Just found out...

[MrsR87]

New to this forum so hope this is in the right place! So, I have just done a home pregnancy test and it’s definitely positive. I’m now full of a real mixture of emotions! Firstly, I am delighted! Me and my husband have been trying to conceive since November so this is something we are both delighted and excited about. However, due to the current health climate I also feel really worried and nervous! I was so excited to be able to share this experience with my mum and mother-in-law but due to them both being in high at risk groups, they are both now self isolating for 12 weeks and I guess this means I feel quite alone in it all in terms of female support. This is my first baby and so I have no clue.

I am a teacher and currently am expected to be in school at times but my understanding is that only people in their 3rd trimester need to be concerned.

In terms of the next step, do I just call the doctors as usual or have thing altered due to COVID-19?

Thanks in advance for your help 😊

Hi @avocado2019, nice to speak to someone in the same situation. It's bloody scary isn't it! My transfer date was 9th March. I've got a scan booked on 11th April. Hubby is going in for my Cyclogest today, I'm going to drive him so he doesn't have to park, use the machines, walk from the multi-storey etc but I'll wait in the car.
Luckily he is working from home but every time he leaves home it feels like a gamble.

Did your HCG drop last time? I'm not sure why I miscarried previously but o have a few theories, all of which I've been able to mitigate for the most part. I was worried my progesterone had dropped but have the pessaries this time.

It's a real crazy time. Thank you for the offer to share worries, please feel free to unload on me too.

Hi @Pinkhan135 haha thanks for reply so swift (i know we now got all the time sitting in front of laptop
funny that i also had my transfer on the 9th
yes it's like constant stream of anxiety but not much to do to help! my last miscarriage was a natural pregnancy. I was desperately wanting to know more when early on, but NHS wouldn't give me a scan till 13weeks and they only did a bloodtest around 8 weeks when i first met the midwife. the 13week scan showed that it had stopped around weeks earlier and I miscarried the same day. I was really really upset as I didn't know one could check bloods and scan with private clinic. This time I am really keen to test my hcg blood and progesterone every couple of days as a self-monitoring. You could also do a blood test to show your progesterone level if you want to know. I'm also on cyclogest 2 X /day. I pushed the nurse to book a scan at 3rd April. I predict I'll have a nerve wreck before going into the scan room. Lovely that you've work out a system picking up the meds-sounds very smart ;)

@Montyb123 It really is a scary time for us all.

Hi all.

Just an update. I called the GP surgery today and I’ve got an appointment at the pregnancy unit at the end of April. I’ve been asked to go by myself for this appointment but the impression I got (it was a very quick call) was that my husband would probably be allowed to subsequent appointments but that this is, of course, being reviewed regularly. Exciting times.

Determined to see the positives in this now! We’ve only been trying since November so I am pleased that it happened to soon. Yes, we had said last week that in the light of the current situation we would hold off trying for a while but clearly this miracle had other ideas, so I guess I had better take my lead my him or her from now on 😍

The other positive for me is that usually I take very poor care of myself when I am at work...in school most days from 7.30 am until 6pm...often don’t get my lunch until 4pm...come home and work...work at least one day at the weekend for 6 hours etc. However, I am now only in school one day a week and I’ve been working from home today. I have had a steady stream of things to do so I haven’t got bored but also I’ve had a proper lunch, had a little walk around the garden, kept myself hydrated etc. So perhaps on a selfish note although I will worry about what I cannot control i.e. catching COVID 19, I know that I will be doing a much better job with the things I can control 😊

@MrsR87 that's good you have an appointment, and good you are taking better care of yourself. It's so difficult when working full time!
I called the midwife self referral today and got my booking in appointment for April 23rd then my scan will be May 21st where I will be 13 weeks and 2 days. It seems so far away!

That's great news!

I've been having what I guess is morning sickness the last few days, although it's been off and on all day, I didn't think it would start this early at 4/5 weeks!

@MrsR87 I’ve also been trying since November and was also going to put this on hold if this month my period came.
I self referred so hope I’ll get an email back soon with a date for the first one.
@Addler wow can’t believe you’re being sick already. I’m dreading that stage.

@MrsR87 That’s great, sounds like you are off to a good start. I’ve also rang the doctors back today and I’m booked in for the 20th April, I asked if partners were able to come to the appointment and they said they are trying to keep the amount of people in the surgery down to a minimum.

@peachypetite I guess fate had other ideas for us all!

@Addler
No morning sickness for me yet! I am fully expecting it as it runs in my family and my mum has the same thing that Kate Middleton has and was hospitalised for over a month with it in her second pregnancy. However, so far I have not taken after my mums health traits so fingers crossed! Plus if it does come, at least I haven’t got the added worry of how to be sick and also look after 36 kids at the same time 😂😂😂

I also know what you mean about focusing on the positives. My commute is over an hour each way and I’m already feeling tired without it. My job means I can wfh and have been since last week.

A little update on what I've faced. I called my GP this morning and the receptionist directed me toward my local hospitals website to fill out an online form on the maternity page. Very impersonal and the receptionist was less than empathetic (nothing new here I guess). I've done this anyway and it says I'll hear in the next 2 weeks about an appointment.
I haven't told my employer as I think the business is on the cusp of closing and me working from home anyway, so if I can avoid telling my employer for as long as I can, that's better for me. If they haven't closed the office by the end of the week, my husband and I agree I shouldn't go in anymore and I will tell my boss at that point. Either way, the next time I see any of my colleagues, I'll have a big old baby bump! Haha!

