Thread 3 for us classed as more mature pregnant ladies

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Morning all. Here's our fresh new thread with updated list

Hopefully all are correct, feel free to change anything that's wrong. There are lots who don't seem to post, not sure if they're still reading so will leave everyone on for now. If anyone wants in to the FB group then drop me a PM

Happy Thread No3!

@Liveforholidays 40. Due 01/06/20 - Baby boy born 4th June 💙
@Ethellsmum 38. 💝
@fool11 45, 💙
@PregnantPorcupine, 38, due 29/07/20 DC1
@AliasGrape 40 Due 30/07/20 DC1 (little girl)
@stairgates Age 43 💙
@Dufferedup 42. Due Sep DC3 (Little girl)
@Realladymarmalade Age? Due:29/08/20 DC3 (Little boy)
@Ferrylass 45. Due Oct? DC2
@3isthemagicnumber3 40. Due 16/10/20 DC3
@Brightonmaman 41. Due 19 Oct DC2
@LittleMiss7 38. Due 20/10/20 DC1&2.. TWINS!
@crispaddict99 40. Due 9/11/20 DC1
@NaomiB79. 40. Due 13/11/20 DC1
@Sheera1 41. Due 20/11/20 ds10
@onlyreadingneverposting8 44. Due 24/11/20 DC (darling child)?
@Frazzlerock age 41. Due 26/11/20 DC3 - 7th pregnancy
@EveningReflection 38. Due 04/12/2020 DC1
@MariaDingbat 40. Due 07/12/20 & FTM dc3
@jalu47 38. Due 13/12/20 FTM
@AuntLucy 44. Due Dec
@passthemustard Age? Due Dec DC5
@sunlight81 Age? Due Dec DC2 & 3 TWINS!
@countingblessings 40 Due 21/12/20 DC2
@LJEva 42. Due 25/12/20 DC2
@Liese27 38 Due 9/01/21 DC2
@Clarkel1 39 Due 10/01/21
@footprintsintheslow 40 Due 10/01/21 dC3
@pinklillie 39. Due Jan DC1
@sk283 40. Due 21/01/21 DC2
@Antihop 42. Due 21/01/21 DC2
@mlctobe 41. Due 21/01/21 DC2
@Mummymilla Age? Due 24/01/21 DC3
@Viennoise 38 Due 26/01/21 DC1
@Louscarlet 39 Due 30/01/21 DC1
@MaryShelley1818 Due 09/02/2021 DC2
@gilljill1980 40. Due 16/02/21 DC2
@BuffaloMozzerella 40. Due end of 02/21 DC2
@Chickoletta Due End of March DC3?

Still here everyone - sorry for the radio silence - I've really not been feeling well (mentally or physically - constant nausea again) and on top I've broken my toe 😖😭. We still haven't managed to get our sale and purchase through so the move is still looming and I've lost all enthusiasm for everything - particularly packing boxes!!! DH is stressed about the move so grumpy and I have zero patience for a grumpy DH when I feel grumpy enough myself! I'm also beginning to stress about covid and catching it around the birth time - is hoped that the government wouldn't have made such a cock-up and have us back where we were in March (only worse because the country can't afford a total lockdown for many reasons!!) I have managed to get my flu jab booked though - Tuesday at 9:52am (spurious accuracy on the time 🤣🤣 - wonder if they'll actually manage to stick to it??? 🤣🤣) I also have the hospital and a scan on Wednesday.

@Dipsy77 a couple of us in the group had some horrible headaches in the first two trimesters. I certainly had a cluster at 18 weeks. 31.4 weeks now and things have been much more settled in recent weeks.

@onlyreadingneverposting8 I can totally sympathise with having a grumpy husband. I posted in the middle of the night on a different thread about how sick I am of his moods and how I'm struggling to not absorb them and get down as well.

And I'm really not a downbeat person. I'm the optimist of the two of us. But it's exhausting jollying him along as well as negotiating a toddler out of tantrums and potty training. I don't like the miserable me but I'm finding it hard to compartmentalise right now.

What's your husband like normally when there isn't a house move ongoing? Mine is a miserable bastard for 65% of the time.

Morning all.
I'm attempting to write a post from the app so this had better not disappear!

@Crispaddict99 I'm glad you enjoyed the video, it is a tearfest isn't it 😂 Let us know what you decide.

Welcome @JessicaPeach! If you find the very last updated list, then copy it and paste into your reply, you can add yourself.

Just need to make sure it's the last updated one so you might need to scroll back a bit to find it! Otherwise people fall off.
It's all in due date order 😊

@Dipsy77 I think headaches are very common early on. I had lots of them until about 20 weeks if I remember correctly.

