Pregnant After MMC - Thread 3

[Sakura54]

New thread for anyone pregnant after MMC.

Here’s our current list of 12/20 week scan dates and due dates.

Scan dates:
@Poppy10121 Thursday 1st October
@Sakura54 Wednesday 7th October 2.40pm
@bubblybon20 Tuesday 13th October 11:10am
@Dancem1 Thursday 15th October
@ew1990 Tuesday 20th October
@SkyBlue20 Tuesday 27th October, 1:20pm

Due dates:
@bubblybon20 - 27/02/21 Boy
@Sakura54 - 28/02/21
@DanceM1 - 04/03/21
@ew1990 - 12/03/21
@SkyBlue20 - 13/03/21
@PhotoMum4 - 18/03/21
@smileyT - 18/03/21
@Poppy10121 - 08/04/21

Good luck today, @Poppy10121! Sending you lots of strength and a hand hold xx

@Workingmama1 I did think they sounded too high up but was very strange, definitely not something I've felt before. Will see how I get on over the next week or so and if I get any more - could well have just been hunger! Exciting that you're feeling movements!
Sorry you're feeling so low, it's completely understandable. Do you do anything like yoga? That could be something nice to do as it's gentle and also good for the mind - I feel so much better after I've done a session, even if it's only 20mins or so. Lots of walking, too - that helped me so much after the MMC (even if I was crying though the walks for the first few days). Probably all sounds really obvious, sorry - just wish we could help. Sending a huge hug and just know that we are all here for you whenever you need us. xx

Hi all, I was on the TTC after MC thread until about July and took a step back then lo and behold got my BFP in August! I had a really heavy bleed last week and was certain things were over but had a scan the next day and everything was fine which was a total shock and massive relief. Was still extremely nervous about my dating scan as I've received bad news twice at 12 week stage. We had good news on Monday, was dated 12 weeks exactly so EDD is 12/04/21 and everything looks good at this stage (awaiting screening blood test results). I've been bleeding since Monday night which has been making me really stressed. It's old brown blood and just spotting so midwives have said it's likely a small hematoma working it's way out. The anxiety levels are through the roof at this stage!!!

Sorry for the long post, but saw that some of you are in a similar position so would be great to have a bit of support from people going through the same extreme happiness and stress!

Hi ladies, can I join you? I got my bfp on Monday at 9dpo, and I'm currently 4+3. Feeling very nervous after my MMC in March, I must have taken twenty tests already. I just summoned up the courage to register my pregnancy with the midwives, so thought I'd wander over here from the ttc thread.

Hi ladies, can I join please? I recognise a few names from the TTC after MC thread too.
I got my BFP on Tuesday at 14 DPO with hopefully baby #1.
I'm 4+2 today so still really early (practically same as you @Threnody).

I was going to wait a bit till joining a pregnancy thread but feeling I could do with a bit of a hand hold earlier on, feeling a bit nervy today...
I've only done a couple of tests (IC and FRER) and don't intend to test anymore.
xxx

Ahh how lovely to see some familiar names joining us, welcome!

@elliew818 Sounds like you've had a really tough time of it, I'm so sorry. So pleased all was well at your 12 week scan though. You're right, there are a couple of ladies on with haematomas - I hope you can all support each other and we can all be of support, too. xx

@Threnody @MrsK21COMPLETELY understand the nerves - those early days were the absolute worst but they'll be over before you know it, I promise. A lot of us found that setting little milestones to work towards really helped (5 weeks, register with the midwife, tell parents, early scan, 12 week scan, whatever they may be) - it just breaks up that seemingly interminable wait to 12 weeks. We're all here for a handhold any time you have a wobble - we've all been/are there. xx

Good luck @poppy10121!

@skyblue20 I found a yoga for pregnancy anxiety on YouTube which I did this morning and was helpful. Until I saw the desperately sad news about Chrissy Tiegen which sent me into a right flap.

Also the feelings higher up could be as all your other organs will be moving upwards to make room for your growing uterus, so it could be down to that!

Welcome to the new joiners, its so nice to hear more of us having success after a mmc.

@elliew818 sounds like we have had a similar last week or so, it's so scary seeing blood, so pleased all was good on your scans x

@Threnody @MrsK21 Welcome! I’ve just joined too, 4+5 (I think!) I found out 8 days ago & it’s dragging SO MUCH! 😩 I also registered online yesterday as I couldn’t resist, think I just wanted it to feel official & real. I just feel terrified & I can’t shake it. So much lovely news on this thread & successful scans which is so positive, but also fills me with dread thinking am I going to be the one to buck the trend & be the recurrent MC 😭 Need to try & shake off the negativity, not good! The Chrissy Teigen news hasn’t helped, that poor family!

