Pregnant After MMC - Thread 4

[Sakura54]

New thread for anyone pregnant after MMC.

Here’s our current list of scan dates and due dates. More to be added soon!

Scan Dates
@RosieJess91 Tuesday 10th November 11:30am (20 week)
@Poppy10121 Tuesday 17th November 9am (20 week)
@Workingmama1 Friday 20th November 9am (20 week)
@Lu93 Friday 20th November 10:20 (20 week)
@Pugprincess Monday 30th November 3pm (20 week)
@bubblybon20 Monday 7th December 9am (28 week)
@lollol86 Friday 11th December 11am (20 week)
@JoJo58995 Monday 14th December

Due Dates
@bubblybon20 - 27/02/21 BOY
@Sakura54 - 28/02/21 GIRL
@DanceM1 - 04/03/21 SURPRISE
@ew1990 - 12/03/21 GIRL
@SkyBlue20 - 13/03/21 GIRL
@smileyT - 15/03/21 BOY
@Dipsy77 - 15/03/21 TWIN GIRLS
@PhotoMum4 - 18/03/21
@RosieJess91 - 31/03/21
@Poppy10121 - 04/04/21 BOY
@Workingmama1 - 09/04/21 BOY
@Lu93 - 11/04/21
@Pugprincess - 17/04/21 SURPRISE
@lollol86 - 25/04/21
@JoJo58995 - 02/05/21

@ew1990 Sounds like what I was saying when DS started in September. I still see him as my baby too. How was she at drop off? Schools are shut where I am, but I’m letting him go back to nursery. Like I’ve said before, I do take CV seriously and its probably not the best idea, but he’s been off for a whole month, I feel sorry for him and soon his world is going to be turned upside down when baby comes and gets lots of attention!

@Threnody Congrats! I know what you mean. I’ll have one of each so am hoping my brother’s new baby will be a girl lol.

When did you have your ELCS? Do they give much options for dates? I won’t be given a date until my consultant appt in a month’s time where I’ll be practically ready to pop. Would’ve liked to have known more in advance but they can’t give me an earlier appt. I read that it’s better to go into labour first as it means baby is ready to come out and the contractions help with their lungs or whatever so I suppose that’s one thing that will make me feel better if I don’t make it to my date.

@SkyBlue20 That drawer looks so neat and organised. Mine is staying in that basket for now as I’ll be sleeping downstairs while I heal.

This is the last pic I took of DS' drawer and this is my bump at 32 +1:

@sakura she just went straight in no problem and when I picked her up they said she's been fine no tears or anything, I know what you mean about being careful but I think she needs to go for the social side of it, it's a school nursery she's done the early intake and it will be nice to have 3 hours a day with baby on my own when she's here,

@threnody congratulations on the scan, glad all is well xx

@threnody great news on your scan! I know how you feel about not having a baby sister for your daughter, I was not so secretly hoping for another girl!

@Sakura54 and @Pugprincess loving the bump pics!

I had fun and games last night, baby has had a quiet few days but even more so yesterday. I ended up ringing up and they asked me to come in. They were super busy so it took 4 hours and indidnt get home until 12:30am! All was good and I'm glad I went in as he continued to be quiet and I would have stressed all evening. I'm knackered now though and my dishwasher has broken and first day back at work so not a good day today. I just went and got a McDonald's 🙈

I washed my first batch of newborn clothes yesterday, need to make room in the nursery draws for it now (we've not moved my daughters clothes out of it yet)

Thanks ladies. I know my daughter will be sad as she wanted the baby to be a girl. Told my eldest it's a boy and he jumped up and down with joy though, so that's good! 😂

@Sakura54 I had my elcs at 39+3, which I thought was cutting it close, but was fine. You get a bit of choice, but it depends how busy they are. I got to choose the day of the week, which was good as we could have a day when the others were at nursery.

@ew1990 aw, glad she had a good day.

@Workingmama1 sorry you had such a stressful and tiring time, glad all is well. I think McDonald's is well deserved (I'm jealous, I've been craving cheeseburgers, but we don't have a McDonald's here).

@Ew1990 Glad nursery went ok today ☺️

@Poppy10121 I hope you can have someone come help soon – completely understand you not feeling too comfortable with it at the moment.

