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Social services due to partner

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Bluesmum98 · 25/02/2020 17:11

I have social services involved due to my partner I also have had anxiety I saw my midwife today and she said I would need to be in the hospital longer as I'm under social services I'm petrified they will take baby as way from me it's my worst fear does what one have any experience with them

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Pinkflipflop85 · 25/02/2020 17:13

It is very difficult to just take a baby away, as there are lots of things that gave to happen first. Ss arent there to remove babies unless the baby us in danger. Their role is to support and to ensure baby is safe.

Are you getting support for your anxiety?

Shoveoff · 25/02/2020 17:15

Why are SS involved? What did your partner do/not do?

Kittykat93 · 25/02/2020 17:15

Is your partner violent?

Herpesfreesince03 · 25/02/2020 17:17

If they had the intention of taking your baby away then they’d do so immediately. It’s hard to advise without knowing the situation, but you’re obviously being given the chance to keep the baby. You just need to cooperate with them 100%

LovingLola · 25/02/2020 17:22

What has your partner done?

LonginesPrime · 25/02/2020 17:26

If they had the intention of taking your baby away then they’d do so immediately

It sounds like that's what the OP is worried about - that they will take her baby as soon as it's born.

TwinkleStars15 · 25/02/2020 17:30

I’m a social worker... a LOT more information is needed, your post is far too vague.

Yes, they can apply to have your baby removed at birth, if they are seriously concerned.

datasgingercatspot · 25/02/2020 17:32

A friend adopted a child who had been removed at birth. The birth father, the birth mother's partner, was violent and she refused to leave him.

Letsallscreamatthesistene · 25/02/2020 17:35

I think you need to give us more detail here if you want good, useful advice.

Otherwise the advice is going to be as vague as your OP.

stophuggingme · 25/02/2020 17:35

Do they want you to leave him so the baby and you are safe and you are refusing?

MrsAgassi · 25/02/2020 17:38

What is the issue with your partner?

Gazelda · 25/02/2020 17:38

In an ideal world, SS would far prefer to support you and your baby as a unit rather than removing the baby from your care. But, without more detail, that seems to depend upon you demonstrating that the baby is your first and only priority.

Work with them.

crystal1717 · 25/02/2020 17:53

You must leave your partner. I've heard of so many who are removed because the mother refused to leave her partner. Mothers said they had no where else to go and then SS had no choice. In their words.

Can you move in with your mum? Just assuming, but if you've fallen out with your mum, this is the time to put that behind you. V important to leave partner. Even into homeless accommodation but much preferably to closely related safe female relative. Put any disagreements with female relative behind you.

Wereeaglesdare · 25/02/2020 18:16

As this is to do with your partner if it is deemed the baby is at risk with him you will be given a chance to cut contact with your partner. Please choose your baby and not your partner because honestly I've seen too many mothers pick their partner over their baby and end up in a cycle of having children that are straight back in the system.

Hopefully if he is not deemed a risk just make sure that you Co operate together for your unborn child with social services. If you decide to close down and run away, they will assume all kinds. Best advice get them to tell you exactly what they want from you and partner and how you can show you will make great parents.

itwasalovelydreamwhileitlasted · 25/02/2020 18:46

Without knowing what your partner did it's difficult to offer any advice/support

If he in anyway previously abused a child - physically or sexually then yes you are absolutely high risk to lose your child if you don't leave him

itwasalovelydreamwhileitlasted · 25/02/2020 18:48

You're not the previous poster who posted about her partner having been in prison for murder and you were pregnant by him whilst he was out on licence and previously had a child removed are you??

Skierrdery · 25/02/2020 18:51

Oh my love. After many many loves and losses, please take it from me that you CAN leave him. That's all I'll say.

erised · 25/02/2020 19:00

Depends on the situation but my sister ended up having her 1 year old and 3 week old baby taken away by ss until she left her violent husband. Luckily now she has a restraining order on him and he's not involved.

TravellingWilberry · 25/02/2020 19:02

You have to do what social services advise you to do and take all the support they offer you.

Put your baby first- not your partner or yourself.

CodenameVillanelle · 25/02/2020 19:08

What has your partner done?

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Bluesmum98 · 25/02/2020 19:18

So we just had the police called a couple times rowing etc .... he has been violent but I was open and honest and told the social services that . The social workers have said they have no intention of taking him away unless I don't have contact with partner but they said the baby won't need supervised visits with him in a contact center which is what I originally thought and that they could be with my mum present or one of his family

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Bluesmum98 · 25/02/2020 19:20

No I have not refused at all I'm just still worried and petrified they will just take him away at the hospital I would be heart broken

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ConsiderTheCentre · 25/02/2020 19:20

Is he still your partner?

IWishItWasSummer · 25/02/2020 19:24

So we just had the police called a couple times rowing etc .... he has been violent

Then you leave him. This is your choice, if you stay with your partner then I would hope social work would remove the child tbh. If you leave your child will have a life of not being involved with abusive parents.

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Bluesmum98 · 25/02/2020 19:24

No he is not we don't live together anymore and don't have limited contact

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