@Workingmama1 sending love xxx

@elliew818 what a worry! 😢 Glad all okay though. A few others on here with the same so I’m sure you’ll all support each other to get through the stress ❤️

@Poppy10121 thinking of you, keep us posted xx

@SkyBlue20 thank you for your advice, definitely will help breaking up the next few weeks into little chunks. When would you recommend booking an early scan for to visualise a heartbeat?
I'll probably wait till that to register with midwife as last time I had the MC and then got so many letters from the maternity team which broke me further

@Starfish762 wow that's so early you found out, you probably feel the 4th week has lasted about 20 days!!! I totally am with you on the the dread. I'm trying to keep positive and not compare this one to the last pg. Lots of lovely news on this thread and no reason that won't be us in a few weeks time too :)
I'm trying not to think too much about Chrissy Teigen now, reading her story set me off this morning
Have you had much by way of symptoms? I'm a bit nauseous, tired and needing to pee more frequently x

@MrsK21 I’m waiting till 8.5 weeks to book my private scan, just as the risk goes down quite significantly at 7/8 weeks, so hoping if all is well then I won’t get a nasty shock at 12 weeks. Gosh even talking about positive scans feels so abnormal! But everything crossed! No symptoms for me yet 😩 Maybe peeing a tiny bit more but I think I’m probably imagining it. A few people on here said around 6/7/8 weeks before their tiredness kicked in, so hopefully it’s just a bit early. I have a 3.5 year old DD & was lucky not to get any sickness with her, so hopefully the same this time rather than reason for concern.

@workingmama hope the brown blood stops soon.

@poppy hope it went well ❤

Welcome and congratulations to our new comers

My morning sickness is back 😩 2 morning now I've woke up and vomited straight away. And I had an awful dream last night. I wont post about it coz it's triggering but had to tell myself for 10 minutes it wasn't real!

Hope everyone's doing well? Bumps coming on slowly but surely.

Hi all, I'm new here. Congratulations everyone on their pregnancies. I had a mmc in Feb and now I'm 5 weeks. I've had some heavy bleeding with clots last week but hcg levels rising so I'm fingers crossed it's all going OK. I have another blood test next week and if hcg looking OK then will get a scan.

@SkyBlue20 and @Starfish762 thank you, need all the virtual support I can get atm!
@Workingmama1 yeah I'd been lurking and saw you'd had a big bleed, it was the only thing keeping me positive at the time!

@Simmy20 sorry to hear about your bleeding as it can be so worrying, fingers crossed you have good results on your blood test

We still haven't told my parents or family as was planning to do it on Saturday on my nan's birthday but DH and I aren't sure if we are ready yet with everything feeling so unsettled from the bleeding 😬 has anyone else delayed telling people until it feels more real? Or has it helped the anxiety by telling others?

@Ellie I told my mum straight away as she was so good when I had my MMC. I Had scans at 5 weeks 7 weeks and 9 weeks so after the 7 week one I told a few people at work. I work at a hospital so had to tell them as it's quite heavy work but they were great and a great support when I had my MMC. It was surprising how many people had been through one too.

Thank you for the lovely messages of support, all is well! I was in there for ages as the baby was wriggling about doing all sorts but never getting in the right position to measure the length - i had to jump around, go for a walk, go for a wee, drink some juice - in the end the sonographer had to measure it upside down from the headstand position as he wouldn’t lie still! Oh also, it’s a boy!! The sonographer pointed out his little bits 🙊
I’m so happy and relieved. Have been dated at 13+5 so due date has come forward a bit, now expected 4th April. I’m off to bed to catch up on some of last nights missed sleep!

Welcome to all new ladies, will catch up properly later xx

@MrsK21 @Starfish762 we're quite close together, that's nice.

@SkyBlue20 thanks, that's a really helpful idea.

@Workingmama1 hi, hope your bleeding properly stops soon.

@Poppy10121 hope your scan went well.

@ew1990 sorry you had a bad dream, I've had some absolutely awful dreams when pregnant, and afterwards.

Hi @Simmy20, sorry to hear about your bleeding, fingers crossed everything is ok for you.

Has everyone had/plan to have early scans? I want one, but my husband thinks we should just treat this pregnancy as normal, and that the scan wouldn't really help anyway. But I don't think he gets how anxious I am about it all.