@PugPrincess Exciting that you’ve ordered the furniture! I’ve not washed any of the clothes yet – planning to do it soon – just organised it all as it was in a big pile on a shelf stressing me out 😂

@DanceM1 How fab of your sister – will save a fortune! My BIL and SIL have lent us their next2me, which has been a God send. They’re planning to try for baby #2 this year but our little one will be out of it by the time they need it, so turns out we’d timed it perfectly 😂 I just bought a new mattress and sheets so saved a fair whack!

@Threnody Congratulations on your baby boy!

@Sakura54 Eeeek, I know you’re only a couple of weeks ahead of me but feels like you’re getting so close now! Do you feel prepared?

@workingmama1 Glad all was ok – always better to go in and be safe. I was in at midnight on 30th/31st and it was super quiet, madness how it can vary so much. They really don’t have much space in triage though, do they?! Jealous of your McDonalds – I drove past one at lunchtime today and was SO tempted.

Hope everyone is feeling ok about this impending announcement (especially the teachers among us). It’s the right thing to dowith the rates so high but it’s just so sad, isn’t it? Feel like we’re right back at square one and it’s so difficult for so many people in so many different ways. I’m also selfishly sad as it had looked like things might be looking up by the time baby arrives and now it’s the complete opposite, I just really hope this lockdown helps the numbers and people will be able to meet her and I’ll be able to get a bit of a mat leave that isn’t just sitting at home. The thought of being in some form of lockdown on mat leave after a year of being at home constantly anyway fills me with dread.

@Threnody congratulations!! Lovely news.

@Sakura54 look at your lovely little bump. Im 31+4 today and I'm probably threw times that size 🤣🤣

@Workingmama1 sorry you had a stressful night but glad all was ok!

I have a growth scan in the morning. Hope it doesn't suddenly get cancelled after Boris' announcement tonight 😫🙈 I'm nervous about maternity care being affected if we go into lockdown. Hopefully not 🙏🤞

@SkyBlue20 I know what you mean, I really thought we’d be past all this by the time the baby arrived and the thought of being locked down for another year with a newborn makes me feel insane! The new measures won’t make a difference to me, we’re already in Tier 4 and schools are shut here. We’ll just have to hope the vaccines start making a difference soon 🤞🤞

@Threnody congratulations on your boy!

@Workingmama1 glad everything was ok for you, that sounds exhausting though :(

I had a worry last night as I was getting into bed I couldn’t tell if I had a small wee leak or if it was something else! Obviously then spent an hour googling but pretty sure it was just wee though from twisting to get comfy 😒 I’ve been doing kegels every day but seems to have no effect on this! I’ve also got hemmerhoids now, the doctor said they’ll probably just keep coming back as the baby gets heavier 🙈 what a glamorous time! Until this week I was feeling 200% but not loving these new below waist symptoms!

@Threnody yey to the scan, and lovely pic! And yey to your boys being excited! Respect your honesty about gender disappointment, nothing wrong with having a bit of hope. DD knows she can’t choose & said she’d be happy with a brother but she definitely wants it to be a girl, and I don’t blame her! But hey your daughter will now be the apple of everyone’s eye & the only princess in the family, she’ll love it 💓

@Workingmama1 sorry about your stressful late night, but so pleased everything was ok.

On the lockdown front I’m just trying to stay positive & hopeful that by early March, the extreme measures + vaccine means we’ll be over the worst of it. The cases are so high atm that the immunity levels in general should be way better 🤞🏼 It’s all very scary & insane to think we’re still here nearly a year later, but we will be out the other side of it soon, I’m sure of it 🙏🏼💫✨

How is everyone feeling about lockdown? For me it was definitely needed but I feel so sad and deflated. I'm not back to wfh, home schooling my 7 year old and have my 3 year old here too. My dh is out at work so I'm doing it alone. I really struggled with it last last but this time I know it's going to be worse as I'm also 24 weeks pregnant and exhausted x

@SkyBlue20 Maybe it feels like I’m much closer because I keep banging on about premature labour lol!? I wouldn’t be surprised if I end up having a January baby instead. I have about 6 weeks left as they said they do CS at 38w. I think I’m as prepared as I’ll ever be. Don’t fancy being on a busy maternity ward though and I need to find out the visiting hours now it’s getting close, which is the main thing I’ve been worried about as don’t want to be on my own. DH has requested unpaid leave as he can’t get Paternity due to new job and my mum has loads of annual leave left that needs to be used, although at this rate she’ll be furloughed for a while. It’s getting close for you too. How prepared do you feel? Lucky your DH WFH and will be with you no matter what time of day your labour starts and however long!

