Due August 2020 Thread 3

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Hi ladies new thread for all us August Due! Now on thread 3. Newbies always welcome.

I know that’s the annoying thing, the best thing to do when they are in an awkward position is to bounce but we just cant🙈🙈

This is why this thread is helpful @Firstmummytobe I wouldn't have known to not bounce either. Wow yes you're getting closer to it.

@Luna321 You don't have to apologise for being busy.

@Squashie34 I have horrible PGP at the moment and have had to get some crutches as I can barely walk some days! I've been sitting on my exercise ball which helps a bit as well as warm baths (even if DH has to help me out of them!) Try to keep pressure off your legs and hips, gentle easy movements only and for the love of god don't try to lift anything or squat to pick something up; I did that the other day and genuinely thought I was never going to get up again

@cannotmakemymindup I love being a part of this thread!! I would never of known not to pump milk this early either!! It’s amazing that we have such a strong and amazing group of women that we can chat to that we don’t even know🥰🥰

Also I was going to ask yesterday, I don’t know why but I always just presume that we are all from the same country (UK) is there anybody on the thread over seas?? Xx

I have one to use as on office chair on uncomfortable days. It helps shift her from under my ribs.
I don't have the coordination but bouncing so that's not a worry. I find rotating round I circles works for jiggling her away from my ribs.
The last time I saw my midwife she recommended sitting on it for an hour each evening after x weeks..... I can't remember what week she said though. I have a feeling it was 36 weeks but can't be sure.

@mable88 I hope you can get an update on your husband soon. It must be worrying!

@Firstmummytobe it is!! I think @Camia is in the US. And @JMill13 is UK but northern Ireland I think. Not sure if anybody else is elsewhere.

@Firstmummytobe @cannotmakemymindup Yep, I'm in the US. As far as I know I'm the only one here who is

Also I meant to check in with everyone last night after my baby shower but I was exhausted. I'm coming up on 35 weeks and getting really impatient (and nervous and excited). Baby shower was great, though social distancing for it was a little weird, and an unexpected storm cut it short. It was nice to get to see a lot of friends I hadn't seen in months. And we got so much stuff. Got some pictures of the mess of the nursery right now as I'm trying to sort through it (and haven't even touched the car seat, stroller, bassinet, and pack'n'play/playpen that are still piled up in the living room.) They went all out, covered clothes, toys, books, bedding, bath stuff, changing stuff, and even a big pile of postpartum and breastfeeding stuff for me. And OH's parents surprised us with a bag from his grandmother who passed away about a year ago. She and OH were close and he really wishes she could have met the baby so it means a lot to have something from her

Aww @camia I also had a socially distanced baby shower at the weekend which was so strange! It was so sad receiving beautiful gifts but not being able to hug anyone!! And then we took a photo and we all look so awkward haha because were all so far apart. Also had the problem with the weather being on / off but still grateful I had one!

Sorry to everyone worrying about breach! I was breach at 32 weeks also and I was panicking. I did lots of things and she turned at 33 weeks and I'm
Now 35 weeks and she's still head down! So don't lose hope ladies!

Yes I'm in Northern Ireland, think I may be the only one?

Interesting hopeful article on Belfast Live today my friend just tagged me on Facebook, only for Northern Ireland obviously but it may lead to applying elsewhere across the UK. Thought I'd share, maybe in hope that it'll pan out for us all.

www.belfastlive.co.uk/whats-on/family-kids-news/ni-maternity-charity-calls-partners-18505426

@superscientist I tried rotating in circles recently on the ball and very nearly toppled over 😂 Apparently my co-ordination hasn't improved with pregnancy.

I honestly think I'd be a bit lost without this thread. It's been so helpful on so many things and having a bunch of people I can relate too, especially when lockdown was in full swing.

Had a really bad afternoon today and it's knocked my confidence 😕 I asked my mum if she wanted to go to B&M and then to Asda living with me (if not living in the UK it's essentially a shop that sort of sells everything) as I needed some storage boxes for little ones nursery and wanted to have a look at baby clothes in person for the first time with my mum who will be a first time grandparent. I haven't been to a shop since lockdown as I had a shielding letter even though my asthma is mild - the only places I've been are the hospital and for small walks outside and the same with my partner as we've both worked from home.

