Thread 3 for us classed as more mature pregnant ladies

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Morning all. Here's our fresh new thread with updated list

Hopefully all are correct, feel free to change anything that's wrong. There are lots who don't seem to post, not sure if they're still reading so will leave everyone on for now. If anyone wants in to the FB group then drop me a PM

Happy Thread No3!

@Liveforholidays 40. Due 01/06/20 - Baby boy born 4th June 💙
@Ethellsmum 38. 💝
@fool11 45, 💙
@PregnantPorcupine, 38, due 29/07/20 DC1
@AliasGrape 40 Due 30/07/20 DC1 (little girl)
@stairgates Age 43 💙
@Dufferedup 42. Due Sep DC3 (Little girl)
@Realladymarmalade Age? Due:29/08/20 DC3 (Little boy)
@Ferrylass 45. Due Oct? DC2
@3isthemagicnumber3 40. Due 16/10/20 DC3
@Brightonmaman 41. Due 19 Oct DC2
@LittleMiss7 38. Due 20/10/20 DC1&2.. TWINS!
@crispaddict99 40. Due 9/11/20 DC1
@NaomiB79. 40. Due 13/11/20 DC1
@Sheera1 41. Due 20/11/20 ds10
@onlyreadingneverposting8 44. Due 24/11/20 DC (darling child)?
@Frazzlerock age 41. Due 26/11/20 DC3 - 7th pregnancy
@EveningReflection 38. Due 04/12/2020 DC1
@MariaDingbat 40. Due 07/12/20 & FTM dc3
@jalu47 38. Due 13/12/20 FTM
@AuntLucy 44. Due Dec
@passthemustard Age? Due Dec DC5
@sunlight81 Age? Due Dec DC2 & 3 TWINS!
@countingblessings 40 Due 21/12/20 DC2
@LJEva 42. Due 25/12/20 DC2
@Liese27 38 Due 9/01/21 DC2
@Clarkel1 39 Due 10/01/21
@footprintsintheslow 40 Due 10/01/21 dC3
@pinklillie 39. Due Jan DC1
@sk283 40. Due 21/01/21 DC2
@Antihop 42. Due 21/01/21 DC2
@mlctobe 41. Due 21/01/21 DC2
@Mummymilla Age? Due 24/01/21 DC3
@Viennoise 38 Due 26/01/21 DC1
@Louscarlet 39 Due 30/01/21 DC1
@MaryShelley1818 Due 09/02/2021 DC2
@gilljill1980 40. Due 16/02/21 DC2
@BuffaloMozzerella 40. Due end of 02/21 DC2
@Chickoletta Due End of March DC3?

Oh no @@onlyreadingneverposting8 that sounds awful. You must be shattered. Had a wee giggle at waking your husband with late night crisps.

@jalu47 I was in triage a few weeks ago for monitoring as there was blood in the loo when I stood up. They did a check of my cervix and took a swab while in there. It isn't routinely tested here either. I also had it with DS and he was on antibiotics for 3 days in hospital. It enraged me at the time that they could have done a swab as they new my induction date. I don't know why they don't do it as part of routine.

Thanks @Sheera1 - Stories about having strep b and it not being picked up have made me a bit nervous! I might ask at my next appt how I go about getting a swab, even if I have to pay for it. Would rather know..

Hello ladies,

How are all the bumps and babies doing?

My little man is now 4 weeks old. I can't believe how quickly it has gone! It's been amazing but also exhausting. He is my third baby but my husbands first. We have really struggled with breastfeeding and weight loss so are now doing combi feeding which I didn't really want to do.

I never thought I would say it but I miss being pregnant, it was a tough pregnancy but I wish I had enjoyed it more as he is my last baby. I Also wish I had enjoyed the labour and birth more, looking back I was not in control as was a little out of it on gas and air x

Hi @Samk79. Lovely to hear from you. I think I am in denial about how hard breast feeding is/was. I breastfed DS and only really remember how easy it was waaaaay later on like after 12 weeks. I think I am forgetting how much you worry and 2nd guess yourself in those early weeks esp if baby is losing weight. I swear it was DS knowing what to do, not me.

Sorry to hear it has been so tough. I do want to combi feed as I felt I was killing myself exclusively breastfeeding and expressing and I am determined to start a mixed feed as soon as I can, but I think I am in denial about how hard it is going to be.

