Pregnant After Loss and Dreaming of Rainbows - 4

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Thread 4 already! New members very welcome to our friendly and supportive team.

Latest roll call....

@Bellsx. 26wks (due 20/08/20)⁣
@Rachael321 26wks (due 20/08/20)⁣
@Pugmum19 18wks (due 31/08/20)⁣
@UrsulaSings 17wks (due 07/09/20)⁣
@Hoping2020 19wks (due 13/09/20)⁣
@SammiLou2312 22wks⁣ (due 17/09/20)⁣
@Knotemma 21 wks⁣ (due 23/09/20)⁣
@LilMrsS 20wks (due 24/09/20)⁣
@didslysquiddlydoo 20wks 26/09/20)⁣
@TunnocksTcake 19wks (due 26/09/20)⁣
@avocuddles 20wks (due 27/09/20)⁣
@Sunflower1608 20wks with twins (due 28/09/20)⁣
@SunStruck 19wks (due 28/09/20)⁣⁣
@Scout20 19wks (due 29/09/20)⁣
@Littlegoth 20wks (due 30/09/20)⁣
@HighHopes20 16wks (due 03/10/20)⁣⁣
@Treaclepie19 18wks (due 07/10/20)⁣⁣
@Aria2015 10wks⁣
@tmc14 17wks (due 11/10/20)⁣
@Hagster 17wks (due 12/10/20)⁣⁣
@seaduck 12wks (due 17/10/20)⁣
@DressingGown87 13wks (due 20/10/20)⁣
@rachelrainbow 11wks (due 1/11/20)⁣
@teaandtantrums90 13wks (due 05/11/20)⁣
@AnxiousLady1 14wks (due 07/11/20)⁣
@Shefliesonherownwings 13wks (due 09/11/20)⁣
@MysteriousSheep 12wks (due 21/11/20)
@Whiffle77 11wks (due 04/12/20)⁣
@MOGMOGMOG85 10wks (due 09/12/20)

Thanks @SammiLou2312

@AnxiousLady1 The anomaly scan, exciting! You’ll be giving us some good news I’m sure but understandable that you’re nervous. Are you finding out the sex?

TBH I had a very stressful few days after I found out as my hospital weren’t offering surgical management and I was scared to have a natural MC. I managed to get it elsewhere but it wasn’t easy. If it wasn’t for CV, it would have been fine. Apart from that, I’ve just been waiting for AF and hoping my cycles regulate but then this happened!

Hi @futuredreams remember me? Lol. It’s great that your pregnancy is going well. It’s nice to see some positivity. I stopped following the Nov thread straightaway.

@shefliesonherownwings As others have said, give your midwife a call to get yourself some reassurance. My mum said to me to other day "sure at this point it's like an astronaut floating around space, so it will move around" 😂. But of course I appreciate your nervousness and am sure I will be the same every second day once I start tracking movement.

@Sakura54 Yes will definitely be finding out the sex. I'm far too impatient and am a planner by nature (in as much as that's possible with a baby!) I also have it in my head it will help with bonding. I've been a little detached so far due to my own nerves. Glad you were able to get the surgical management. I waited for it to happen naturally last time (4 weeks later), and it was really difficult. The worst part was I still had to go for an ERPC as the sac was still there when they scanned me afterward. So whole process was 2 months in total, and I swore after that I'd go straight for surgical management if it ever happened again. Of course everyone's experiences will be different though.

Hope everyone else on here is having a nice weekend. Im essentially doing the same thing I've spent most of lockdown doing - cleaning!!

Thank you all. Thankfully after a couple of hours of lying down and an icy cold drink I felt more movements which helped me relax a bit. Since then I've felt quite a bit more movement, much more in line with what I'm used to feeling.

DH was trying to reassure me that baby is still small and was probably having a sleep but I just started to get so worked up and panicky. Now I've calmed down a bit, and felt more movements I feel better. If things hadn't picked up I'd have rung the hospital though so thanks for the advice. This pregnancy lark is bloody stressful!

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So im back yesterday i was up at maternity triage having it confirmed that our baby boy had no heart beat after not being able to find him on the doppler. Im 18+5 today, going into hospital on monday to have labour induced. Has anyone experienced this? Im broken and cant stop crying. Im terrified of have to give birth to my still born son! Incant help thinking why us!! This is out 3rd miscarriage in a row and just when i was starting to think all would be ok this time (no problems on any scans etc) this happens and tbh i dont know if i have it in my to try again and be put through this again!

Thanks in advance xxx

@Pippop21 oh I am so so very sorry hear this Hun. I have no words that could possibly make this any better for you but please know I send you the biggest virtual hug possible. Please be kind to yourself. Do you have anyone that can be with you between now and on monday for support? Here if you need to talk x

@Pippop21 I'm incredibly shocked and devastated to read this. You poor poor thing.
We found out the same thing at our 20 week scan although our daughter had died a couple of weeks earlier.
If you want any help or to ask ANY question just ask. I'm happy to share about anything you need to know if it helps you prepare.

You can do it here or you can message me direct on here. If you do a direct message let me know because I'm normally on MN on my phone so don't see messages so I can jump on the laptop if you need me.

