Christmas babies thread 3!

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Hey girls starting up the new thread as thread 2 is about full. Will copy link into old thread save trying to remember everyone to tag!! Xx

It happened after I said I wanted to leave the family business (which was supposedly my business but after looking into it, it wasn't) , I think they blamed Jordan for my new found "confidence " and said he was controlling me.. but the reality was I just turned 30 and thought what am I doing.. I want more.. but they don't see that, they can't possibly see that I have my own mind so instead they blame him. I've said a thousand times if he was a monster I wouldn't be 1. Engaged to him and 2. Bringing a child into the world with him.. but , nothing changes. I thankfully have amazing friends and I am really close to my other step sister (who funnily enough nobody speaks to either) so.. I have a support network but It doesn't stop me wishing my parents would be involved like normal families you know. Sorry girls I sound like such a Debbie downer!! 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️

Ooh @djmbaker I'm sorry that sounds so rubbish 🙁 I really hope that it can all be resolved in time! They will definitely love your baby so much regardless!
I'm a bit disgruntled because my dad and his gf bought an expensive pram for gfs sons baby but have offered me half the amount for mine, completely different circumstances though, don't think I've really got any reason to be grumpy. I suspect that it's because DH and I make a lot more money than the son and his gf does (both v young) so they need the help more. So I'm trying not to be annoyed by it, can definitely afford to buy my own pram!

@Marshmallow1102 no I understand though, it's hard isn't it?
Like you, we can afford it no problem. Jordan has already said we don't need help it's fine , just the principle I think isn't it? I'm just being sensitive I guess 😩🤦🏻‍♀️

Ah @djmbaker that really sounds upsetting, it's so awful when money gets involved in families isn't it? I haven't had anything weird with the baby stuff but in the past I've been treated very differently to my siblings because I think my parents see me as having a more stable job/lifestyle (which is out of choice for my siblings! But anyway story for another time 🙄)
I'm sure in their minds they feel totally justified and 'fair' and that just makes it so much harder - I'm sure like me you don't expect them to pay for anything you just want to be treated the same!! Well done though for living your life how you want it, that's what really matters in the end xx

Oh I’m sorry @djmbaker - I can empathise as I live quite a different life from that of my siblings. I married someone from a different culture & we have travelled a lot, whereas they have always been more connected to our hometown.

It’s resulted in a degree of estrangement as they see my choices as a rejection of theirs, rather than me just living my life. One sibling is also having a baby this year & the other is very vocally excited for them, whereas I haven’t had a congratulations.

I’ve just said to DH that I can take it, but the minute our child starts to feel left out or treated differently, I have no issue with cutting off all contact.

You are building your own life and family, if others can’t get onboard, they miss out.

@djmbaker that sounds really hurtful so I’m sorry you’re going through that. I’m glad you do have a strong support network though!

Sorry for the others having any drama too, that’s rubbish.

However, it’s nice that morning sickness no longer seems to be our main concern here... 😂😊

@MaverickDanger oh I am so sorry. That's really tough, but like you say (I say this to my partner all the time) it's about your/our little family now, we get to choose what's around our child and as soon as our child feels anything negative then yes, cut off.

My partner is the kindest man and my child will know they have the best daddy in the world.. my parents will just have to either get on board or miss out. I think as you grow up you realise you can't be responsible for your parents happiness.. I have spent a lot of my adult life trying to please them and now I've stopped, they hate it.

@calipoppy I'd love to be treated the same as my half sister 😂😂 life would be so easy!!

Sorry girls for talking about this but Thankyou also for you all sharing your experiences and being so kind 🙏🏻

Hey ladies, I hope it's ok to join at last! Have been lurking for a while and am due our second baby on 30th December. Hope everyone is feeling ok in this heat! X

Hi @pumpkinpieinmyeye hope you're doing ok!
@djmbaker and the few others who seem to be being treated really unfairly it absolutely sucks that family and friends would be like that but... you all sound like you're handling it brilliantly from what you've said, much better than I would! I'm sure there are times when you don't and just want to scream and shout and if you do go for it or get on here for some moral support!!

Hi everyone! Don’t mind me joining late on! Hope you’re all doing well! My peanut (affectionately named by my OH) is due 21st December! First baby so it’s all new and scary to me!

Oh that is awful when your own family has double standards between children. 😢 But like everyone else has said, you're handling it absolutely amazingly!
And with really supportive partners too!!

DH has that as well (the in laws are amazing, lovely people) but definitely treat him and SIL totally differently, which I can see does affect him.