Anyway, I had a panic attack inside the shop 😢 I just felt that no one was staying 2m away from me at all, even when they could see my bump which shows I'm clearly heavily pregnant now, they were trying to squeeze past me in the aisles, a member or staff nearly bumped into me walking out of the staffroom as she just wasn't looking, and then we stopped in the middle of the storage box aisle and before I knew it there was lots of people either end and I just felt that I couldn't get out of the aisle without having to get so close to people and just went into panic mode. We had to leave the shop as I just needed to get out of there.

I've been pretty laid back about the whole pregnant in a pandemic thing as I really do try not to think about it and get down, but today has really upset me- I hate that Covid has taken away all of our pregnancy first and last moments - no baby shower in person, no last babymoon together as a 2, no grandparents to be being able to put their hand on my bump to feel her wriggle, everyone watching me grow through pictures only, not being able to do any of the things suggested in pregnancy books to ease anxiety, but most of all I'm so sad that it's taken away all my confidence and that I couldn't even go shopping with my mum for baby; I know when I asked her she was so excited. Never would I have thought I would ever say I was too scared to go into a shop.

Sorry to have a moan, does anyone else feel like this? 😔

@squashie34 oh that’s horrible! I’m so sorry you felt like that. About 6 weeks into the lockdown I hadn’t been out in public (apart from walks), me & DP stopped into a shop & the lady working in there was horrid to us, telling us we shouldn’t be out & only one of us should be in the shop. It really knocked my confidence & I just sat in the car & cried! ☹️ After this I had terrible anxiety about going anywhere, my mum forced me to go to boots with her one day & after realising that not everyone was as horrible as that lady it really helped to get back out. I know it was hard for you but every time it should get easier, the worst thing you could do is go back to not going out again. Try just doing some short visits to places very early in the morning or close to closing time where it won’t be as busy to ease yourself back into it. It’s so hard to get used to the new “normal” way of shopping but you can’t hide away & sacrifice your mental health. The chances of you catching it from someone walking past quickly at less than 2m truly is minuscule so please don’t worry as much, the government have scared people into such a frenzy it’s not fair on your mental health💞💞

@squashie34 - I’m sorry too that you’ve had a horrid day. Your reaction is completely understandable.
I had a similar day yesterday - we went to Mamas and Papas in our local Next. Next themselves were very good at controlling how many people went in and out but it seemed a free for all in M&P. I too felt very really anxious as it was busy and became quite crowded at times. Then a lady walked past me with no face mask on and coughed and I completely freaked out and we had to leave!
I just want you to know that you are not alone in feeling this way.
I think like NewMama said, don’t let the experience put you off - going in first thing or late afternoon is a really good shout xx

@squashie34 ah sorry to hear you've had a bad afternoon. You are not alone at all. A couple of weeks ago I'd had enough of OH always having to be the one going to the shop for bread and milk etc. So headed to the spar at the end of my street, only to be followed around the shop like by some old man, Legit could have touched him if I'd put my hand behind my back that's how close, every aisle I went down to get away up he popped again. Then at the check out another man was stood up my arse, came out missing half of what I'd gone in for in a full panic. Also, me and OH had a panic attack between us in Tescos 2 weeks ago and abandoned our trolley and left with nothing. So many people just have no common sense of personal space. I have quite bad anxiety when out and about anyway, lockdown has made it worse. As the others have said don't let this put you off, the more you do it the easier it'll become best time apparently to go to places like tesco and asda is when it's raining as nobody wants to queue outside in the rain. 💛

@squashie34 I can relate to this, most people just don't care and don't even try to social distance. I won't go to shops at all until at least the time baby is here, I am selective about where I go for walks etc. I haven't stayed stage at home /home schooled children / not seen family and friends etc etc etc for this long, to throw it all away now. I am anxious though about what happens once I have a vulnerable newborn and everyone is back to school etc. I hope things will be better then but I really am not convinced it will be - Leicester is to be back into lockdown for example. I just think most people don't take it seriously, which, whatever, that's your choice if you want to risk your own health, but when you deny other people the chance to protect themselves, then you're just a selfish twat. Makes me rage! We have some of the worst numbers of deaths in the WORLD and you'd think people just thought they were invented out of thin air.

