Pregnant After MMC - Thread 3

[Sakura54]

New thread for anyone pregnant after MMC.

Here’s our current list of 12/20 week scan dates and due dates.

Scan dates:
@Poppy10121 Thursday 1st October
@Sakura54 Wednesday 7th October 2.40pm
@bubblybon20 Tuesday 13th October 11:10am
@Dancem1 Thursday 15th October
@ew1990 Tuesday 20th October
@SkyBlue20 Tuesday 27th October, 1:20pm

Due dates:
@bubblybon20 - 27/02/21 Boy
@Sakura54 - 28/02/21
@DanceM1 - 04/03/21
@ew1990 - 12/03/21
@SkyBlue20 - 13/03/21
@PhotoMum4 - 18/03/21
@smileyT - 18/03/21
@Poppy10121 - 08/04/21

@DanceM1 thank you xx

Aww lovely pictures ladies so glad I found this group to share with people along the way 🥰

Thank you @ew1990 @DanceM1 - I really hate feeling like this and when I do I get more upset because I just resent how much the MMC has taken away the joy of this pregnancy but in day-to-day life I'm very much a person who just gets on with it and doesn't see the point in worrying about something that might not happen so I need to just channel that in to the pregnancy, too. I had told myself and our parents no baby shopping until after the 20 week scan, so I don't know if that's part of it - I felt in control by saying that but out of control when that's not what's happening 🤷🏻‍♀️
I've just done a short pregnancy yoga for anxiety routine from YouTube and am going to curl up and read a magazine and get an early night I think. Tomorrow is a new day and I just need to remind myself of that wiggly little bean we saw on the screen on Friday and the joy we had after seeing her and try to harness some of that. The gifts really are beautiful and I'm very excited to get baby girl in to them - I just let the worry take hold for a moment too long. Urgh, this is such a rollercoaster!

@Lollol86 What a lovely announcement - and you're due the day before my birthday! 🥰

@Pugprincess Love your announcement, too - and your dog is a cutie!

@SkyBlue20 aww hopefully you will feel better after the 20 week scan 🤞🏻❤️ I won’t be buying much till then but I’m accepting gifts lol. I feel like I’m cursing it too in a way but then I think I deserve to enjoy this I’ve wanted it for so long. It’s going to kill me if something goes wrong anyway so I might as well feel happy for now. It is so hard though. I’m still paranoid every discharge gush and every toilet trip and wipe 😔 constant battle xx

@SkyBlue20 thank you, honestly I feel the same. My mmc has definitely ruined any chance of me getting excited. I'm so scared. I just can't wait to start feeling movements xx

@Pugprincess That’s such a great way of thinking - what will be will be so may as well enjoy the journey. I might adopt that! After all, if all goes well (and likeliness is that it will), it would be awful to have worried unnecessarily for nine months.

@Lollol86 I’m really eager for movements, too - I know they’ll come with their own worries but just to have that reassurance right there that baby is ok rather than having to wait weeks until another scan to check, is going to be such a help I think. Hopefully not too much longer now for us both 🤞🏼

I have to say, I’m so grateful for this group. It’s invaluable having people who have been there and know what you’re feeling. Xx

@SkyBlue20 it really is comforting knowing each and every one of us have all been through the same thing so totally understand each others worries and anxieties, how far along are you? xx

[quote Lollol86]@SkyBlue20 it really is comforting knowing each and every one of us have all been through the same thing so totally understand each others worries and anxieties, how far along are you? xx[/quote]
@Lollol86 18+3 but anterior placenta and first baby so movements might be a while yet! 🙈

@SkyBlue20 you are nearly there though, hopefully we both feel our little ones moving soon xx

@SkyBlue20 when/how did you get to find out about where your placenta is? I keep forgetting to ask at scans 🙈 the sonographer did ask me if I have a tilted womb yesterday and I was like I don’t know 🤷🏼‍♀️ do I? Lol but she didn’t say anything.

Yay for more positive scans today! Also loving the announcement photos 🥰

@skyblue20 I totally relate to how you are feeling, when my nan told me she had knitted a cardigan for the baby I nearly fell off my chair! Everyone else junps from your pregnant to your going to have a baby in 9 months but for me I can only see 2 weeks ahead max!

