44411 love the reindeer booties might pinch your idea. Jealous of those who can crochet or who have family that can.

@Arb108 I have started feeling some ligament pain and do already have a bump which DP was delighted to point out last week. I find it helps if you can bring your knees/fetal position when you sneeze.

@gemstar123 it’s very normal I have days where I am excited and others terrified wondering how we will cope with two and will I ever be able to leave the house....do keep speaking to your midwife about it to make sure your concerns are heard.

I am irritated for you @Horehound. We have just bought a house and as we are not moving for sometime hoping it means everyone will hold everything they would like to donate for now as we don’t have the space

@Em39ma yup we have had toys etc from my aunt and uncles boys and it's great but by Jove it takes up space. Fine in our hold house, it was huge and tonnes of cupboard etc. This house has no wardrobes at all! So we need to change some things around put in ensuite in, get built in storage done. We do have a Double garage at least but that's currently half full of stuff! But I'm annoyed she just hasn't listened. And then she said to him well if it doesn't fit it can go to grans (my mum and dad's!) Er NO!

@Cumspe omg if you can keep it quiet to the birth it would be amazing! Have you seen the video where a couple do just that and they video the families reactions? It's so good!

Yes, it's very irritating! And in also frustrated that I had messaged her to say ok but keep it small which was on the direction of my husband. And then she messaged him directly to tell him what it was and how big it is. He hasn't actually told me I saw the message pop up in his phone and I've kept quiet. So I'm also waiting to see if he actually tells me. I suspect not because he knows I'll not be happy about it.
I guess we can keep it in the garage and put it out on sunny days maybe? But what a faff.

@Arb108 yes I've been getting that when I sneeze in bed. Only happens if I'm lying on my back so if I feel a sneeze coming on I roll onto my side and curl up my knees