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[Daffodil21]

Support thread for pregnancy after loss @HalGem99 @treesall

And anyone else...

I know you're right. I just can't help but compare this to my mmc. My successful pregnancy I had sore boobs from the very beginning.

It's at 10.15 so not too long to wait thankfully.

Sorry you're struggling @HalGem99. The sickness is truly awful. Hope it passes for you soon xx

@treesall will be thinking of you. Let us know how it goes xxx

@HalGem99 sorry to read you're struggling so much with sickness

Thinking of you @treesall x

Bad news sadly. Measuring only 5 weeks and no embryo. Back in a week to confirm the miscarriage but I know how this ends. Been there, done that and got the T-shirt! X

@treesall I am so very sorry. I really hoped this would work out ok for you ❤️

@treesall I am gutted for you! Did they give any hope at all? Xx

They tried to be positive about it (probably because she knew I was trying very hard not to cry). If I were 5 weeks then it would have been a good scan, but I just don't think there's any chance that's possible.

Thank you so much for your support, I'm super grateful xx

@treesall are you certain of your ovulation dates?

@Daffodil21 sadly yes - or as sure as I can be through OPKs.

LMP 24/01
Ovulation 10/02
Positive test 20/02

I am really worried my previous mmc is going to repeat itself. The sac kept growing but the embryo didn't, so it took about 3 weeks before they would agree it was a mc, even though I knew.

Although it's a bit of a shock and it's sad, I've found it much easier when I just start bleeding. At least then my body is resolving it by itself.

Anyway, I'm sorry for the negative updates! This has been such a lovely positive thread until I ruined it! X

@treesall don't be silly! You haven't ruined the thread at all. This is exactly what we're here for.

Being in limbo is the absolute worst. I hope if it does go how you expect then it doesn't drag out too much. But still hoping it catches up with itself, I have read of that happening before. Keep us posted xxx

@treesall I have just had a quick look on Mumsnet and there's so many stories of scans at 6 weeks, one even 6.5 weeks in the same position as you. So there is still hope! If it was me I would obviously prepare myself for the worst but still try to hold onto a bit of hope at least as it's not over yet? Xx

@treesall could you have some HCG blood tests done so you haven't got to be in
limbo?

Thanks @HalGem99 for looking, that is sweet of you. Whilst I know there are success stories, given my recent history I am 100% certain there's no hope. My gut instinct is very strong. I think if I didn't know when I'd ovulated I might feel a bit of hope but I've tracked my cycles so closely in the last few months and there's clearly a problem given I can't get to 6weeks.

@Daffodil21 they don't offer hcg testing at my EPU unless they feel it's necessary. Although it's a crude way of guessing, I would assume my hcg levels are still rising, as my tests have still been looking darker each day. This happened with the first mmc too. The sac kept on growing and growing but the embryo didn't.

Thanks so much for being there ladies x

@treesall ah in my experience it was accurate (for a failing pregnancy, and a not failing pregnanch) but yeah if it doesn't give you answers then it's not worth putting yourself through.

I'm so sorry you're having to go through this all again ❤️

@treesall I'm just came across this thread and thought you might like to read it. Some of the comments are similar to your situation but with positive outcomes later on. Don't give up hope yet ❤️

Help!! Early viability scans showed baby measured the same a week apart but had a strong heartbeat both times www.mumsnet.com/Talk/pregnancy/4184239-Help-Early-viability-scans-showed-baby-measured-the-same-a-week-apart-but-had-a-strong-heartbeat-both-times

Aw thanks for thinking of me @Daffodil21

Sadly I think because of my dates and the fact there was no embryo I don't have even a tiny hint of hope. If there had been an embryo and just no heartbeat yet then I would have held out a tiny bit of hope but sadly there isn't any!

I'm just stressing about the mc process now, I want it to hurry up and happen so that I don't have to have any intervention.

On a much happier note, how are you? x

@treesall the comment from Molly might be helpful. You can spend hours reading other people's experiences though, everyone's is different. What a shitty situation for you.

Tbh I'm starting to worry again. Have a scan booked for Monday and then NHS anomaly one on 25th but contemplating moving Monday's scan to Friday and then just booking another the following week. I know that sounds excessive though 🤷‍♀️

Thank you.

To be honest, the sense of fear and uncertainty is so hard. Some people may think it's crazy to keep having scans, but I would just do whatever makes you feel reassured, and if that means moving it to Friday then that's what I'd do!

I'm sure the right advice is that having scans doesn't change the outcome and will only make you feel happy for a short while, and that you need to try to relax etc etc - which is true - but In your shoes I'm sure I'd be doing exactly the same thing! X

@treesall I feel a little crazy tbh! Having scans means that I intermittently know that everything is ok every week or two, if I didn't have them then I would be thinking it wasn't for weeks on end which isn't healthy. I never thought pregnancy would feel like this

@treesall I really feel for you.

@Daffodil21 I am in the same position as you. Had my scan Friday then as of yesterday worrying again and also worrying about the test results! I've got the Midwife on 26th march then the anomaly scan on 26th April but I think I need to book a private scan for next weekend maybe!

My headaches have finally stopped but was up all night again nibbling on bloody crackers with nausea! I am so fed up of feeling so ill but also so fed up of feeling anxious about everything! My mum keeps saying sickness etc is a good thing but she doesn't understand that people still have symptoms even with a missed miscarriage so it doesn't put my mind to rest! I hate to say this but pregnancy is not what I thought it would be and I'm wishing the next 6 months away. It's just not exciting in the slightest.

@HalGem99 I'm wishing the months away until august as well. I hate feeling on edge the whole time. I have changed my scan for Friday, so I'll have that one then I'll book one the following week and the anomaly scan the week after. I wish I could feel movement but nothing yet. I was feeling twitching and stretching he before, but now nothing. Heard the heart beat on friday, but like you the reassurance has worn off already.

Glad your headaches have stopped (I've had one all day that I can't shift!) but sorry your nausea is still so horrible.

I'm feeling so unproductive at work atm. Thankfully wfh still. All I want to do is curl up for the afternoon but will try and drag myself through it!

Just book scans when you need them. I know it feels excessive but if it gets you through then so be it

@Daffodil21 when is your due date? Mines 7th September. I'm actually getting a lot done work wise as I try to catch up on everything and work through it quickly when I feel ok! Although seeing clients throughout the day and wearing a mask can be too much when I feel sick! Lol but work have been fantastic, basically told me at my risk assessment yesterday to come and go when I please and work round the sickness instead of taking time off sick xx

@HalGem99 glad your work are being understanding. I've taken 2 days off sick so far and my boss has been a bit huffy about it. My due date is 12th August. I'm (hopefully) 18 weeks tomorrow

I've just had the results back for the down syndrome testing etc. All clear! Such a relief xx