September 2021!

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I’ve created a thread for September 2021 babies in the birth club board. Come and join me if you get those long awaited bfps this month!

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Anybody else get the fear when they think of the financial aspect of things? I know not many can afford to have a child, they just make it work, but I’m tossing up between longer mat leave and going back to earn money, but then the money earnt would be paid to a babysitter while I was working anyway 🤦🏻‍♀️ So much stuff going round in my head atm

@Scaredycat101 I know, I felt awful but knew it would be worth it 😅 and it definitely was - I got it on video too. I literally was like a kid 🙈

Ah cool! Mines basically the same as yours if I go by the nhs website. I had 3 periods before my BFP - cycles were 32, 30 & 32. So if I go with the average of 31 I’m due the 3rd, and 32 would be the 4th Sep too 😊

Yes it is a long wait - I’m going to have to learn how to be patient which I’m not very good at 😅 I did read the other day that if you’re in England they’ve changed the rules about the partner being allowed at scans etc inews.co.uk/news/health/coronavirus-latest-hospitals-gp-maternity-units-partners-allowed-scans-labour-796991

@Scotti84 I’ve been worrying about the financial side too! We know what to expect but it’s hard knowing SMP won’t even cover my expenses let alone then adding a baby to feed and clothe. I’m going to start saving as much as I can and clear all my silly debts and then if needed can take out a credit card nearer the time to cover maternity leave essentials.
What’s your thoughts on how you will manage?

@Rice1992 Aw wow that's great! Mine average between 28-32 so I know it'll be around then but who knows could be overdue yet 😅! I'm the same, terrible at being patient but then I spend my time worrying instead of thinking of the nice things, what a nightmare! 🙄

I'm hoping they do change the rules for us, I can't imagine going through everything alone but will have to if individual units decide against it 😭! One of my close friends had her little one in March 2020, so just as we went into lockdown.

@Scotti84 and @Darklava09 I'm exactly the same! My husband has just got a job as a contractor (he's in communications) and works from home (he's also got loans, etc to pay off), so I'm hoping our wages are still going to cover everything and we can pay off as much as poss whilst saving.

I started savings back in the first lockdown as it was as good a time as any to save money. Worked out I can only take 6 months off realistically, as I'm lucky that my work gives you 4 months full pay then it goes to SMP if you worked there over a year. But you have to return for 3 months after your mat leave ends. So I'm saving for those 2 remaining months and then some!

It's really hard to think of what to do when we go back, believe it or not that (and money) was my main worry when I found out after the BFP! 🙈 I have my in-laws who would help a bit, but a childminder will be a must and how we'd manage around work hours will be a challenge (nurseries are super expensive aren't they! 😭).

@Scaredycat101 yup we won’t be using a nursery this time. Deffo will be getting a childminder as they are much cheaper and I prefer the intimate setting.
That’s good that you get 4months full
Pay. I get 6 weeks and then 4 months half pay plus SMP which isn’t too bad but then the rest is SMP. I’m not rushing back I really want to take the full 9months as this is probably going to be my last so want to savour it!

It’s such a headache working out how long to take off etc. I would try and put it to the back of your mind for now. Saving what you can is a good idea and also remember you can still use your annual leave either end of your Mat leave to make it longer too. I took a year last time and I will again this time. Zero pay is rubbish but it’s amazing how much you save in the first few months being off once you don’t have work costs and also you aren’t socialising as much or spending on clothes! That saved me loads.

@Darklava09 my plans pretty much the same. We have a kitchen to pay off, and a bit on a credit card I’d like to get rid of so we have some back up funds on there.
Mat leave is different over here in Germany, i can take leave from three months before the due date, 6 weeks before is mandatory, with full pay and for two months after. Then for the first 12 months I get 67% of my wages, then I can take another year but with nothing. It’s a good deal in terms of plenty of time, but Kindergarten is so expensive and you have to pay the full day, they don’t do half days. I’m not so keen on the idea of putting the baby in kindergarten 5 days a week so I can work, i guess it’s a bit of an idealistic view, but I’d like to be there as much as possible at least until it’s three or four, and going to work part time would just cover the kindergarten fees so on that aspect I’d be better off staying home. Maybe I’ll win the lottery between now and then! I’m sure we’ll find a way, it is amazing how your outlook changes and things start becoming less important when you realise you’re going to be responsible for a little life.