I know what you mean about pregnancy. I have in the mean enjoyed most of this (since mid 2nd trimester anyway), but I am not going to mix the anxiety I have had throughout. This is the last and even if something awful was to happen at this late stage I don't think we would try again as it has been an anxious time. I think after the birth I will feel like you and miss it a bit.

It is amazing how much the birth affects us and we feel unhappy about how things went for a long time after. Just remember it is normal a d probably a lot driven by emotions and hormones and in time that feeling will fade, but you are perfectly reasonable for feeling like that.

I have a planned c section 5 weeks tomorrow and am crossing fingers this birth is calm and goes to plan (DS was a very messy birth). I am sure it won't but crossing my toes as well. Xxxx

@Sheera1 I agree about the early weeks of breastfeeding. I think the babies have to learn what to do as well as us. I underestimated how hard it would be as I looked back to my first child who was a pro. But obviously I'd forgotten the early days and was thinking back to her being months old when she's learned what to do.

I don't bother with expressing as a general rule as I think it's a faff with little pay off (for me). Others may find it different of course. --

And if I'm totally honest I also like having total control on having the baby and them not being able to with anyone else for any period of time like my mother in law.

I've been expressing as I have a horse and need a block of time to ride a few times a week but I am strict about the milk only being used for my benefit! DH keeps on about taking her out for the day alone with expressed milk but no chance.

@footprintsintheslow yes I don't plan to Express over here unless there is some real need too. I found it torture. I am with you on the MIL. With DS she was an absolute nightmare. She is a controlling, stupid, vapid woman and didn't breastfeed so made cutting comments. She sees feeding her family as a way of control and so couldn't stand the fact she wasn't allowed to feed DS. They asked to come for a week when DS was 3 weeks old. I told my husband at the time that I was not up to it having a c section and only just up after a spinal puncture headache had me bedridden for 2 weeks. We agreed 3 days. (They live 3 hours away).

She was horrific. Kept poking her head in saying "are you feeding that baby again?" She would make cups of tea for her, her husband and my ex but not for me. I got through the 3 days to find out that my useless ex husband had not ever told them they were here for 3 days. They expected a week. I lost my shit with him and he went out to the garden and basically told them I wanted them to leave. 😡. They stayed an extra two days in the end a d at a final dinner with my parents she sat complaining about how I hadn't even poured her a cup of tea a d they were left to fed for themselves.

Now there was issues with hmex hubby and I before DS was conceived (he was a miracle from one time in 6 months when I was trying to patch my marriage), but I have never forgiven him for that and was the nail in the marriage coffin tbh. I left him about 2 years after that.

I don't have a MIL this time, but DP's family could not be nicer anyway. They also stay about 2 hours away apart from a sister who lives close but they would NEVER impose or ask to stay.

Sorry that turned into a huge rant on something that happened 10 years ago! Just shows though the impact these things have.

@Sheera1 thank you for your reply. I breastfed my older two without too many problems so it has thrown me that it's difficult this time! I'm currently combi feeding, expressing and breastfeeding and topping up with formula. I've just ordered a double breast pump to see if that helps with expressing.

Little man had finally put weight on now which is a huge relief.

I guess lots of people have a plan for birth and it goes to pot! I was induced and don't think little man was ready to be born!

Not long to go for you now then! X

@Sheera1 god that sounded bloody awful. My MIL didn't feed either but seems to have a tremendous amount of opinions on a topic she knows fuck all about. As you can imagine I have zero patience with it or her in general.

I wish so much I and her had a better relationship as I don't have family myself. I could I've done with a new surrogate family but instead it's shit. It could definitely be worse though so shouldn't moan too much.

I actually hate my husband today. We normally get along fine but we had a row last night about his constant phone useage and now we aren't speaking. He's a dick.

Hi ladies. Oh my goodness if you are still looking at changing bags a d got the best one ever. I ordered this and a hamfall one from Amazon. There is no comparison. The Babbleroo one if miles away the better bag. The Hamfall is like 100's on amazon. It was ok, but felt a d looked cheap and very cheap inside and was just awkward to get into anything.

The Babbleroo had a separate section at the front that open flat which you can put everything in for changing so it is all to hand rather than rooting about in the main bit. Everything has a place and it looks gorgeous. I bought the black one. It eve comes with a dust cover! How ridiculously excited am I about this bag. Lol

The link would help!

www.amazon.co.uk/Changing-Backpack-BabbleRoo-Diaper-Pacifier/dp/B0882PZQRF?tag=mumsnetforu03-21

In other news. Had midwife check up. All looking fine 34 weeks. She thinks baby has turned so no longer breech. She is unlikely to see me again as have a scan at 36 +5 and then c section booked a week and a half after that at 39+2.