Also on prams (I know I'm so behind on this thread)! It's one of those purchases you really need to see in person huh? The online pictures can be so deceptive when comparing. I'm also thinking maybe a next to me type crib for the first few months to make life a little easier during the nights. Haven't even narrowed down brands though 😭

Is anyone else finding this stage of pregnancy really strange, I feel much better than I did with the occasional heave thrown in but just feel so anxious that everything is ok in there. I have a private scan booked for the 6th but it seems forever ago since my NHS scan 😅

@PocoyoandEllie yep!! I'm 14 weeks today and the last two days I must say, touch wood.. I've been feeling alright??
I feel like I have led weights on my legs sometimes as I have these moments where I am just so tired but I'm feeling ok?? I haven't been sick since Sunday! So that's a relief.
I have a scan Sunday thank god, then as long as that goes well we are going to tell everyone 🙏🏻

@djmbaker I still haven’t told anyone really either, I am waiting until I have had my 20 week scan to tell our DS5 and then I think will tell extended family etc. Still not told work yet and is much easier not to while working from home but have got appointments coming up so will probably have to brave telling them soon 😅

@PocoyoandEllie yes! 🙋‍♀️ but then this morning I felt a teeny tiny punch and it made me feel so much better! I can't wait until it's easy for us to feel the baby moving, I'm nearly 16 weeks so hopefully not much longer. I'm loving feeling better though! Does anyone else suddenly want to change absolutely loads in the house?!

@calipoppy ah exciting that you felt something! I've had a couple of times where I've been 100% sure I've felt a little kick or a punch but then everything says 16 weeks plus, so I persuaded myself that it couldn't have been.... maybe it was!!

Also I had good news at work - I told my line manager and my boss that I was pregnant and was disappointed that it meant I wouldn't be able to do a new fixed term role we were planning for me cos it was the same period as my maternity leave - they've said I can still do the role, they just won't change the terms of my contract and I'll stay permanent! So I can do the first 6 months, then if the projects get extended (which is likely) I can continue with it when I come back! If not I'll just go back to my current role. Woop!

That’s great news @LoveSunshine01

I’ll probably tell work next week. I’ve still got a list I’m “working through” - I’m finding it’s less people that I want to know, but more that it’s people who would be really offended that I haven’t told them. Hopefully that makes sense! So still good friends but ones I don’t get to see often.

One is also pregnant and told me at 9 weeks, so I’m sure she’ll find it weird I’ve waited to 16 weeks! But oh well, I am still finding it weird to tell people.

That is awesome @LoveSunshine01 !

Is anyone else getting weird skin pigment changes?
I have had weird darker skin patches appear on the left side of my back (none itchy).
But also in places on my back that haven't been in direct sunlight and only on the left side. Also nothing on my face (yet)!
Will ask midwife next week for 16 week telephone appointment but wtf! I was thinking melasma but that seems to be commonly on your face and from direct sunlight 🤷‍♀️

@december2020

I've got a really attractive moustache shaped dark mark on my top lip 😂 I sort of had it before when I tan but it is so so much darker now!!

Yeah I would ask the midwife, I also thought it was only bits that had been in the sun. Pregnancy does weird stuff...

Just had a call from my midwife to let me know they have changed my 16 weeks appointment to be face to face and I can't wait now. The day before I'll have the gender scan too so its going to be an exciting couple of days!!
Hope everyone is coping well with the heat 🙂

Finally got my screening results today!! All low risk so that's a relief. The numbers are still scary though aren't they?? Seeing it written down in black and white 😬

Hope everyone is ok today... I definitely must have started to expand.. I've got a maxi dress on that I wear on holiday and it's got a little zip at the back, I managed to get it up but.. I'm currently stuck in it waiting for Jordan to come home to unzip it 😂😂😂😂

@djmbaker I got mine today too and all low risk 😃

I’ve just been literally living in my leggings and a t-shirt. I feel like I’ll be wearing this till Christmas! Plus it’s not that warm up here in Scotland. We had two days of sun so that’ll be our summer done and dusted 😂😂

Did your midwives phone you to book 16 week appointments ? I'm 16 weeks on Wednesday and haven't heard a thing ?

@viixie Mine told me at the booking appointment to get in touch after the dating scan and she'd arrange it. It probably varies massively between trusts though. Might be worth getting in touch with your midwife/GP surgery to remind them on.

@djmbaker @Bumble84 good to hear for both of you. I was told on Monday at the quad blood test that if I'd not heard in 2-3 days then it was a low risk result so I'm hoping all is well as I was giving it until the end of today to hear.

My midwife also told me to call the surgery to arrange my 16 week appointment at my booking in appointment. I’ve also got a load of extra notes to now take along that the hospital have sent in the post.