I was speaking to my manager about career next steps and said I couldn't really have the conversion as if all goes well with the pregnancy I don't want to take on more responsibility right now, but I also don't feel ready to make that commitment in case something goes wrong. It's so confusing feeling like that, I'm not happy you feel the same way as its shit, but its also nice to know I'm not the only one thinking that way!

@mrsK21 have they given you medication for the HG? I hope the sickness eases soon!

I'm slightly less of a mess now, and managed to do some work this afternoon. Feel like shit still but thats because I've been anxious all day and not eaten properly. My husband came home early from work with flowers which was nice of him. No more blood in a pad, and just a bit on wiping.

Lovely announcement photos @Lollol86 and @Pugprincess 💕

@SkyBlue20 I totally get it, I’ve not told many people but everyone I do tell i have to say “I’m not really ready to get excited yet and please don’t tell anyone else!” I had been feeling a little excited the last few days as I can finally see (and feel!) a proper bump and I can’t stop touching it! But tonight I’ve had a lot of aches - it’s probably indigestion - and it makes me worry again and think I should stop getting ahead of myself. I do feel bitter about what the MC has taken from me. I hope you feel better after an early night 😘

@Workingmama1 you’ve hit the nail on the head - everyone else starts talking about April and the baby and mat leave and I just can’t look further ahead than 20 week scan for now. I hope everything goes well for you tomorrow x

Congratulations on the scans ladies ❤️ And LOVE the announcement pics, adorable 😍

@DanceM1 fingers crossed the test comes back negative!

@MrsK21 so sorry to hear you have HG, pray it doesn’t last too long for you as it’s really tough ☹️ Try not to worry about the baby though, it doesn’t work that way I promise. My friend had it badly & no concerns for baby throughout pregnancy, was born almost 8lb.

@Workingmama1 hope you get a good nights sleep & tomorrow morning doesn’t drag for you, will be thinking of you xx

@Simmy20 how are you? Have you had blood test?

@Starfish762 no news from my Dr yet about next steps. Not sure if she will want me to get another blood test or just wait for another scan. I presume I will talk to her today as she should have the results by now. I stupidly started googling things and I'm so worried I have a blighted ovum now.

Love the announcements @Lollol86 and @Pugprincess that's exciting.

@Workingmama1 good luck for your scan. I hope the day goes quick.

@MrsK21 that's terrible about HG. Hopefully you can take something for it and start feeling better soon.

@DanceM1 i hope the test comes back negative and you can go to the scan

Lovely positive scans today ladies 🥰 Congratulations!! Hope you are both relaxing tonight now - scanxiety is.exhausting!
@workingmama1 i'm sorry you are having all this to deal with. It all sounds hopeful though and I'm sure it will be fine. So many of my friends have bled throughout pregnancy and it's be all good 😊 xxxx
@skyblue20 - don't feel bad about finding it all too much ! We have been through a lot this year. I am also full of worry and hate taking about it (which is hard to avoid as I'm bloody massive!) I like @pugprincess' approach though - nothing will stop the heartache if it goes wrong now so I may as well start to enjoy it a bit more!

Love to all

Xxxxxx

I just heard from the Dr and I have to wait 2 weeks for another scan. Unless if I have a heavy bleed between now and then to call her and she will organise another blood test as it's most likely that I've lost the baby if I do bleed again. But she said if I just get another blood test if it goes up at all then it's still not going to confirm whether it's viable or not so it's best to just wait for a scan rather than obsessing over hcg levels

@Simmy20 oh no that’s a long wait. I would have thought one week would be enough. What do you think x

Yeah I think we can try and protect ourselves as much as we like but I know from having my scare with my bleed that it’s impossible I just freaked out and was very upset. Like @SkyBlue20 said if everything turns out well it would be horrible to look back and think I didn’t enjoy my pregnancy at all. We defo need and deserve some good times ❤️

Oh @simmy20 I'm so sorry you have to wait. If I'm honest I would probably pay for a private scan in a week. I could only see a sac at 5w+4 (not unusual) and I had to wait 2 weeks and it was agony. But at 7 they could see the baby and the heartbeat. Stay positive if you can - thinking of you xxxx

@Simmy20 sorry you have to wait ☹️ Is a private scan an option you’d consider? If you can wait I guess it’s better because the further along you are the more conclusive things will be, but I know the agony of waiting!