I had a moan about the registrar I saw and she was very reassuring a d did a birthing plan with me so it is on the electronic notes so skin to skin as soon as baby is out and delayed cord clamping and keeping me informed rather than ignoring me like last time. I am sure no-one will read it lol.

The flu vaccine has been a shambles though. I got a text from GP saying to call and book it which I did. They then called and cancelled and said midwives should do it but today she said that was nonsense.

So I have to make an appointment at the hospital to get it when I am in for my next scan and clinic where I will be basically 37 weeks. Hardly seems worth it by that stage!!

@Sheera1 glad all looks well following your appt.

Thanks for sharing that backpack, I'm finding the changing bag is the thing I'm being most indecisive about!!

I've been looking at this one.. again a fairly cheap option but has some good reviews. We've gone for the uppababy vista with a massive basket so doubt I'll hang it off the handlebars and it will just be thrown underneath.

Baby Changing Bag Diaper Nappy Rucksack Backpack with Changing Mat Multi-Function Water Resistant Travel for Mom and Dad Black https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B08F4YQ7PK/ref=cmswwrcppapifabb_9a0HFbG1T5YAP

@Sheera1 oh and also having a nightmare with the flu jab! Still haven't got mine sorted yet, trying to get it done next week. agree time is ticking but it'll still be useful to have had it post baby.

Ooh that is a lovely bag too. Quite similar to the one I am keeping. Yes will persevere with getting the flu jab but it is a bit of a shambles really x

I'm also looking for a bag but I've ruled out a 'changing bag' even though I love all the little compartments as I don't think I'll be using bottles and my giant reusable nappies don't fit into the nice slots.

I've been looking at these bags:

gandysinternational.com/collections/bag-backpacks

And the story behind the children's upbringing is so sad so makes me want to support the business. They were on a family holiday when the Tsunami hit and they lost both their parents and this is a business/children's charity now.

How's everyone doing? I'm defo on the final stretch now.

I just had my 36 week growth scan and my baby is still measuring big! They said she is already 8.5lbs and I still have 4 weeks until my due date!

I need to go to the hospital on Monday for monitoring for preeclampsia so they are going to discuss it with me then and might make a plan to induce me early. I feel really anxious about trying to deliver a big baby and struggling.

Anyone got any positive stories about delivering big babies naturally?

Hi @naomi79 They predicted my DS was going to be a whopper. Like over 10 pounds. In the end he was 9 pounds 4 when he was two weeks overdue which they have as 58th centile. Thst was with scans too. I really don't place much stock in it. To be fair, he does have a large head and any hats were always years older than he was so maybe they based it on his head.

I was induced 2 weeks overdue but it failed and he was in distress so ended up with an emergency section. To be honest I am quite glad I didn't push that head out!

My friend did have babies over 10 pounds and did fine naturally. X

At my 32 week scan (actually 33 as they have me scanned the day before I am on the next week which is annoyed me the whole time esp as I had the conception date two days before), they measured this baby at 5 pounds 11 so again expecting a larger baby. They had two charts. One on the pc which said 90th centile but then a different one which said 75th. They also put it on my chart at 32 weeks when they should do 33 as I am closer to that date when they do it. For some reason maths doesn't apply to midwives.

@Sheera1 good to know the scans aren't always right, hopefully she's a bit smaller than they are predicting!

How's things with you? I think we are due quite close together so not long not to wait to meet our babies xx

I am good ta. Got a c section date 4 weeks on Monday at 39 weeks 🙈😱.

I can't really complain. Feeling massive and up in the night and when I stand up I feel like I have left my vagina in the chair at times 😂. Baby feels heavy down low esp when sitting for a while. Was getting anxious about movement and final weeks but baby is so active most of the time I am reassured. Getting to the stage where I just want baby and me home safe and well. No reall major complaints or discomfort but not massively mobile.

How about you?

Lol yeah I'm pretty much the same, feel huge and uncomfortable now, quite achy and stiff if I've been sitting too long. Just can't wait for her to be here now. Not too much longer to wait x

When are you due again? XXq

I'm due 13th Nov, I've asked my midwife to book me in for induction on the 11th Nov so hopefully get things started then if she doesn't come before or the plan doesn't change between now and then x