Pregnant After MMC - Thread 4

[Sakura54]

New thread for anyone pregnant after MMC.

Here’s our current list of scan dates and due dates. More to be added soon!

Scan Dates
@RosieJess91 Tuesday 10th November 11:30am (20 week)
@Poppy10121 Tuesday 17th November 9am (20 week)
@Workingmama1 Friday 20th November 9am (20 week)
@Lu93 Friday 20th November 10:20 (20 week)
@Pugprincess Monday 30th November 3pm (20 week)
@bubblybon20 Monday 7th December 9am (28 week)
@lollol86 Friday 11th December 11am (20 week)
@JoJo58995 Monday 14th December

Due Dates
@bubblybon20 - 27/02/21 BOY
@Sakura54 - 28/02/21 GIRL
@DanceM1 - 04/03/21 SURPRISE
@ew1990 - 12/03/21 GIRL
@SkyBlue20 - 13/03/21 GIRL
@smileyT - 15/03/21 BOY
@Dipsy77 - 15/03/21 TWIN GIRLS
@PhotoMum4 - 18/03/21
@RosieJess91 - 31/03/21
@Poppy10121 - 04/04/21 BOY
@Workingmama1 - 09/04/21 BOY
@Lu93 - 11/04/21
@Pugprincess - 17/04/21 SURPRISE
@lollol86 - 25/04/21
@JoJo58995 - 02/05/21

@Pugprincess yeah a powder, I’ve never tried capsules so always do powder & liquid softener. You might be able to get them in capsules if that’s what you prefer.

I’ve got a tumbledryer arriving on Tuesday I CANNOT WAIT! 12 years since I moved out of my parents & I’ve never had one, gonna be a game changer I’m sure. No more crispy towels 😂

Re. Powder Napisan is amazing for getting rid of stains. We used it on coth nappies. Just bung a scoop in with your wash load! Also top tip: poo stains come out after hanging drying in direct sunlight - it's pretty amazing!

@pugprincess I've bought the aldi ones. They are so cheap, like 79p for a little pack 😂 I feel bad because they are bad for the environment but I don't think I'd manage cloth nappies, I have loads of washing as it is.

I agree it depends on the baby though, DD is tall and skinny so I've never gone off the weight on the pack as they were too short and they'd only go halfway up her bum 🙈🙈

We used boots newborn nappies with my DD and she was a long slim baby so if anyone is likely to have a tall one I recommend these!

Hey ladies, I've tried to catch up as much as poss and glad everyone's still well and babies are all doing okay, can't believe that our babies will be here before we know it! So lovely to see the nursery pictures we're starting ours in the next couple of weeks but ordered her furniture in the mamas and papas sale, glad we did as it's due to come the first week in March and she's due to 12th April! So much movement now, love feeling her. Also went a bit mad in the John Lewis sale with a voucher we got and got her a load of clothes in the sale! Think it may have finally started to settle in that we're having a baby! 🙈 also got a next to me dreams crib and and a tomee tipee breast pump really wanting to try breast feeding and the reviews looked good and said it's good for first time mums! Has anyone else used it? Non of my friends breast fed so not as though I have them to ask so hoping she does latch on and it all works out!

@Smilingdonkey the sunshine tip for stains is great, least when babies are here it’ll be nice again ☀️

@Lu93 I BF DD for 11 months, exclusively for the first 6 weeks then added the odd bottle of pumped milk, and eventually formula too. I loved doing combi, meant DH could feed & I could have the odd break away from DD. Luckily she always took both (I think the longer you leave introducing a bottle the harder it is - but every baby is different). I had the electric medela breast pump & it aas GREAT! Very noisy though 😂 I had a handheld tommee tippee one & I couldn’t get along with it - but it was second hand so may well have been past it, I think it was originally bought it 2013 so I’m sure they’re totally different now. I’ve heard amazing things about the ‘Elvie’ one. Like everything with babies though it’s all trial & error, the only job on the planet you go into unqualified & muddle along as you go 😂

@Pugprincess I was thinking that too. I’m taking a pack of wipes but last time they gave me water and cotton pads so I might use that at first just in case (not if I have to buzz and wait for ages for them to come though). At home I use wipes. Washing powder-wise, I use whatever is around (as I regularly stayed in 3 different houses) and it was fine. I’ve used both bio and non-bio over the years. I moisturise DS as he sometimes gets rough patches on his thighs and face but never any flare ups from clothes.

