December babies 2021! Thread 3

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Following in from 1 and 2. :)

@Em39ma that sounds awful! I hope the sickness eases for you soon.

Had my booking appointment this morning and was told I'm overweight I'm a size 10 and don't think I'm an unhealthy weight which is probably oversimplifying things but the BMI calculator can do one, if my body wants carbs it's getting them while it's all I can stomach!

@flowersatthecastle if you're overweight at a size 10 my bmi will be off the charts 😂 I'm way bigger than that and dread listening to them about my weight 🙈 I was overweight in my last pregnancy too but tbf it only got brought up again cause I had to go for the GTT and then cause of GD I actually lost 2 and a half stone while pregnant lol

@flowersatthecastle if you are overweight they will have a heyday with me, I’m a size 16.
My sickness will ease only when I give and take my tablets. Being a careful as took the straight away last time and had my second miscarriage. I know it probably didn’t have anything to do with it, but in my mind it did.

That's ridiculous. The NHS BMI system is so outdated it actually infuriates me. No wonder people have eating disorders. I'm an 18-20 and I'm just waiting the pep talk. I'm 5"8 aswell but they never take into count height just width.

Hi everyone, just went for my scan this morning after blood on wiping yesterday which has now settled. Unfortunately they couldn't see anything on the scan, and it's not clear if that's because it's too early, it's a miscarriage, it's an ectopic or what. They did a urine pregnancy test which was positive and I'm now being treated as a pregnancy of unknown location. Had beta HCG blood test this morning and have another one in 48 hours. If it's rising properly then hopefully it's just too early, if not then I'll just have to ride that out. Feeling a bit numb to it. Hopefully it's just too early (was confused anyway about the dates because I had a 'period' immediately before my BFP)

Happy Friday everyone

Had my scan at the EPU following some spotting at the weekend. It was such a big relief the twins are growing well and I was able to see heartbeats 💓 at 7+4 . I feel sooo much better though the dr seemed surprised that I wasn’t having morning sickness and that my symptoms were minimal but we are all different. So those worried about no symptoms it doesn’t always mean anything just enjoy it. I really feel for those struggling with morning sickness and praying it doesn’t catch up with me.

As DP wasn’t able to come with me I want to book a 9-10 week scan he has been desperate for a family and I feel like he misses out on these moments. Any recommendations?

All the talk of cheeseburgers has got me craving them with gherkins 🤤. It has been an already an hour since I ate something. 🤔

@DarceyCat so sorry they couldn't see anything 😔 hopefully like you say, it's just too early and little bean is just in there hiding somewhere and will show soon! Sending you lots of hugs and hope that all turns out well ❤

@DarceyCat I don’t blame you for feeling numb something like that leaves you in limbo. keeping all crossed for you a lot can change in a few days.

@Cumspe aww that's brilliant news ❤ I'm sure you're relieved after seeing them on the screen 😊 not sure about recommendations regarding booking a scan, I've never booked an early scan with any of mine, always just waited until my 12 weeks, think I'm too afraid after reading all sorts of stories 🙈 but I hope you get sorted, will be lovely for him to see them too ❤ reading all about the burgers has me wanting a mcchicken sandwich with fries stuffed in too for good measure 😂😂

@DarceyCat sorry to hear this happening to you.
I had the same thing happened with my first pregnancy, unfortunately mine was an ectopic and managed to pass out the tube myself.
I really hope yours is a happy ending.

I'm dreading the weight conversation! I'm 5 foot 2 and a size 14....I've put on a fair bit of weight with all the lockdowns!

I'm 2.5 stone heavier than when I had my son 3 years ago.

I think it's also important to keep in mind that despite everyone sharing the ups and downs on here, when we read things instantly take in the negative things more.

I remember when I was early preg with my first I had to take a break from forums and groups as it made me more anxious about what was going on or could happen.

I've little symptoms, and once thay have been up then go down, but I'm trying not to dwell too much.

That's good advice @migmog!

@MigMog I think you are right. I keep focusing on the negatives because so so many people seem to have had MMC or MC and I keep thinking I will too and there seems to be a higher percentage of people having them than don't. I've almost resigned myself to the fact that my baby won't have a heartbeat and I'm miserable. I actually feel really down. I think being on forums can be useful and it's good to speak to people and get advice but when you are really anxious and reading various stories and googling it can make you ten times worse. I'm my own worst enemy!

[quote Hxoxox]@MigMog I think you are right. I keep focusing on the negatives because so so many people seem to have had MMC or MC and I keep thinking I will too and there seems to be a higher percentage of people having them than don't. I've almost resigned myself to the fact that my baby won't have a heartbeat and I'm miserable. I actually feel really down. I think being on forums can be useful and it's good to speak to people and get advice but when you are really anxious and reading various stories and googling it can make you ten times worse. I'm my own worst enemy! [/quote]
Yes! All of this.
I found myself googling MC stats the other day and had to give myself a telling off.

I think its first chunk when there are no visible signs of a bump or those prods from inside you almost can feel not pregnant. And media makes us all feel like if your preg you have morning sickness too. And on top of those hormones are going crackers and sending anxiety off the scale.

It's such a hard few weeks like.

