Refused Antenatal Scans - Help

[MotherHubbard2020]

NC for this as it is pretty embarrassing.

Anyway, I attended my 12 week scan yesterday at the hospital and was accompanied by my exclusively breastfed baby.

I was refused the scan based on me having a child with me, I asked them to use discretion as my son is exclusively breastfed but the lady was completely dismissive and said it was policy. No children allowed to accompany mum for the unltrasound.

I tried to argue my case asking what the reasoning was, please use discretion and then explained that they had a duty of care and were now refusing my care based on me bringing an exclusively breastfed baby to the appointment. They argued that I had refused my own care as I could’ve left the baby. It got to the point where I asked them to make a note on my record that I had been refused entry to my scan based on me being accompanied by an exclusively breastfed baby. At this point I think the manager panicked and she told a colleague to call security.

As soon as I saw security walking towards me I just left.

Well today I attended my midwifery appointment, the midwife explained they couldn’t do much without the scan information but said the scan department was now refusing to scan me and an incident report had been logged, if I want access to this I need to file a freedom of information request.

I am totally at a loss, I have no idea how far gone I am because I am still breastfeeding and my menstrual cycles have been all over the place plus I’ve started having pain on my lower left side which I explained to my midwife today who advised A and E if it got any worse but explained that the ultrasound department at that hospital are refusing to deal with me so she doesn’t know what would happen.

I am totally at a loss, I have an immediate family member who is a consultant obstetrician but am reluctant to get them involved yet. Any suggestions?

It's not new policy. The policy was the same 18 months ago. They aren't a place for children.

@Mummyof2Terrors

It's not new policy. The policy was the same 18 months ago. They aren't a place for children.

So you know the policies and procedures for that specific trust? Amazing.

You do know that each trust has their own individual P&P don’t you?

I think you’d be shocked at how many people bring children to ultrasound scans as they see trans abdominal scans as non invasive.

TurquoiseDragon if you could link to the post where OP said she knew she wasn’t allowed to take children I’ll hold my hands up, I’ve missed that post.

Being able to leave one child with child care is different to being able to leave two children with childcare, some people just don’t want to look after two kids.

Also I’m fully aware that NHS have different P&P per site. But the NHS is a machine - one in one out. They don’t really give a fuck about personal opinions. If you want that go private.

I’m impressed this thread is still going on. Moral of the story OP is it isn’t all about you. You might think it is but it really isn’t. The staff are busy professionals, part of their remit isn’t caring for your child as you chose to bring them with you. They are doing the job they are paid for and most likely are short staffed and busy. Not sure why you’re being so whiny, when l go to scans then l never ever get any good news I turn up, do what l need to do and do as lm told, the last appointment the sonogram struggled to see what she needed to see. Meanwhile l was quiet and let her concentrate on what she needed to do

@EL8888

I’m impressed this thread is still going on. Moral of the story OP is it isn’t all about you. You might think it is but it really isn’t. The staff are busy professionals, part of their remit isn’t caring for your child as you chose to bring them with you. They are doing the job they are paid for and most likely are short staffed and busy. Not sure why you’re being so whiny, when l go to scans then l never ever get any good news I turn up, do what l need to do and do as lm told, the last appointment the sonogram struggled to see what she needed to see. Meanwhile l was quiet and let her concentrate on what she needed to do

No I think the moral of the story is that women shouldn’t be turned away when attending hospital appointments if they have children in tow. Women often have children in tow.

Ha! I have 4 kids and I afford them by not paying for childcare I don’t need. I have a decent job and work hard at it. I’m not broke but I’m careful with money.

No, I’m not the OP I just empathise with her and have had some awful care as a pregnant woman (along with some fantastic care), so I don’t disbelieve her story.

Some of you lot are hilariously vile and incredibly judgemental.

No I think the moral of the story is that women shouldn’t be turned away when attending hospital appointments if they have children in tow. Women often have children in tow.

@Mummyof2Terrors

Why do I get the feeling that the name change OP is now defending themselves using their normal username...

If your imply that me PLEASE report this to MN.

@Hammonds

TurquoiseDragon if you could link to the post where OP said she knew she wasn’t allowed to take children I’ll hold my hands up, I’ve missed that post.

Being able to leave one child with child care is different to being able to leave two children with childcare, some people just don’t want to look after two kids.

Also I’m fully aware that NHS have different P&P per site. But the NHS is a machine - one in one out. They don’t really give a fuck about personal opinions. If you want that go private.

😂😂😂

The point is people asked the OP if she received this letter yet again the OP ignored this question

If the OP actually responded to the questions, people could stop speculating.

It's likely they did, considering everybody seems to get this letter.

In our ultrasound department, if the OP had turned up with a baby her appointment would be rearranged for another time.
Even if she had kicked off and security had been called, we wouldn't refuse to scan her in the future, so I find that very hard to believe.
If the OP had called her Obstetrician family member to get involved we would probably laugh in their face as they have sod all to do with the organisation of our department.
Children are not allowed in hospitals at all at present unless they are the patient themselves.
By the way, how old is your ebf baby op?

I’m astounded this thread hasn’t been shut down. The OP has clearly changed name and is commenting somewhere in here, either that or the OP was a piss take to stir up a story.

Meanwhile if you dare call it out for being a troll, you are censored by MN.

@Hammonds well, they shouldn’t. My last appointment involved me manoeuvring myself into various position so the sonographer could see what she needed to see. I wouldn’t have been able to hold a baby / child. She was too busy, receptionist looks busy. Do you sense a theme here? Everyone was busy. It’s a MEDICAL appointment, it’s not a trip to the cinema

Does that really give you the right to post messages as you did up thread? Do you know what the definition of a online troll is? You should google it.

Above post was to whiskey

[quote EL8888]@Hammonds well, they shouldn’t. My last appointment involved me manoeuvring myself into various position so the sonographer could see what she needed to see. I wouldn’t have been able to hold a baby / child. She was too busy, receptionist looks busy. Do you sense a theme here? Everyone was busy. It’s a MEDICAL appointment, it’s not a trip to the cinema [/quote]
But your going off your own experience. Most people would take a pram/trolly. Most mothers wouldn’t actually insist on holding their baby whilst having a scan

Also everybody is busy all the time in the NHS.

I’m
Honestly baffled at the amount of people that think scans have always been child free. There is a lot of single mothers out there you know.

@Yoshinori

OP Going back and forth on separate accounts to justify their behaviour

Please do report of you think there is sock puppeting!

[quote EL8888]@Analysethat l completely agree. It’s pretty blatant. But l think we knew from her 1st post, that OP isn’t the sharpest tool in the box[/quote]
Ah lovely. They just keep coming

How old is the baby @MotherHubbard2020 ? I took my 8 month old to my 12 week scan with no problems. She just sat in the pram while I was scanned. This was pre-Covid though so not sure if that makes a difference.

I've literally come back to this thread to see how old the 'baby' is. I'm disappointed. Only slightly though, because some of the responses have made me snort my tea out

Total nonsense

@Hammonds

The internet isn’t positive comments only. If you come on a public forum and tell a story(also asking for peoples opinions) which makes you sound like a complete tit - expect to be told so.

[quote Analysethat]@Hammonds

The internet isn’t positive comments only. If you come on a public forum and tell a story(also asking for peoples opinions) which makes you sound like a complete tit - expect to be told so.[/quote]
Being told or being a troll?