November 2020 Babies - Thread 3

[Sakura54]

Another new thread for the Nov mums to continue our discussion!

@SMcG1

💐 I think I would either ignore It completely or send a reply that says you’re kind of shocked that she would ask such a rude and personal question.

@SMcG1 tell her to mind her own business! It really fucks me off when people ask things like that. Husband mentioned over FaceTime to his mother and sister that I was lying down and they automatically assumed I was pregnant. Like, FUCK OFF. Now I get a grilling every time. Why do people think they are the Obstetric Sherlock Holmes? No one wins a prize for 'outing' a pregnant woman. Worry about yourself. Ugh rant over

@Pcosandpregnant yes that post loaded

@Pcosandpregnant

Yes sorry hi! ❤️

Oh thank God I thought I was going mad! I was just trying to work out how to message mumsnet! Hello everyone

@Pcosandpregnant - yes that one worked :) Hi

@Pcosandpregnant

I haven’t had any position trouble when sitting yet. But then I’ve had other symptoms like lots of round ligament pains so I’m sure it’s a standard part of pregnancy for some 👍

I think most often when you get no replies it’s just that no one else has that thing, didn’t mean to let you feel ignored xx

@HarrietM87 brilliant news! So pleased for you!

@SMcG1if you don’t want to tell her, just ignore the message. I’d hate to be forced into telling someone.

No problem I just wanted to make sure. I’m new to mumsnet so not sure how it worked. I’m absolutely fine now so I think it might have just been me worrying! It’s nice to read the messages on here and see I’m not alone. I am incredibly anxious and questioning EVERYTHING. I’m still not used to it!

@Pcosandpregnant I'm so with you on the anxiety!! Even though I had a scan a week ago I'm still terrified that'll I'll miscarry or something isn't right. Finding out it's twins has almost made it worse because now there are more complications to worry about 😬 it would be easier if I could stay busy but being stuck in the house is making me Google everything!

Has anyone got any tips or tricks for keeping your mind occupied/positive thoughts?

@HarrietM87 That’s amazing news! That really did sound like a MC, but so glad that it was a false alarm. Gosh, if only they had scanned you at a&e.

@Audio30 wow congratulations on the twins! It’s awful isn’t it. I question every twinge, cramp, I worry when I have no symptoms and then I worry when they come back I’m the same with google! And searching posts, reading things I shouldn’t I’m my own worst enemy. I just think as soon as you find out the small little bean inside you is so important to you, you just want it to be okay.

Oh @HarrietM87 also so pleased for you!

I am trying and failing to get to sleep, been in bed for well over an hour now. The nausea is really keeping me awake and I am struggling to find a comfy position. Got my booking in appt tomorrow and going to get signed off as I am really not coping with work right now.

@HarrietM87 so happy for you!! Xx

@Audio30 I wouldn’t say it’s a good idea to keep positive per se. I’m not positive, just realistic. I know how common MC is in the first trimester and even beyond, anything can happen. I keep myself emotionally detached from the baby for as long as possible. Its kind of a defence mechanism. I also know that stress is bad for the baby. In saying that, my dating scan is next week, so I know there’s more chance of things going well from then on...so can soften a bit.

@audio30 I think my approach is the same as @Sakura54 's - I'm trying to stay positive without being too hopeful. My DH-to-be keeps talking to the baby but I can't bring myself to think about it too much. My dating scan is also next week so I might be able to relax a bit after that.

Thanks everyone, I’m just going to ignore the message and wait until after I know everything is ok before I tell people.

@HarrietM87 so glad your scan went well.

@HarrietM87 - so thrilled for you. What a relief.

My scan is at 11am tomorrow (I’m the one who’s scared because DH can’t find the baby on veterinary ultrasound) so please keep everything crossed for me. Would love to join the good news brigade but still fear that it is very unlikely indeed.

@SMcG1

I have had exactly the same as you, a few texts from people at work ( i’m a nurse working from home at the moment) i just can’t believe how rude some people are!! It has taken the shine out of announcing it and forced us into telling some immediate family sooner but i guess that’s just what happens when there’s a pandemic!

Also i’m on the fizzy sweets and ice lolly train , they curb the nausea for a wee while but apart from that it’s relentless

I will be thinking of you and keeping everything crossed @Chickoletta xx

@Chickoletta best of luck my dear

Good luck @Chickoletta

@Chickoletta good luck with your scan

@Tiniestsky can I ask the name of the thread your on that's positive after a loss? I think it would help me!

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@audio30 my approach is to enjoy it as much as possible. I can't control the outcome, all I can do is follow NHS guidelines around food/keeping well but what will be will be, worrying won't change anything. Most pregnancies are fine, yes the risk of miscarriage is definitely there, but remaining emotionally detached or not wouldn't make it any less devastating imo. So I try and enjoy this time as much as possible - in some ways I like this bit because it's my little secret at this point.

Having said all that, the 12 week scan is stressful, my heart will stop from the moment the sonographer puts the device on me until they show baby on the screen and give me the verdict. It will feel about a week.

Anyone finding it harder to do weights? I find with any bend over type weight work outs it feels a bit strange in the tummy area?