@SkyBlue20 It’s good to have a lot. There’s been certain periods of growth where DS kept wetting numerous outfits when sleeping or puking milk and eating messily and I never ran out of clean clothes. I’m a bit OCD about his clothes, making sure it’s always neat/organised and rotating what he wears. I can pick up one of his baby outfits and probably know the exact age it’s for. Now I’ll have another kid to obsess over lol, but as soon as she outgrows something, I won’t have to store it this time or need it ever again.

Had my 31w appt. Nice and empty hospital as it’s a Saturday. Bump measured 32cm (gone up by 3cm in 3 weeks) and it’s on the chart now at the 97th centile lol so still a big baby for my body size. I’d like a decent sized baby but we’ll see about that! I’ve had a proper bump for the last couple of weeks (I'm 31 +6) but hoping it stays small as I’m uncomfortable these days. I ache often, made worse by the constant movements. I only made it to 36w last time so can’t imagine how much worse it can get being a whole month more pregnant!

I asked the same questions that I asked all the other MWs and they all say the same thing. Nothing extra can be done to prepare for premature labour, just have to have an EMCS and tell them my requests and they’ll do what they can if they can. Also still can’t get an earlier consultant appt so will have to hope baby stays put until then and then the actual CS date. Its ok though, as at least they let me have this extra 31w appt and got my checks done.

This is just my newborn and Up to 1 Month clothes, not including jackets/snowsuits:

Oh it's so exciting to see people starting to get ready for the babies now isn't it!? How far we have come! Your nurseries are looking great!
I am 31w tomorrow and have had to come to terms with the fact all 4 of us will be in this 1 bed flat for at least 3 months after the baby is here! I have reorganised the bedroom today to fit a crib in and ordered a new sofabed and chosen a smaller kitchen table and sofa to give us a bit more room in the living area. I'm not sure if I should just order the sofa without trying it out as it will take so long to arrive - but £800 seems a lot of money to spend on something I've never seen 😬 Stupid lockdown 😫

It feels good to have sorted a few things out though. Starting to feel excited now!

You just reminded me I have a John Lewis voucher - I might go online and buy a couple of outfits for her as at the moment she just has hand me downs from my DD 😬!

I am also looking forward to not having to store stuff this time around ... I'll just keep a few special things for the memories and the rest can go straight to charity!

@Starfish762 I managed to get the fairy power and matching softener so thank you for that. Plan to use all of that up then depending on them not having any skin issues I could try my usual things. See how I go and feel at the time I guess. I also grabbed 2 packs of cotton wool pleats to start off with and will get wipes to move onto after some time or if I get fed up of getting water for the cotton wool 😂 I came across a cloud soft toy so I had to grab that for nursery too.

@Smilingdonkey thanks for the tips regarding stains 👍🏻

@Lu93 and @Sakura54
The baby girl clothes are so lovely! This is the one downside to a surprise. Got to wait for all the girly or boyish things.
Sakura glad to hear the measurements are good and app went well ☺️

@Smilingdonkey aw do you have plans to move? X

DH is banging about removing the old skirting boards in the nursery as I type 😁 My Co sleeper has arrived but left at the inlaws for now as it was ordered to their address. My friend still hasnt collected the bed. I've msg her but may have to put on gumtree for free at this rate x

All the old skirting boards are off 😊 he's got to chop our the cracks in the window wall tomorrow and then use this bonding stuff in cracks and where skirting was. So many steps to all this lol. Biggest task we've ever taken on. X

Still waiting for the test to arrive, but I'm fairly certain I've got tonsillitus! Spoke to my mum on the phone earlier, and was coughing and splattering away, and she mentioned that I don't have a dry cough, I have a very wet cough, and that it sounded like my tonsillitus cough (had it a few times), sure enough, when I checked my throat, there are a couple of white bumps. Considering neither my son or OH have anything, think it's more likely!
Our changing table arrived today, so just need to paint the room and get it all set up now!! I've also found out I will be allowed to breastfeed, but after struggling with the pump last time, I think I'll just do what I can, for however long I can. Won't be pushing myself, only thing left to purchase is a travel set and a steriliser!