We need to all be gentle on ourselves and enjoy these gentle symtomless days before it all just kicks off properly. Haha

@MigMog

Absolutely! I have googled everything I can think of! I have my scan on Sunday so will find out either way hopefully as I should be 7 weeks even if I'm a few days earlier people have had heartbeats from a 6 week scan. All my friends have children and literally just pop them out. I've wanted this for a very long time and I just keep feeling it will never happen I'm not that lucky and something will go bad! I need a good talking to! I have told a single person about my pregnancy yet just obv my DP. I think if I told one of my friends I'd feel better but don't want to tempt fate and we agreed we would tell no one until 10 weeks. How far on are you? Have you been feeling ok? X

@MigMog I totally get you! I never joined any forums with my first 2 and never really thought much about anything just waited until my 12 week scan, but sometimes reading things I'm like, am I having enough symptoms? Should I book an early scan too? Deffo more anxious this 3rd time round! But on the flip side I absolutely love the forums too because they make me feel like I'm not losing my mind and everything is normal and everyone is so supportive with great advice ❤

@Hxoxox so sorry you're feeling so down ❤ lots of hugs sent your way! Positive thoughts and vibes that you're little bean is in there growing strong ❤

[quote Hxoxox]@MigMog

Absolutely! I have googled everything I can think of! I have my scan on Sunday so will find out either way hopefully as I should be 7 weeks even if I'm a few days earlier people have had heartbeats from a 6 week scan. All my friends have children and literally just pop them out. I've wanted this for a very long time and I just keep feeling it will never happen I'm not that lucky and something will go bad! I need a good talking to! I have told a single person about my pregnancy yet just obv my DP. I think if I told one of my friends I'd feel better but don't want to tempt fate and we agreed we would tell no one until 10 weeks. How far on are you? Have you been feeling ok? X[/quote]
I'm 5 and 5 i think. Last week I was exhausted and starving all the time. This week I'm not. But...I had a stomach bug early that weeks, so that's why!

Sore boobs. Cramping now and again. Clearer skin. That's about it. I never got sick with my first.

It took me a long time to have my first so j know those feelings of waiting so long. It's hard.

[quote Mumofboys20122017]@MigMog I totally get you! I never joined any forums with my first 2 and never really thought much about anything just waited until my 12 week scan, but sometimes reading things I'm like, am I having enough symptoms? Should I book an early scan too? Deffo more anxious this 3rd time round! But on the flip side I absolutely love the forums too because they make me feel like I'm not losing my mind and everything is normal and everyone is so supportive with great advice ❤

@Hxoxox so sorry you're feeling so down ❤ lots of hugs sent your way! Positive thoughts and vibes that you're little bean is in there growing strong ❤[/quote]
They are great. I'm part of this amazing group of mums from my first. We met on here and made this amazing supportive Facebook group. It got me through so much of pregnancy and toddler life.

This is the Facebook group for here :) www.facebook.com/groups/2911182022535380/?ref=share

Hi all,

I’m mostly a lurker here but thought my recent experience may give others some hope. I am 6+5 and have had one sided pain and bleeding( brown coffee granule type) for the last 2 days. Went to the EPU this morning for a scan and there is a baby (more like a spine!) measuring 3.9mm with a heartbeat! Wishing all those in a similar position the best of luck.

@Hxoxox I'm the same. My friends seemed to effortlessly have kids... I'm the last, and although I know they'd be lovely, I can't bring myself to tell them yet. Just me and DH know. We're planning to tell people at 10 weeks if things go well, as it's DH's birthday and he's so excited.

@DarceyCat I just wanted to say that I'm thinking of you. It's taken me until today to calm down a bit from my scan, and it sounds like yours was a lot rougher. I spent hours googling HCG levels and things, but nothing really helped. to you.

@MigMog I needed that reminder today, thank you. You're right there, my search history from the last two weeks has been bizarre, and my default response to anything is that something has gone wrong... I'm going to work on that!

@MigMog such wise words. I’ve been suffering with anxiety the last few days and it’s driven me mad. I think stepping away and focusing on the right here and now is important, and I’m reminding myself I had a healthy pregnancy last time, and there is no reason why I shouldn’t this time. The mind can be so dangerous!

@DarceyCat sorry for the uncertainty!

Omg I just had a shower and I suddenly can't see my foo foo because of my belly! I'm athletic, so that's a first for me! 😆😮

I'm still going through stages of feeling so sick i don't want to eat at all, tho being starving so munching on the gingernut biscuits, to still feeling queasy but eating a mini pizza 😆 it's so unlike me to eat junk. I guess at least my calories out v in and nearly on an even keep, better eating junk than hardly eating I guess... 🤷‍♀️

@Hxoxox I was feeling exactly the same as you about mc and mmc today! Properly panicking because of all the stories online (what happened to the taboo of discussing it?).

Decided to try and shove all that aside now! Have read the info. Am aware. Firmly. Moving. On.

Finally took the plunge this afternoon and booked an early scan for mid-May (when I should be 8+2 according to my calculations). It's felt totally like jinxing it. But also, it has to be done, or the appointment slots will be gone! So I made sure I can get my deposit back in worst case scenario... and just did it.