June 2021 thread 2

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Welcome all mums to be

@Missgoldilocks my nausea started between 6-7 weeks, my first symptom was total exhaustion and falling asleep on the sofa at 7pm.

Those of you who wait to announce, are you waiting until your 12 week scan or until you have the results of your 12 weeks scan?

@PurpleishDahlia I think we will tell the rest of close family after the scan. Not planning on a social media announcement anyway. Might wait for the results for rest of friends

We've told parents because they were all getting worried about my health, I've been struggling with exhaustion (before getting pregnant)
We'll maybe tell friends after the scan, i would like to let our friends who have had losses know we are expecting but purely so if they feel they need to distance from us on social media, we completely understand. We won't be making a big announcement but I would hate for them to be blind sided like that. Unfortunately the most recent loss in our circle happened around the same time I became pregnant so when he's posting about his grief and how he misses his son who would be x weeks old by now- it's the same amount of weeks I am pregnant and I feel so guilty.

I'm a bit nervous about the scan again, I built myself up for the last one for it to be super quick with a rather hurried "you're not far enough along, I can't do anything with this" and a new date, I must have ovulated very late as it pushed my dates back a fortnight. So all my anxieties about cleft lips, Down's syndrome, no heartbeat or even no baby and it just being a tumour are all still there! Come on Thursday!! Let's be having you!

Sorry for that being such a long post. 🙈

My parents and some very close friends know but I’m waiting until I tell work to tell everyone else.

I’m due a promotion in December that I’ve been working towards for a long time and is fairly in the bag. So I’m not telling work until after the pay negotiation for that. It’s driving my mum mad that we can’t tell everyone after my 12 week scan

Only DH and a couple of friends from my August bus know.

I'll probably tell close family and friends after the scan results and let it trickle out that way. Not planning any social media announcements.

DD1 is 20 and when I was pregnant with her you only got a 20wk scan. So you got to 12wks and told people and kind of hoped all was ok as you'd got that far.

Dd2 I told everyone after my 12wk and probably did a Facebook post.
Dd3 I told close friend and family but I was a bit embarrassed as the gap is small and I went back to work pregnant so I kept quiet until about 20wks.
DS I told close friend and family after my 8wk scan, and told people as and when I saw them or they noticed

This time I feel a bit like I did with dd3. Small gap, #5, 41, I feel a bit self conscious again

We have only told Parents so far. So siblings will be told after scan and then I’ll start telling friends etc as and when I speak to them. Like above I have a few friends who have really struggled with infertility and loss so I want to be really sensitive to them and give them a heads up before it generally becomes common knowledge. Don’t know how best to do it tho.

@Scarftown I'd like any tips on that too for my friends who I know have failed IVF etc

@SarahTTC2020 @Scarftown As someone who has had many rounds of ivf for our first 2 babies (and now lucky enough to get pregnant naturally for our 3rd) I would not recommend telling them face to face. A sensitive text or something like that is a lot easier as then they don't have to make a fuss and be all happy for you (which of course they are) but it's kind of difficult to show when you're going through so much pain and struggle yourself. A text allows them to take in the info in their own time and deal with it before facing you as harsh as that sounds.

Had a private scan done. All looking well. Bleeding still un explained.

My little bumble bee was such a wiggle bum

@SarahTTC2020 @Scarftown I completely agree with @lucieloos Don't tell your friends face to face or over the phone, definitely by text. Just let them know the basics & say you understand if they need some time. I had to drop out completely when my friend was pregnant, but she understood. Her baby is here now and we're back in contact.

We've not told anyone yet. We were going to wait until 12 week scan. We'll tell MIL straightaway as she is dog sitting for us. She thinks I have a standard doctors appointment. So all being well we will tell her our little white lie when we get back.

@Stitchervice congratulations on your scan and seeing your little one 😊 frustrating they couldn't find the cause of the bleeding but hopefully your scan has put your mind at ease a bit.

@Sitchervice sorry for the typo on your username 🙈

i think we're going to try to wait until the results of the 12 week scan - but if everything goes well i might be too excited and may have to tell my parents straightaway!

two weeks to go now til the scan! is anyone else having very vivid dreams about theirs?? i'm so nervous/excited it must be filtering though as i keep having them!

@northerngal20 I usually have strange dreams but mine have become more baby related. I've had dreams where my child is actually a cat as well. Very odd

I feel really stupid here but what results do you have to wait for after the 12 week scan? 🙈 blood test results?

don't feel stupid @Bs93! it's the combined testing of bloods with the ultrasound. it's an optional test, and the results should come back within 2 weeks (or 3 days if there's a higher chance of having any of the conditions)

www.nhs.uk/conditions/pregnancy-and-baby/screening-amniocentesis-downs-syndrome/

@northerngal20 thank you!! I’ve got my scan on Thursday but from the early scan I’ll only be 10 weeks so imagine they won’t be able to do all the right tests. Think we will probably tell siblings if it goes okay though!!

What kind of area are you from? Just wondering if you’re anywhere near me 😊 also northern (North east!

Congratulations @Sitchervice! It's lovely seeing them move around. I had my official 12 week scan today (after my private scan last week) and the baby was being so awkward but managed to get all the measurements. Pretty much everyone knows now as well. It's a weird feeling now that it's more real, I still don't quite believe it !

Thank you for the advice, I'm not a phone person anyway and lockdown is preventing me seeing the friends I'd be concerned about so a sensitive test will be what I'll do then xx

9 weeks today and getting weird bladder sensations, is anyone getting this?

Feel like sudden pressure feelings in there at times (like in 3rd trimester when a baby kicks the bladder).

Just wondered if anyone is experiencing strange bladder feelings before 2nd / 3rd trimester

@Bs93 eek hope the scan on Thursday all goes okay! so exciting!! i'm actually now in the south - but originally from the north west (so a northerner at heart!!)

@Jinglebells87 can I please ask you, did you tell your midwife you had booked a private scan as well and did that affect your 12 week scan with the NHS in any way?

Umm, can I ask a stupid question. What does everyone mean about the difference between the scan and the scan results? What results are you expecting after your scan? I had my scan last week, and have now told everyone so worried I’ve missed something!

@penny2020 ask any questions it's the result from the combined nuchal and bloods which looks for Downs/Pataus/Edwards syndrome. @northerngal20 has linked to details in her post above. It's a blood test and measuring the nuchal space on the babies neck in the scan.

It is optional and so not all people will have it. I am 41 and so will have the test, I will then get a letter with my results in a week or so. My results aged 39 were very low risk for my age(1:1609 for downs and 1:10000 for Edwards and Patau)

Thanks @BurningBenches. I did opt for that test, I think, and they did it whilst I was in the scan room as I had the blood test the week before. So I got the results there and then - luckily it was also very low chance.
Thanks for explaining, I was suddenly in a panic that is missed something important but sounds like my midwife just combined the test results and the scan.