I'm sorry you had a bad experience, just know you aren't alone and it's not irrational to feel anxious and sad about the situation we are in. It sucks, it truly does. Not much longer!

Thanks so much ladies, and sorry to hear some of you have felt like this too! I'm more cross with myself that I've let myself get this way but I think my mummy instinct just came out and just wanted to protect her from anything and people just had no regard for personal space. My mum said exactly the same thing that people have done this for weeks now and have just stopped caring about being careful, it's like it's all over when it really isn't.

I'm still going to go out for walks etc and maybe I'll try an outdoor market in the village near me, but that's me done with shops now until she arrives. Like PP says, we haven't done all this for 15 weeks to let it go now, I've only got 5 weeks to go. I've never felt so glad to shut my front door and be back in my safe space again, and I used to hate staying in!

After our discussion last week I’m on a mission at the moment to get some more bits for the baby but I’m feeling a little overwhelmed with choice....
can I just ask if anyone has any recommendations for:
Moses Basket
Baby Pod (do I need one of these, like an inseart for the Moses basket?!)
Baby Monitor
Baby Rocker

Any help gratefully received!! XX

@squashie34 I'm so sorry you had such a rough time. I've had days like that too, and days I've been so frustrated and upset about the things I've missed out on with this pregnancy because of the pandemic. It's such an unpredictable time and I think it's natural to get upset or to worry, especially with mommy instincts kicking in. Hopefully we can all just hang out and get through it until things improve

@Flutterbunny I ordered the kinder valley rocking stand and Moses basket from Asda, cost me £47.00 in total. Would definitely recommend them.

@Flutterbunny we got a gorgeous white wicker Moses basket from My precious little one.com !
And baby monitor :
www.amazon.co.uk/Victure-Wireless-Detection-Security-Surveillance/dp/B07CB14GTB/ref=mp_s_a_1_8?hvlocphy=9046537&hvnetw=g&keywords=victure+baby+monitor&hvadid=259097978562&qid=1593459653&dchild=1&gclid=EAIaIQobChMIp6mB4uOn6gIVwu7tCh1W6QfsEAAYASAAEgLaDPD_BwE&hydadcr=9319_1723417&hvdev=m&hvqmt=e&tag=mumsnetforu03-21&hvtargid=kwd-489609516138&adgrpid=51914357023&hvrand=10498523917597140122&sr=8-8

We paid £22 and it is absolutely amazing!!! The picture is clear as day and it links to an app on your phone, you tap on the screen where about a in the room you would like to view and the camera moved to that place!!!

Absolute bargain

@Firstmummytobe wow that monitor looks an absolute bargain. I paid £100 for the BT one but that amazon one looks way better!

@Beau2020 honestly if I could upload a video on here I would it’s so good we were so fascinated 😂😂

Been for a growth scan today as bump growth has slowed down. She's 3lb 15oz at 33 weeks. Seems tiny next to other growth scans mentioned here x

@sugarplumfairy2010 oh no I wouldn't worry about the size and weights they give you at this stage. My last growth scan was around 33 weeks and they said 3lbs too but my bump is huge compared to a lot of my other friends who are the same age. It's really hard to say what's ok and what's not!

To be honest I'm not expecting a big baby as my other 3 weighed between 6lb 9oz and 7lb 8oz so not exactly big babies. I don't have to go back so she must be fine. Someone has to be at the bottom of the centiles aswell as the top I guess x

We went for the BT audio only monitor. Went a bit overpriced ridiculous (had extra spare money from lockdown, quitting smoking, drinking, eating out etc.) and got the baby Bjorn bouncer as I really liked the reviews and look of it but there's so many cheaper good ones out there. We didn't bother with a moses basket as got the Next2Me instead on recommendation from friends.