@Pugprincess I like your attitude and I’m going to try and start enjoying this pregnancy. I’ve finally got a few bits of maternity wear and pregnancy pillow coming in the post today so am starting to embrace my comfort!

@Workingmama1 good luck x

Things work a bit differently here in AU and I can't book another scan. This scan is already private that I have to pay for as I haven't been referred to an OB-GYN yet and when I do i have private health insurance so it's all private with him rather than having to go to a hospital. So just a waiting game

@Simmy20 sorry you have to wait that long 😢 Up to you whether you think a private scan in a week would help settle your mind in between, it’s hard to know for sure isn’t it, they’ve obviously given 2 weeks for a reason - it’s just such a long time.

@Workingmama1 thinking of you today xxx

Morning everyone!

Feeling much better today, trying to keep @PugPrincess’ way of thinking in mind and enjoy the pregnancy. My pregnancy pillow arrived yesterday and I’ve been using it whilst sitting at my desk and it is helping my back SO much – think yesterday was the first day in weeks I haven’t had a sore back. I’m not using it in bed yet as don’t feel I need it at the mo but it’s already so good when sitting and DH already wants one for himself 😂 @Poppy10121 enjoy yours! I finally ordered some dungarees, too, so eager for them to arrive!

@PugPrincess I got told at my 18 week private scan where my placenta was, strangely I already assumed it would be anterior – that’s just the sort of thing I’d have, anything to make life more annoying 😂 How odd for the sonographer to ask that and then not follow up! Will have to ask at your next one.

@Workingmama1 Also not happy you feel the same way but it is nice to know we’re not alone. I think people that haven’t been through it just fail to understand how we can’t possibly just trust that all will be ok. Even my husband just says ‘you can’t think like that’ when I tell him how I’m feeling and I find it really hard to explain that I’m not CHOOSING to think like that, I can’t help it. Know what you mean about work, too – after my 20 week scan we’re going to have to put the wheels in motion to recruit my mat cover and I’m just like 😵 It feels wrong. Glad we all have each other though.
Not too much longer to wait until your scan, sending you a huge handhold – it does sound as though everything will be alright so feeling optimistic for you. Sweet of your husband to bring flowers home, too, bless him!

@Poppy10121 So sorry you feel that way, too – I TOTALLY get the not being ready to get excited yet. I think personally I’ve built up the 20 week scan as THE moment and after that I’m going to have to try and start believing it and start to enjoy it as from there, we need to get planning (and if there’s one thing I’m good at, it’s planning 😂 – I think that’s part of the problem for me, not being in control of anything at all!) One week and six days to go…

@Simmy20 I’m so sorry you have to wait, that seems like such a long time. Sending strength xx

@SkyBlue20 My pillow arrived this morning and it's amazing! I got back into bed for a bit to test it out and I feel like it's gonna make a big difference, I have been getting bad back pain already from my weird side-sleeping position and struggling to get super comfy on the sofa, but this looks like a game-changer! How do you use it at your desk? Mine is massive!

I'm also definitely treating 20 week scan as THE time to be excited, but still a month away! My bump is going to give me away before then, I think. I'm looking forward to planning and buying bits, but will hold off til the 20 week point. Told my boss today though, as I think I'm starting to be a bit less on-the-ball than usual, and I want them to understand why!

@Poppy10121 Mine's huge, too - it's a c-shaped one so I kind of curl the top of the C around to support my lower back then have the straight of the C going along my upper back horizontally and let the rest dangle on to the floor, if that makes sense? It's heaven.
The month should go quickly, hopefully - I'm already five weeks past my 12 week scan (at 13+3) and that's flown by, have just short of two weeks to wait for my 20 week scan now which sounds like forever but I think it should go quite quickly hopefully 🤞🏼 Know the gov are meeting to decide whether Greater Manchester should go in to tier three today so hoping if we do it doesn't mean partners will no longer be able to come to scans again but assuming it will 😒
Good plan telling your boss - I feel like I've been less on-the-ball all year tbh 😂🙈
Isn't it terrifying that when 20 weeks comes around we'll be half way through?! It's dragged at times but also half way already?!