@Scotti84 wow I did not realise you have to take 6 weeks off before mandatory. I suppose it’s not a bad idea. Would be nice to get organised and spend some time with other children / other half etc before new arrival

Hi everyone, how're you all feeling post Christmas? I'm trying to keep busy but rest at the same time. The tiredness has set in and I'm napping everyday 🙈

@KitQ I can't believe you still have to go alone! I'm glad you've booked a private one together.

@Sparrow91 haven't booked an early one. I'm so torn. Think I'm just going to see how long I can hold out for.

@eb1989 I know! It’s really sad, I’m hoping they do let him come and it’s just strict on the website or rules will change. And I’m also so so tired. Had a fat nap today and I’m also a bit of a grumpy bitch this evening tbh. My poor husband.

Hey everyone! I got my BFP on Christmas Day, then got my BFP on a digital on Boxing Day!
All of my lovely announcement ideas went out of the window when I saw it, I was running around like a headless chicken and shoved it in front of his face saying IS THIS A LINE?!

This is our first, and has come at a really emotional time for us (the day after a death in the family).

Looking at a due date of around the 6th of September. Booked an early scan for the end of Jan (around 8-9 weeks).

Waiting for the doctors to reopen so I can book an appointment with them.

I don't think it's sunk in for me at all yet!

@Ralala yep it’s good on one side, but I’ve been in furlough for so long this year, now I’ll have even more time off! I work in a hotel, mostly on reception but sometimes in the restaurant. That’s not allowed in the last 3 months of pregnancy, to protect the child more than the mother, but I’m hoping I’ll be able to do a few days in the office or something not too physical. I’m happy I don’t have to work atm though, I’m so tired all the time!

Hi all! I'd love to join. We got our bfp on Christmas Eve and I am so excited! Hubby is a little nervous. We've had six losses plus one healthy baby boy who is now 19 months. No symptoms yet but my tests are getting darker and I feel good about this pregnancy. Had awful sickness with my son and trying to enjoy the last few days before 8 months of hourly vomiting!

Congratulations to you all!!! Just found this thread. I got my BFP on 20th and kept it a secret for 5 whole days before telling OH on Christmas Day. This was our first month trying and didn’t think it would happen as were due to get married in 6 weeks. I am 4+3 I will be due 2nd September because I just came off the pill my first cycle was longer than normal so I used OPKs so I know the exact day of conception rather than using my first day of my last period which would make me 2 weeks further on.

I really didn’t expect to see a positive line, I’m still so scared. My OH is completely over the moon and keeps rubbing my belly and saying I still can’t believe you’re pregnant. I haven’t had many symptoms just really sore boobs and maybe 2 minutes a day of burning mild cramps. I’ve been taking magnesium for a while but I’ve read a few people getting prescribed magnesium for cramps during pregnancy.

We haven’t told anyone about our BFP as we’re getting married in lockdown with only 25 of our family members there so we’ve decided this will be the best time to tell them all. I start my new job on 4th too and bricking it incase sickness starts setting in soon.

Hi welcome to everyone joining in!

I just asked my husband ‘will you still love me when I’m fat?’ And then burst into tears so I’m clear totally stable right now...

Hello everyone! Nice to see some new names. Xxx

Hi all, I’d love to join in aswell! I found out on 20th December and am 5+1, I have a 5 year old already and my last 2 pregnancies ended in miscarriage unfortunately so really freaking out this time over analysing everything which is driving me crazy.