@ew1990 oh that's good that your mum was there for you with the MMC. My mum isn't very sensitive in that department, when we told her about our most recent loss she said 'oh well you won't be the first and won't be the last' 🙄 then text me a week after telling me someone I barely know has just had a baby. She doesn't have bad intentions she's just a bit indelicate.
Totally understand you needing to tell work. I am wfh at the minute so won't tell them until after 20 weeks!

@Simmy20 welcome! Sorry to hear about the bleeding, so worrying but can also be normal, fingers crossed the next bloody test confirms that for good.

@elliew818 oh that sucks about your mum! Sometimes that generation can be so ‘tough’ in the front they put on, good in some ways but not when you just need some sympathy. We’re just going to tell people as & when we need to (i.e if we see people & can’t get away with not saying, like when we have dinner & I’d normally be having a wine). I feel this group helps keep things quiet as I don’t feel alone in my news.

@Threnody I’m definitely going to have a scan around 8.5 weeks. We know something bad can still happen between then & 12w but the risk is lower. All being well it will ease my anxiety hugely for the following month, and even IF we got bad news at 12w scan it’d be horrific whether we’d got excited at an early scan or not.

@Poppy10121 yeeeyyyy! So pleased for you! And a little boy, lovely! 💙

@Threnody we had 2 private early scans, one at 7 weeks to see the heartbeat and one at 10 weeks (thought we'd be able to see more but actually probably wouldn't book one at 10 weeks again). We really only did them because NHS said they weren't doing reassurance scans but at my 8 week booking appointment my lovely midwife got me one at 8+4 as well. I think it's good to have at least 1 because 12 weeks is soooooo long to wait, but if you can afford it then do whatever helps the anxiety I would say

Welcome new ladies. This is a great group who all feel the same anxieties.

@Threnody You joined! So pleased for you. I was scanned due to spotting and pains at 7w, convinced it was over again. Then was still scared when going for my 12w scan. I actually have my 20w scan next week, yet still scared something may be wrong. Lol that’s what MC does to you I guess.

@Poppy10121 A boy! Congrats, how lovely. Everyone here is having boys so far.

Yes, it is reassuring and nice to know something is wriggling around in there but it’s uncomfortable for me TBH, especially when it rolls to the front and pushes.

@SkyBlue20 Our uterus is still small and very low down so the kicks should be felt under the belly button. I googled this the other day as felt some higher movements and also wondered how high the baby could go. I mainly feel a lot of poking/jabbing. The rolling is only sometimes. I think you’ll feel movement soon. I don’t remember with my first, but it was probably early as well seeing as I was the same size as I am now and there’s no way I wouldn’t know I was getting attacked like this from inside lol.

Thanks for all the reassurances ladies. Although the worries don't seem they'd ever fully go, it's nice to hear how everyone else has coped and gone about it :)

@Threnody I think I will get an early scan for when heartbeat should be visible (so 7-8 weeks). It won't mean I relax fully but at least if something is wrong at that point, I'd not be as far along.
It might help ease your anxiety somewhat too x

@Starfish762 I think symptoms vary so much between individuals and even in the same persons pregnancies too! x

@elliew818 we've told a few select people but not as many people as previous. We've both told our work (they are both very supportive thankfully) so that if anything does go wrong we can quickly get the time off we need but also so there is no hiding any appointments. We've also told my parents and a friend. It's been good to have people to talk to so we're not going through it alone and especially
for me getting all up in my head overthinking things. When we had the mmc it was so good to have support from friends and family but also tough to have to actually tell people we lost it so we are conscious of that this time

@WorkingMama1 Glad the yoga helped a bit. Chrissy Teigen and John Legend’s news is so sad, I really feel for them. One of my friends text me to see if I was alright with it being all over the place today, which was very sweet.

@MrsK21 First pregnancy I had an early scan at 7 weeks (wanted to wait for 8 but was away so went earlier) and saw a heartbeat but measured six weeks. Though it reassured me in a way – knowing the pregnancy was viable and not ectopic/blighted ovum – it didn’t reassure me in others. The MMC at 12 weeks wasn’t a big surprise for me, strangely, I was almost expecting it – I left the early scan not feeling very sure (for no real reason). This time I said I would wait until 10 weeks, at which point we’d go so that DH could be there if it was bad news, however had a bleed at 8 and a bit weeks and ended up being scanned then. I think after 8 weeks is good as the odds of anything going wrong drop drastically and then they drop again after 10 weeks, so it’s just down to how long you can wait.