Currently feeling very tired and have a very mild tugging/fluttery feeling in my womb most of the day - which I think is just my body adapting. But no nauseas or sickness yet! Long may it last.

It doesn't feel quite real yet!

@MrsERWor wow that’s a bit rude. I’m glad I haven’t phoned my GP because I imagine mine would have been exactly the same! I’ve had an email back from the hospital saying they’ll confirm an appt this week. Didn’t expect such a quick reply. Is anyone else hungrier than normal?

@MrsR87 God hope you don't end up with that, my friend had it during both of hers and it was horrid. She was having quads with one of them though

I'm just nauseous, haven't actually been physically sick yet.

I picked up some pregnacare tablets as my bariatric vitamins aren't suitable apparently. I still have to take extra vitamin D and iron as I've been low on those for ages, I can't imagine that's going to improve with pregnancy!

Well after tonight's update, I thankfully no longer need to tell my employer before I'm 12 weeks and feel ready.
But wow. What crazy times ladies!
At least we can all keep safe and well. 💕
I can't wait to surprise our family with the good news once things have calmed down in few weeks. Hopefully it will cheer everyone up - it will be the both sides of our family's first grandchild!

I’m 12 weeks (Or at least I think I am, maybe more), Called in mid Feb and had one midweek appointment on the 12th with no scan. have an appointment with an obstetrician next Tuesday (At least 13weeks+2) but no scan guaranteed. Partner doesn’t live with me so not been able to see him
and after tonight worried he will not be allowed to appointments with me going to call the ante natal clinic in the morning, I may not even have the appointment with the stress they're under.
I apologise if it sounds selfish and I really don’t mean to be but I am so worried, I can’t help but think we’re not going to get the care we require at this difficult time in the country, I can’t even believe I’m really pregnant sometimes and the scan doesn’t seem to be in any rush. I’m terrified of visiting the hospital and may have to go alone now as my parents, who I live with, have both been informed today they are extremely vulnerable (extra stress and precautions for us all).
I let work know a week early than planned, last week and informed them I will be isolating as I didn’t think it safe to clean public buildings (never any training and minimal PPE), they wanted me in and weren’t sure what to do but got an email a couple of days later to say a will be paid and have text today to say they do not want me to return until they say and to stay safe.

Midweek appointment should say Midwife appointment

I don't know what to do about work, I work as a nanny and have been away the last two weeks as had a mild fever and a cough so DP and I isolated. That ends on Friday and I know they're expecting me back, I do 24/7 week on/week off and really didn't want to tell them early. I also really need the money, especially to get a good amount for SMP.

Aw congratulations! We found out on Thursday 🥰 I'm lucky to be able to work from home.

Hi all :) ive just found out today i am approx 4 weeks pregnant! But obviously like you all, i am so nervous given the current climate! Best of luck to you all xxx

How’s everyone?

Insanely stressed but desperately trying to cling to this as good news and trying to rise above it all. Unfortunately it's in my contract at work to tell them straight away and that went down like a lead balloon (well, I was told to leave immediately) added to that a 'friend' has now come out and said how angry they are about the work situation and that I was able to get pregnant so quickly. Now just left feeling guilty and sad as well as stressed by whats going on in the world. (Sorry just needed a rant there).
Otherwise overly emotional (doesn't help with the above) and joints are hurting, plus some temperature issues, apparently I am like a radiator at night now 😂
How is everyone else coping?

Aw skyblu3 that's horrible, I'm sorry to hear you've been made to feel that way. Not hot so much as just feel like I'm on a really shitty period half the time, ha!

Oh god @Why1stheskyblu3 that's horrible, you poor thing. Work can't tell you to leave just because you're pregnant, unless it's because of CV? Even so you have employment rights and pregnancy is one of the protected situations.

Your friend doesn't sound much like a friend either!

I am still nauseous, crying over anything remotely happy or sad, and trying not to make comparisons to my last MC.

How are you @peachypetite?

Hi ladies, my boobs are still sore and tender. Very occasional wave of nausea. No cravings to speak of. Feeling very unusual emotionally, it all just feels a little underwhelming at the moment, as everyone has so much to deal with right now. It also still doesn't feel real.

Sky blue, that's really sad. Sorry to hear that. I'm also worried I might be faced with the same reaction from 1 or 2 people, as this wasn't planned and people get funny about that. I imagine I will be made to feel guilty here and there.

I'm also really worried about my career. I intended to crack on for another couple of years first, but that's sort of out the window now. Not forever, but it's on pause and will never quite be the same again.

I sound so incredibly selfish, but I guess I hadn't mentally prepared myself for children yet, so I'm still trying to get my head around all the things that are going to change in my life (near on all of it, from work, to friends and everything in between!). I'll get there... but for now, I'm in a weird place with what's soon to be a different life.

I am of course still excited, I have known I wanted to be a mum for as long as I can remember (my mum and sisters, mother, father, sister and brother in law, are all going to be beside themselves with joy). Baby will be so loved by absolutely everyone, me especially (of course!), and pending everything going OK throughout my pregnancy, November can't come soon enough. I'm sure once baby is here, all my worries will be forgotten about and my life will only ever revolve around my bubba.