Hey @onlyreadingneverposting8 I can completely empathise with the grumpy DP. I've moaned about it on here before and it's really hard and can make you feel utterly miserable.
I can't cope at all when DP is depressed and I'm sure he has bipolar as he's either really 'up' or he plummets.
A house move is stressful enough without a baby on the way. I hope things move quickly with that.
I really feel for you 🧡

Think the man issues is a common theme just now. We had a massive blow out last night. Been brewing for a few weeks. Last night was the third weekend he has not made it to bed and been drinking more than we agreed (he has a history of issues with alcohol). He stays up all night playing his playstation then is shattered all week and doesn't lift a finger and goes to bed about 8pm. Last night I had already left him in disgust as he was drinking and therefore becoming an arsehole. I find it hard to talk about it calmly as he is so off with me. I texted him saying it was unfair and we had an agreement. He texted back saying Sorry and I was right and then continued drinking and playing and woke me up at 4am noisily opening and closing doors and flushing the toilet, then going back down to continue playing. I lost the plot and went down and we had a huge screaming argument. He was absolutely horrible. He is not like this when he doesn't drink. But he is also just a drain and I do everything and take care of all his financial and work stuff and of the house and am supportive about his shitty boss and he barely even listens to me when I talk about stuff. He hasn't googled a thing about pregnancies or babies as his view is I am handling it all.

I've hardly slept a wink. I am so fed up. I am 8 months pregnant but already have a baby in the house. He changes or he goes. I am not putting up with it again. Doing things yourself is easier that foing things yourself and living with someone who is supposed to help but doesn't and actually even goes the opposite and adds to your problems. I love him but I am so done just now.

@Dipsy77 I had really awful headaches in the first trimester and then again about 20 weeks until about 24 weeks. Even called triage about it. Only co-codamol helped. I was worried as it is a sign of pre-eclampsia from 20 weeks but they said it wouldn't be that and weren't interested tbh. 😱 They did eventually go away but give them a call of you are worried as that is what they are there for.

@Sheera1 it sounds like your partner has a lot of growing up to do. I wonder if things will be better when the baby comes, if he'll act more responsibly and help you out more and not drink so much. If he doesn't then I do agree that although it would be tough doing things on your own, it is easier and less stressful than having to look after someone else who should be able to look after themselves.

My ex was a heavy drinker and I lost count of the number of nights out and special occasions that were ruined because he was so drunk. He'd either fall a sleep or refuse to go home, even tho he could barely string a sentence together. He also used to sit up drinking on his own and I'd often find him sound asleep on the couch at 3am because he hadn't made it to bed. I feel your pain, I hope he gets his act together soon. I do really feel for you, you don't need to be dealing with this on top of everything else that comes with being 8 months pregnant! X

Thanks @NaomiB79. You know the scorem it is just exhausting and as you say not needed anytime never mind 8 mo this pregnant. He has been read the riot act to leave or to sort himself out and it is not a bluff. It would be though, but tougher if he is acting like that.

He is desperate for this baby so hoping he will pull it together. X

Sympathy for everyone with grumpy arse other halves! @Sheera1 hope the riot act works and your DP ups his game!

Having a slightly better day nausea wise (thank god!!) the last few days I've been feeling so terrible and miserable with it. On a down note I've stubbed (badly) my broken toe - it's back to square one 😭😭😭 Anyone else finding they are just totally clumsy now??

@onlyreadingneverposting8 I'm so clumsy just now, spilt a cup of tea on my work laptop on Thursday and it's totally broken! It's the worst time as we are going live with a major project we have been working on for 2 years in the next two weeks so I really can't afford to not have my laptop. Had to go into our office to get a new one yesterday which was very weird! Generally I am dropping stuff and banging into things all the time. Your toe injury sounds really painful, I hope it heals soon x

@Sheera1 he reallly needs to grow the fuck up. You've probably already thought of this but could relationship counselling be an option before you make any rash decisions? Does he believe/admit he has a drinking problem?
He sounds a lot like my ex and I couldn't cope with it any longer. I lost my shit with him one day and kicked him out! He's been an ex ever since.
You must be bloody strong to keep going with that behaviour from a grown man who is supposed to be your partner and support/equal.
I'd give Relate a go if I were you, if he'll do it. Give him an ultimatum.
I'm so sorry he's being a twat 💐

@onlyreadingneverposting8 oh no! A broken toe is not pleasant at any time let alone in pregnancy! I'm also very clumsy and keep walking into door handles and bashing my funny bones.

Aaaand I've just walked into the footstool and nearly went arse over tit 🙄

@Frazzlerock

Morning all. I'm attempting to write a post from the app so this had better not disappear!

@Crispaddict99 I'm glad you enjoyed the video, it is a tearfest isn't it 😂 Let us know what you decide.

Welcome @JessicaPeach! If you find the very last updated list, then copy it and paste into your reply, you can add yourself.

Just need to make sure it's the last updated one so you might need to scroll back a bit to find it! Otherwise people fall off.
It's all in due date order 😊

@Dipsy77 I think headaches are very common early on. I had lots of them until about 20 weeks if I remember correctly.