@rosiejess91 can you get antibiotics for tonsillitis?

I never used cotton wool and water last time, just water wipes. No one said anything to me in hospital about it, i think water wipes in particular are acceptable in hospital. We now use Huggies pure, not the cheapest but we've never had a nappy rash issue.

Started dd in pampers as I thought newborn bums need the best, but quickly.moved onto aldi nappies. We used sainsbury's now as they have elasticated waste.bands while aldi don't and we were getting leaks.

Baby has woken up today and more active so I'm less stress, I woke up in the middle of the night last night and he wasn't moving and I was stressing out!

Can't believe some of you are over 30 weeks now, crazy! Babies will start arriving soon!

I've been so tired the last few days, I've literally sat on the sofa all afternoon/evening apart from cooking dinner, not looking forward to working again next week at all....

@Lu93 Lovely shopping haul! Thanks for mentioning the breast pump, too, I’ll look in to it. I feel like breast feeding is one of those things I have no idea about, I know I’d like to do it and eventually move to some pumped bottles too so DH can feed her, but that’s about the extent of it. Got my NCT course starting soon so hoping that will help! A friend of mine had a baby in early Dec and she said the one thing she’d recommend is buying a pump before baby is here (I was going to wait until after) as she found it invaluable the first few days when baby wasn’t really stimulating her boob so she pumped to make sure her milk came in... or something 🙈

Great amount of clothes, @Sakura54 - I showed the pic to DH to prove I hadn’t gone as crazy as he thought I had! I’ve attached a pic of clothes hung up, which is all sorts of sizes from newborn to 12months(!) and then the drawer is all 0-1 month, I have another drawer for 0-3 months that isn’t quite as full. My mum went mad shopping, as did I, but have stopped now!

@Smilingdonkey sounds like you’re getting organised! Four of you there won’t be ideal but the kids won’t care, you’ll make it work and hopefully you’ll be able to move sooner rather than later 🤞🏼☺️

@Pugprincess Making some great progress there! Won’t be long until it’s finished ☺️

@RosieJess91 Does sound like it could be tonsillitis - hope you feel better soon xx

@Workingmama1 I’m not looking forward to being back at work either - have gone super tired again the last day or so, think she’s having another growth spurt! 40 working days to go...not that I’m counting or anything 😂

Bump pic attached from yesterday at exactly 30 weeks. Some rapid growth going on, that’s for sure!

@starfish762, @MrsK21 scanxiety is so awful. As is the round ligament pain, I'm getting that too.
Yes, scan is tomorrow morning now! I have 2 boys and a girl, so would love for my daughter to have a sister, and we really struggled with boys names last time, but I am more used to boys and they're slightly easier in some ways. We found out by accident with my first as we had an amnio and they showed the results to us with "normal male karyotype" in big letters on the front! 🤣 We then found out on purpose with my daughter - we weren't going to, then changed our minds cos obviously the lady scanning (who will be the same one doing my scan on Monday!) knew so it felt odd. Then we tried for a surprise with our third, though I was very sure I'd seen a willy at the final scan.
(@skyblue) In some ways I'd like a proper surprise, but it would be useful to sort out my boxes of baby clothes, and names. After the mmc I've been struggling a bit with visualising actually having the baby, so it might help with that.
We've got the actual 20 week scan on the 21st January, so will have another chance to find out then if we don't do it now.

@pugprincess, no it's my extra 18 week scan with fetal medicine, I get one as my eldest had cleft palate and small chin, so they like to check. It will be with the same consultant I've seen every pregnancy, so it's a nice bit of continuity (though she's a strange lady!).
That's a lovely lampshade!
The hospital make us use disposable nappies and cotton wool and water. We usually switch to wipes soon after we get home, but it's up to you. Haven't tried Aldi nappies. We mostly use Tesco nappies, which fit well and don't leak. Sainsburys ones always leak, so I'd avoid those. Most nappies have the blue line (or similar) for the smaller sizes. Whatever you use you will get stains on clothing from poonamis.
Bio means it uses biological enzymes to dissolve dirt, non-bio uses chemicals only. Bio doesn't clean as well so you tend to have to use higher temperatures.
Agree with @SmilingDonkey - Napisan is great, and hanging washing out on line does help with stains.