@Ew1990 Oh no to the MS being back! Hope it disappears off soon. I’ve felt nauseous and had the horrible metallic taste back the last few days, too (though thankfully no vomiting) – interesting with us being pretty much exactly the same gestation!

@Simmy20 Welcome! Glad everything seems to be going well despite the bleeding – it must just add to the worry but sounds like everything is in hand and progressing nicely ☺️

@elliew818 A weird outcome of the MMC was that we felt that we knew exactly who we wanted to tell and when with this pregnancy. I told my best friend straight away (first she’d heard of the previous pregnancy was when I told her about the MMC) and we told our parents and DH’s brother a few days after the BFP. It helped us to know we had that support there if we needed it, but I also didn’t like the pressure of everyone worrying about us after last time – my mum was constantly asking how I was feeling and although I know she meant well, it felt like pressure on me to reassure that everything was ok in there when I couldn’t even do that to myself. That said, they’ve definitely eased off now that we’ve had the 12-week scan. We told the family and our close friends after the scan and screening results (so ended up being almost 14 weeks as I had a late scan), which was really nice – it’s a milestone we’ve been wanting to get to for a long time and it was a weight off our shoulders to be able to stop keeping this huge secret. Every now and then I do find myself thinking things like ‘how will we tell them if it goes wrong?!’ though. Not going to announce it widely/put it on social media until probably our wedding anniversary in December and that will depend on how we feel, no guarantees! So, after that rambling answer, I guess I’m saying that it’s a completely personal decision – try and have a think about how they might react and if it would help you or not.

@Poppy10121 Hooray, congratulations! So happy for you 💕 Love that you have a little wriggler and it’s a boy! 💙 Amazing that they could tell you that already (I guess the headstand position helped? 😂) So thrilled!

Welcome @elliew818 congratulations on your positive 😊 sorry you’re having a stressful time, hope the bleeding stops soon. Lots of people here have had some bleeding and positive outcomes 😊 I told my parents and partners parents around 5 weeks this time but I don’t think any of them got excited until our 10 week scan went ok.

Hi @Threnody lovely to see you again ☺️ I’ve been keeping up with your journey on the TTC thread and so happy that you got your positive x

@mrsk21 welcome and congratulations! I booked a private scan at 10 weeks because I wasn’t sure my husband would be allowed at 12 weeks one, at that stage we could see a whole baby and heartbeat! I think any time after 8 weeks is a good indicator of how things will pan out though.

@ew1990 oh no to sickness being back! Hope it goes away again soon!

@simmy20 fingers crossed the bleeding is short lived and you get a good test result 🤞 it’s so worrying but lots of people have had some bleeding and been fine so hopefully you will be too!

I’ve ordered some dungarees guys!! Ended up ordering them off JoJo Maman Baby, they are £45 but are supposed to adapt through pregnancy with different buttons. I’ll let you know what they’re like when they arrive, if they’re not perfect they’re going back at that price! I’ve also bought a few more loose tops today so I can keep hiding the belly for now until I’m ready to share the news.

Thanks everyone. The bleeding has stopped so fingers crossed its all good. Its 3am here (I'm in AU) and I had to get up to pee and eat which is so unlike me so hopefully that's a good sign. I've been stressing about every small thing and not having any symptoms though knowing it's still so early - I'm sure you can all relate
Congratulations on your boy @Poppy10121

@Poppy10121 yeyyy to the dungarees!!

Welcome ladies that have just joined us... we definitely all share the same anxieties here. I didnt want to join a pregnancy thread until after 12 weeks but so glad I gave in and joined this one early on!! Such great support, being able to speak to people who really understand what you've been through.

@threnody I debated over whether to get an early scan for ages.. every time i tried to book i got upset because we found out at a private scan last time. But eventually we went at 8 weeks (past the point baby had stopped growing last time). It was a HUGE relief... i cried as soon as i walked into the room i was so bloody anxious but seeing that heartbeat for the first time was incredible. I wont pretend it got rid of the anxiety.. i relaxed for a few days then worried again but basically I've been for scans nearly every 2 weeks since then and I'm now 18 weeks. I find them so reassuring and something to aim for as well. I couldn't have coped with the 12 week scan on my own without having seen a healthy baby at 10 weeks.

@SkyBlue20 I feel like ive jinxed you 🙈 weirdly I had a nightmare about a lift as well... i was trapped in this weird lift designed for 1 person with 3 other people.... my sister tried to help me get out and got trapped between the lift and the wall and I woke up panicking that she was suffocating. It was HORRIBLE. Had quite a few other dreams as well last night. Not fun!