Hey @onlyreadingneverposting8 I can completely empathise with the grumpy DP. I've moaned about it on here before and it's really hard and can make you feel utterly miserable.
I can't cope at all when DP is depressed and I'm sure he has bipolar as he's either really 'up' or he plummets.
A house move is stressful enough without a baby on the way. I hope things move quickly with that.
I really feel for you 🧡

Sorry I thought you mentioned a Facebook group! Thanks

Hi @JessicaPeach yes we do have a FB group. I'll send you a PM now 😊

Hi am I ok to join the fb group thanks x

@Dipsy77 I've PMd you.

Anyone who'd like to join the FB group, can you please send me a PM. Cheers! 😊

Thanks @Frazzlerock It is bloody exhausting. He has been towing the line since and doing all the things he should have been doing all along and there is not a drop of alcohol in the house. I am not talking to him yet. He said "sorry I pissed you off on Friday" and that doesn't really cut it for me. He is on board and knows I am right but can't seem to help these crazy tangent moods every few months where he just seems to forget it all and causes such stress and upset. I think there is some psychological issue there tbh. Nothing seems to get through until I am screaming at home and asking him to leave. Anyway. Will see what happens today.

Oh no on the clumsy accidents. Eeek on broken toes. Last thing you need @onlyreadingneverposting8. Yoi must be getting fed up and stressed with the move!

My strange worry this week is that I am losing weight. Like quite a lot. I have a very high BMI so I think I shouldn't put on too much and think no more than a stone over the whole pregnancy. In August after my holiday I was 11 pounds heavier than my booking in weight at 12 weeks.

I have come down and am now less than my booking in weight and have lost 5/6 pounds in the last few weeks!! On one hand great! On the other it is a little worrying.

I have been eating loads and had a couple of last weeks eating pizza and going out for dinners and lunches so not like I haven't been eating.

I called triage there as daycare is shut as bank hols here in Scotland. They didn't seem bothered tbh. I have a scan on Thursday anyway but it does mention potentially baby not growing at the right rate or amniotic fluid decreasing 🙈.

At least I called and will need to just weight/wait 😂.

I think I am meant to put on a pound a week at this stage (32 weeks)

@Sheera1 I think as long as the baby's weight is fine there is no need to worry. I know people who have had a high BMI at the start of pregnancy and have actually lost weight during pregnancy but the baby had been a good size. A few used to come along to my Slimming World class. Have you had any growth scans recently that showed how the baby was tracking in terms of size? xx

@Sheera1 oops missed the bit about your scan on Thursday. Defo see what they say then re baby's size and fluid, hopefully it's nothing to worry about x

Thanks @NaomiB79. I am glad I have a scan booked in anyway in a few days.

That is great on slimming world and reassuring. I lost 2.5 stone with them and probably the reason I fell pregnant this time 😂.

Getting back on to it once this baby is here! A wee jump start if baby is happily munching up the calories is all good by me 🥰

Sorted things out with DP after our epic fallout. He is back on track and basically said he just can't drink end of. He is terribly, terribly sorry for the behaviour and hating himself the last few days. Had a good chat about everything once some of my anger had dissipated. He has been doing so well the last 5 months so he started to think he was ok to have a few drinks and he just can't and he admits that and will stop. He did initially so he can do it, but just needs to keep it up. Baby will be here soon and he will not drink at all then anyway. I think there was some psychology in there around not being able to do certain things once baby is here but he recognises that I haven't had that luxury over the last 8 months. We just need to stop certain food and alcohol overnight (my pregnancy was a surprise).

Fingers crossed for now. He really does genuinely carr and wants this more than anything and says he just needs to grow up. Thanks for being here for my ranting! Xx

@Sheera1 that is brilliant! Well done for DP for admitting he has a problem, that's an excellent step forward. I really hope he keeps this up, it sounds like he's finally realised how serious you are. Long may it continue!

Good news @Sheera1! No alcohol sounds the way to go for the foreseeable - just take it out of the equation. I had a friend when I was in the sixth form who just became a completely different person when he'd had a drink. Augmentative, horrid and aggressive whereas with no drink he was just lovely!!

Just had a scan and a clinic appointment- I officially love the doctor I saw today. She listened to all my concerns and said if I want a c section I can have one 😀. She went through the form they have to go through (risks/benefits) and signed it and said I can make the decision whenever I want up to 37 weeks. Just knowing I now have a choice has made me feel so much better! And she did a prescription for omeprazole for me so I don't have to bother trying to get an appointment with the GP.

We still haven't moved - looks like it'll be next week - had a meltdown when DH suggested we move this Friday. Fortunately, the legals have confirmed it won't be Friday! Much as I really want to get moved I'm finding it impossible to actually pack....I'm exhausted!!

Oh and currently baby is transverse!!! So c section decision maybe taken out of my hands anyway!! Although doctor was pretty sure she will go head down again. Is it wrong to say I hope she doesn't and then I don't have to make any choice??