Early Oct Babies Part 7

[Treaclepie19]

Entering the final stretch! 😁

Thanks @FourPlasticRings. I think I just feel a bit overwhelmed.
My mental health has worsened with not having time to myself to be on top of it like I'd planned and with all the extra anxiety at the moment. Then the low mood comes about from not being able to live a "normal life" for my 4yo.
I'm feeling guilty for him and guilty that this baby will have such a nightmare of a mother.
Hopefully its just a bad day but I see the midwife tomorrow and I'll mention it to her.

It's very lonely at the moment too with not really seeing anyone. I saw my parents in their garden for the first time in 4 months yesterday and I just don't feel ready to go beyond that.

Anyway, going for a walk in a bit and will try and spend some time to myself tonight.

@Treaclepie19 I feel similar. I've been off work for 18 weeks now and feel so unmotivated. I can't even bear to drag myself off the couch for a walk today. It's lost the appeal, doing it on my own every day. I miss seeing my friends and colleagues.

Your children definitely don't have a nightmare for a mother. You're doing your best in a completely unprecedented time and that's all anyone could ask for. If you're feeling like this often, it sounds like a good idea to chat with your midwife and see what she thinks. And a bit of self-care always helps - I had a long bath the other night with some music and a glass of rose lemonade and it cheered me right up. We're all here for you, as much as we can be online! X

Thanks @otterbaby. I'm so sorry you're feeling similar. That's how I feel, I don't want to go for yet another walk. Yet I know I should because my SPD is worsening and staying still won't help.

I think as well after our TFMR I really worked hard on my mental health and tried to only TTC when I was in a good place to and now everything has turned upside down and I'm worried I won't cope. I can feel myself distancing as well because I'm worried baby won't be okay. We never had an amnio in the end this time and I just keep wondering. I guess its a big mix of things.

@Treaclepie19 I think it's really easy for us to slip into that line of thinking - I've certainly been there. The unknown can be so scary, sometimes scarier than having a diagnosis. And ditto - when I envisioned my pregnancy after the last one ended so terribly, I never expected all of this. Staying positive is hard enough with the hormones but add pregnancy after loss and a pandemic, and I'm an absolute roller coaster (bless my DH 😂). Just try to remember that these are expectations you're placing on yourself and nobody is judging you for how you're handling things - I try to remember that when I'm feeling low.

That's a very good point. I'm my own worst critic. Thank you

Just got to find the energy to sort some dinner and get on with the rest of the day now!

@Treaclepie19 - I know where you are coming from . I know easier said than done - but I hope it gets a little better. As @otterbaby stated no one is judging you

@MummyBearBoo omg these are sooo cute - where did you get them from !!

(I want to bring the baby home in a yellow dress - but I can’t find white tights anywhere . My mum brought us all home in yellow outfits and I wanted to follow that. If it’s too much effort just ganna bring her home in a sleep suit - my hospital
Said no bounty pics are being taken - which is really sad 😔

Thanks for the support ❤

@Zaalfruit are these any good? www.mamasandpapas.com/en-gb/pointelle-cotton-tights-2-pack/p/s11fsu7

GTT was bearable although I did feel sick for most of it and was there for nearly 3 hours. She also forgot to take one of my bloods so I had one in each arm and have to ask the midwife to take the other tomorrow. Although I feel for her because she said her father was missing and the police were looking so I expect she was somewhat distracted. Please to see on the local news hes been found well this afternoon.

@FourPlasticRings I had read that all pets have to be removed when the midwife comes for home birth and that put me off as ours would just shout all the time he wasnt allowed in!

@Treaclepie19 I hope you feel better soon, you just have to keep reminding yourself you are just doing the best you can in this horrible situation. It's not your fault but I appreciate it must still be very hard not to get inside your head. You've got to do what you're comfortable with, everyone has different lines on what they're happy to do right now and that's fine.

@otterbaby I can seriously relate to the motivation and being off work. My Mum really keeps me going because we do things together but without her I would feel so low and have nothing to do most days. All my friends are working or don't live close so I dont see many other people.

Went to primark today and got the biggest nighty, for only £2, I hate wasting money but at that price I wont mind if I only use it for hospital. After a walk around a couple of shops I was so tired and hot. Does make me realise I want to get everything ready sooner rather than later as I definitely wont be bothered towards the end!

@Treaclepie19 omgoodness yes - I always forget about mama’s and papas !! Thank you so much !
Need to buy the car seat and pram
From there too might bundle it up. We have come to hold on the big purchases items. Feeling really tired and over it all - I want to have a shower and go to bed is that acceptable?

@Zaalfruit I regularly retire to bed around 6pm 😂 No shame, you're growing a human!

@Zaalfruit I hope you did it, if that's what you need go for it. It's a really cute little tradition about the yellow dress as well.

@Treaclepie19 you are doing great, times are strange and hard. I have a fair few bad days as well, but it's to be expected with everything that is going on. Everyone has to decide for themselves what is the right amount of exposure to other people at the moment. We keep trying to meet up with a friend, but as it's been rubbish weather at the weekends it's just not happened. She's invited us round to be inside but I've said no. I don't want to take that step yet. Everyone understands that which is good. I hope you manage to get some time to yourself to give yourself a bit of a pamper, but I would definitely mention it to your midwife as well.

Wow another thread! Are we on countdown yet!? I certainly am for work and its tiring me more and more
Thank you @Treaclepie19 for the new thread, how are you feeling now?