Oh @Pippop21 I'm so sorry to hear that, my heart is breaking for you. I can only imagine that right now it must be so hard to think you'll be able to do this but you can. Make sure you take all the support you need and know that we are here for you. Sending you so much love 💔

@Pippop21 I am so so sorry, sending lots of love to you. X

Thinking of you @Pippop21

Oh @Pippop21 I am absolutely devastated for you. There are no appropriate words I can say other than that I'm thinking of you and wish we could take some of your pain away xx

@Pippop21 I am so so sorry to hear this and for your loss. I wish I could say or do something to help you. My daughter was stillborn last November, I delivered her at 41 weeks. Please feel free to message me, if you want to. I hope you have someone with you? Just do whatever you can to survive at the moment, take it minute by minute and just breathe. I'm truly sorry xxx

@pippop21 I'm so so sorry. I hope you have someone with you. My heart goes out to you.

@Pippop21 I'm devastated for you. I have no words. Please know you're in my thoughts. xxx

So unbelievably sorry for you @Pippop21 - life can be incredibly cruel. Like everyone else, I'm thinking of you and truly sorry that you are having to go through this xx

@Pippop21 so very sorry. I’m thinking of you xxx

Oh @Pippop21 I am so completely devastated for you, I am so so sorry for your loss. I know theres nothing I can say to make it better but if there is anything we can do to help, please let us know. Will be thinking of you, please make sure you are kind to yourself

Ugh what awful news and so cruel :( I'm so sorry... can't even imagine what you're going through. Sending all my love and strength, I hope it helps you in some small way to know you are not alone and that women on this group have experienced similar :( xxxx

I'm so very sorry Pippop21

@Pippop21
I'm so so sorry your having to face this, I lost our DD last year at 16 weeks, I was petrified and begged them for a C section which was refused, I am so glad they refused. The support we received was amazing and we could spend as long as we wanted with our DD, days if needed. The short time we had with her was so special. If you want a chat feel free to message me, I'll answer anything. Thinking of you x

@Pippop21 I am so sorry to hear your news. Such an awful, unfair thing to happy. I hope you are being looked after. Please take care of yourself and ask for whatever help or support you might want. xxx

Hope you are all ok.

Time for another update to dates....

@Bellsx 31wks (due 20/08/20)⁣
@Rachael321 31wks (due 20/08/20)⁣ -SURPRISE
@Hoping2020 28 wks (due 13/09/20)⁣
@SammiLou2312 28wks⁣ (due 17/09/20)⁣ - GIRL
@Knotemma 27 wks⁣ (due 23/09/20)⁣- SURPRISE
@LilMrsS 27wks (due 24/09/20)⁣
@didslysquiddlydoo 27 wks - Girl (26/09/20)⁣
@TunnocksTcake 27 wks (due 26/09/20)⁣ - GIRL
@avocuddles 27wks (due 27/09/20)⁣ - GIRL
@Sunflower1608 27wks with twins (due 28/09/20)⁣- GIRL & BOY
@SunStruck 27wks (due 28/09/20)⁣⁣
@Scout20 26wks (due 29/09/20)⁣
@Littlegoth 26wks (due 30/09/20)⁣ BOY
@HighHopes20 25wks (due 03/10/20)⁣⁣
@Treaclepie19 25wks (due 07/10/20)⁣⁣ GIRL
@tmc14 24wks (due 11/10/20)⁣ GIRL
@Hagster 23wks (due 12/10/20)⁣⁣
@DressingGown87 18wks (due 20/10/20)⁣ GIRL
@rachelrainbow 17wks (due 28/10/20)⁣
@teaandtantrums90 13wks (due 05/11/20)⁣
@AnxiousLady1 20wks (due 07/11/20)⁣
@Shefliesonherownwings 20wks (due 09/11/20)⁣ BOY
@MrsG3 18wks (due 16/11/20) GIRL
@MysteriousSheep 15wks (due 21/11/20)
@Whiffle77 17wks (due 02/12/20)⁣ SURPRISE
@MOGMOGMOG85 16wks (due 05/12/20)
@footprintsintheslow 9weeks (due 16/01/21)

Thank you all for your well wishes, means a lot. We went in today but im home again now and have to go back in wednesday...today was part one as they put it so i had a tablet orally, i go back wednesday have have the others virginally and thats when we'll stay in....i cant message anyone as i dont know how to 🙈 xx

@Pippop21 I've been thinking of you. I'm happy to answer any questions on this thread to be honest. I think messaging is only done on the laptop/pc version of mumsnet. You go to 'my Mumsnet' on the right side of the page and then it all looks a bit like a standard email set up.

But anyway we are all here for you and I've sent you message just saying hi in case that's easier for you. Feel free to ignore the message. X

@Pippop21 I'm so sorry for your loss. I know that there's nothing I can say that will make you feel better, but you're in my thoughts and I hope that you and your partner can take good care of each other through this really difficult time xx

Well I'm home from my first trip to the epu. Got into bed at half ten and realised that after a busy day I couldn't remember feeling any movement since breakfast time. Decided to give myself half an hour's lie down with a cold drink and that I'd call if I didn't feel anything. Half an hour if me getting increasingly panicky went by and I called. And of course while I was on the phone I got kicked. But the still asked me to go in, they were excellent, straight in and onto a Doppler, heard the heartbeat and got some more kicks. The staff were brilliant and told me to just ring if I'm ever worried, rather than letting myself get wound up. Hope you're all doing ok and getting more sleep than I am x