Due August 2020 Thread 3

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Hi ladies new thread for all us August Due! Now on thread 3. Newbies always welcome.

Oh wow @firstmummytobe I guess you might be the first of us “August” lot to actually meet your baby then. How exciting for you!

I can’t believe how quick it’s going, when lockdown happened I thought it would really drag but if anything it’s gone even faster. It’s so weird not having seen friends and family since first trimester. I actually haven’t seen a lot of friends or family since I told them at about 4 months.

Thanks for starting the new thread.

The realisation has finally hit. I actually have to give birth.

@Lucky08 How are you feeling about it? I go through stages, sometimes i'm really positive and like yeeeees lets do this then i'm like oh blimey i'm dreading it!

@Oldestchild90s completely the same. I'll be really excited one minute and can't wait for baby to be here. The next minute I'm petrified of not knowing what to expect.

I’m due 14th August with first baby. Can’t wait. Just want it to come around fast now 💙👶🏻 Xx

Oh @Firstmummytobe you have had some time of it this pregnancy! You must be so relieved it’s going to be over soon & you’ll get to hold your little boy 💙

I have days when giving birth doesn’t fuss me in the slightest then the most random fleeting feeling of anxiety over it 😭 I know it’s going to hurt but I just want everything to be safe & ok 🤞🏼

@firstmummytobe ah flip, you've had some time of it! Couple more weeks that beautiful little boy will finally be here to bring the best kind of crazy. Hope the pain in your back and contractions have eased.

I was totally fine about the giving birth thing until I was stuck in the hospital waiting room on Wednesday and 3 people round me were sitting in labour, one was swearing and 2 were just moaning and it hit me then Holy crap I'm going to have to do this soon 🙈

Hi ladies, I’m due on 18th August, first baby - mixed emotions (don’t feel ready) but overall so excited. Just wondering, your thoughts on family and friends visiting new baby. I’ve become so anxious about heading out during lockdown and only feel comfortable seeing family and friends outside. The pressure I’m feeling especially from my mum over wanting to meet and hold baby seems to be overwhelming!! Not sure what to say to people. I know realistically people will understand (surely) but 🤷🏻‍♀️😱😩 xx

@heroineinahalfshell my bump has had a growth spurt this last week or 2 aswell. I hadn't linked the 2 things together but that would definitely account for the increase in round ligament/stretching pains!

I had my first all day NCT class yesterday and found it interesting if not exhausting! I went for a short nap afterwards and woke up several hours later.

I'm due 13/08 but having an ELCS at 39 weeks so it's dawned on me that I have a maximum of 6 weeks to go and possibly even less if I go into labour before then....cue the panic! It was dragging for so long and now it's absolutely flying!

Hi all,

Hope you don't mind me joining. Due 31st and as PP have mentioned, what are people's thoughts about allowing visitors and family after baby is born?

It hasn't crossed my mind until the other day, as I've been so focused on just getting her here safely without me or DH getting Covid, but inevitably grandparents and family will want to visit and hold the baby and I don't know how I feel about it. I know a lot can change between now and August in terms of Covid, but baby will have a brand new and weak immune system, none of our family live nearby so they'd have to travel at least 3 hours to visit (if they wanted to visit) and I don't know what's for the best. Anyone else having the same conundrum?

@Leigh1989 that’s the part I’m not looking forward to. Friends will be fine waiting. Family could be tricky, my mum thinks she is sticking by the rules as only goes to the shops occasionally, wears a mask etc but to me that’s still a risk. She said she will wear a mask here but still it makes me nervous. We also have a daughter and if I don’t let someone in to look after her I will deliver alone, which although ideal as time as gone on I’ve become less fazed by the idea.

@Leigh1989 welcome to the thread. I'm a FTM too and feeling the same. I'm still not sure what to do about visitors.