@DanceM1 How was your scan? Our maternity care should be fine as it’s essential and appts/scans are important. They’ll probably try to get rid of us quickly after giving birth though. No idea how the aftercare will be though in terms of HV/MW appts and visits.

@ew1990 Agreed and it’s better for the kids to have some normality and routine while we’re focused on new baby. Does yours still nap? Mine is slowly starting to drop his naps which isn’t great but he's 3y 5m now. He’s gone back to nursery today.

DS hasn’t really seen his dad’s side of the family since we left them the night lockdown 1 was announced! I don’t even know when they will meet the new baby, but nothing I can do plus they don’t exactly socially distance and too many people live there.

@lollol86 I feel the same, thought things might be a bit more normal for when we give birth but seems unlikely now.

@sakura she's not napped for about 6 months, she had an hour one yesterday after nursery and then couldn't sleep last night so was a nightmare this morning.
She went to nursery again but they are not sure if they are open tomorrow for all kids or just keyworker children.

I was so worried about her but they said it's like she's been there ages, she just goes and plays with the other kids which is brill x

Hope everyone is doing okay!

Can't believe another lockdown, I was quite anxious before all of this, but not the boys can't go to school I feel it's gone up 100x more! 🤦🏻‍♀️ I love the boys home, extra time and rather them be safe! But to think the baby will be due 5 days after they return to school (depending obviously what he says) I just feel so disorganised! I popped to Asda last night to get some last minute hits for my hospital bag, as now il avoid going to the supermarket. People were going crazy, there was this one bloke that took 2 full trays of wipes! WHY?! hardly and nappies or baby items left as all! I hope I can get the last few bits, im thinking if I have my hospital case ready il probably feel less on edge! 🤦🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️

Lol excuse my awful spelling 🤷🏻‍♀️😂

@bubblybon20 Aww I really hope people don't go mad like the first lock down, I had to go asda at half 5 in the morning just to get a pack of nappies for DD last time 😳

Sorry your feeling so anxious, I went and got the last few bits for my hospital bag today, I've ordered a new hold all so when that comes I'm going to pack it and then I know it's done.

@ew1990 I know, honestly it was awful! 🤦🏻‍♀️😫 do not know why people have to be so greedy!
And yeah that's a good idea, I think once it's packed and ready will make me feel better 😀 x

@bubblybon20 thats mad about people going crazy, if we were all normal it wouldn't be an issue! I know last time lots of places sold of of first size and 0-3 baby grows too.

One of my close friends told me she was pregnant yesterday. I'm so pleased for her, she had a miscarriage and needed medical management in August and now she is 13 weeks. It made the shit lockdown news easier to stomach. There are three of us in our friendship group, all three of us had a miscarriage last year, now one is overdue, I'm 26 weeks and she's just had her 12 week scan. It made me so happy!

How are the teachers amount us feeling about schools closing? I know it impacts the kids and families homeschooling but I'm glad it means you guys are safe.

Weve sent our daughter to nursery and hoping to continue, my husband is a key worker so we could use that if they did shut, but i do worry about the risk, especially entering the 3rd trimester this week.

Also, I can't believe I'm nearly 6 months pregnant! I think lockdown and not seeing people or buying things has meant its been easier to ignore, it feels made when someone asked me how far gone I am and I answered 6 months (technically I'm not until Saturday but I'm going with it now!)

@SkyBlue20 think we posted at the same time last night. So good when people make generous donations isn't it 🤣

@Sakura54 ive had a really stressful day 😫😫 Had my scan and they said baby's fluid levels were high-just above the 95th centile. They sounded really serious and concerned so I went into panic mode. To make matters worse they said baby's heart rate was really high too although baby was wriggling like crazy so they thought that was why. However, they said they wanted the consultant to have another listen to it. So by the time I had stewed waiting for the consultant I (very embarrassingly) started crying when she spoke to me about the fluid 🤣 She reassured me and said its still with average range just right at the top of that range so they'll scan me again in 4 weeks. The midwife then tried to find the heartbeat with a doppler and couldn't find it 😫 This obviously stressed me out even more. Eventually the consultant came in and she managed to find it but it was still really high so they sent me to triage (different hospital site entirely). Triage were really busy but hooked me up to be monitored for half an hour ... actually left me a full hour as they were so busy. Thankfully they said they were happy with baby's heartbeat and it was clearly still very active. Spoke to another doctor who reassured me again about both the fluid and the heartbeat but I feel like I havent calmed down yet. I got there at 10am and came home at 3! These 4 weeks before my next scan are going to be stressful! Im just glad that they did check properly and reassured me.