@valval123 sorry, does sound like a chemical.

@ew1990 we tried and gave up with cloth nappies. We'll be using disposables again. With 3 children we already do washing every day at least, no way we have time for washing nappies too, plus all the extra washing is bad for the environment too.

@Lu93, you only need a breast pump if you want to get oh to help feed. It's recommended not to mix bottle and boob at the start to avoid nipple confusion. I couldn't bf my first due to his cleft so pumped for 6 months, which was knackering. I got leant a hospital grade machine though, so not used any others. Managed to breastfeed the other two for 13 and 15 months, never needed a pump. Top tips, lansinoh nipple cream, you can do it - don't panic if you're struggling at 3am, we all go through it. The midwives at hospital can help with latching. And see if you can join your local la leche league, they're very helpful.

@Sakura54 I got to 41 weeks with my first, was so ready for him to come. Fingers crossed baby stays in until cs date.

@rosiejess91 oh no, sorry about the tonsillitis, not fun.

@SkyBlue20 wow look at that bump!

Anyone else get morning sickness back after it went away? I thought I'd finished with it.

@Threnody Yep, my nausea is back, not as bad as the first trimester but it’s definitely there again, so annoying!!

@skyblue20 very organised. I did all mine when I was about 17 weeks 😂 we got given so much, I've got a full draw of just first size stuff but I'll pass it to a women's refuge or something when she outgrow them if they are still in good condition.

@threnody my sickness has come back with a vegance if I don't take an anti sickness as soon as I wake up I'm sick all day 🙄

DD starts nursery tomorrow and I'm so not ready for it. She's 3 but she's still my baby, I really hope she doesn't cry when she goes in as well, I cried when we bought her uniform x

@Threnody that's exciting even though it's anxiety inducing! More opportunities to see the little one 🥰 I've had some round ligament pain too but mostly after walks or standing for a while. My sickness is on/off too, which is still a massive improvement from the constant vomiting of hyperemesis

@Starfish762 I'm in two minds about finding out the sex! I flit from one extreme to the other the closer we get to the day. It doesn't help that I have absolutely no feelings or inklings as to whether it's a boy or girl, I can't understand when mums to be say they had a feeling! We will probably leave it as surprise as we've been getting a few gender neutral bits anyways

@workingmama1 I'm not allowed most antibiotics, so I only need to worry if I get a fever. So far, so good. I told my midwife, because I'm supposed to have an appointment on Tuesday, and she's asked me to push my appointment back. Which is good, because I've lost my voice a few times today!!
@SkyBlue20 your little wardrobe is adorable!!
Emailed the school on the 30th to tell them I wouldn't be sending my son back to school because it was too high of a risk, they emailed me back yesterday to say they understood and would mark it as authorised as they understand I'm CEV. Today they've emailed all parents to say they're suffering with staff shortages and will be closed this week anyway. And now our local council has written a statement saying they've told all schools to remain shut if they decide to and that no parents will be receiving fines, and basically to ignore anything that the government say! 😂
What a mess...

Wow I’m feeling very disorganized compared to all of you, my baby has no clothes yet! 🙈

Covid is really getting in the way of sorting stuff, we need someone to help my husband move furniture from the nursery so we can decorate - but no ones allowed in the house in Tier 4 - and I’ve got lots of second hand bits due to come from friends and family which I can’t collect because we’re not allowed to meet up! Hopefully restrictions ease soon or I’m going to end up on Amazon prime while in labour 😂

@RosieJess91 how you feeling today? Tonsillitis is rotten, but pleased it’s not the dreaded C word! Great reason for lots of ice cream!

@Smilingdonkey sorry you’ll all be squeezed in, not easy. All you can do is try to think of the future & what you’ll eventually have. In the meantime it’ll make you all nice & close, a proper family ❤️

@Sakura54 @SkyBlue20 loving the clothes, so exciting!