I have actually had some brown spotting today which is making me really uneasy thinking this might end up in a miscarriage too and have been googling all day but I’ve read some minor spotting is normal. Please help me see sense please ladies am I freaking out for no reason?! And some advice what to do? The doctors are closed until Tuesday so can’t be referred to EPU until then but the wait and the unknown is killing me - oh should note that my first pregnancy which I carried until full term I did also get spotting around week 10 I think? Ah thank you for reading til the end makes me feel better even just typing it out xx

@Darklava09 I think a childminder would be great as little ones will get time with others and they're a homely environment 🥰! Yep I feel super lucky with where I work, tho yours doesn't sound too bad either! Sounds like a plan, savour ever last minute and take the time off if you can.

@Ralala Definitely good advice, I'll be trying my best to keep all the money anxieties to the back of my head for now. Saving has become quite normal now so will keep putting pennies away ☺️.

@eb1989 Glad you've had a lovely Christmas, especially all the napping! I'm not at the tiredness stage yet but I bet it'll be coming for me soon! 😅 We've had a quiet but restful break so far, trying to get out walking as much as poss after all the food we've I've consumed!

@KitQ Aw sorry to hear you've been feeling rubbish and tired! I'm sure your husband will roll with it when you're dealing with the pregnancy hormones! If I helps I keep asking mine that as well and he now keeps eye rolling back at me, oops! 😬

@Raffie13 @felicityheather and @Luna57 welcome and massive congrats! It's great to hear your news! I think this is going to be such a great support network for us September 2021'ers!

@felicityheather @Luna57 @Raffie13 @DiamondsInThe
Welcome and congratulations! 💕

Hi ladies. Hope you don't mind me hopping on this thread. My husband and i have been trying with no luck for a year. Last month i was diagnosed with pcos and started on meds. Yesterday I got a BFP! Its crazy how shocked you can be about something you're actively trying for! And reading this thread I'm clearly clueless, i didn't know about mayonaise or eggs and childchare hasn't even crossed my mind 😂 Any advice would be greatly appreciated. I'm 3+4, not sure how long I should even wait before contacting my gp 🤷‍♀️

@DiamondsInThe that's what we are hear for - to listen! So sorry to hear about your losses. I had a miscarriage on my last cycle so I feeling anxious like you.

Do you have to be referred to your EPU. My unit you can self refer just by giving them a call. Fingers crossed it's just some implantation bleeding with it being brown old blood.

@2020mc congratulations! I also found out the same time as you at 3+4! They do say to contact as soon as you have a positive test. But whenever you feel ready. They can definitely offer lots of support if you need it so it's worth registering.

@DiamondsInThe Congrats on your BFP! I'm sure the brown spotting is okay as I've read that's quite normal in the first few weeks. Although if it's bright red and getting heavier with any pain then it would be vital to get checked out.

It definitely helps to type out any worries, just to get it out more than anything! Dr Google is also a nightmare as it can make anxieties even worse, but hopefully everything will be okay and this is going the same way as your pregnant with your now 5 year old.

I'm sure some of the ladies on the thread will be super happy to give you some more advice and reassurance. 💛

@2020mc Oh wow congrats on your BFP! Thats amazing news! I was also wondering when to contact a GP or community midwife as I heard contact ASAP (I'm 4+1) but have read others were told to wait until 8 weeks! Argh!

Ahah nooo you're not clueless at all, I'm still finding out stuff which I swear I should have known or had thought about, which my DP is hating as I run in with new info every 5 mins 🤦🏽‍♀️.

Thanks @eb1989. I have pcos so have a higher risk of MC. Ill give my fertility clinic a call tomorrow, they do follow up scans for people who get a positive. I think I'll keep it to my husband and myself until after that scan and then talk to family. 🤞 it all works out. Does anyone know much about covid vaccines and pregnancy? I'm a front line worker and my work have already started about vaccination schedules. I really don't want to tell them before 12 weeks but not sure I'll have a choice. Might have to tell a white lie amd make up another reason 🤷‍♀️ any ideas?