I'm going to start packing my bag in 2 weeks when we get back from a mini break

Feeling a little stressed thay we still haven't got a perfect nursery set up but what will be will be with it as we have everything just not in one room!

Oh just fou d this... I remember someone asking for a lemon sleepsuit?
eddieandbee.co.uk/collections/organic-cotton-sleepsuits-1

Thank you all ❤
@BntTowers I'll definitely mention it to her. It's a tough time isn't it 😔

Thank you @Indigogirl88
I'm better than earlier but not great. Ds didn't go to sleep until almost 9 so my time to myself and early night went a bit astray. Even though dh did nearly all of bedtime anyway.
Just off to bed and hoping to wake up happier.

@LexiM gosh I hope the nurse is alright - did she forget to take your first set of bloods - does for that mean you have to fast again . If you do that sucks :( I’m glad you weren’t sick one of the lady vomited during mine I kept saying to myself don’t look , don’t smell it .

I hate spending money on maternity clothes I feel like after it won’t motivate me to loose weight . Last year this time I was wearing a size 8/10 bikini and now I’m a extra who knows what .

Thank you so much all, for all the helpful comments. I think I will contact the new hospital and let my midwife know on our appointment next wk. I really hope I wont have to change midwife.

I hope everyone gets a good nice sleep and rest today and gets a better day, both physically and mentally tomorrow

@zaalfruit no thankfully I think from what she said it was one linked to the 28 week bloods rather than the GTT as she did both at once. Not really sure how my midwife will know specifically which one though so I guess she might just have to re-do them which makes me nervous as she couldn't get any blood last time and made me go to the hospital!! That poor lady being sick, I was thinking the whole time that if you still had morning sickness the test would be so difficult. That must have made it so unpleasant for you too.

I hope you find the perfect yellow dress, that sounds so adorable. I still have no idea what our baby is wearing home.

I fell asleep on the sofa, so now I'm awake and hot. I'm always hot nowadays it seems to be all I ever say! Hope everyone sleeps well too.

How are you feeling today, @Treaclepie19? Your baby will be lucky to have you because you care so much. It's very easy to worry at this stage- I woke up worried about possible congenital SEND a few mornings ago. It's a tough time. I mentioned it briefly to my midwife on Monday. I've been driving my toddler to new (to us) parks this week, which has helped. The same one does get a tad boring. Hope you're feeling better today after a good night's sleep.

@LexiM Even if she were allowed to stay in, she'd have to go. She's hyper-affectionate with everyone and would be all over the midwife! I might put her in a cattery from 38-41 weeks. Seems mean but it'd also give me one less thing to worry about. I could reserve the place but only get my husband to drop her in on the day I went into labour. It's a work in progress!

@FourPlasticRings I'm okay thanks, just taking the day in small chunks. I've got the midwife in a couple of hours. Then it's just a matter of keeping myself calm after because I've been showering after appointments and won't be able to. Will take DS out for a walk. I think that's an issue in itself, bored of doing the same old things but nervous about going anywhere different or being around people too much.

Hopefully today will be a better day.
Hope you're all okay this morning, I really do appreciate the support. It can feel really lonely sometimes.

I'm trying to be relatively relaxed about COVID for now. There's little to suggest we're at any greater risk than anyone else and most countries didn't include pregnant women in the list of vulnerable. And there aren't many new cases daily now as a country, so chances of contracting it are relatively slim. It's not as contagious as many illnesses are. Chances of getting it when outside are also pretty low. I found this diagram pretty reassuring.

Hope you're ok @Treaclepie19 will you mention to your midwife about your mood? They might be able to provide extra support and generally just monitor and be aware. Sorry if you've already said this I miss some posts when I'm look back on here after a couple of days

I hope you feel better today @Treaclepie19. Definitely speak to your midwife about your mood. I'm sure she will be reassuring. I think being pregnant always has its worries, let alone being pregnant in the middle of a global pandemic. And also after a TFMR.
You wont be a bad mother. If anything all the worrying shows what a great mother you will be!

I've also been feeling a bit moody and down this week. Wasnt sure if it was hormones fluctuating or if it's still worry about my little bump. Poor DP has been very tolerant of my mood swings.
I see the midwife on friday so hoping I feel better then.

This weather has also been ruining my sleep. I hate the hot even when I'm not pregnant. I think that has been making me grumpy. Havent sleep well for 3 nights even with a fan on.

Know what you mean @Buzz22 I feel like the hormones have ramped up again the past week. I was better for a while, less stressy and snappy with DH and now I feel hormonal again!

It's all very normal especially in these circumstances

Hi again everyone.
Took a bit of a break from mumsnet but found you again!

@Treaclepie19 you are not a bad mum, you care too much for that! I hope you feel better soon and the midwife chat goes well x

I just feel exhausted again now. Would happily sleep through to midday!

@Indigogirl88 I’m definitely on a countdown haha, I have already packed 80% of our bags 😂 think I might regret it later when it’s dragging... 10 weeks to go!

I had a hormonal cry a couple of weeks ago where I wished I could take my bump off. I’ve been so breathless and sitting down at my desk is so hard. But I bought a fan which helps massively, so seem to be over that little blip.

Ordered raspberry leaf tea and will start drinking that in a couple of weeks. Is anyone else drinking it? I’ve heard it’s nicer when you refrigerate it.