@Threnody good luck for tomorrow, not long to wait now. Let us know how you get on 💙💗

@MrsK21 I feel the same about the gender & not having a feeling, and I was the same with DD, I flitted between boy & girl throughout (which was part of the excitement & one of the reasons I’d like another surprise). But after the MC & the bleeding dramas with this pregnancy I do think knowing would help me picture things & trust it will be okay, I just don’t want to regret it. Pretty sure we’ll stay strong & keep a surprise at 20w scan, and decide further down the line if I feel the urge. I’d love DD to be there when we find out, so if private scans are allowed with children again then I think I will, if not will stick to a surprise.

I dug out my pregnancy diary from DD & it turns out I started feeling flutters at 21w, which is sooner than I thought. I had the tiniest bump & anterior placenta then too, so FX I start feeling something soon - I’m 19w tomorrow.

@Poppy10121 we moved house a month ago so have had quite a few workmen etc in the house even in T4, wearing masks obv. So whilst friends & fam aren’t allowed in & haven’t been, there was 1 day DH needed to move a double oven into the garden so his best friend came over & helped him. We all stayed apart & he left soon as the job was done. I wouldn’t stress too much & I’d get the help you need if you need it, long as we’re being sensible & staying apart etc I don’t see the big issue. A cleaner is still allowed to come round coz obviously they can’t work from home, so that just puts it into perspective for me 🙈

@Starfish762 thanks, I know it would probably be fine to have a friend come and help him move the wardrobe and bed out but I am so nervous at the moment, we’re in a badly affected area with cases going up and up and our local hospital is overwhelmed, we haven’t even been to the supermarket for weeks as we are so scared! So I’m just hoping that in a month or so things will be a bit less crazy and we’ll feel more comfortable having someone come in the house.

Hi all. What a bonkers day regarding schools! My school is closed to kids tomorrow as many staff have refused through the unions to come in. However they now want staff in for a planning meeting as I guess they foresee this continuing. Many of my friends children's schools have also done the same. My heads told me to stay home and he will call me later this week so I will just isolate and rest at home until I get further instructions.

@Threnody all the best with your scan tomorrow. Poonamis made me laugh 😂 I will remember that term hehe. Thank you for all your advice too x

@ew1990 aw the hormones are going to make it so hard not to get emotional tomorrow. I hope she has a great first day x

I agree with @Starfish762 @Poppy10121 once you are comfortable with get someone to help. We all need a support bubble sometimes xx

DH has chopped out the cracks today in nursery on the worst wall and has started to fill them with the bonding stuff. He's back to work from tomorrow so he says he will do bits in the evenings bless him.

I ordered nursery furniture today from IKEA, a wardrobe, chest of drawers and 2 shelves, due to arrive on the 17th. We will put wardrobe and shelves away until rooms more ready but I want the chest of drawers building and putting in my room so I can crack on with washing and sorting like you have @SkyBlue20 #drawgoals 😁

Will upload a few pics. Oh also sorted an ottoman for living room which will be useful for toys 😊

Ahh I've missed so much! Lots of exciting things happening..

@Pugprincess excellent progress being made there! I have also bought the same Fairy washing stuff as you.

@SkyBlue20 and I cant remember who else sorry 🙈 love all the clothes and how organised everybody is. My sister has sorted loads of clothes for me today and is getting them couriered up here along with a sling, another carrier, a play mat, room thermometer, birthing ball..loads of stuff basically! Will save us some money! I also had vouchers for the Little White Company so have bought a few "treat" bits from there like a nice Teddy, height chart for the nursery, a blanket, comforter and baby grow. They arrived yesterday and I love them but still too scared to take them out of the packaging 🙈🙈

@RosieJess91 really hope you feel better soon but good that it is likely tonsillitis rather than covid.

My school is still open tomorrow but my head called me yesterday and said I should wfh the majority of the time and just come in 2 mornings/afternoons a week to catch up with the girl that is covering me and take books for marking etc so that's a relief really.

Baby had a couple of quiet days but has been more wriggly again today 🥰 I have my second growth scan on Tuesday. If baby is still growing well I wont have any more. I know thats a good thing really but its nice to have the reassurance (hopefully!) of the scans!

Scan was fine. Everything looked normal and it's a boy! 💙 I must confess to being a little sad that my daughter won't have a sister, and having to get rid of all her pretty dresses.
Such a relief to see him on the scan all fine, and only two weeks until we get to see him again!