I'm currently staying with my dad and sister and i haven't been super strict, just sensible (social distancing but still been going for walks, going to the shop etc). I've seen my mum and other siblings/niece, best friend etc in the garden or for socially distanced walks, they're all still working. I will also be flying with baby when she's around 6-8 weeks old as we're currently locked down in the UK but actually live overseas so it'll be a while before we see family again after we leave. I'm really just not sure what to do for the best.

Hi! I feel you! I really don’t feel comfortable at the thought with people holding baby, like you said with weak immune system etc. Just not sure what to say to people!!

Sorry hit post too soon.
@Firstmummytobe that’s exciting! You must be relieved in a way, I hope your son stays put and gives you no more trial runs before then!

@MotherofKitties see above! I’m new to this so clearly can’t work anything!!

@MotherofKitties sorry I must have been writing as you posted. My In-laws are 2 hours away and whilst FIL would happily avoid a baby MIL will want cuddles and she will totally understand my reluctance but then I will feel guilty if they make a trip and she doesn’t get a squish! They are both over 70 so have been home with delivery for shopping until now but FIL will return to work for a few hours a week before baby arrives as their shielding finishes in July.

@Bert2020 exactly that! I feel friends will be much more understanding - but it’s grandparents! I don’t mind friends and family come to visit in the garden to look at baby (sounds ridiculous!) but my mum won’t take it well. I’m more anxious as she’s going to back to opening her hair salon on 4th July so in contact with lots of people. I guess I’ll just have to put a message together

Hi @Leigh1989 Glad it's not just me! Half of mine and DHs family live abroad and have fortunately understood that there's no way we will be letting them visit whilst our LO is a newborn as it means them getting on a plane so enough said, but the rest of them.... I just don't know.

I've been super strict with myself and have been in isolation (self imposed due to previous loss and not being prepared to take any chances) and will be until baby is born, so I haven't seen anyone since March and I know I'd love to see people straight away, but seeing people and not hugging/allowing them to hold the baby... I don't know how realistic that will be. I think I'm just going to have to wait until baby is here aren't I, and make up my mind then. Unless something drastic like another lockdown happens again!

@Leigh1988 it’s the weirdest situation to be in it really is.
@sel2223 every time they mention the corridors I’m praying hard for you!

@Bert2020 It's a hard one isn't it. Trying to assess the risk verses disappointed family is a nightmare!

@Bert2020 thank you!! Me too 🙏

@MotherofKitties it’s just a difficult conversation! I’ve drafted a message to send to family and friends, so will send nearer the time but then I’m not sure if I should send it now to prepare them! It’s more my mum who will see an issue and be difficult 😩. It’s such an odd time and an unnatural thing to be doing to be asking loved ones to stay away isn’t it. When are you due?

Have to admit ladies even though the whole Covid-19 has happened at a really crap time for us it's not my biggest worry when it comes to family (even though it does worry me) most of them seem to be sticking their noses in as a general thing already telling me what i should and shouldn't be doing, what i can and cannot do and it's really starting to annoy me.
I have both sets of grandparents still, and they seem to be very old school with what they say. I'm 28 years old, and although people are excited and want to help it's just a little bit overwhelming. I need to discover this new world for myself.. anyone else feel like this?

I've basically told OH that for at least the first 2 weeks after baby is here I don't want any visitors. He only gets 2 weeks paternity, though thankfully will be WFH for the foreseeable. I just feel like those 2 weeks should be ours to learn how to adjust to our new way of life and to help our dog settle and get used to it too. She'll (and us) will be overwhelmed enough. We haven't actually told family or friends yet though friends I don't think will be arsed. I think my mum and OH's mum will struggle being told they have to wait. I'd want to do this anyway but with the covid risk I'm more inclined toward lockdown. I'm also trying to convince him that we should lockdown at least 2 weeks before we're due but we'll see about that.

@Oldestchild90s yup, its diving me mad. Even down to what I should and shouldn't buy for baby. MIL has even commented that I rest too much and when she was 30+ weeks pregnant her MIL was taking her for hour long walks to get the pelvis loosened. My reply was that's nice, although it would be quite difficult to do that whilst balancing a full time job in 30 degree heat