@PurpleDaisies
The only person that s putting those people in the same bracket is you
*@shesgonebatshitagain*
Plenty of pregnant women announce pregnancies in insensitive ways because they’re thoughtless. A few seem to take a perverse pride in causing hurt to others because it’s their right to post what they want. I doubt those women will ever change their mindset but the ones who are just a bit clueless might read a thread like this and decide to handle things differently.
Lots of infertile women have shared their experiences and how they’d most like to find out about a pregnant. This thread is about more than just the op.
I have known many many women over the years who have announced their pregnancies
Not one of them has done it in a selfish and thoughtless way and I say that as someone who has sat and seen a friend’s scan photo weeks after a shocking miscarriage and a relationship ending in the same month. She pulled me to one side and did it. It actually felt worse as her kindness was actually more upsetting than if she’d not thought of me. Someone it reminded me at that point in my life and for a few years after I was different.
I understand that this is a hugely emotive and deeply personal issue. I spent over a decade wondering if I would ever hold a baby of my own but I was never anything but truly happy for people who it happened to whom I cared enough about to have in my life.
This thread was not a debate about how an infertile woman would prefer to be told about a pregnancy for everyone. Really it was about what if anything the OP should do next to try and make things better. That wasn’t good enough though.
In any event though the OP wrote this
“One of the friends was told via my boss before I got chance and is more of a work friend rather than a very close friend. The other friend, I know 100% in my heart would of completely been more hurt if I had told her privately and made a big thing of it which is why I did not make a big deal of it“
Take the highly unfortunate, no awful use of the word bitter - on here not to her face incidentally - and she has done something millions of women do every day on social media across the world.
Perhaps stop having what Might be unrealistic expectations of whether other people should try to accommodate everyone else’s potential reaction to something which is really all about them in that moment. I don’t say this to be critical but because I think assigning people this sort of pressure at what is a joyful time for them will only cause you heartache and pain.