Hope everybody else has had a better day!!

I dont know how im feeling about lockdown. I suppose glad really that something is being done to try and get control hopefully before we give birth (at least a bit better than now anyway). Home learning isn't fun and I feel sorry for all the parents who are trying to work and oversee remote learning but I guess its for the best...and things must be bad for them to take this action!

@ew1990 it's certainly feeling that way, I was very optimistic about it getting better this year but obviously not xx

I had my midwife appointment today and as I walked in she asked me how I was doing, well that was it I had a break down. I've now been signed off of work for 4 weeks so I can concentrate on myself and my girls xx

Lots to catch up on bare with me.

First of all congratulations on your scan @Threnody a baby boy 💙
Glad DD had a good time at nursery @ew1990 ☺️
@Workingmama1 glad to hear baby is all good after your check.
@Lollol86 good that you have a sick note as that does sound like a lot to be juggling right now.

Lockdown, well last two days school have been in a mad rush to sort home learning out. Ours starts tomorrow afternoon so I will be logging online and supporting the teacher I presume. I think it's the right thing to do though as things have gotten so bad. I've been really emotional today so I think it's all hitting me now. Think its a bit of Jan blues too, was nice having hubby home for 2 weeks as it's rare for him to have a holiday from work being self employed so I'm feeling lonely and missing him too.

DH finished bonding walls in nursery tonight so that's another step complete. Tomorrow night he wants to sand the walls down ready to seal with pva Thurs and Fri and then he can begin the actual replastering at the weekend bless him.

@DanceM1 oh wow that is a stressful day, not surprised you cried or have struggled to calm down - hope you slept ok & feel better today.

Sending solidarity to everyone trying to WFH with a kid there, very stressful! Nurseries can stay open but ours has been closed since 1st Dec due to a positive case, then they decided to stay closed before xmas as most parents said they were keeping kids home to avoid the isolation risk over xmas (not sure what good that did given we went into T4 anyway 😂), and they’ve decided to stay closed this time even though they’re allowed to open. Not ideal but Im kind of glad the decision of whether to send her has been taken away from us, the cases are insane in Essex. Luckily childcare is allowed this time so my MIL is having her 2 days, only leaving 2 days for us to juggle work & childcare. I’m lucky DH WFH too as it’s not all on me. So I’m staying positive as it could be so much worse. Sending love to all of you who have it a lot tougher, and to the teachers, and the parents who have to homeschool! 3.5 is a challenging age but least I just have to worry about play. Yesterday we did do her letters though & she can write her name now without the dots, so I feel like that’s an achievement!

I had a dream last night my bleeding started back again, hope it’s not a bad omen & it more the impending scanxiety.

Morning everyone!

Ahhh @Sakura54 six weeks!! It won't be long until this thread (well, the next one), is filled with the first baby arrivals! I've said it before but I cannot believe how quickly it's all going - during those first 12 weeks it really didn't feel like it would go as quickly as it has.
Know what you mean about finding out visiting hours etc, I've been checking my hospital Facebook page and website daily to see if anything has changed since the lockdown announcement but nothing yet (though I'm sure the visiting hours have quietly changed but not by too much)...hopefully it stays that way!
A shame your DH can't get paternity leave, good that your mum will be able to be around though. My mum is furloughed, too, and likely to be for the foreseeable (she works in non-essential retail), which she's quite glad about as it's less contact with the public and thus less risk to me (when we're able to see each other again) and baby (when she arrives).
I feel prepared in some ways and not in others - like I have all of the practical things done (the clothes, nappies, cot etc all bought) but there's still so much I have no idea about! We start our NCT course next week and I think that will be exactly what I need - things like breastfeeding, pumping, sterilising etc all confuse me!

@Workingmama1 Ahh lovely news about your friends 💕

@DanceM1 What a stressful day! I'm glad all seems to be ok and that they checked everything over thoroughly.

@Lollol86 I'm sorry to hear you're struggling, are you ok? We're here if you want to chat xx

@Starfish762 What a cute photo, love her little princess Jasmine outfit! Glad you have that support with WFH and her being off nursery, too. Sure the dream was scanxiety and nothing to worry about. When's your scan?

My huge Boots order is arriving today, so I should have pretty much everything to start packing hospital bags! It feels early but I keep reading about people going in to labour at like 32 weeks so figure I'm going to get them done then just put them in a cupboard and at least I can relax knowing they're ready. It's so hard to plan, isn't it, when you just have no idea when they could arrive?! I feel like my little one is still just chilling in there, no rush to come out, thankfully - pretty sure she's lay across my stomach still (after a very brief stint lengthways the other day), based on where I'm feeling her but I know there's plenty of time for her to move yet. I'm chomping at the bit for my MW appt next week so I can get measured and plotted on my chart again to see how it's looking. Baby had another super active day yesterday (I love it so much!) so I said to DH 'she'll have a quiet couple of days now' as that seems to be her pattern and lo and behold, she's quieter today. Still worries me though, going to try and get her moving!
Found out today that my BIL and his wife have tested positive for Covid after her brother and his family visited them briefly on Xmas day - turns out her SIL had Covid (caught at work). Her SIL is very heavily pregnant and is now in hospital with it - she's ok but struggling a bit with breathing (nothing extreme, just Covid + baby taking up so much space) so they have her on oxygen to help and are monitoring baby. It's so scary, even though the medics have said there's nothing to worry about.

@Pugprincess closing the schools is definitely the right thing to do. We are doing online learning this morning and although it's great as they are getting a proper education I feel Olivia still needs a lot of help from me, mainly because I want to make sure she's actually listening and understanding rather than just sitting there xx

@SkyBlue20 I'm ok thank you, just felt everything piling on top of me and putting myself last as we do. I finally admitted defeat and asked for help which I'm glad about doing. Thank you for asking xx

Happy 3rd Trimester to me! Finally hit the 28 weeks stage!!

Still no test results for me, so no idea if I van see my midwife on Friday yet, or not. But I'm starting to feel a lot better, my voice still keeps slipping away, but I don't feel horrendous anymore.

Regarding the lockdown, I'd asked the school to keep my son off, said I didn't feel it was safe and with me being CEV, it was even worse. Thankfully they had agreed to authorise it before all the schools got shut down anyway. Teaching is hard work though, he's 4, so he's learning to write at the moment. Not easy when I don't know the first thing about teaching him to hold a pen correctly. He holds it in his fist still. Going to be fun!!

Glad he didn't have school today, and I'm able to teach him when I can, because if this was strict, we'd be in trouble, as we got up very late today. He woke up at about half 12 crying his eyes out saying his leg was hurting him. I think growing pains, because he's okay today... but still, took me almost an hour to get him back to sleep. So we're all very tired today!

Thank you @SkyBlue20 and @Starfish762 it was a horrible day but I am grateful that they were thorough. It just makes me.worry that they were more worried than they let on but i need to get a grip otherwise im going to lose the plot. Weirdly the night before I was having nightmares about going into labour early and not having things ready. They said with the fluid that it could just mean they need to test me again for GD and potentially deliver baby early if it is higher next time. So hopefully that doesn't mean its an imminent risk. I keep thinking about the heart rate too, wondering if there was something wrong but it had calmed down by the time I got to triage and then what if it happens again and I wont know about it or have anyone listen to the heartbeat for another 2 weeks. BTW, I know if this had happened to any of you I would just be saying "oh really glad everything was ok!" but because its me I'm thinking about it over and over again. Need to speak to my midwife this afternoon anyway as I am pretty sure I have carpal tunnel (not that she can do anything about it). I csnt even hold a glass of water at night time now because my joints are so sore and stiff 🙈

Anyway sorry for another rant and moan!!

@Lollol86 really hope you're ok and glad you've been signed off work for a while. Things can be very overwhelming and I'm definitely feeling the same.

@skyBlue you are so organised!! You're motivating me now.

@starfish hats off to you having your little girl at home. I think things are really tricky for lots of people at the moment and I have so much respect for those of you doing it with children at home too!